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I haven’t met with Calvin, but we made plans to meet last week. A few hours before our meeting, he messaged me that he had to cancel because he would be stuck at work that evening. I didn’t mind, especially since I’d previously asked to move our meeting back by a half hour because I had also gotten out of work late. But when I asked if he wanted to reschedule for the next night or the upcoming weekend, he didn’t respond. The initial conversation and scheduling with Calvin was seamless, and he seemed like a nice guy, so I’m still open to seeing him. But his lack of follow-up is a curious business strategy, to say the least. Maybe I’ll reach out again later this month, if my schedule permits. Hope this helps.

I researched Atule on this forum just a few days ago and found nothing, so I appreciate @dutchal starting this thread today, and your own response. Can you say anything more about your experience with Atule, either here or by private message?

I had a similar experience with drtynycman. I prefer an aggressive pounding, and didn’t have a problem taking his dick, per se. But because he has really good stamina, after a while I started to experience irritation from the latex condom (we definitely should have used a higher quality lube). He was a perfect gentleman about switching to other activities, so I ended up having a good time overall.

@DBWEHO Although you responded to @tallandark's post asking about drtynycman, you were talking about Rafael Alencar, right?

Igor was one of my faves and regulars in years past (from about 2015 through 2019), as he used to visit NYC every year for months at a time pre-Covid. He finally returned late this summer, but only as a masseur, and he told me that he and his traveling partner weren’t providing escort services. He’s super cute though, and I thought he was a fun lay.

Johaan looks amazing, but his rentmen ad shows him as being in Oklahoma. It’s not a travel listing, so he could be based there now, or he could be one of those guys who changes his ad’s home base to wherever he’s traveling so his ad shows up earlier in searches of that locale. Does anyone know if Johann relocated to Oklahoma, or if he’s based somewhere else? I’d love to hire him!

Who’s this provider? Does he have an active ad on rentmen or rentmasseur.com?

I hired Luiggy as an escort. I didn’t even know he had a masseur profile until this thread popped up.

Thank you for your detailed response. Having a good explanation for the otherwise outlandish photo policy does make it seem more reasonable, and less worrisome. I’m going to strongly reconsider my own anti-photo exchange policy, at least for this particular situation.

This Trevor/ Top Rated guy seems like a catch, based on all the platitudes here. He’s also got great photos and an enticing, well-written ad. His price is a bit high, but not by a huge amount, and it’s understandable for traveling escorts, given the high cost of lodging in NYC, plus his having to deal with the exchange rate. I don’t mind the lack of a publicly posted face pic, nor do I have a problem with having to initiate contact with him through the rentmen messaging feature, since he says in his ad that he switches to phone to finalize a meeting. All the above sounds like I should schedule a meeting right away, right? Of course! So, I initiated that process earlier this summer but ran into my own personal red flag. Trevor requires prospective clients to send stats/detailed description (not a huge deal, really) , AND photos of themselves. I can see why some escorts might want to know what the client looks like, and based on his ad and his reviews here, the guy doesn’t seem shallow. I’m willing to compromise on a lot, but that’s just one step too much for me. Sending out photos to prospective escorts, before you’ve seen them and develop a bond, just send way too risky. It’s a shame — the guy seems perfect in so many other ways, though!

Fair enough. I can’t say that you necessarily did anything wrong, and I’m glad you got what you were seeking. In hindsight, I came across as way more bitchy than I meant to. That’s what I get for responding in the middle of the night while battling insomnia. So, you have my apologies for that. I’d be happy to discuss my limited experience with Tommy in more detail via private message, if you like. Good luck in your search.

But there were plenty of recent experiences provided -- in fact, EIGHT forum members recounted their experiences with Tommy (5 were good, 3 were kinda meh), all of which were posted within the previous 11 months, including FIVE earlier this year. There's a frustrating trend on this forum where people will incessantly "bump" 411 threads, where the threads either: (1) clearly show that forum members don't know anything about the escort who's the subject of the inquiry, but the bumper just keeps on bumping, seemingly to avoid taking that first chance that has to be taken on all new escorts; or (2) the threads already contain a plethora of relevant information about the escort, such that the bumps would, at best, only yield cumulative results. Case in point -- the one additional response made after your bump, recounted an experience that wasn't substantively different from those 8 members who'd answered the 411 inquiry in the prior 11 months. Second case in point -- I'lll offer that my own session with Tommy was largely similar to the majority of the other members' prior experiences. This wasn't meant as a personal slight against you. The point of the bump is to "bump" back up to the top of a sub-forum a thread which may have been inadvertently overlooked, so as to increase the chance of that OP's initial inquiry getting addressed. Repeatedly bumping threads which have already garnered a wealth of responses from our members results in the burying of other threads whose inquiries are just as important, thereby undermining one of this forum's core functions. That affects the quality of the user experience for all of us, so "ignore and move on" completely misses the mark.

As a client, I find that the proper response varies greatly on the individuals involved. For my repeat guys, I tend to hire guys who have lots of positive intangible qualities beyond just being great in bed. As such, I trust myself that I've chosen good guys, whose judgment I also trust. That being said, I've communicated clearly to these guys that if we should see each other out in public that they should certainly feel free to say hello. They wouldn't be my regulars if they didn't have the tact and class to have a simple, polite, casual conversation. If i'm with someone else, I'll just acknowledge the provider as a friend or acquaintance. I also tend not to socialize with those who would look down on or disparage sex workers, so that greatly reduces the potential stigma. Plus, I'm not exactly the hunchback of Notre Dame, so I wouldn't see the need to concoct an elaborate backstory to explain why a hot guy might speak to me in public. I rarely hire for just a "wham bam, thank you ma'am" session. In my experience, those guys who I'd associate with that kind of service would be the closeted ones who'd I never have to worry about acknowledging me in public anyway. One of my former regulars, with whom I thought I'd developed a kind of friendship beyond our professional sessions, abruptly quit the biz, took down his ad, and ghosted me sometime in late 2018/early 2019. In fact, this occurred right around the time that we were making tentative plans to meet up for a future session right around the holidays. It was hurtful for quite some time, but I accept that he probably just needed to make a change in his life that he thought was for the better. Cut to this July of 2022, when I see him randomly on the subway during the morning rush hour in NYC. Then, a few days later, I saw him again during the evening commute at the same station, on the platform just a few feet away. This time, we ended up taking the same train. Rather than approach him to say hello, I sent him a text saying that I saw him, I was glad to see he looked as though he was doing well, and that I wished him the best. I got off the train at the next stop, so I don't know if he ever got the message or if he even had the same number. But it felt in that moment that I finally got some closure, as though fate had intervened to do something kind for me. Sorry to digress, but I haven't told this story to anyone, so I kind of needed to get that off my chest.

You're welcome. I can't say whether the other escort would be a good substitute for Bruno, since they're very different in terms of appearance and style. The other guy is white, much younger (mid-20s), and more slender, but ripped, as opposed to Bruno's more solid muscular build. He's also versatile and very playful, whereas Bruno presents (to me, at least) as more of a serious top. This other escort happens to be a newfound regular of mine, whom I'd asked about setting up a 3-way or a gangbang with other professionals. After seeing Bruno in-passing at a social event, the other escort surmised (correctly), that Bruno would be my type for that fantasy scenario. Another reason why I'm willing to give Bruno another chance if the opportunity ever presents itself. I'll gladly discuss the other escort with you in more detail via direct/private messaging.

Although I didn’t have an actual in-person meeting with Bruno, I hope my experience helps the OP with his inquiry in some small way. I’ve contacted Bruno twice this past June. The first time I texted him during the evening at a decent hour (around 8pm). He answered the next morning at about 7:45 am, and asked me what I was looking for. I responded less than 45 minutes later, but then he went silent, and didn’t answer my follow-up text at around 1:30 that afternoon. Exactly two weeks later, I reached out again, but he never responded at all. Interestingly, Bruno’s ad used to say something to the effect of asking clients to be patient, because he received lots of messages and he’d try to get back to everyone. But I noticed just last week, when another escort asked me about doing a 3-way with him, that this language no longer appears in his ad. That escort confirmed that he remembered Bruno’s ad saying something similar to what I described. So it seems that at one point, Bruno was rather open about not being great at responding to prospective clients. I found that level of candor to be refreshing. I can’t say that Bruno was ever directly rude to me. But it was kind of inconsiderate to abruptly cease communication the first time, and then not even respond the second time. I’m also really bad at getting back to people, so I don’t presume bad intent, but just chalk it up to being overwhelmed or needing to be better organized. I could definitely improve in those areas too, so I’d be willing to meet Bruno if we could ever connect. Just my two cents…

What’s the point of this bump? More than a half-dozen forum members have reported on their varied experiences with Tommy (most very good, some not-so-great). All of their posts were made within less than a year (from September of 2021 through February of 2022), so the info is relatively recent. What else is there to ask about?

I believe I commented on one of the older threads about him from several years ago. I meet Adam very briefly many years ago, back when he was based in NYC and used to perform as a stripper at the Adonis Lounge, which was then in its infancy, and run out of a bar and lounge in Greenpoint section of Brooklyn. Everyone here has remarked on Adam’s good looks, but in person he is just absolutely stunning. He’s also really sweet. We exited the train station at the same time and were walking towards the lounge when he noticed me walking behind him. I knew who Adam was from Tim’s promotional emails, but I don’t know if he’d seen me at prior events. Of course, I couldn’t keep my eyes off of this gorgeous hunk of a man. He could have taken offense to me eye-stalking him, or been concerned about being followed by a strange, large man on the streets of one of the outer boroughs. But instead, he turned around and gave me the most welcoming, friendly smile. He must have figured out that we were headed to the same event, since I’m sure he saw me drooling over him on the train too. He then kept walking as though nothing was wrong, as I’m sure he knew by then that we were headed to the same place. I was way too shy back then to speak to him at the lounge, but I remain convinced that this friendly, silent gesture was Adam’s way of making me feel at ease and conveying that it was okay to look at him, admire him, and approach him. That one positive experience, where Adam showed kindness to a shy, overweight, clearly intimidated, and unconfident gay man who hadn’t yet found himself, has stayed with me to this day. So, while I’m no fan of right-wing politics (even assuming those are his political leanings), I’d be more than willing to take a chance on an experience with Adam in the present day. Just my two cents.

I saw Luiggy earlier this summer when he was in NYC, and I had a very good time with him. His photos are very accurate, and he's both super sweet and sexy. English is his second language, but he makes the effort and I had no difficulty communicating with him. He's based in Miami, but travels a lot throughout the states. Nobody starts out being well-known and well-reviewed. As much as I value our forum, the overwhelming majority of clients don't know it exists, nor do most escorts. So, sometimes, after you've exhausted the forum's knowledge, you've got to stop with all the "bumping" and just take a chance on a new professional. I'm glad I did with Luiggy. Hope this helps the OP.

Got my first monkeypox vaccine dose last Saturday in NYC. I asked about the 2nd dose that we’re supposed to get 4 weeks later, and was only told that the city’s health department would contact us about it. Just getting the first shot was so difficult, you’d think they’d try to make scheduling the second one easier, if only to increase the rates of compliance. But alas, we’re all left in the dark as to when (or even if) we’ll get our 2nd shots.

Each of these guys is in my rentmen Buddy List, so you and I have similar tastes. I've only met one of them, though -- skinnyhungmj, and I've been with him twice over the past week. He's an absolutely great lay. But, he doesn't really fit what the OP is looking for in terms of a physical type. MJ isn't beefy or muscular, but is instead very lean, as his stage name indicates. And he's relatively smooth above the thigh. But I think he'd fit most of the other attributes that the OP is looking for.

I saw him at the 27 Men’s Spa for an incall session. He is absolutely as adorable in person as the photos suggest, and I had a good time with him.

He and I have been communicating today, possibly meeting this week. He’s been very nice and easy to talk to. If the meeting happens, I can report back.

Seeing him this week for the first time. I’ll try to report back

I saw Mike several years ago, and I concur with @LA90046that the guy is really f—ing good-looking. IMHO, he’s got those archetypical northern/western European features (i.e., fairer skin, light-colored hair and eyes), taller than average, with a solid frame, wide shoulders, and good bone structure. Just a very classically handsome white man, if that’s what you’re into. I think I’m due for a repeat!

When I first saw this pots, I checked out the profile, and thought, "wow, this guy is smoking hot!" I would've sworn that I'd never seen this ridiculously attractive man before, but when I clicked on the link in his ad to his Twitter page, it turns out I'm already following him! Go figure! His RM ad is relatively new, only being established on March 20, 2022. But if I could find out something about him here, I'd be much more willing to take one for the team, so to speak.