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I have a more boy next door recommendation for you than the stud muscle guys people have listed, also based in NYC. I enjoy this sometimes also, and actually ask for role play where we say "I love you" to each other and he really gets into it. DM me.

I normally only see providers who are on prep undetectable, but I could make an exception. If anyone has details of rates can you shoot me a DM?

It is 100% an indicator of the economy. Google "the stripper index" a friend of mine told me about it and it has been academically researched and found to be true that sex workers are the first to feel the effects of a recession. A rise in providers would be an indicator of this, which goes hand in hand with the drop in work for providers too, so they are getting hit both ways - less work as well as more competition. The Stripper Index: Decoding the Economic Signals of Sex Work - Business Review at Berkeley BUSINESSREVIEW.STUDENTORG.BERKELEY.EDU The Stripper Index, named for how it relates the revenue generated by strippers’ cash tips to the financial strain of consumers and the current...

interesting take. What makes you get to that conclusion. he mentions many times that he gets pleasure from making people happy. it looks like he does have an exhibitionist streak, but I imagine most guys in porn and/or the sex industry would be this way. I really like his next door boy look but with some added cheekiness.

have met up with him. Super nice guy, sexy as hell. he is tough to get a hold of, but worth it. I will see him again for sure.

having consent withdrawn takes nothing away for the validity of what I am saying. consent can be withdrawn whenever and its withdrawal must be respected. the end.

I would say the time is probably better spent reaching out to the provider with those questions. I would never leave a good review if the place was not clean and the RM reviews specifically ask about the ambiance.

I had someone message me on RM to ask about a review I left and it annoyed me and it annoys me here too. I replied the same way I do here - 'why would I leave a 5 star review confirming the pics were real and I enjoyed myself if that wasn't the case.' I am not obligated to give blow by blow accounts to some stranger online. Saying that I have reached out to people who left bad reviews - I just wanted to confirm if it was because of chemistry or drugs or maybe they were 5 minutes late. some of those things I find more offensive than others.

Sending someone money from grindr is not the same as meeting a provider. There is no provider to be mentioned here because there was no provider involved.

he wanted his bad review here and on RM taken down. I believe him when he said he learned a valuable lesson.

I only leave a review when it was a 5 star experience. If it was just so-so I say nothing. I once left a poor review from a provider who had outdated pics and stole from me, he updated his pics and so then rentmen took the review down. I was furious and back and forth with rentmen went on until they finally put the review back up. The provider sent me my money back and I then deleted the review in exchange. I think it's best to check rentmen reviews, but also reviews here.

You did actually: "mostly reject this technical definition being conflated with being held down and fucked, being cornered with weapons, or being drugged and waking up violated." How you don't think that is minimizing what happened is beyond me. You do seem to think your opinion is more valid than everyone else's on a lot of topics actually and your comments here are in my view, reprehensible. As someone who works with people who have gone through this kind of trauma - your comments here are glib at best, alarming at worse, and shameful either way. Imagine arguing in front of the person who has been violated in this way that it's not a sexual violation 'enough', instead of offering support a guidance. Then in the next breath when you have been called out, say 'oh no my SA was actually not violent too', The mind boggles and your audacity, and also your ability to make everything about yourself. As I said previously - it's not a competition. I'd advise you to do some research about 'conditional consent' how it applies in particular to sexual consent. Finally - You clearly think but don't know everything about everything. You do not actually know if I have been a victim of sexual assault. Don't bother replying to me I am done with you. I give little to no value to your opinions or experience on these forums anymore. I would say it's still been a sexual violation. from a legal perspective it would come down to the 'mens rae', that is to say the intention. If there was intention to rob the sex worker the whole time, then it would be sexual assault. If the client intended to pay, and then later saw an opportunity to rob them and took the money, it would be able to be separated in to two different acts instead of one. Either way, completely scummy act and as mentioned before - a plight of providers having to deal with things we may never otherwise have to worry about.

Being a SA survivor doesn't mean you are now the final arbiter of what constitutes sexual assault. In fact, most sexual assault does not include extreme violence - this is very a Hollywood idea. Most SA victims are in fact compliant during the act in the hope that it minimizes and deescalates the violence. This attitude you are presenting is very damaging (why didn't they fight back if it was SA?) Thankfully it seems the consensus here is that it is lack of consent is all that is required, which as someone else as mentioned should be common sense. And if you are a SA survivor - I would expect you not to belittle someone else's experience simply because it was not as 'bad' as yours. There are many different levels of this - including any non-consensual sexual contact, through coercion, manipulation, or threats not just physical force. Also: friendly reminder it's not a competition buddy. It's kind of wild how this thread has taken a bad turn. I am so sorry for what happened to Brazilian Cutie. It is a stark reminder about why some providers are so cautious. Especially with attitudes like this.

weird he would have 40 something reviews and not a single mention here

id take all three, everything, everywhere, all at once.

I don't know a single provider who would rather steal $50 than show to the appointment and make another $300.

I didn't say "you are grandpa Simpson." I said "you sound like grandpa Simpson". there is a difference between those two statements and you'd do well to learn it. You also sound like you have ZERO sense of humor so must be great fun at parties! here is my apology:

there is a difference between being old and showing your age. You sound like Grandpa Simpson screaming at the clouds with your reply here.

As someone who worked in the service industry for years as teen through to my mid 20s, the hairs on my neck bristle I read you say 'what ever happened to the customer is always right?', And you saying that with your whole chest tells me everything I need to know. As Lily Allen would say "Its not me, it's you."

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where are you based? the team may be able to to send you some recommendations.

He is a very popular guy on twitter and only fans. I think he probably gets a lot of messages and only a few are actual clients as opposed to time wasters. I do agree he would do better to just block and move on instead of sending nasty comments but he probably thinks 'they will never be my client anyway'. I didn't find his rates to be out of the ordinary for NYC. I have seen him a few times now. I wouldn't advise to reach out unless you are a serious client. doesn't sound like he does well with people just fishing for info. people say this all the time about the providers - but he really is more handsome than his pics. I don't know why he has chosen those pics for his profile. I doubt people would say anything bad if they actually met him.

option 1 - Thanks for our time together, as great as I think you are, I don't think I have the budget to keep seeing you. option 2 - stop messaging and ghost him.

bump. any blond men around you guys can recommend?

very true! I guess you'd see it's not them when they ring the intercom? I have never robbed someone so I'm not sure exactly of the planning required. I'm just stating that I can understand that pics can be requested for security purposes. I see female providers as well and I have yet to see one who not only requests, but requires it for this purpose. Once I had a female friend ask me to come over her place and work from home at her place for the day as she was getting furniture delivered and she didn't want to be home alone when strange men were going to come in. At first I thought she was crazy - but after thinking it over, it made sense. Someone else may be or feel vulnerable in a situation that I myself would not be. Providers really put themselves out there in this sense. Some will be more comfortable doing it than others, ,or need extra steps to make them feel safe.