Is the word Alpha losing its meaning?

[LivingnLA]

To me, that's a bad boy who's stuck in adolscence. If you want a night of euphorically wild sex find somebody whose bipolar and off his meds. He'll definitely give you a run for your money.

 

An Alpha would be somebody who feels entitled to and who naturally assumes control.

 

I agree 100% with that last sentence.

 

You are the only one who seemed to get the relevance of how i am using and applying the word everyone is getting into irrelevant pseudo science thats not relevant.

 

I once saw three firefighters enter a supermarket in their uniform shopping for the firehouse and the whole supermarket got silent and u could hear women whispering n watching. I remember when nfl combine was held in ny and all these big hulking guys were outside radio city music hall. Girls who could give a shit about sports were all giggles. Thats the alpha effect i dont need to hear any scientific fluff when life experience tells me what i need to know.

 

Thanks. I try. At the risk of being labeled "irrelevant pseudo science," what you're describing are two experiences where the complex cultural factors of our species layer onto our lovely biological factors. These firemen "in their uniform" present a stereotypically masculine "hero" image that enhances their inherent appeal. If they were also physically attractive (height, deep voices, facial hair) then of course everyone's eyes were on them. The same goes for the "big hulking guys" at the NFL combine.

 

That's what makes the whole argument fascinating. Our species from an evolutionary perspective does not have an "Alpha" as traditionally understood in other species, but we clearly have some cues that culturally read as "confidence" or "naturally assuming control." There are cultural and possibly biological "keys" to "command/leadership" and in Western culture, they overlay with our stereotypical "Alpha."

 

For me, I'm with @Rudynate, an Alpha that catches and holds my attention "feels entitled to...and naturally assumes control."

 

An alpha is also one who doesn't give a crap to stop and reflect on anything, as they are always wanting what's next in life. They also do everything on a whim. I'm such a bleeding heart Beta it's not even funny!

 

The funny thing about our species, depending on contextual cues and the situation, healthy individuals shift between "Alpha" and "Beta" roles and positions with some fluidity.

Edited December 11, 2017 by LivingnLA

[KS87]

To me, that's a bad boy who's stuck in adolscence. If you want a night of euphorically wild sex find somebody whose bipolar and off his meds. He'll definitely give you a run for your money.

 

An Alpha would be somebody who feels entitled to and who naturally assumes control.

 

Hey i agree with your final paragraph. We are in sync on that. An alpha is not showing off he is being himself. He is not being bossy he just likes to lead. He bumps heads cuz he doesnt like to yield.

 

The question of relevance is what is the likelihood of finding an alpha in the usual spots gay men look for men?

[Rudynate]

Hey i agree with your final paragraph. We are in sync on that. An alpha is not showing off he is being himself. He is not being bossy he just likes to lead. He bumps heads cuz he doesnt like to yield.

 

The question of relevance is what is the likelihood of finding an alpha in the usual spots gay men look for men?

 

Im not a specialist in Alphas, but my guess is that you find them where you find them. I don't see any reason why an escort advertising on RM couldn't be an Alpha. I agree with you that somebody who says he's an Alpha probably isnt.

[Nomadic]

If someone needs to tell you they're an Alpha (or a Dom) ... they're probably not.

[+ tristanbaldwin]

To a purist he wouldnt even be un consideration.

I’d worry about how to conjugate verbs and form sentences before you call out who’s an alpha or not. #JustSaying

 

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