boredboy96

I hired very attractive and fit escort last night. We had such a great time. He's young, hot, smart, funny, and a great listener.
I am involved in a legal issues and was looking at law firm websites this morning. His picture came up as a lawyer at a firm. I plan on hiring him again and again, but I don't know how it will be with me knowing about his "real life." 
Advice? 

I know. He is not the partner I'm meeting with (he's not a partner), but it is a fairly small firm. I can't cancel when our meeting is at 9 am. I will say I'm just shopping around. 
I am definitely not going to get rid of him, he's almost perfect. 
I am meeting a few other lawyers too. 

My experience with escorts and strippers has been that If I am honest, they still consider me to have been a good customer and treat me well. Hell, some of them even help me with guys I am now interested in, basically giving me a good reference or introducing us.

Me too. But not in this case…
Do you @boredboy96 know the saying “you want to have your cake and eat it too”? There’s no harm in that, of course.
 
My advice is to be polite and truthful, but not brutally honest. I’d say something along the lines of  “I’ve just met a guy. I’m getting close to him and I want to see how it goes. If it doesn’t work out, I’ll be sure to contact you again as we always had such good fun together”

Then say you had some personal things come up and as such you won't financially be able to meet up as often for the foreseeable future. 

This's why I agree with the Keroscene, only maybe a little simpler.  Thanks for the text, I'll contact you when I'm ready to hire.

I don't think you have to say anything. If he's an escort, he probably has other clients that you know nothing about. It's a blurring of the interpersonal lines that YOU feel a loyalty that the escort may not. Scrape away the sexual intimacy, and you're left with a business transaction. It's not rude to see and pay whatever escort you please.

Is he past his shelf life?
All escorts do have a “pull date”, they just don’t know it.

Just tell him your screen name on these forums. He'll understand. ✅

It's great to feel that connection with a guy that leads to recurring meetings but I keep in mind that these are temporary relationships with no strings attached. Avoiding explanations, hard feelings, and awkward conversations is part of the service. I simply replied "I'm not available at this time" when I was in a similar situation.

Yeah, I feel in the case of what the OP mentioned, it’s probably better left unsaid. Sometimes if a person senses they are being rejected, they’re not going to want to give a 2nd chance down the road. Could end up getting blocked. Just keep it simple, “I enjoy your company but having some things   going on right now.” Now, if you can say it tactfully: by all means throw in that you started seeing someone.
There does seem to be a bit of cake eating in this scenario, however I can’t help but quote:
“I figured out a few things about his professional/real life and think it is better to distance myself. I don't want him to know I know his other life. 
I met a younger guy who has an amazing body. He is not an escort, but he really needs money and is willing to do things. I want to help him. He's hotter and younger.”
The first part sounds a bit invasive. Why would someone go snooping 🧐 around for information about someone? Unless it directly pertains to y’all’s Encounter together, I don’t think it matters what his real/professional life entails unless he directly revealed it. 
 
That’s why when some clients get flustered just because I send out a basic questionnaire to include a Name/Age, Basic Stats, Host or Travel, City they’re in: It’s not some ploy to get their life information and track them down. I just want to know who I’m meeting up with. That’s basic business etiquette. Beyond that, I could care less what they do outside. 
 
As for the 2nd part, it doesn’t sound like the “new” guy is much better than the other. Amazing body. Not an escort. Needs money. Wants to help him and he’s younger. Hmm 🤔 what does that sound like? A whole bunch of red flags. Do you ever watch forensic files or dateline? Just be careful. He could just be a younger guy who needs money with a beautiful body. Nothing wrong with that or wishing to help him. But if you have a regular and are giving him the blowoff for this other person, maybe need to assess whether it’s worth it. 

Quite by serendipity, two different Rentmen whom I’ve used before happened to be independently exercising at my gym yesterday while I was there.   Neither said a word or seemed to recognize me. I am just a business transaction, no more or less and that’s fine with me

There are a few things. He is great. A bodybuilder. Smart. But I figured out a few things about his professional/real life and think it is better to distance myself. I don't want him to know I know his other life. 
I met a younger guy who has an amazing body. He is not an escort, but he really needs money and is willing to do things. I want to help him. He's hotter and younger. 

There are a few things. He is great. A bodybuilder. Smart. But I figured out a few things about his professional/real life and think it is better to distance myself. I don't want him to know I know his other life. 
I met a younger guy who has an amazing body. He is not an escort, but he really needs money and is willing to do things. I want to help him. He's hotter and younger. 

Yeah, but I might want to hire him from time to time too. 

Then really what I suggested is exactly what you should say. Sorry, but I cannot hire anyone right now but will you know when I would like to meet again. Then the ball is entirely in your court.

There are a few things. He is great. A bodybuilder. Smart. But I figured out a few things about his professional/real life and think it is better to distance myself. I don't want him to know I know his other life. 
I met a younger guy who has an amazing body. He is not an escort, but he really needs money and is willing to do things. I want to help him. He's hotter and younger. 

There are a few things. He is great. A bodybuilder. Smart. But I figured out a few things about his professional/real life and think it is better to distance myself. I don't want him to know I know his other life. 
I met a younger guy who has an amazing body. He is not an escort, but he really needs money and is willing to do things. I want to help him. He's hotter and younger. 

Yeah, but I might want to hire him from time to time too. 

Life is short…move on. If stuff in his personal life bugs you, it’s the perfect opportunity to close this chapter

***I just told my girlfriend I am breaking up with her...but I asked if I could fuck her once in a while when I'm in the mood. ***
Unlikely scenario too.
 
 

I agree. If you're not honest with him, he will not know and will keep asking to meet. You can be honest and nice about it. That way you can both move on.

I would just say that you're not available right now and you'll get back to him when you're able to meet with him again. 

I’m a fan of honesty. What’s your objection to telling him that he doesn’t do it for you anymore? 

Following up His twitter is still active. Damn he's hot AF 
https://twitter.com/xfactormuscle?lang=en