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But you've got two factors there, not just one. The girl is someone he's in a relationship with - that could be what is impacting the performance. Maybe with a random girl he'd do better on screen.

The other question is was this your first "extended" session with him? That could really be the issue. Most people can do anything for an hour or two, but keeping up the facade for a day or more takes a certain type of person.

Without dismissing that you felt hurt, lots of people in their 20s are still in their flaky years. You may just have happened to hit him on his good days previously and hit him on his bad day this time.

I know some do okay. But there appear to be quite a few who despite making quite a lot of money manage to burn through it with nothing to show for it. You don't even really need to escort that long to make enough money to really change the rest of your life with compounding effects.

I worked in the insurance industry, and you would be shocked how extremely risk-averse many of those people are. When I got the annual summary from our 401(k) plan, it broke out the assets by class, and the numbers were such that aside from employer stock which everyone got and couldn't diversify because we were privately held, it appeared that most employees were nearly exclusively in the cash/stable value fund. Now many of these people had a pension coming to them as well as our company was late in getting rid of it, so they didn't necessarily "need" to be in stocks. But still, these were people in a finance-adjacent industry. You'd think they'd have been in a decent chunk of the stock market.

So have you considered becoming a financial advisor to escorts? Seems like a lot of them could learn a thing or two from you...

They lumped together several things, it was by no means just about executing people for being gay. The US likely objected to the mental capacity restriction as being too vague.

"Now the gays went and ruined dementia!"

I'm sure you could substitute making them DO anything and get similar results.

It's unusual today in that it's rarely carried out. So this is a case of the law staying the same but circumstances changing.

Doesn't he live somewhere they execute gays? He probably has to take down/change his ad periodically for safety reasons.

He's also quite well endowed.

Is there any chance people HE knew were in the area and he doesn't want his friends/family knowing what he's doing? You mention him bolting after meals that were apparently not with your friends. Alternately...the guy could have some general anxiety issues and have been having panic attacks and it really had nothing to do with you at all.

I remember him from the Club 20 days he was always friendly. I never went for more than a standard lapdance so can't speak to anything more than that.

I think several of the Adonis Lounge dancers are Jersey guys whose "day job" is personal training. You might try going there and chatting them up.

The truth is I do take issue with some of the "fat acceptance" pushers. It's certainly true that there is some wiggle room in the weight guidelines in that you're better off being someone 30 lbs overweight who exercises every day than an "ideal" weight desk jockey with no muscle, but when you are 70+ lbs overweight...you might with great effort maintain aerobic fitness - I've done it for periods of time, but that excess weight is doing bad things to your organs and joints. You can't exercise your liver, kidneys, pancreas. They are designed to carry a lower throughput than you are giving them when you are overweight. Even the heart can fail - it happens a lot to bodybuilders.

I wouldn't say I "celebrate" it. I just don't make an issue of it. I'm NOT happy about my weight and am working on it with mixed success due to mobility issues(the mobility issues actually are what led to the weight gain - used to work out hard 2-3 hours a day then couldn't do that any more). But ultimately I'm at a level of weight that is definitely not healthy and I don't think it's right to pretend otherwise. I have a couple of acquaintances in their 20s who decided to just go full-on bear and are now deliberately making themselves morbidly obese(like one of them you can barely see his eyes any more- I'm not exaggerating) and I want to pull them aside and lecture them but I keep my mouth shut. They're young enough that they don't understand what that weight is going to feel like in ten or twenty years when their joints are tired of carrying it. Maybe they'll be lucky and not have problems, but at the rate they are going I highly doubt it.

Actually they're horrible for not stopping the stupid kid.

I worked in insurance and the data is not at all clear. Women actually have MORE accidents, but because they are slower, the dollar value of damage is less severe. Guys are more likely to total the car, it's true.

Yeah while acknowledging it's stupid, I'm not going to press it and risk the guy backing out....

Why, pray tell, does liking stripper chicks with big fake tits mean he can't also like some guys? Bisexual doesn't mean "doesn't like women." I'm not saying what his split is, I'm just saying there's at least one dude I saw him with that he was into. I saw him snuggling with this guy, a twink Asian fellow dancer. I'm quite confident that he wasn't doing it for the money or because people were watching. this was a weeknight where there weren't too many people there. He may not be "out" about this in general or even to himself. Lots of bi guys aren't.

Well I do think many men compartmentalize sex and "relationships" and that's what they are talking about when they say they like sex with men but aren't "gay." I don't find it hard to believe there are guys who enjoy sex with men but have no desire to share a life with one. There seem to be many guys who feel that way about women....they just want to fuck them and otherwise seem to want nothing to do with them. I have one perpetually single guy friend who hasn't yet grasped that that's the reason he's single. He fundamentally doesn't respect women but he loves their bodies.

Not saying it's okay, just that the male victims may - on average - perceive less damage.

If you're an Asian twink he might be a lot more interactive, judging from how I used to see him interact with a fellow dancer at Krave when it was still open... I suspect he's one of those bi guys for whom a particular kind of male really turns him on, but everyone else does absolutely nothing for him. .

I think they're entitled to know if you are having sex with other people while you are seeing them, and if you want to continue to do that. As for the past that's up to you whether to disclose. I mean if there's a chance they will find out from someone ELSE you probably should spill the beans.