TBD

https://rentmen.eu/DallasSkye cute looking guy who has had a profile since 2020 but no reviews as yet- curious if anyone has indulged.

this comment shows that you are lost cause. if you don't think there is a difference between paying some KID on grindr who looks 17, instead of a provider with reviews both here and on rentmen, Good luck to you pal.

My friend recently had twins and said to me "it is more than double the work".

Not cowardly, and exactly the correct and safe and SMARTEST way to extract yourself from this situation. Two things - #1. Don't hire provide who list that they are involved with PNP. and #2 - while it is indeed a sad situation, it is not your problem to fix him, but it is best that you leave a review here to warn others of your experience. It is not unfair to help others not be in this situation as well. You yourself may have benefited from others leaving warnings of this kind of danger. Pay it forward. And what to do when they show up high? exactly what you did do. The only other thing you can do is make sure it doesn't happen to someone else. Wait a few weeks if you don't want to leave a review that he can trace back to you.

this was actually the most useful comment on this thread and it went way over your head.

this OP posting this and his reaction to the response reminds me a lot of the scene with "The Favourite" by Olivia Coleman.

Don't ask the question if you are not ready for an answer dude.

you can not go wrong with Kiddo. He does have a career outside of this, so that can impact the immediacy of his replies - however there is a reason why he is still so popular. The man is fantastic.

agree with everything you have said except it will have value - we will all see it. I want to know who it is.

for me, without a name attached to it, the complaint means nothing. I had an issue with a provider (non-deposit related) and when I posted here about it, the provider was suddenly very quick to want to resolve it. I would imagine you will have similar reaction, so I encourage you to do so. side note - I have followed this simple common sense rules - SMALL deposit ($50 max and/or uber covered) to well reviewed provider both here and rentmen, and never to a provider who lists or indulges in PNP. Any and all horror stories I hear on these forums people have deviated from these common sense rules.

My hire recap ( I tend to only hire when I am traveling for work) Feb - really nice top from Puerto Rico. would see again but he has moved out of business March - hot guy from Orlando. nice chemistry, would rehire. Average looking guy in Cleveland, wouldn't recommend. April - one of the hottest hires I have ever seen. Amazing. saw him again, but he told me he couldn't do the business as some clients were hard work. He also was wary of how temping it was to get stuck in the industry. smart guy. He gave me his personal number and still sees me when I reach out (which I have twice) May - hot top in Boston. would repeat when I am back in town June- vers guy that was awful and I left a bad review here and on RM. He sent me my money back with apologies and I removed reviews as I believed he learned his lesson. August - tried to hire a guy in Philly but he cancelled last minute and I just got a guy from grindr instead. November - Atlanta, saw a hot twitter/OF star bottom. Was very hard to pin down, but he had fair rates (could easily charge more) and he performed SO WELL. we exchanged personal numbers now we have met and I will see him every time I am in town for sure.

I find that RM has mostly big muscular guys who offer to FUCK YOU HARD or little fem twinks who look anorexic. My tastes lie somewhere in the middle - I am much more attracted to lean boy next door guys, and I like guys who are in early 30s not 21. These types seem to be the diamonds in the rough on RM. I am also bi so maybe we are similar in flavor preference.

I would say it's Christmas Day, so most providers traveling now will be near and with family. Chill out.

I have a more boy next door recommendation for you than the stud muscle guys people have listed, also based in NYC. I enjoy this sometimes also, and actually ask for role play where we say "I love you" to each other and he really gets into it. DM me.

I normally only see providers who are on prep undetectable, but I could make an exception. If anyone has details of rates can you shoot me a DM?

It is 100% an indicator of the economy. Google "the stripper index" a friend of mine told me about it and it has been academically researched and found to be true that sex workers are the first to feel the effects of a recession. A rise in providers would be an indicator of this, which goes hand in hand with the drop in work for providers too, so they are getting hit both ways - less work as well as more competition. The Stripper Index: Decoding the Economic Signals of Sex Work - Business Review at Berkeley BUSINESSREVIEW.STUDENTORG.BERKELEY.EDU The Stripper Index, named for how it relates the revenue generated by strippers’ cash tips to the financial strain of consumers and the current...

interesting take. What makes you get to that conclusion. he mentions many times that he gets pleasure from making people happy. it looks like he does have an exhibitionist streak, but I imagine most guys in porn and/or the sex industry would be this way. I really like his next door boy look but with some added cheekiness.

have met up with him. Super nice guy, sexy as hell. he is tough to get a hold of, but worth it. I will see him again for sure.

having consent withdrawn takes nothing away for the validity of what I am saying. consent can be withdrawn whenever and its withdrawal must be respected. the end.

I would say the time is probably better spent reaching out to the provider with those questions. I would never leave a good review if the place was not clean and the RM reviews specifically ask about the ambiance.

I had someone message me on RM to ask about a review I left and it annoyed me and it annoys me here too. I replied the same way I do here - 'why would I leave a 5 star review confirming the pics were real and I enjoyed myself if that wasn't the case.' I am not obligated to give blow by blow accounts to some stranger online. Saying that I have reached out to people who left bad reviews - I just wanted to confirm if it was because of chemistry or drugs or maybe they were 5 minutes late. some of those things I find more offensive than others.

Sending someone money from grindr is not the same as meeting a provider. There is no provider to be mentioned here because there was no provider involved.

he wanted his bad review here and on RM taken down. I believe him when he said he learned a valuable lesson.

I only leave a review when it was a 5 star experience. If it was just so-so I say nothing. I once left a poor review from a provider who had outdated pics and stole from me, he updated his pics and so then rentmen took the review down. I was furious and back and forth with rentmen went on until they finally put the review back up. The provider sent me my money back and I then deleted the review in exchange. I think it's best to check rentmen reviews, but also reviews here.

You did actually: "mostly reject this technical definition being conflated with being held down and fucked, being cornered with weapons, or being drugged and waking up violated." How you don't think that is minimizing what happened is beyond me. You do seem to think your opinion is more valid than everyone else's on a lot of topics actually and your comments here are in my view, reprehensible. As someone who works with people who have gone through this kind of trauma - your comments here are glib at best, alarming at worse, and shameful either way. Imagine arguing in front of the person who has been violated in this way that it's not a sexual violation 'enough', instead of offering support a guidance. Then in the next breath when you have been called out, say 'oh no my SA was actually not violent too', The mind boggles and your audacity, and also your ability to make everything about yourself. As I said previously - it's not a competition. I'd advise you to do some research about 'conditional consent' how it applies in particular to sexual consent. Finally - You clearly think but don't know everything about everything. You do not actually know if I have been a victim of sexual assault. Don't bother replying to me I am done with you. I give little to no value to your opinions or experience on these forums anymore. I would say it's still been a sexual violation. from a legal perspective it would come down to the 'mens rae', that is to say the intention. If there was intention to rob the sex worker the whole time, then it would be sexual assault. If the client intended to pay, and then later saw an opportunity to rob them and took the money, it would be able to be separated in to two different acts instead of one. Either way, completely scummy act and as mentioned before - a plight of providers having to deal with things we may never otherwise have to worry about.