First and foremost, I am very sad to hear that you tested HIV+, @Jacque. A great big hug and an arm around the shoulder goes out to you.
Second, I want to answer the following question from a moderator's perspective:
Refer to Guideline # 14:
14. The rules of M4M Message Forums applies to private messages. This site includes a feature for members to exchange private messages. Although those private messages are not moderated, the rules for the Forum still apply.