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My man, you have a way with words!

My man, you have a way with words!

Early on in my hiring, I told the guy over the phone "I've never been fucked and I'd really like to try it". He seemed a bit put off by the bluntness and said we'd talk about it once he got there.
Skip to meeting, he did fuck me, and was very good with a first-timer. It was wonderful. 

Tha'ts hysterical @ApexNomad. but in all seriousness. Although I don't personally like communicating anything sexual (where it can be proven that I am hiring someone for sex)...but if you must be descriptive, then I would suggest your first communications be about your sexual INTERESTS and leave the dirty talk for later. 
"Hi I am interested in your profile and wanted to know if you're free for a session on Tuesday at 10:00pm. I am a dominant top who's into oral, anal and spanking. Hope to hear back from you. thanks." 
Always keep it classy until your provider takes the lead in dirty talk. 

My man, you have a way with words!

One’s an order at a fine dining restaurant, the other’s you yelling into the drive-thru speaker at 2 a.m.

Married with kids and running a business. I have very little free time to get a little same-sex-action on the side. THAT is how I started. Now that I am in my 50s, I still have a taste for the hot guys I used to hook up with when I was young...but its less and less likely that some gorgeous 20-something athlete will spread his ass cheeks for me without showing him my wallet.  As others have said: getting what I want / when I want. 

In case anyone is wondering, I've definitely revised my opinion about French Kissing. In fact I've done a complete 180 degree change on the subject. I have to admit though that  it was terribly difficult to change my preconceived notions  about it. It probably took me  at least 15 whole seconds during my first experience with said kissing technique before my attitude changed. 😝😝😝

That first audience question was from me. I have been fortunate to meet both Jeffery and Cole, and love what they're about. Neither regrets their years as escorts. 

I'm not an American and certainly not a New Yorker, yet even I know that New York has lots of places in it (if only because I have seen "On the Town" a number of times ("The Bronx is up and the Battery's down!")

I only pay escorts to talk about things like NY vs Chicago pizza, conspiracy theories and geology. They insist on having sex with me afterwards for free. Who am I to turn them down? 🤷‍♂️

Not necessarily a "red flag", but, as with a used motor vehicle, indicative of high mileage and wear and tear.

All this praise will make my head bigger than my cock 😬

finally getting around to saying that @Jamie21 's posts are consistently savvy, to-the-point, practical, and fun to read.......very grateful to have you here in the forum....appreciate your advice and comments.......  

Hello, I'm a newbie who has spent more time than I care to admit browsing and searching this forum over the past several months. First of all, let me say that the advices, reviews and experiences shared by everyone here were a huge help in taking the leap with my first hire. I'm a closeted bisexual man who tends to read obsessively on topics I'm anxious about, so thank you all for maintaining this open and supportive community. 
A few weeks ago I hired someone from RentMen and I figured I'd share this first experience now that I've had some time to process it. Who knows, maybe it will help someone down the line, just as previous posters have unknowingly helped me. So, here we go. 
 
I hired a different provider than I had originally in mind, someone of a similar age and with good reviews on this forum. The booking process went quite smoothly thanks to the numerous threads about first-contact etiquette. When I contacted him I stated that I saw his profile on RentMen, I was looking for a 3-hour outcall in a hotel in my city, offered a few options of dates and times, and sent him basic informations about myself. I also mentioned that this would be my very first experience with a man, which made me quite nervous, and I wanted to make sure he was OK with it. He was very reassuring, we discussed what I wanted to try, my goal for the session, my limits, etc. We confirmed the rate and time, and it was all set in less than two hours. 
I was so nervous the day of the appointment, I felt like a teenager on his first date. I had put his rate in an unmarked envelope very visibly on a table, I offered him something to drink and we talked for a while. The conversation was easy, he asked questions about me and my expectations, told me about himself, his life, how happy he was to help me go through with this, etc. 
Mutual oral was the only specific thing I requested when we texted initially, since I knew that I'd feel comfortable trying, so it felt natural to start there. He took the lead, asked me to help him get undressed, he guided me to touch him and he taught me how to blow him (never realized a dick would feels so smooth in my mouth when it was like a steel rod in his boxers 😅). It was absolutely awesome and I was ecstatic when he came in my mouth. We continued fooling around and having some fun, talked for a bit and then he was on his way. 
Was it everything I was hoping for? Probably not. While I thoroughly enjoyed going to town on this stud and I'm glad I got to explore this side of myself, there were moments where I felt somewhat self-conscious and out of place. It still felt like a hookup, which I guess it was, but at the time it made me wonder if this hobby was really meant for me. 
Not at all the provider's fault however, he was lovely, patient and kind. I usually enjoy sex the most when I have developed some trust/intimacy with the person I'm with, so I'm guessing having a regular provider is probably what I'm looking for. I think I was trying to get it to live up to years of built-up expectations, which was unrealistic.
Instead, I'm now trying to focus on the positive aspects of the experience, since I still loved it. Recently, I was thinking about which country to visit this fall, and I realized that I was also looking up the providers available in those countries. I usually travel to explore food and culture, but I guess Men can be another form of cultural exploration. It confirmed what many of you have said — this hobby can indeed be quite addictive. 😉

This is especially good advice in this day and age.  
I was a broke-ass undergraduate student many decades ago, and that was with a part time job while attending school full time.  I get the attraction of doing something more lucrative, but if you really are drawn to do this I think it would make more sense to learn massage and then advertise on a masseur website.  You could always offer more in person if it feels right, and then you won't have an online footprint connecting you with sex work.  You still have the issue of whether you are legally allowed to work here outside of on-campus jobs.  Do you want to finish your studies here or are you willing to risk deportation because you have been working in an unauthorized capacity and that's been discovered (or reported) to ICE?

Jeffrey and Cole reminisce about sex work last month at The Strand 
 

A lot of subs are long and hard, and full of seamen.  

They won!

 

Love Conrad! He’s wonderful.

If you tell the provider you are down low, they know how to blend in when walking through lobby, elevator, etc… even better if the hotel doesn’t need a key to access floors. I wish you the best experience like I had for my first hire… not only my first hire, but first for many things. As stated before, it opens a whole new world.. cheers!

Some existing "first time" threads
 

There'd be no reason to show mine. It's obvious I'm well past my sell-by date. 

Speaking of ages, one of my favorite guys had a birthday today so I texted him a birthday greeting (he was soooo appreciative I remembered).  The guy has been advertising as 32 for as long as I can remember from my first hiring of him (2019) and I've noticed when I'm with him he's really been aging - in his face and his body (especially his chest, though he works out regularly).  I've guessed him to be close to 50.
When he was in town a few weeks ago, we had a conversation about what he did before escorting (he's a very well-educated guy). Turns out he went to college in my state, studid pharmacy, then graduated and got his masters in pharmacy to be a pharmacist. So that's 6 years of education, which brings him to 24. Said he was a pharmacist for 15 years in a hospital (that takes him to 39 years old) left that job and became a pharmaceutical rep for two years (41) and then started this in 2019. So he's 47, or more accurately -  48 today. I was right (and I don't think he realized I was doing the math in my head). And he still advertises as 32.