Frequency of CLIENT Interactions and relationships

[+ freecahill1965]

Does your interactions with clients increase generally based on the amount they spend on a regular basis? I am not sure I am wording it right. For example, let's say a client sees you once or twice a month or more and spends 10k a year on you. Do you tend to have more frequent interactions via phone, text or pm with those kind of clients and do you tend to develop "friendly" relationships with those types of clients?

Edited February 17, 2018 by freecahill1965

[big-n-tall]

Not an escort... but I kind of answer your inquiry here: https://www.companyofmen.org/threads/regular-communication.133788/#post-1464206

 

Some of my regulars I consider friends and over time that bond has grown stronger (more random phone talks/text and more off the clock interaction). I have visited or have been invited to homes, met relatives, and have been driven long distances (without having to give gas money). There are a select few who I bonded with almost immediately, but for most, the bond happened over time. Sometimes people just click for whatever reason.

 

I don't think the bonding has necessarily anything to do with how much you spend on them over time. I wouldn't doubt there are escorts that they'll be extra friendly just because of the money, but not every working guy has that mentality. For example, one guy I see refuses to take more than gas money from me even though I practically see him an entire day. Another example, the working guy makes it a priority to see me and hang out every time he's in town, even if we don't do sexy time.

 

As in all things, people act and respond to people differently. Don't try to force a relationship/friendship... if it happens it happens.

[mentalkink]

I have become very good friends with 2 escorts that are no longer in the business, It was more a matter that there was a mutual sexual attraction and the boundaries of relationship were very clear if not spoken. One I was able to convince to get treatment for depression which he said was a life saver for him.

[+ JEC]

I'll start by saying my pattern (so far) has not been to develop long-term frequent relationships...I might if I found the right chemistry. That said, I don't have nor think it a reasonable expectation of regular communication with a provider outside of your business relationship. If the provider (and you) establish and like that communication...it's icing on the cake. Some will seek this communication, others not. Providers are deluged all day (and night probably) with communications probably 90% of which is flakes and people who don't follow-thru. I wouldn't blame them for wanting some "unplugged" time. I know for me, as an Introvert, by the end of the day at work I need to not talk to people for a little while - I need to recharge my batteries.

 

I have a provider I have see only once who sends me a text once a week or so "Hi handsome thinking of you" "remembering our time together" etc. It's a nice touch and coming from this particular provider (HOT AF) it makes my loins squirm a little every time I get such a message. No, I'm not imagining it to be more than it is - it's playful banter, and a smart provider keeping his client engaged and feeling good about their next visit. I did not ask for or seek this "after the deed" communication but enjoy and welcome it; I also probably wouldn't want it to be more than it is. I don't expect it which is why it's a welcome surprise when my WhatsApp says I have a message - and I open the app and it's him.

Edited February 23, 2018 by JEC

[jeremywalker]

As escorts, I don’t think we owe our clients extensive conversation (unless it was otherwise agreed upon). As a human being, you’d be a scumbag to not keep up a good rapport with someone that’s paying you more than what most doctors make. Sure, some clients are easier to get along with than others, and of course the inverse holds true of escorts just as well. With that said, it’s still pretty unlikely that you won’t share some form of common ground to start conversation from. And if there is absolutely nothing to go off of, I’ll let my client tell me something about them that is entirely foreign to me. I like learning new things, which makes the conversation much more organic.

 

I have a simple take on client/escort relationships; my least compatible regular clients are still far more easy to converse with than the average guy I’d walk past at Target. But be careful what you wish for though. Some of my most compatible regulars, well, those unlucky SOB’s are now my best friends.

 

Regarding frequency, I don’t think either side should bombard nor neglect the other. If a couple dozen texts a week with the occasional phone call or two are too much for the escort, it doesn’t sound like there is much chemistry and it may be time to reconsider. However, don’t forget that escorts are busy people. Our lines are loaded with texts and calls from flakes and jerks playing games. Be patient and don’t hesitate to send a reminder text if you’re feeling like they forgot.

[+ Keith30309]

I absolutely have had regular clients that became true friends. And just like with any other friend, I enjoy checking in on them, asking how their day is going, upcoming plans, etc. If I like you as a person, I want to hear more about you!

That sounds like a smart business strategy as well.

[mike carey]

@jeremywalker makes some good points.

 

I would say that clients should let the escorts take the lead, don't push them, they are in business and you shouldn't push them to make their business personal with you. Don't push them for off-the-clock time, don't chat aimlessly with them unless they initiate it. As I think I've mentioned before, I chat with a small number of escorts, text messages, the occasional voice call, but I've let them define the frequency and detail of those interactions.

[jeremywalker]

Actually clients tend to supersede friends when I’m busy. A friend can wait (and they do) but a client may not understand or even believe that you’re busy. That’s why I tend to reply to a client with a bit more urgency than friends or family, at least before you’re truly comfortable with each other.

[Inkdnaija00]

Roccoromo was my favorite and we just got along very much and the sex was great with him