StarQualityLuke

Good morning. It would appear that my take on it is very different. I’ve always assumed that I was being asked for a pic so the provider would know for whom he was opening his door or whom he could expect when the door was opened when he arrives for the session. I’m sure there are providers who’ve chosen not to work with me upon seeing my photo or reading my profile. And, for me, that’s all right. I do not wish to work with someone who doesn’t wish to work with me. Apologies if I do not have a firm grasp on the topic being discussed. 

I would be very cautious about trusting the reviews on CompanyofMen.org. Many of the user reviews appear to be inaccurate, slanderous, and not even based on real massage experiences. Instead of genuine feedback from actual clients, a number of posts read more like personal attacks or attempts to smear masseurs who otherwise have strong reputations.
It often feels as though some users are simply angry individuals with nothing better to do than post fictitious comments that stain and damage the reputation of professionals. When reviews focus on accusations or personal opinions rather than the quality of the massage service itself, it raises serious questions about the credibility of the platform.
Take what you read there with a grain of salt. The lack of verification makes it very easy for anyone to post misleading or defamatory statements that can unfairly harm someone’s livelihood. I would not rely on these reviews as a trustworthy source when deciding who to book with.

This is a very interesting question. I've come to believe that it's probably better for everyone to give a little bit more information. But I don't think that anyone is really willing to do that. I understand the lack of trust, but it would be so much easier if we could just verify each other.

I think the answer is always variable.  Individuals by nature are all different - on this massage board we have individuals that are extroverted and others are introverted.  When meeting with a client/provider, the best advice is two things - be yourself and do not create a false persona that you will need to support in future meetings.    If you are naturally quiet, don't force yourself into talking and sharing information.  If you are naturally a sharing person, be yourself, (but trust your "spidey-senses" and limit your sharing if something doesn't seem to be on the up and up.)
If you are asked something you are not comfortable answering, just say so.   
 

I would say you can put out there what you like and what you feel comfortable with, no more than that.... Some of my clients are very personable and tell me everything, and some of my clients are very private and tell me nothing.   I tend to keep things private, and there's nothing wrong with that 🙃
 
My regular clients are like friends to me, and that's always a nice thing 😁

I agree! I had to cancel an appointment with a model-grade provider who was willing to drive from WeHo to South OC, but his schedule made the hour he’d arrive far too late for me, like 130 am. I had a big presentation at 9 the next morning so I had to cancel. He was somewhat desperate and he really tried to accommodate me. The next afternoon I deposited his two hour fee at a Chase bank, using his checking account number, which he provided. He was was elated and somewhat shocked that I would do this. It was the right thing to do. I wish I could remember his name!

I would say you can put out there what you like and what you feel comfortable with, no more than that.... Some of my clients are very personable and tell me everything, and some of my clients are very private and tell me nothing.   I tend to keep things private, and there's nothing wrong with that 🙃
 
My regular clients are like friends to me, and that's always a nice thing 😁

I would say you can put out there what you like and what you feel comfortable with, no more than that.... Some of my clients are very personable and tell me everything, and some of my clients are very private and tell me nothing.   I tend to keep things private, and there's nothing wrong with that 🙃
 
My regular clients are like friends to me, and that's always a nice thing 😁

I would say you can put out there what you like and what you feel comfortable with, no more than that.... Some of my clients are very personable and tell me everything, and some of my clients are very private and tell me nothing.   I tend to keep things private, and there's nothing wrong with that 🙃
 
My regular clients are like friends to me, and that's always a nice thing 😁

I would say you can put out there what you like and what you feel comfortable with, no more than that.... Some of my clients are very personable and tell me everything, and some of my clients are very private and tell me nothing.   I tend to keep things private, and there's nothing wrong with that 🙃
 
My regular clients are like friends to me, and that's always a nice thing 😁

I would say you can put out there what you like and what you feel comfortable with, no more than that.... Some of my clients are very personable and tell me everything, and some of my clients are very private and tell me nothing.   I tend to keep things private, and there's nothing wrong with that 🙃
 
My regular clients are like friends to me, and that's always a nice thing 😁

I would say you can put out there what you like and what you feel comfortable with, no more than that.... Some of my clients are very personable and tell me everything, and some of my clients are very private and tell me nothing.   I tend to keep things private, and there's nothing wrong with that 🙃
 
My regular clients are like friends to me, and that's always a nice thing 😁

Thank you.. 
However, don't let these other guys ruin it for you, because there are good ones out there, like me, that care.  You just never know what's going on in someone's life, they could have had some emergency or something you just don't know ....things do happen in life. 
But I also know in this business, there's a lot of fakes and flakes. 
 
When I have to cancel or reschedule, I have to have an absolutely good reason that's just my policy for myself.  😁
Even when someone inquires, if I'm not available, the first thing I ask if you have any other availability.
 
Dont give up! 

I would say you can put out there what you like and what you feel comfortable with, no more than that.... Some of my clients are very personable and tell me everything, and some of my clients are very private and tell me nothing.   I tend to keep things private, and there's nothing wrong with that 🙃
 
My regular clients are like friends to me, and that's always a nice thing 😁

I would say you can put out there what you like and what you feel comfortable with, no more than that.... Some of my clients are very personable and tell me everything, and some of my clients are very private and tell me nothing.   I tend to keep things private, and there's nothing wrong with that 🙃
 
My regular clients are like friends to me, and that's always a nice thing 😁

I would say you can put out there what you like and what you feel comfortable with, no more than that.... Some of my clients are very personable and tell me everything, and some of my clients are very private and tell me nothing.   I tend to keep things private, and there's nothing wrong with that 🙃
 
My regular clients are like friends to me, and that's always a nice thing 😁

His reaction is purely irrational, to say the very least.  If any of his assumptions/accusations were true, you wouldn't have offered to re-schedule; you would've simply blocked/ghosted him for good.  You did absolutely nothing wrong and you shouldn't waste your time and energy on contemplating his personal insecurities.
BTW, I took a look at your RM profile...... and OMFG...... I was stunned by your pics.  It's too bad that you're nowhere near my area.  Otherwise, I would've contacted you immediately...... 🤭

Yeah, my intention was definitely not to cancel, but the congestion that I was dealing with this cold, had other plans.  So as I stated, I reached out to the client and he threw a fit... 
It's one of those times where you say "damned if I do damned if I don't. " 😮
 
 

Well of course, I did do that, but I told him in a very professional way.  If you're sick to the point where it's not good, then you should not be working, but unfortunately, in today's society, everyone goes to work when they're sick and passes it along to anyone and everyone. 

I just clearly do not understand why he went off on me other than the fact that other guys have done this to him and maybe the other guys weren't honest.   I read all about how people have been scammed, and I don't understand why people are in business, sometimes they don't show up for an appointment, I'm talking about the therapist or sometimes they're not where they're supposed to be, how are they supposed to make a financial living? 
 
So unfortunately, I get the brunt of everyone's past, the mistakes that happened to them, so they think I'm gonna be just like the others. But I'm not. 

You did the right thing.  The guy who accused you of being flakey was expressing his insecurity (if only he knew how loudly) and should have been more gracious. 

I applaud you being concerned about your clients and believe you did the right thing. Interestingly, I was going to post my experiences this past week. Three separate occasions, one I scheduled a provider well in advance for me to come to him. Confirmed the day before and on the day of the appointment, he cancelled 4 hours before the appointment stating he could not host. The second, several texts with a provider, all was going well, he asked when do you want to scheduled, I responded in two weeks, he stopped responding. The third, a masseur, I texted with a generic question asking how much time he needed prior to booking, he never responded. All three of these providers were highly rated/recommended. From the client's perspective it is frustrating and my mind went to what is wrong with me? I won't bad mouth a provider that cancels and would appreciate your approach to reschedule. My experience, this week, scheduling or trying to has led me to rethink my desire to seek another provider. Again, your concern and protection of others is commendable. 

Well, you did do the right thing, there are times were clients cancelled and they don't pay anything, and I don't expect them to, I guess the real serious ones will.  I hope you're feeling better 😁

Thank you, I am in total agreement with you... 
I'm sure as heck not looking for pity, I'm just looking for confirmation that I did do the right thing, I'm sure someone would say you should have just went through with the appointment and got him sick. That's not the key here. 🙃

I agree.. And this client has showed me who he was because last time I had to cancel on him again because I had a bad cold and I normally don't get sick, but this winter has been not fun.   He did the same routine.  2 weeks later, he comes back when he's schedule again..  As I said, I'm genuine and real, I don't care what you look like, I don't care how much you weigh, I'm here to do the work and help relax you, your mind and your body. 
 
Thank you for your input and I'm sorry that you had the experience as well. 
 
Unfortunately, it's a lot of other gentlemen, guys before us have created such a negative experience for them in their eyes and in their minds, and they hold onto that, and one little small red flag like a cancellation or reschedule they go off, they think it's happening all over again.   And.... Even when you try to explain, it's like that they don't want to hear it.  At that point, there's nothing more you can do 🙃