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@AdminI think the idea of a Deli for OF reviews or feedback would be VERY popular here.

The thing is - his intention does (or should) directly affect the appropriate response. Not jumping this step is critical. Either he was being genuine, or he was not. You may have to ask yourself a hard question: 'Did I do something to the provider, or is there something about me that made him not want the job?' and have a tough answer to hear. Instead by asking people how you should respond - you already know how to respond. I think you want to hear things that will make you feel good, rather than the hard truth, which will actually help and I understand why. Rejection is hard and hurtful. Understanding WHY, no matter how hurtful though is the only way of limiting the risks of this happening again. I suppose I will ask you this question: what is your stance on the reverse? How do people respond to you when you cancel an engagement with them? Have you ever set up an appointment with him (or anyone) and then canceled? How did you do that? how did they respond? (I am sure you didn't buy flowers - you would only do something like that with a true friend - not a paid employee.) I feel like actions speak louder than words. Through his actions, he has told you his stance. Yet you still desire him so you are looking for a way to reason with a less hurtful excuse for his rejection and to consider hiring him again when you already know the answer is to not hire him again. He knew that would be the result of canceling and he did it anyway (side note - reminds me of the scene in Game of Thrones where Marjorie says 'Cersi is aware of the consequences of not attending the trial, a she is not here anyway- which means she never intends to suffer the consequences!") Either that or you are looking here for support from people to tell you what a horrible guy this provider is, which will give you comfort - and there is nothing wrong with seeking that. I'm sorry if this sounds harsh - it is not my intention to be hurtful or mean - but I really do feel that it's best to not sugarcoat things here. Everyone here is saying 'move on', 'he is unprofessional', 'choose someone else', 'don't hire him again' and look, I agree with them - but I can't help but wonder that there must be something more as I can't imagine a provider turning down multi-day hire going away somewhere unless they REALLY didn't want too.

back to the topic on hand - if you had planned a days long trip, I imagine the fee would have been a significant amount. It is unlikely the provider is willing to cancel on this and give up that fee unless one of two optiosn occured: 1. The provider is being genuine that he feels like he would not be able to deliver an experience you deserve, didn't feel comfortable taking your money, risk getting a bad review, and thought you being disappointed he wasn't able to make it was the lesser of two evils. OR 2. He thought about the rate, thought about his time with you, and said to himself - 'I don't want to do this again.' You will never know unless you explicitly ask him, rather than random people on a message board who are all just speculating.

Yeah good for him if he can get that when known porn stars with 10 times as many reviews charge less.

so you sent him a deposit and then cancelled the meeting and wanted a refund?

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I agree: I think a Deli where people can post about OF creators and we can discuss it like we do providers would be well received here. I find it so frustrating when I subscribe and they only have 10 second clips, or no face.

yeah there was a thread here recently where the provider posted some of the harassing messages and it was a shocking and eye-opening read.

all this talk and not even one provider suggested!

bump - curious if anyone has had experience with guys from RM in Costa Rica. needs to speak english

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I have seen Jose and I can definitely recommend.

I wouldn't even call my own family without texting first. If an unknown number called me I would never ever answer it. Even worse if it was a private number. Always text first - it is good manners.

I sent him a message on a Monday, asking him if he was available around 5pm Tuesday. He replied a few hours later 'hey'. I answered back immediately 'hey!' He went silent and then a few hours later messaged and said he wouldn't be available at 5pm the next day. bummer, but oh well not the end of the world - I will just reach out and ask if he is available next time I am in town. But then on Wednesday he messages me "lol." I was like 'huh?' I asked if you were available and you said no. I sent him a screenshot because I thought maybe he got me confused with someone else. he was like 'yeah well good luck! people get busy. you are wild". huh ???????? I was in town for ONE night, he was busy. Not quite sure why he wanted to message me that. I think I dodged a bullet there for sure! thank god he was busy when I wanted to see him. No idea why he thought it was cool to harass me when he was not available but you can guarantee I won't be reaching out to him again when I am in town next like I had planned too.

If anyone has a recommendation of someone that looks like this guy but in NYC please let me know. He is 100% my type.

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what was the rate in Costa Rica?

seems to be quite the name changer and -previously known as "Maxx_Hung" so many name changes says it all really - but have a read through this thread too.

Thought I would take one for the team and try him out as I have been following his twitter for quite a while - and he fucks exactly like you imagine. He definitely has a hairy stomach and an all-natural pubic region. Cum like a super soaker. Nice guy. I will see him again.

you immediately blocked him, but you call me stupid - and now you accuse me of being a scammer. LOL All I said was maybe not call people scammers because they ask for a deposit. Good luck with your journey.

maybe because he had people accusing him of being a scammer.

Just because someone asks for a deposit- doesn't mean they are a scammer. If he has done porn and has a following - he is probably contacted a lot by people and he needs verification that they are genuine. I would change this post to ask for verification of his stage name before calling someone who may be legitimate a scammer.

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that's pretty rich of you to demand someone be precise when your post is vague as fuck and you refuse to name the provider. Don't give out medicine if you don't like the flavor yourself.

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