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In NYC:
-WALK!
Walk in the beautiful park along the Hudson between Chambers Street and the Battery Explore Central Park: It's HUGE. Look at a map before hand and maybe see: The Mall and Bethesda Fountain, The Belvedere, The Conservatory Water, The Zoo, ...and The Rambles* . Along the Highline Take the aerial tram to Roosevelt Island and walk at least to the Roosevelt Memorial at the tip, if not the entire perimeter. Wander through the West Village, staying off the Avenues (which are loud and very commercial) favoring the tree-lined side streets. Sit at outside at a cafe  or restaurant and watch the crowd  -Take at Tour of the United Nations
-Go to the Metropolitan and see at least the Temple of Dendur, the Chinese courtyard, The American Court, The Medieval Court, The Greek and Roman atrium, . It's also huge: just wander. Stop at the Petrie Court Cafe for a coffee: It's nothing special except you can see Cleopatra's Needle in Central Park through the windows.
-Take the [free!]Staten Island Ferry round trip  just for the lark of being out in the upper harbor. . Be sure to time it so your ferry is on the water EXACTLY at sunset or a few minutes before.
 
Give him several hours on his own mid visit to decompress and have some private time (if he wants)!
 
 
*The Rambles is also a fabled after-dark gay cruising area, which at that hour is not terribly safe at all, or really that good a cruising spot anyway.

I've just discovered a few that I didn't know even existed: Ty Fox and Steve Fox.
They actually appear together in the last scene of a movie called "Fox's Lair", and I highly recommend it:
One thing I love is the aesthetic that is hard to find today - huge, muscular hunks, tan, smooth and no tattoos:
Some studios from this time period include Bijou, Vivid Man, Studio 2000, and Catalina.

I discovered Chad Douglas on X. I can't say much about him because I only recently learned about him. Beautiful, hairy, hung, with hot masculine daddy energy. 

Tyler Saint is very brave to share this and bring awareness to the disease and how it's debilitating but at the same time, requires patience and love and understanding to live with it.
I'm glad he and his husband, Ace, have each other to lift each other up.

As PK mentioned, events have been held, or contemplated, in other locations. To me, one of the things that makes this one, and DC to a lesser extent, work is that it's a location that requires a deliberate decision and a commitment to spend at least a night away from home (longer if more than one of the events is attended). It requires earlier commitment than an event in one's home city, and therefore more thought before deciding to cancel.
To me, the weekend is an event, and it's in a city that provides near certainty of weather and won't overwhelm the event with other attractions or commitments for those few days. So yes, an event in the LA basin would be possible, but it I doubt it could be a substitute for the Palm Springs event.

The biggest recurring successful meeting like this has been the annual Palm Springs Gathering hosted every April by our own @Oliver, although 2025 gathering may have been the last one hosted by Oliver (we are all forever grateful for the effort Oliver has put in every year to make this happen).
Following the success of this gathering, the organizer may ask the Moderator to pin the NYC gathering announcement to the top of the Lounge when it is first announced.  Interested attendees would be directed to contact the organizer and provide an email for communication regarding the venue.  If given several months notice, many out of town clients and providers may be interested. 
The annual Palm Springs Gathering seems to have had about 50 men in attendance, with a 60/40 split of clients/providers.
The NYC gathering could be Townhouse Bar one night, then dinner on the following night, as a suggestion.  Something substantial enough to make it worthwhile to block it the dates and be sure to attend, but not too elaborate and flexible on the number of people.

Amen
Amen @Oliver…I was just thinking about him the other day when I passed one of our lunch haunts near his condo.

It was 23 years ago this month that I had my first experience of sex-any type of sex as I was a total virgin at the age of 41. I was also taught how to Fr. kiss at the same time. 
 
It was with porn star Dallas Taylor. He lived in Dallas but was visiting the Cincinnati area where I was living at the time. I was familiar with him because I had been looking at Rentboy and Hooboy's sites for years. He even had a website as I recall. 
 
I will be eternally grateful to him for being so nice. I wonder what he's doing now, or even if he's still alive. If he is still alive, I hope he's doing well. 

 


 
 

3.  Not surprising but the questions were to definitive.  I would rather have sex with a hot man than a hot woman but I would rather have sex with a hot woman than with a below averagely attractive man.  Given equal attractiveness, i would like pick the man but there are circumstances where I would select the woman.  So as a result the 3 is probably the right score but certainly not definitive.  Some of my fantasies for example involve a man and a woman and my being an observer.  I never have fantasies about being with two women, but I do have fantasies being with two men.  My fluidity in these situations, are the reason, I do not label myself. I consider myself a man who has sex with men and women.  

Update on Dann: he’s now filming adult content. It’s pretty hot! Too racy to post the photos and vids directly here but check him out. His twitter (now ‘X’ 🙄) is: @ReeceScottx
I’m not ready to dive into online content but I’ve considered it for quite a while. Maybe someday I will do adult content and collab with him. I’m sure we would make a great combo. Stay tuned.

Here is a copy of my rimmer’s pocket guide, this time formatted in black and bold for easier reading. Dark mode is so much easier on your eyes, guys. Anyway, for those who insist on living way back in the light ages...
Rimming 101
1.  Cleanliness. Be sure the rimmee is clean and prepared so there’s no anxiety about it. If either of you prefer natural, musky, sweaty, or not cleaned out at all, have good communication beforehand to get on the same page.
2. Foreplay. Get warmed up and build up some anticipation. Do not rush. Kiss, touch, oral (cocks), nipples, stimulate erogenous zones, neck, ears, pits, whatever gets both of you going.
3. Control. The rimmer should initiate rimming. Move your partner’s body, even throw him around a bit if you like. Indicate with your body language that his hole is yours and you’re taking it. Assuming you’ve both worked out some mutual consent beforehand.
4. Position. Some enjoy doggie style or 69 style rimming. These are fine to mix it up, but they offer less access and a suboptimal angle. You’re fighting to get in there to the best places. The first and primary position I recommend is with the rimmee on their back, at the edge of a bed or comfortable horizontal surface. A sling works well too. The important thing is both of you are comfortable, and the rimmer’s body is lower than the rimmee’s. Don’t strain your neck getting low. Raise your partner to a comfortable level and consider bolstering their pelvis with a pillow. You’re going to be in this position for a while and you don’t want to be preoccupied with fucking up your neck. You might also consider a knee pillow or something to cushion your knees.
5. Do not neglect his balls. Start with the taint and scrotum, and return to them periodically. Take advantage of how sensitive his scrotum is right off the bat and apply light pressure with your tongue, almost like running your fingertips over his body. This will drive him crazy. Run your tongue all the way up to the side of his cock and around each side of his scrotum. Then run down the taint and back up the middle of the scrotum. At points, return to this technique throughout the rimming session. It feels better and better the more turned on he gets. Vary the pressure at times, using your whole tongue with heavier pressure, and then medium, then light. Vary with using just the tip of your tongue.
6. Avoid over stimulating the opening or going inside too deep or too often. A lot of men just shove their tongue directly into the opening and try to worm their way inside. Do NOT do this. Rimming is a dance, a tease, and an extended buildup of pleasure. It’s all about anticipation, not arrival. By all means you can do the worm move, but use it sparingly, as a surprise, an accent, a flourish, not the main thing. It quickly gets repetitive and boring on its own, and you tend to overstimulate that way.
7. Magic button. This is the secret to mindblowing rimming sessions. For spatial reference, he’s lying on his back now, and you’re kneeling in front of him. Men have a very sensitive point above their opening, at the base of their taint. It’s not a button, more of a divet, a slight depression. Magic button is sexier than saying divet. Call it what you will. You can find it by running your tongue above their opening and finding some muscles running just to either side of it in a downward V shape. For those of you familiar with finding a clitoris, it’s not that far removed of a process, except there’s nothing sticking out to draw out. You have to find it buried within the tissue, almost like giving a deep tissue massage. (Damn, I’m good at my job!) The button is at the top of that V point, close to the outer edge of sensitive skin surrounding the hole, but still within it. It’s not inside the opening. Go above the opening. It takes a lot of practice finding the button. Don’t be discouraged. Practice, practice, practice.
8. Once you’ve found the magic button, press with the tip of your tongue into it. Vary your pressure from heavy to light. Maintain firm pressure, then release, then barely touch it. Switch up your stimulation techniques. Tickle it, tease it. Try everything you can to stimulate in just a little different way, and keep changing it. Vary your patterns and switch it up. The button is a powerful sensation point, but just like the glans penis, it’s not everything. Come back to it regularly but please keep a balance of stimulating ALL the areas around his hole. Do not overstimulate any one spot. That is KEY to your success.
9. Use your breath. Suck in air slowly, and then rapidly. Concentrate it in a small opening in your lips, or over your whole open mouth, and everything in between. When you suck in air, it cools the surface of his skin. It’s quite stimulating, especially when combined with other techniques at the same time or one right after the other. Similarly, slowly exhaling warm air will stimulate him in a little different way. The contrast between warm and cool is mesmerizing. Controlled breathing can even be part of your tantric practice if you want to incorporate it with your rimming skills. You can almost go into a trance.
10. Use your hair. If you have a beard, use it to your advantage. Push your chin up into the bowl of his hole and run it up and over across the taint and onto his balls. Use this technique periodically and return to it here and there. If your facial hair is particularly coarse, soften it with beard oil and conditioning products. Nobody wants steel wool on their asshole. If you have stubble, be VERY careful. It’s a hazard with rimming because you can get carried away in the moment and scratch him inadvertently. It really hurts. Stubble can be nice when used in a controlled way, but generally does not feel good on sensitive skin, especially for extended periods. If your chin is smooth or freshly shaven, use it similarly as mentioned above. It’s a different sensation but equally good to provide some variety. If you have long hair on your head, incorporate that stimulation into your routine. 
11. Use your nose. Yup, that’s right. Don’t laugh, it’s seriously a great technique. Run your nose up and down, all over. Do the same breath techniques already mentioned, but through your nostrils. Press your nose directly into his opening. You don’t need to fuck him this way, just use pressure. It’s kind of like frottage in that way. Use your nose as a way to provide more and varied pressure everywhere, including the taint. Come back to using your nose here and there, but not for a long time at a stretch. As with any of these tips, do a little bit of everything. See what drives him crazy, see what sticks. Then withhold it from him and surprise him with it later…so much so that he squeals and begs!
12. Use your tongue. Obviously. What is not so obvious is to maintain variety. Use your whole broad tongue up from the ass crack all the way over his hole, up over his taint, past his balls, and lick his cock. Then try medium pressure, or less tongue contact, or just the tip, or light contact. Try slow, like VERY slow. That drives him nuts. Occasionally go faster, but not for the majority or for a long stretch. Too many men try to go too fast for too long. It’s too fucking much! Just calm down and take your time. It’s not a race. Please avoid: tickling and swaying with the tip of your tongue the way Eastern European porn actors kiss. It’s annoying. Be more intentional. Get more creative.
13. Involve his cheeks. Lightly bite or lick his ass cheeks. Use your hands. Rub your beard or chin against them. The hole is not everything. Cheek play provides more variety and more stimulation.
14. Hold his legs. Check in regularly. Sometimes he needs a break for his legs. Rimming can’t go forever otherwise he’s too raw. Find the right limit for you both, and don’t be afraid to move on to something else and come back to rimming later. Often rimming is foreplay leading to penetration, but it’s a worthwhile activity on it’s own.
15. Spread his cheeks. But not the whole time. Use this technique as another form of variety. The sensation is slightly different when you do this. Even better with the contrast of not doing it and then returning to it later.
16. Vary your motions. Try spelling something with letters across his hole, or whatever it takes to get you to avoid making the same dull motions over and over. Avoid too much monotony. Every 30 seconds change at least one item from the above list, by adding, changing, or taking away. Variety is paramount to your success.
17. Stimulate his cock. Rimming is about his hole, not his cock. However, feel free to add a little cock stimulation, a little lick, a little stroke, a little brush. This can be pretty sexy and gives more variety. If he’s hard, you might consider stroking him. If he’s soft, don’t worry, it’s completely normal and more typical for him to be flaccid. He can still be extremely turned on in this state, so do not take that as an indication of your success. His breathing, moaning, arching, verbal affirmations, and so on also tell you you’re both on your way to bliss.
18. Ditch the underwear. It’s sexy beforehand, but you need full access. Not just jockstrap level openness. You need the whole damn buffet on display to work your magic. Use all the tools in your box and use the whole box laid out in front of you, not just one corner. And if the box is only half open, rip off whatever is in your way and proceed with passion.
19. Most importantly, love what you do. If you’re not into it, it shows. [good] Rimming is not for everyone, certainly not the faint of heart. If you’re not into it, please save your partner the annoyance of performing a half-assed rim job, pun intended.
20. When he begs you to fuck him, you know you’re doing something right.
21. Advanced technique ***approach with extreme caution***: Biting the magic button. If and only if, and when you master the magic button, experiment with biting it. By that, I mean in a very controlled way. Softly. Think of the way you might nibble on someone’s earlobe, or maybe their nipples, but not hard like some guys enjoy their nipples tortured. Please do not attempt without consent, or without mastering the magic button. If you are not sure you have, you most definitely have not mastered the magic button. It takes a long time and lots of practice to even find it, much less master it. If you manage to do all of that, then consider experimenting with some light, controlled biting. It places pressure in a concentrated point where extreme pleasure is centered. Do not do this for an extended time. Only a little nip for a few seconds here and there. That’s all you need. It’s the cherry on top, not a scoop below.

Dear comrades,
I am the OP, but I have changed my username from lostlonelysoul.  Details below.
Thanks for all your recommendations.  I eventually booked a 2-hour session with @Simon Suraci.  I have been eyeing for him on both RM platforms for weeks even before I made my post.  But his home base (SD) is way too far from me.  So I gave up until I saw his travel location coincided with my business trip.  It was meant to be.
Let me start by saying that his ad/profile pics definitely do not do him justice.  He is 100X hotter in person.  You need to see him for yourself.  Per your suggestions, I originally made a massage appointment, but as soon as I told him what I truly desired, he did not hesitate to switch gear and led me to the bedroom.
Needless to say, I was consumed by stress and anxiety initially.  He had a magical way to put me at ease.  Aside from being handsome & sexy as hell, he’s intelligent, funny, and kind.  Before I knew it, I had my first kiss, my first embrace with a man, my first time touching another man’s naked body all over, and…… I’ll let your imagination run wild to fill in the blanks (many, many, many other blanks indeed).
I was (and kind of still is) in a euphoric state for days afterwards.  Luckily, I have no important deadlines or projects on hand; otherwise, I’ll be doomed, for that session was the only thing I could think of ever since.
@Simon Suraci exceeded every expectation I have for my first rendezvous and I am so glad I made the right choice for my many, many firsts.  I bet he will forget about me very soon, but I am 100% certain I will remember him for the rest of my life.  Frankly, that was one of the most memorable experiences I have ever had.  I'll surely pay close attention to his traveling schedule from now on.
Thank you all once again.
No longer lost; No longer lonely (even though still alone); My soul has been salvaged; The gate of heaven has been unlocked; Let the wild ride begin + continue

As I read this thread, I immediately thought of @Simon Suraci as the perfect “first” in this case. 

Speaking from experience here. I am a provider. From time to time, virgins hire me for their first time and they absolutely loved it. Younger and older alike.
Last week, in fact, a 40+ yo virgin hired me for what some others here have suggested: a slow, go-at-your-own-pace approach with an emphasis on intimacy, trust, and feeling completely comfortable. Hiring a provider gives you the space and safety you need to explore your interests without judgment and take things at your own pace. It’s empowering. It helps build your confidence.
My client wants to have sex soon, but on his own terms. He hired me outcall for an hour of naked cuddling and chatting, which turned into two. Amazing how time flies with these things. He commented how amazing it felt to be naked, entangled with another man, without any pressure, expectations, or agenda. I gave him his first kiss, and it was magical. Then I gave him an hour of massage on my table. He was really happy. This was his birthday gift to himself.
I am a masseur and an escort. I happen to fit into the slim overlap of men who excel at both. Most of the time you have to choose between the two. Both options can be good. Fortunately for him, he likes both and gets both with me. The most important thing is hiring the RIGHT provider for you. That applies to any client, but especially for an inexperienced one.
For others reading, I personally recommend hiring an escort. Masseurs can be all over the map in what they offer and how they deliver service. Communicate clearly upfront with your provider about your situation and what you hope to get out of the experience. Be specific wherever possible. Seek out providers with experience specifically with virgins, who understand your needs and respect your boundaries. You need someone who really cares. Also, don’t rush. Consider hiring him to cuddle, kiss, or go on a date together. Take as many appointments as you need to feel comfortable. Consider longer appointments.
Some of us (myself included) offer companionship at a lower rate than typical sex work hourly rates. That may be best for some of the clients needing to start slow. You don’t have to “get it over with” in an hour. Your first time is special. You will remember it vividly for the rest of your life, and it will shape how you view sex and intimacy going forward. That’s a really special moment. Savor it. Don’t rush. Get the RIGHT guy. Only when you feel ready, that’s when you get to have sex for the first time. On your own terms, and for your own pleasure.
Then you get to take your new level of confidence and perspective and apply it to the “real” world of dating, friends, hookups, bars, or wherever you go. The value of that service extends well beyond however many sessions you hire. It follows you and benefits you as you navigate through the world. You can’t buy confidence, experience, or patience, but man does an escort smooth over a path for you to take hold of all the things in life you really want.

I didn't have sex until I was 32, and it was many more years until I tried anal. My vote is, go for the whole shebang of what you want.  Hiring is the easiest way to get the sex you want, and if you pick the right provider, you have someone on your side. 
How long depends on you. Are you going to have buyers remorse the moment you cum? Or, do you want some cuddle and connecting time? Personally,  I don't like to be rushed; I enjoy savoring my time with a guy. If there is a connection,  I never get bored cuddling and making out. 
I can't do incalls, so I can't speak to that.  I would say, when you meet, let them know it's your first time.  It shouldn't matter when setting up your appointment. 

Dear All -
My family gave me an artful and delightful birthday weekend.😄🎂
Then I come here, and my other "family" gives me marvelous well-wishes.  I am truly blessed.😊
Thank you, thank you, thank you!!!😄

I can see X pic's on rent.men but not rentmen.eu.  Each platform is different in which photo's are available to basic memberships.  Hope this helps @Simon Suraci

Happy Birthday!  Have a great day celebrating!

Happy Birthday!  Have a great day celebrating!

There was some equivocation in this thread, and more widely, about how to consider the event that prompted this thread. On a day when another event has prompted almost universal condemnation and overwhelming sadness, even in social media (there are always outliers), it is well to consider humanity not what people said or stood for. This comment that I saw puts it eloquently. It applies as much to this thread as it does to politics.
We should condemn political violence, even against people we find abominable, unless we are prepared to trust the judgement of every violent individual as to who the villains are.
We can believe this and express sympathy for the victim's families without retroactively lionizing their politics. 
If we say we can accept what happens to someone based on not what they did but on what they said or represent, we are accepting that we should be happy if the same thing happens to us based on what some random individual thinks of us.

I just saw ClassicColt and I'm glad I did!  He's exactly as pictured, easy to communicate with, sexy, feels great everywhere, and very very accommodating.  I brought up some fetishes in our meeting arrangements and he was happy to assist.

most of you know by now that RadioRob evidently spent many hours earlier this week moving the forum to a new server, a surprise he didn't know was coming.....unlike our previous moderator, "Daddy", RadioRob does not ask for donations......if you like the forum and get something or other out of it at times, you may feel like a donation of some amount is appropriate......there is no advertising here and the moderators do not get paid......
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Electricity, cable, internet - these are a few of the modern things we take for granted in this world as it has become. And these are things we miss the most when they go away and that we fail too often to remember how complex is their operation and maintenance and the armies of dedicated linemen, technicians, engineers and others who make them work, day after day, and who bring them back to us when they occasionally falter.
Now add to the list - The Company of Men.
And we have Radio Bob! A man who does all of this to keep this site going as a kind of sideline to his day job, and whom I also think does so as a labor of love.
And so, now add Radio Bob to that list of heroes who make our world make sense and who restore to us those modern marvels we daily depend on and take for granted until their absence makes us notice.
Thank you, Radio Bob, for your service and dedication to this community. You are a gift to all of us!

Trick is Marked Safe from the site being down for days.