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Saw this movie today and LOVED it. Denzel Washington plays an attorney. But, he has some social issues and problems interacting with others. He's mainly "behind the scenes" at his law firm and does all the research / paperwork for his partner who does the courtroom stuff.

Great story line and some wonderful acting. Also some good twists and turns in the plot.

My favorite optometrist of all time is located at a Costco in San Diego. She does no upselling.

Which Costco? Balboa / Morena or Fenton?

...Talk shows can be irritating unless there is a worthy guest being interviewed...

My "go to" station is KFI. It's what I listen to 90% of the time at work.

I usually listen to the radio at work and it's always talk shows, podcasts, or news shows. Rarely listen to broadcast music. But, I do have my favorite CDs / MP4s that I listen to.

Was surprised to see their ad on Daddy's Review site today. Why in the world would he allow their advertising on his review site??

I currently have 3 residence and a vehicle at each location. 2 of my 3 vehicles are stick shifts including the 1 I drive the most in San Diego.

Garrison Keillor was accused of sexual issues and fired by Minnesota Public Radio. Today, the San Diego PBS had renamed the program to The Chris Thile Show. Is this going to be the new name?? Reuters claims the new name is Town Hall. USA Today killed a previous post of a name change and said it hasn't been decided.

Was the name changed this weekend in your area?

I wonder if clients reveal their real name?

For repeat / long term hires they know my real name. For one-time hires I remain anonymous.

Seems to me, based on your own description of the job and company, that being gay is very much a workplace issue.

 

What am I missing?

My current employer seems to be gay-friendly. They provide FREE health insurance for domestic partners. And, one of my current gay co-workers has his domestic partner on our company insurance. But, my current assignment is with a joint-venture company. That means that 3 different companies have "made" a joint-venture company. Very common when dealing with a large project like my current assignment. The other 2 joint-venture partners are NOT as gay-friendly as my company. So, a low profile is important.

In addition, we have no control over how the customer / owner perceives gay issues. This particular owner is , IMHO, homophobic. So, keeping my gayness out of the workplace is my choice and preference. This practice has served me well for over 25 years. I'm not about to change now. Some co-workers, owners and stakeholders prefer NOT to know about my private life. So, I don't make my private life a workplace issue. I do my job and earn a very good paycheck.

I've been totally out and open to family and friends since 1981. However, I don't see the need to be a gay icon at work. If someone asks, I certainly don't deny it. But I don't see the need to make being gay a workplace issue. And, on my current project there are at least 3 of us that are gay we often do things together / clubbing off the job. But on the job it's business and doing the job we're getting paid for.

And, I currently work on a highly visible $1.5B project that receives federal funding. It was a lengthy process to get me approved for this position. Having been here for 3 years I know the owner probably wouldn't have approved me if I had a visible gay presence. That's why I keep my personal internet profile very private. I know the owner and our joint venture partners did social media searches on me prior to my assignment on the project.

I also worked with a defense contractor and had a top secret security clearance (before and after coming out). I certainly didn't lie about my sexual orientation to get the clearances. But, again, I kept my private life out of the workplace.

I'm very involved in the gay community and love it. But, it's just not a workplace issue.

Thanks for input. Yes, I'm not sure how long work would be there on a contract to hire - 6 months to permanent. Can't remember state employment tax rate-did it go up recently? How are the utility costs?

I would seriously suggest you try a situation like mine if you're on a contract to hire situation. Get yourself a cheap place until you know if it's going to be a permanent position. Feel free to PM me if you want info on my specific apt. Not a lot of room but it sure meets my needs. And, it also has on-site laundry and room cleaning 2 times per month.

Don't know about employment tax rate. But, I have to pay an addition $5K per year since my employer's "standard" deduction is not enough. But, I just roll the additional amount each month into a savings account so I have the $$ on hand. Don't know about utility costs since it's included in my rent. But, I have co-workers complaining about their utility bills. And I just gased up at Costco for $3.05 per gallon. Stations near me are $3.50+ per gallon. They just raised the gas tax $0.12 per gallon this month. The state will raise gas tax to $0.60 per gallon over the next 3 years.

Hey guys, I'm looking at moving to San Diego for a job. I know it is an expensive city to live. Anyone have any insight or recommendations on where to live at a reasonable cost? good gyms?

I was transferred to San Diego almost 3 years ago. It is a VERY expensive city for housing, gas, etc. I live in Hillcrest and really enjoy that neighborhood. But, I work in La Jolla. My studio apt in Hillcrest is furnished, utilities included, free WIFI, cable, and covered (underground) parking. I pay $1,ooo per month and that be doubled if I relocated to La Jolla. The down side to my apt is that it is only 170 square feet. But, it is safe and I'm very cheap.

FYI, this is my 3rd time living here. The first time I had a 600 square foot studio in La Mesa for $150 per month.

Family coming in from Utah to my Portland home (I'm flying there tomorrow from San Diego where I work). Plan to have an early dinner around 1:00. After that is complete, they're driving to Seattle for a 2nd (later) dinner with the boyfriend's family.

Grandmother was in charge of the gravy one year and she added powdered sugar instead of flour (they look the same, you know). She was utterly crushed and the horrible incident was talked about for years after.

My father did that once. And, we too, talked about it for years. It was even mentioned at his funeral.

As a reminder of Broadway shows I've seen

 

Posters, coffee mugs, magnets, my playbills and ticket stubs. I've got a wall of mini posters on my kitchen wall as well larger posters

through out my apartment. Dozens of magnets are on my refrigerator and my coffee mugs are on the kitchen window sill and shelf.

I have Broadway tickets and playbill going back to my first show in 1978.

This is one of my favorite shows. Have seen it in NYC and several touring shows. Not something to be missed.

I was in the Navy and assigned to submarines. I have a large collection of submarine plaques.

I also have a fairly large collection of 78 rpm records dating back to the early 1900's (my grandfathers collection).

My last collection is guns and rifles. At last count I had 17 guns and 3 rifles. The rifle collection includes my grandfathers WW I rifle and another from WW II.

How was the script?

I really liked it. It went thru her early life and professional life. Appropriate music was linked to her life story. FYI, not sure many remember her "Adam & Steve" comment. But, as I was living in Salt Lake City, the clubs immediately stopped playing her music after that incident. In this play, this comment was explained and it was like an apology was issued to the gay community. Personally, I really appreciated that part of the play.

Would I see this play again?? IN A MICRO-MINUTE!!!

Fantastic show!!! Very strong cast with wonderful vocals. Would love to see it again.

FYI, I was very surprised at how small this venue is. I'm used to theaters with 2500-3000 seats. I estimate this was less than 1000 seats - all main floor.

I am in no way condoning what Spacey did to the woman's son, but it hardly seems like the kind of thing the kid is going to be scarred for life by as opposed to pissed off at Kevin Spacey. Sometimes the proper response is a punch in the face rather than a lawsuit.

Unless you've been sexually abused as a kid, HOW IN THE HELL CAN YOU STATE THAT THE KIDS NOT GOING TO BE SCARRED FOR LIFE?!?!?! I've worked with and known NUMEROUS guys that were abused as kids. This doesn't go away. It affects them the rest of their lives.

Thanks so much for the response and info. Really appreciate it.

I'd watch LaChanze sing the dictionary and will get a ticket just for her... .

Totally agree. So anxious to see this show.

I was looking through rent.men and a guy, I dont remember who, but he had a review here in about the last week, said he was "euro cut" Anyone know what that is?

According to one website I found:

Here's a link with illustrations.

https://www.circumcision-london.co.uk/circumcision-styles/

Just got tickets for this world-premier musical at the La Jolla Playhouse. Looks like it's going to be fantastic. Has anyone else seen it or heard how it is? Looks like a very strong cast.

http://www.lajollaplayhouse.org/donna-summer

I hired a very hot guy and when he showed up at the hotel he told me he was HIV+. I didn't send him away and went on with the session because I always play safe. Would I hire him again?? In a microsecond.