Whippoorwill

IMO, eating cum is one of the great pleasures of being a gay man.

When I turned 50, the best birthday card I received was, "Happy Birthday. Now you don't have to worry about dying young anymore."

When I was young and picking up tricks in bars, I always found Thanksgiving night and Christmas night to be easy pickings. People had spent all day with family and were ready to put a bullet through their brain or a c__k up their a__. Now that I am past the tricking age and in the hiring age, I would expect there are likewise many clients desiring relaxation after a stressful day with family. But of course, completely up to providers to decide if they are working or not. That's the nice thing about being an independent provider.

I go for twunks, but in fact I don't care how old the "boy" actually is...If he looks and acts the part, that's all I care. If he looks 25 but is actually 40, I don't care. However if he posts pictures of him at 25 when he looks 40, I care a lot.

I lived in Iran in the 1960s when I was in my '20s. There was lots of consensual gay sex going on with high school - '20s - '30s young men, as girls were pretty much kept under lock and key. And then there were the bathhouses, where most everyone went on a weekly basis for cleanliness...and where a massage in a private room was 25¢, and another 25¢ to get fucked by the masseur. Let's just say I got a lot of massages. Illegal, immoral, whatever...they don't pay any more attention to their mullahs than we do to our ministers and priests when it comes to cock. This was during the Viet Nam war, when the US military put out a guide to brothels in the Far East, for G.I's on R & R. Both Taiwan and Bangkok were notorious for sex tourism, so I returned to the States via Asia. In the cab from the Bangkok airport to my hotel, the cabbie handed me brochure after brochure for brothels with women. Seeing I had no interest, he reached into his glove compartment and pulled out half a dozen brochures for the brothels with young men. I picked out a brothel, went there, and had a choice of maybe ten sexily-dressed boys vying for my attention. I payed the "madam" the fee to take him for the night. When I returned to my first class hotel with him, the doorman and other hotel workers smiled ear to ear. My boy told me they would have been very disappointed if a client ever came back to bed alone. We spent three days and nights together, even went to his house and met his mother, whom he was undoubtedly supporting. All so terribly civilized. Bangkok is still a great place to hire. Taiwan less so, perhaps because gays are so open and accepted there you don't have to pay.

In the social sciences, it's referred to as "Doing a geographic". That is, "XYZ is not working for me. I just have to move to (wherever) and everything will be fine." Wrong. The problems you have today will travel with you...99% of the time, they are you, not the place.

You probably want to check out RentMasseur / RentMen and see who's in town...there are a constant stream of visitors to Honolulu, and your dream boy from XYZ might just be there. And when you want to get your sleaze on, there is Velvet Video arcade in Waikiki...like all these places, experience varies the full gamut from great to terrible.

It's really the same rule I learned as a 20-year old and newly out...be discrete when bumping into your tricks when out and about. The funniest occasion was when my then-husband and I met a guy at a party with whom we had each surreptitiously tricked with. It soon became obvious to all what the story was. Fortunately, we all were able to have a good laugh over it at the time. Today, however, my husband does not know about my hobby and it needs to stay that way.

Thanks to all of you guys for this. I had not heard of these before, or of providers providing them. Great service, etiquette all around. I try to be meticulously clean, but always worry. I would love to have a packet of these front and center when I arrive at the provider's. .

Or, as one of my boys tells me, he doesn't necessarily remember what interview conversation he had with whom. My interviewing a provider might be my most important conversation in days; to him, it's likely just one of very many interviews he has in a week with people he does not know and doesn't know if he will ever see. Even if you think you came to "agreements" in the interview, best to reiterate them at the actual appointment. He is, one way or another, performing for you. You have to tell him the script.

If I were a provider and had a slot open, I would be delighted to be number two...I fill a slot, get paid for it, and potentially have a new regular if I do a great job. And I would work doubly hard to show you I am better than that other guy anyway!

I have two regulars who've upped their rates 20-30% since pre-covid. These rates are right where the competition seems to be. They both observe how many more providers there are then before, and how much less business they have. Capitalism at work.

ICTJOCK, I have a life, and I assume my boys have a life. I typically send my appointment request out on Sunday and give the provider a choice of numerous days and times during the week. It seems to me this is both realistic and respectful. He knows when I am available, and picks a slot when he is available. On rare occasions, I have had to reschedule when something else comes up during the week. Likewise on rare occasions, they may reschedule is something else comes up for them (a better offer, a longer appointment, a trip, I don't care). I know, there are times a guy needs it "right now", or thinks the provider's life revolves around him. You may forego a few of those clients by insisting you deserve a life of your own. But that's your choice. It may be financially (and emotionally) better to have a steady repeat respectful clientele than to jump on every possible opportunity. I don't know. That is your choice.

When I had a professional consulting business, attached to each contract was a rate sheet titled "Hourly Rates, 2023". This set the expectation that the rates were not forever. Depending on the job, the client, the longevity of the contract, etc., (including how busy I was), I adjusted rates periodically. But any adjustments had to take into account the state of the economy, how committed the client was, etc. Supply and Demand.

There is something about a hands-free anal orgasm that is intensely emotional. It's just like mother said it was supposed to be like.

Early on in life an older and wiser woman taught me there are two things people always lie about...money and sex. So here we have someone making money by doing sex work. And anyone is surprised that some people lie? Protect yourself boys.

I may be generalizing, since I did not start using providers until I was past 65, but I am assuming many clients are "of a certain age." I think if you select providers who have been in the business for several years or more, who are not 20, and whose bio and reviews suggest they are professional and a nice person, you don't have a lot to worry about. My regular guys (early '30s, well-assembled, and stunning) tell me they have a wide variety of regular clients, from young professional gym bunnies who don't have time to date or Grindr, to many seniors who want and can afford the very best. By and large, few if any providers will have a long-term successful business if they discriminate on age. Do your research well, treat them as a valued professional, and enjoy!

Young people are definitely more casual about time and appointments than I was taught to be. A few years ago, around 5 pm I asked a young employee (college grad, several years solid work experience) what he was doing after work. He said "Oh it's my birthday, I think I'll have a party." I asked if he had invited people, and he said no, but he would send out a text, and they would meet at a bar. I couldn't believe it. The next day I asked him how it went, and he said around 25 people showed up. Clearly these people had nothing scheduled but just went with the flow. When I was middle-aged I had a job that involved lots of public events. My younger staff and I always laughed that "old people always show up early." Yup. And now that I am old, I show up places early.

When I was in my late '30s, my then-lover and I had the same gay GP. My lover and I were also social friends of the Doc and his lover, but there was never any sexual tension among us. One year, when I went for may annual physical, the Doc found a lump on one of my testicles. At the exam, he was also teaching a (straight) German exchange medical student. Being a thorough Doc, he examined the family jewels in great detail, manipulating them every which way, shining a light through the scrotum, etc. Then it was time for the med student to go through the same procedure, in even more detail since he was learning. As this beautiful bond Teutonic 20-something year-old was going over ever centimeter of my junk, I looked at the Doc, and he gave me a big wink. I cracked up. All above board, but I still think of it every time I see the Doc.

When I moved to San Francisco, I was taught the 15 rule...for work, for a lunch date, for a doctor's appointment, for whatever. When you depend on transit, there is no such thing as late...you get there when you get there. That being said, a prudent person knows this and leaves 15 minutes before he thinks he needs to. That being said, and having picked my providers carefully, I have never had to wait but a few minutes and they have never had to wait for me but a few minutes. And mostly not at all. Works for me.

My you are young. A lick and a promise goes back much further than that...my grandmother used it and I't be pretty sure she wasn't talking about blow jobs. Here's what google says: The origin of the colloquial expression “a lick and a promise” takes us back to the early 1800s. It was mostly used in the context of house cleaning, when maids or servants would skim over a bigger task to get the smaller tasks done first, with the intention of coming back and dedicating their full attention to it.

I haven't met w SS as I don't live in his city (current or soon to be) but he is a frequent contributor to this site and you will learn a lot about him by reading his posts. I find him a very attractive personality and would expect a good experience based on that.

It seems to me a major part of the concept of COM is to share real life experience about providers that you don't find on RM and other similar sites, what a particular venue is "really like," what is happening in the industry, and so on. Any time I have received a PM I have been happy to respond...that is why I read other people's reviews, and I assume that is why they read mine...to get the real skinny. Since some things are better not posted on a public message board, that is why PMs exist. I have always tried to be helpful even if the answer is "I don't know." And I have received grateful responses always or nearly always. Works for me.

I don't know what your type is but I have enjoyed TravisThailand a couple of times when we both were in Hawaii. Competent masseur, personable, friendly, warm. TravisThailand on RentMasseur RENTMASSEUR.COM View my profile on RentMasseur.com

Van Darkholme shows up in San Francisco periodically…performing at Dore Alley and Folsom Street fairs. That photo is at least 15 years old. Unfortunately, like us mere mortals, he has become decidedly middle-aged and is not the hot youth that ericwinters (and I) have dreamt about.