Andy768

Shelton showing good trajectory!
Congrats to Sitsy on taking the title! After wins over Zverev, Sinner, and Ruud, he must be feeling peachy! 🍑😉

Shelton showing good trajectory!
Congrats to Sitsy on taking the title! After wins over Zverev, Sinner, and Ruud, he must be feeling peachy! 🍑😉

Shelton showing good trajectory!
Congrats to Sitsy on taking the title! After wins over Zverev, Sinner, and Ruud, he must be feeling peachy! 🍑😉

Just make sure you mention it in the future to the provider if it happens again before they come over. 👍

In that case, you will be happy to hear what I tell you next: An hour or two after the first guy departed, I ended up finding another masseur who agreed to make a house-call, and I made a point of very explicitly and emphatically informing him that, yes indeed, my roommate is also at home! So that he could decide, for himself, whether or not he was copacetic with that fact; all's well that ends well, as they say, and he did indeed come on over... 👍

Personally, when I didn't live alone, I always made it clear to anyone I invited over. Even now I make it clear that I have a dog.
HOWEVER, whenever I have heard people complain and cry "HE should have told me!" My response has always been "if it was that important to YOU, YOU should have asked."
Like so many things we discuss here, it really calls for reasonable behavior on both sides of the relationship.

I’ve had this happen. I think I’ve written about it previously but I’ll mention it again here because it’s relevant.
I did an outcall one time to a client and his young daughter was with him when he answered the door. In fact we used the room she had been playing in for the massage. The client had intended we use a garage (integral to the house, a townhouse over 3 stories) but it wasn’t suitable so he moved the session to the ground floor play / tv room. As I was setting up the table he asked her to “go upstairs to mummy while daddy has his massage”….
Once she was gone I checked with him that he understood the nature of the service, as in we’d both be naked and it would include sexual activity and he confirmed all ok. He’d clearly seen my advertising etc so couldn’t have been in doubt but given his wife and daughter were upstairs and knew he was having a massage I did wonder…
What’s worse is he didn’t even lock the door and during the session I could hear them upstairs. I asked him if this was ok and he was adamant we’d not be disturbed.
I didn’t meet the wife, or daughter again fortunately as I think it would be even worse to see them afterwards. The client behaved like it was all routine…maybe it was a turn on for him because it certainly didn’t seem to inhibit him…he was hard as soon as he got naked. 
I really don’t mind if there’s others in an adjacent room. I’m also fine if they know what’s going on. I’ve done live shows and workshops including having full sex and things like being a demo model for the use of sex toys so it’s not a problem to me. I also have clients who are married and they both have massages from me while the other one watches.
However in every situation it’s been agreed beforehand. It’s just polite and respectful to ask, and of course some situations such as the one above where I knew his daughter was upstairs are very disconcerting. He should have told me that might be the case when booking. 
I think that for most people they want discretion and privacy in such situations. If you as a client have any circumstances where your place isn’t going to be private then it’s best to let your provider know then he can decide. The default expectation both ways is of privacy. 


 

I can't think of a movie I walked out on, but I thought Twilight was just ridiculous. When it was revealed that his skin sparkles in the sun, I couldn't help but laugh - it just seemed like one unintentional absurdity after another. I turned to my companion and apologized for inviting her. It remains my standard for bad movies - like, was it just bad or was it Twilight-level bad?

I've gone swimming naked when out on the lake with a co-worker (not during business hours).  It's not embarrassing if you own it!  My neighbor, who is also a co-worker, and invites me over on summer nights for a dip in his pool, both of us naked.  I've hooked up with someone, and at the end of the hookup he told me he knew me from work... We sat on a committee together.
I have no problems if I come across a co-worker or acquaintance at a clothing optional hotel, or at a bathhouse for that matter.  We're both there for the same reason!  If you're worried about rumors spreading that you attend these types of places, remember: Whoever saw you would have to admit they were at the same place if they told someone else about you.  So forget about it!

People in law, management consulting and finance etc typically have code names for clients so if overheard confidentiality remains. They also never speak to clients if running into them publicly. Doctors do the same and will never talk about treatments or discussions in public without invitation.
Hobby rules should be the same.
 

Closest I've gotten is running into a co-worker virtually on Scruff.

Thanks for trying to clarify - I realize now how poorly I posed my question. I was actually wondering about running into any acquaintance (not necessarily a provider) at a place where you might quite literally be caught with your pants down. For context - I've never been to a clothing-optional resort, but the thought of running into a work colleague or someone in my field at one is pretty horrific to me. Of course I'd get over it, but I know it would be really uncomfortable.
When I was a student, there were two times I ran into professors when I'd rather not have. Once was at the YMCA pool and I think we were both very deliberately timing our workouts to avoid being in the open showers and locker room changing area at the same time. Another was in class - realizing that I'd hooked up with the professor sometime (months? years?) earlier. We had to have a one-on-one meeting in his office at some point for the course, and it was a huge elephant in the room that neither of us acknowledged. It was painful enough to go through that as a student; really don't want to have a similar experience as a fully grown man.
By the way, I've appreciated reading people's takes and stories even if they were more geared toward encountering providers, so thanks for sharing!

Thanks for trying to clarify - I realize now how poorly I posed my question. I was actually wondering about running into any acquaintance (not necessarily a provider) at a place where you might quite literally be caught with your pants down. For context - I've never been to a clothing-optional resort, but the thought of running into a work colleague or someone in my field at one is pretty horrific to me. Of course I'd get over it, but I know it would be really uncomfortable.
When I was a student, there were two times I ran into professors when I'd rather not have. Once was at the YMCA pool and I think we were both very deliberately timing our workouts to avoid being in the open showers and locker room changing area at the same time. Another was in class - realizing that I'd hooked up with the professor sometime (months? years?) earlier. We had to have a one-on-one meeting in his office at some point for the course, and it was a huge elephant in the room that neither of us acknowledged. It was painful enough to go through that as a student; really don't want to have a similar experience as a fully grown man.
By the way, I've appreciated reading people's takes and stories even if they were more geared toward encountering providers, so thanks for sharing!

I wasn't very interested either. But I'm not very interested in many things others love, like football and traveling. And I have interests that others couldn't care less about. So to each his own - glad some of you gentlemen enjoyed it!

I didn't interpret Andy768's comment that he would take the provider on a cruise -- I read it as asking if anyone had ever bumped into a provider at an unexpected place like a cruise -- that provider and client had booked the same trip completely independent of each other.
Along those lines, I found out that a (male) friend who lived in Houston had a fling with a (male) friend here in Dallas. I met the Houston friend through my sister, and my two friends didn't meet through me (can't remember how they met). Also, the Houston friend had once been married to a female staff member I knew from my volunteer work at a non-profit here in Dallas. Those overlapping circles were a little too cozy for me. 

I have run into and hung out with friend groups with former escorts and masseurs I've hired.  The only embarrassment I encountered is when I call a man by his working name (the only name I knew) while the rest of the group knows him by his real name.  I pass it off to the group as having trouble remembering names.  Once, the guy said to his friends "That's the name I use for massages".  No problems.  Live life and enjoy!  Just be out there socializing!

Whenever I run into a provider and he's with a girl, I always say "Your girl is lovely, Hubbel."
 
(just kidding)

Years ago, I bumped into a young man with whom I’d shared many kinky role plays at my local 24-Hour Fitness. We just acknowledged one another.

I wasn't very interested either. But I'm not very interested in many things others love, like football and traveling. And I have interests that others couldn't care less about. So to each his own - glad some of you gentlemen enjoyed it!

Yeah. Look at all the trouble the former guy got from dating hookers. Stay tuned for the details that will start coming out after April 15 in a New York courtroom. 😛

Just hire per hour, get in, get off and get lost. Don't take them on a cruise with you if you think you might run into someone who knows you and he'll spread the word that you hire guys for sex and that terrifies you. 
Many times, I've introduced guys I've hired at restaurants to acquaintances as " visiting nephews", friends, etc. To my friends I would simply tell them the truth and recommend the guys because I don't care what they think! Obviously, a restaurant is not the same as a gay cruise, sauna, etc.
How do they know he's a provider? Age difference? 
Would a discreet escort be equally embarrassed about being seen by a friend in a gay cruise, sex party, etc. with someone who just can't pass as a date/friend, etc.?

^I do the same when I see clients around because you never know if the client wants to maintain discretion regarding how they know you. Maybe he is with a spouse that doesn’t know. Or perhaps they simply do not want to engage outside the context of a session. For these reasons, it’s up to the client to approach me. I’m not ignoring or avoiding the client. I’m giving them the option to maintain their discretion. When they engage with me, I reciprocate.
^I suggest the same approach as above. You respect their boundaries and hopefully they do the same. Maybe acknowledge them with a nod or something. Otherwise leave them alone unless they make it clear they want to engage with you. You both know why you are there. Let him be. 

This is great news…. 
No one wants to be walking around with a hard dick, and then not remember what to actually do with it….. 

I embrace a James Bond mindset... YOLT.

I ran into a client at a naked beach in Mykonos one time. He was with his partner. It didn’t seem to be a problem.