InCel movement - discussion on last night's Bill Maher show

[KeepItReal]

I found this quite interesting. It was mentioned in a separate post earlier this month. I didn't know it was "a thing".

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DyGOYA-U_uc

 

What are your thoughts?

[samhexum]

DEAR ABBY: I'm almost 20, in my second year of college, and I have never been in a relationship. Usually I shrug it off, but lately it has been really bothering me. I know I'm not alone because a lot of my friends are in a similar situation. I'm just afraid that I'll end up alone, or if I do ever find someone, I won't know how to act. Please help. — FRUSTRATED IN CLOVIS, CALIF.

 

DEAR FRUSTRATED: I'll try, so bear with me. Please quit flogging yourself. Unless you're into that sort of thing; in that case, hire a dominatrix. You're in college and on a path to success. Great, Abby... now if he's flunking out he'll be suicidal! To obsess about ending up alone is a distraction and a waste of time. Just give in and accept it already. Stop being afraid of what "might" happen. Enjoy your college experience. Meet as many people as you can and make friends let them know you'll do anything with/to anyone who so much as smiles at you. The more friends you have, the greater your chances of finding what you're looking for. And possibly something you're not looking for... always wear a condom!

 

As to not knowing how to act when you finally meet someone special, I guarantee that you will know how to act because you WON'T BE ACTING. You will just be yourself, and that will be all you need. Plus a roll of $50s and/or a pocket full of GHB.

[KinkyNEguy]

Dan Savage had a really good take on it......Beyond the punchline and comedy. It made me ever more grateful for who I am . AND because it is de rigueur, I do not condone violence or misogyny to anyone just because an explanation makes sense.

[+ FrankR]

This borders on the ridiculous!

[Walker1]

I think if escorting were made legal, a lot of issues would go away. If you can safely go and experience sex with no repercussions for a decent price, life would be much better. You can marry for money, you can have kids with someone for money/security-why not sex? Jesus hung out with prostitutes, did he not?

[+ quoththeraven]

Before throwing sex workers into the mix, educate yourselves on what incels want. They want redistribution of sex from popular guys who get more than their fair share. Incels feel women owe them sex as a human right. They're more anti-feminist and entitled than anything.

 

They're mad that women get to say no. Their favorite "philosopher" advocates "enforced monogamy" for women (not men, as far as I can tell). Incels think women shouldn't wear makeup because that allows them to attract guys above their league. (The whole league thing is so middle-school.) They feel they should have unlimited access to women who are "slutty" enough to have had ten or more partners. This crowd also doesn't think it should have to pay for sex. (See: sex is a male human right.)

 

To think sex workers are safe with these people is nutty.

[MikeBiDude]

DEAR ABBY: I'm almost 20, in my second year of college, and I have never been in a relationship. Usually I shrug it off, but lately it has been really bothering me. I know I'm not alone because a lot of my friends are in a similar situation. I'm just afraid that I'll end up alone, or if I do ever find someone, I won't know how to act. Please help. — FRUSTRATED IN CLOVIS, CALIF.

 

DEAR FRUSTRATED: I'll try, so bear with me. Please quit flogging yourself. Unless you're into that sort of thing; in that case, hire a dominatrix. You're in college and on a path to success. Great, Abby... now if he's flunking out he'll be suicidal! To obsess about ending up alone is a distraction and a waste of time. Just give in and accept it already. Stop being afraid of what "might" happen. Enjoy your college experience. Meet as many people as you can and make friends let them know you'll do anything with/to anyone who so much as smiles at you. The more friends you have, the greater your chances of finding what you're looking for. And possibly something you're not looking for... always wear a condom!

 

As to not knowing how to act when you finally meet someone special, I guarantee that you will know how to act because you WON'T BE ACTING. You will just be yourself, and that will be all you need. Plus a roll of $50s and/or a pocket full of GHB.

Please keep your silly “Dear Abby” posts to the topic post you already created and no one posts to but you.

[+ sniper]

Maybe these involuntary celibates should be involuntarily castrated.

[+ quoththeraven]

Maybe these involuntary celibates should be involuntarily castrated.

I would rather they learn to be better people.

 

B.F. Skinner showed that positive reinforcement is more powerful and lasting than punishment (aka negative reinforcement), but there's a big audience in the US for punishment. That may help explain why our prisons are full and we have rates of incarceration far in excess of most other countries.