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yessss thats always a tricky part about being a sub. I like being used/disrespected a bit for sexual kicks, but I still want to be treated like a friend to my doms - thats actually IMO a tell-tale sign that someone isn't actually dom/"alpha" at all and just play it for sex - in my experience, the real alphas can use me up like a piece of trash during a session and then still be nice and friendly to me later on.
BUT, if I'm into a guy then even just the act of paying him I consider a "benefit"   some people are into fancy clothes or restaurants or buying boats or whatever, but I genuinely get a lot of meaning and pleasure out of gift giving/spoiling. 

It feels like you alr have a (quite) clear idea of what you look for. So really just execution....put them $$$$ to use i would say 👀
Might need to watch out for you yourself being 'played' without any benefit though....its a pricey and mind/heart tugging game you are about to play.
Been there done that...imo, key is to always remember this is ultimately a transaction, consideration must be well delivered 😄

^This. And consistency. I’m fully aware most clients can’t afford to do all the things @Coolwave35 does, and certainly not on a regular basis. BUT the basic principle applies.
Do your research. Post on the forums when there is no existing thread (use the search function first), or find the appropriate thread by searching and ask there. Try a few providers for shorter sessions. There is some degree of risk in doing this. You won’t click with everyone, and that’s normal. That’s just part of the process. Don’t give up.
When you find a provider you like, cultivate the relationship by hiring him with some regularity, and if you can afford it, for longer sessions should you really like something akin to a boyfriend experience.
Anything you can do to incentivize your regular guy financially will make him loyal to you and prioritize you over other clients. This is a business. Our time and attention is best spent on repeat clients. The best clients are regular ones.
Amazon wishlists and all the perks you can think of are great, but money paid directly is the greatest motivation.

I've learned that money doesn't always talk...in cases where the escort has an attitude. Also, young escorts tend to be more entitled (and thus believe good money is their due),  and less likely to realize how financially useful regulars are.

No more callers please…..we have a winner!
If nothing else it was a damn fun read, that made me rock hard!

Once you find one you like, it helps to find a way to do some extras like dinner, gifts, or travel.   But really if the chemistry is good, I think once you start, just be consistent so that he can depend on the income at a regular interval.  

Here’s my tip. 
Money talks. 
If you can afford it, finding a regular is easy. If you don’t yet have the disposable income to taste A LOT of chocolate, I think it is much harder to find a regular. I have several incredible regulars, and we prioritize each other. It took a bit to lock them in and be a priority to them. What did the trick though?  Money. 
This is going to sound arrogant and pompous but it isn’t meant to. I thought everyone hired like me. I budget north of $150k a year for escorts and indulge a few times a week. When a session with a new guy goes south or is subpar, I don’t pay it much attention and just get excited for my the next one. When I click with a regular I wanna go the distance with, I don’t give up.
Only in the past two+ years from reading here, did I come to understand that that isn’t the norm, it’s the exception.  I truly had no idea because who did I have to discuss hiring habits with?  No one. 

I have since come to understand that the vast majority of clients hire a few times a year, budget for sessions and save up for them. They meticulously evaluate profiles and interview providers and gather additional information. Most can only hire when they travel. They carefully evaluate what a fair tip is and balance the quality of the session with the additional reward. Some expect a bit of aftercare. All of these factors affect your ability to find and secure a regular. Honestly, I have no idea how you would do that on a budget so I’m not going to be much help if that’s your situation.
I will share a little bit about how I do it with no regard for what it costs. When I’m into a guy, I go hard on the courting process.
I often meet guys at the Adonis nude party in NYC. If I am liking the vibe, I offer to match whatever they make at the party to go home with me afterwards. Sometimes a guy will make $700. Sometimes $2k. Psychologically, a guy knowing whatever he makes that night will be doubled by going home with me locks them in for the overnight.  Now I get to try them out for an extended session.  If we have a great time together, I’ll text them a week before the next nude party. If they’re coming I’ll ask them if they have a hotel. If not, I’ll offer to let them stay in mine the night before, the night of and the night after. I tell them I’ll get a two bed room and only be there the night of the party so they can use it to recover their travel costs and have a nice place to host. No one has ever declined this offer, and no one has ever not shown their gratitude by climbing in my bed after the nude party.  We all know what we’re doing.
The next month, the guy I am into commits himself to fly in knowing I’ll cover the room with the same offer and instead of me texting them if they’re coming, they text me and ask if I’ll be going. Really it means “are you gunna get my room” but I’m ok playing the game too. We banter a bit and I ask what flight they’re coming in on. Then I upgrade their flight. All of these guys fly the most basic economy ticket they can find. Often they’re tall and muscular and flying cheap sucks. I do this with the expectation that while the guy is in NYC, he will try a little harder to make time for me. They almost ALWAYS give me some bonus time as a thank you. They’ll invite me to dinner before the party or usually breakfast after, again knowing I’ll foot the bill and I’m ok with that. I get a quasi BF experience out of it and now we’re getting to know each other out of a king size bed. 
In between parties I’ll offer Venmo and cash apps for them doing silly things or sending me unsolicited pics and videos. It keeps them engaged throughout the month and the conversation flowing. We are getting to know each other and developing a relationship over text and I am keeping them engaged by sending a couple hundred dollars a week or sending shit from their Amazon wishlist.  Now the planning starts. They are more willing to come to nyc knowing they’ll make money with me. I’m excited to go to the nude parties because I don’t have to worry about kissing a bunch of frogs because I already have a hot guy that I’m into ready to spend the weekend with me. 
From here I offer a weekend trip. Once a guy gets to travel in a bit of luxury, they’re committed. Then the invitations get much easier and it goes to “regular” status. 
I am not sure ANY of this is helpful, but it is how I identify, cultivate and lock in the guys I want to consistently keep appointments with me and be regulars. 

I have done this. It’s all about chemistry.  You must taste lots of chocolate until you find the one you like. 

I can't imagine a single provider who wouldn't appreciate a regular - it's the closest to a steady income flow you can get in the industry.

Hey! In my opinion, the first step is going to be to just hire one of the guys you like. If you vibe with him, see if he’s interested in setting up an overnight. And if so, test the waters with the relationship you want. If not with him, with someone else. 
 
But ultimately, you won’t know until you get over the initial step of hiring someone first. 

Are you really 30?….man you are so young!!!….if I was your age I would get not a escort but a boyfriend for sure…..!!!😊😊😊
escorts….there are so many assholes and nasty guys out there…..it has been difficult for me to get a regular….there is always something missing….a gorgeous handsome and SMART muscular guy….I felt in love with him!!! lol but he really is into fucking feminine twinks…..the other young guy is handsome and fucks me like no other, but he doesn’t kiss and it’s kind of impersonal…..the other great guys….they are not locals….
So I am still looking, it’s complicated…😉

I've paid 500/hr a few times for guys who were pretty famous in porn / online, and honestly idk if it was worth it. 
I'm a cash sub, so the idea of paying more money to guys turns me on but I would rather the rate be 250-350 and then I tip another 300-500 during findom sessions

I've paid 500/hr a few times for guys who were pretty famous in porn / online, and honestly idk if it was worth it. 
I'm a cash sub, so the idea of paying more money to guys turns me on but I would rather the rate be 250-350 and then I tip another 300-500 during findom sessions

Open to sugar daddy / kept man deal ? 

my first ever sexual interaction with a man !!
i was 16 and did my first ~eurotrip~ and I was like sitting near the train station in Lille, France and this guy randomly sits next to me, pulls out a photo of a man at a pride parade waving a rainbow flag and just said "you like?" - mind you i was still in the closet and like struggling w being gay a lot and depressed that i was about to leave europe and go back home to south carolina - so this was like literal divine intervention - so i said yes and he took me to this tiny patch of woods next to the train station. i sucked him off and he ate me ass, and then we walked off, he told me he was a DJ (lol), we kissed, and he walked away!
liiiike such a fun way to be introduced to dick ahahhaa. i always say i need to do a pilgrimage back to Lille one day and find that little wooded area next to the station again

my first ever sexual interaction with a man !!
i was 16 and did my first ~eurotrip~ and I was like sitting near the train station in Lille, France and this guy randomly sits next to me, pulls out a photo of a man at a pride parade waving a rainbow flag and just said "you like?" - mind you i was still in the closet and like struggling w being gay a lot and depressed that i was about to leave europe and go back home to south carolina - so this was like literal divine intervention - so i said yes and he took me to this tiny patch of woods next to the train station. i sucked him off and he ate me ass, and then we walked off, he told me he was a DJ (lol), we kissed, and he walked away!
liiiike such a fun way to be introduced to dick ahahhaa. i always say i need to do a pilgrimage back to Lille one day and find that little wooded area next to the station again

recently ive been really turned on by some twitter accounts ive found roleplaying alpha right-wing men; sometimes they get VERY taboo and offensive but it turns me on so much for some reason? (I'm a huge "liberal snowflake" in my real life lol)
anyone else into this? and know any providers who do it well?

recently ive been really turned on by some twitter accounts ive found roleplaying alpha right-wing men; sometimes they get VERY taboo and offensive but it turns me on so much for some reason? (I'm a huge "liberal snowflake" in my real life lol)
anyone else into this? and know any providers who do it well?

I'm in my early 30s, but would LOVE to attend ! Would I be super out of place?

Just joined Seeking ! Definitely good selection of guys ! wish me luuuuck ^_^

recently ive been really turned on by some twitter accounts ive found roleplaying alpha right-wing men; sometimes they get VERY taboo and offensive but it turns me on so much for some reason? (I'm a huge "liberal snowflake" in my real life lol)
anyone else into this? and know any providers who do it well?

1000% ! I only had one bad experience with a straight provider who did these kind of services cuz he assumed I was into harder impact play than I was and we were dumb and didnt set a safe word so he kept like full force kicking me in my ribs (which. i dont find hot lol) and then it was so award and difficult to get him to stop cuz up until then we had gotten really into our "roles" lol
so I think yea, get to know the person a little beforehand first cuz I think a good alpha will sort of let you guide him on how far to go and should notice when you're not into it anymore.
 
That being said I LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOVE homophobic like MAGA play its so hot lmao

*i remove my blouse*

Hey there, I'm looking for a specific type of guy for what I've planned for my summer vacation. This is what I'm looking for, based off rentmen filters
Age: 18-38
Height: 5'11 or higher (would do shorter if they are exceptionally hot)
Ethnicity: White, Latin, Meditteranean or Arab
Body: Muscular/athletic
Style: Jock, Muscle Guy, Bro, Alpha, Dom
Orientation: Straight, Bi, or at least straight acting
 
Preferences: able to fly (but willing to come to them), open to cam for first meet, into working with other guys (but doesn't have to do anything sexual with others)
There's a lot of perks for the guys, and I'd be willing to also spoil their girlfriends/wives/friends if they want

*i remove my blouse*