Fat Shaming

[Ghadd]

Besides, it's not even new.

 

https://www.gaypopbuzz.com/i-was-fat-shamed-by-a-gay-man-at-my-gym/

[+ José Soplanucas]

It is hard to believe that anyone could take this seriously.

[Walker1]

Besides, it's not even new.

 

https://www.gaypopbuzz.com/i-was-fat-shamed-by-a-gay-man-at-my-gym/

 

Interesting. Not sure if it is true or not, but the guys email was not that rude. It looks like this normal/fat guy was bothering other dudes and not just hot guy. People go to the gym to exercise, I would not be comfortable with strangers chatting me up in the locker room and I am not some hottie. I confess I have seen some really hot nude guys, but at least try and pretend I am not looking:)

[+ purplekow]

It is hard to believe that anyone could take this seriously.

The video may not relate an actual occurance, but that really isn't the point is it. A hypothetical situation and most side with the handsome stud and tell the fat guy to know his place. That is real. That is the point. The reactions are real even if the scenario is not.

[hornytwells]

The video may not relate an actual occurance, but that really isn't the point is it. A hypothetical situation and most side with the handsome stud and tell the fat guy to know his place. That is real. That is the point. The reactions are real even if the scenario is not.

I don't really agree with you on this one-as far as I can see the whole thing is beyond manipulative-I don't believe for a second that this scenario/occurrence would ever play out exactly like this in real life.

[+ purplekow]

I don't really agree with you on this one-as far as I can see the whole thing is beyond manipulative-I don't believe for a second that this scenario/occurrence would ever play out exactly like this in real life.

And how fat are you? And once again, the scenario is not the issue, the responses are.

[hornytwells]

And how fat are you?

I am neither fat nor skinny, which I dont think is the point at all-why do you ask? The hot guy is obviously a narcissistic asshole-but you could argue that the average body guy might have guessed that someone who spends that amount of time working on their body might be more concerned with body image than social discourse. However since the whole thing is so obviously phoney, I don't see how it illustrates anything with any credibility?

 

and as far as the responses being the issue go, I would agree with you, except I feel the disdainful responses have been more of a reaction against a totally fabricated scenario. People do not like to be taken for fools

[Bearofdistinction]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=08Feq9i3Fzg

 

Some people can be so cruel!

 

Yeah - Mr Muscle could have responded in many different ways including ---

 

"Hey Dude -- Great to Have a Baseball Bud -- But right now not looking for anything more than friends! If you are okay with that -- Looking forward to seeing the game!

Take Care"

 

Now how difficult was that? Real - Honest - True - BUT NON-JUDGEMENTAL!

 

Mr. Muscle is hereby sentenced to be kept naked and used as a naked urinal at a chubs weekend beer

blast!

[Bearofdistinction]

And how fat are you? And once again, the scenario is not the issue, the responses are.[/QUO

On the other hand he could have hired a beautiful escort who would not have judged him.

 

Or at least the escort would not have said anything to you other than Thank You!

[hornytwells]

Yeah - Mr Muscle could have responded in many different ways including ---

 

"Hey Dude -- Great to Have a Baseball Bud -- But right now not looking for anything more than friends! If you are okay with that -- Looking forward to seeing the game!

Take Care"

 

Now how difficult was that? Real - Honest - True - BUT NON-JUDGEMENTAL!

 

Mr. Muscle is hereby sentenced to be kept naked and used as a naked urinal at a chubs weekend beer

blast!

yes he could...if this was REAL!? I mean the whole thing is so fake-if the muscle dude was so disdainful of the heavier guy, why would he have hung out and chatted with him at the gym of all places, but not be seen at a baseball game......?

[Bearofdistinction]

The initial title of the short film catches your horror, but then after the first 30 seconds of the film, you learn that this “gay muscle jock” didn’t just mosey up to the other guy using a machine at the gym and unload on him - he was being hit on. I think broadly speaking you probably should adhere to the practice of staying in your lane (unless you’re going to offer him cash of course ). Or just wait 6 or 8 months until your gym transformation is complete, then have a crack at him.

 

Well Bubba at 50 and the Size of a Waterbuffalo with great hair/eyes/smile/humor/intellect/and furry chest -- I did not think that the 22yo Tall Dark Handsome Hung Furry 6ft - 160lb Grad Student would ever want me --

 

But surprise --- Surprise -- He chased me online for 6 months - until I finally agreed to meet him in public - And he was real - He was sweet - He was HOT - He Was Intelligent -- He NEEDED a Daddy Desperately and was Afraid that I would not like him!

 

We are still friends 5-6 years later and play occasionally - But seems like I am not Old Enough or for him.

 

From that first day with him -- I knew "My Lane" was as varied as I wanted it to be an would approach whomever I was attracted to regardless and I approach them very politely and engage in conversations

 

- sometimes I get a rude "OH PLEASE" - Well Pissy Queen your zits are getting bigger!

- sometimes they become Bar Friends and we have fun and laugh and meet each others friends

- sometimes they are shy (Because just like there is a stigma being a Chub - There is an co-equal stigma being a Chublover/Chaser) and they want to meet outside the bar at first

-Sometimes there is pleasant conversation but no connection

-And Sometimes there is a great connection on both sides and let the good times roll!

[Bearofdistinction]

yes he could...if this was REAL!? I mean the whole thing is so fake-if the muscle dude was so disdainful of the heavier guy, why would he have hung out and chatted with him at the gym of all places, but not be seen at a baseball game......?

 

Well the Muscle Dude could have just as easily picked up a 20 lb dumbbell and beaten that Fat Fag to death --- Because what other choice did he have . . . AKA The Frightened of the Fat Fag Defense . . .

 

Oh yeah lawyers tried that with cases like Matthew Sheppard -- Except his was the Pocket Gay Defense. Sheppard was so petite that conceivably he could have scratched his attackers shoes by falling on them

[OCClient]

A young Jack Black invites me to a Cubs World Series game? Fuck yeah!. I love Jack Black. Funny. Cute. And Wrigley Field? Hellz yeah! The offer wasn't "lets catch the Cubs and then go to bed after". So why not? Because the muscle guy already sounds like a bore. Besides, why not be honest and say "no, but thanks for the offer", face to face, instead of pulling what he did. Maybe that is too hard for muscle guy, but that's another reason to forget him. High maintenance.

 

The plump guy has guts for asking. Big kudos to him for doing it. But the idea that he cooked up this big dramatic video about it does not fit with someone that is outgoing and a risk taker. So I kinda wonder if the video is telling the whole story.

 

Still, it is food for thought.

 

http://img.wennermedia.com/480-width/rs-198134-R1237_TV_Preview_Black_B.jpg

[P Gren]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=08Feq9i3Fzg

 

Some people can be so cruel!

Sounds like they both dodged a bullet in that unpleasant situation

[jvanchicago]

For those saying that this doesn't sound real, I can say that things of this nature do happen all the time.

 

When I first moved to the city, a naive overweight boy from a small town out of state, I got all my courage together and decided to see what the Chicago gay life held. And being new to the city and the scene, the first place I go was a backroom situation-a bathhouse without the towels, nudity, and glamour. Just a back room with glory holes and video booths. I walked around in awe that places like this existed (this was nearly 15 years ago, and my small town had NOTHING like this). So I walked around, checking out this scene so new to me. I walked by one room with the door open. I looked into the room (not gawking at the doorway-literally walking by and peaked in) to see this beautiful guy sitting on the bench. He looked up as I walked by, and we made eye contact. I smiled- this new experience of "cruising" just got more interesting. And he opened his mouth, said "Dude, there's no way in hell" and then slammed the door.

 

I'm not scarred by this experience, mind you-I've told many friends, and we laugh at the audacity of the comment, and how that comment introduced me to the gay community of the big city. But know that I totally believe a situation like that in the video could happen. And while some say the guy should "know his place," "stay in his lane," or not "date above him," I say you should always go for what you want. I wish I could do that more. And there will be rejection, sure-but I hope it will be handled with a little more humanity and empathy. I know, I still have a bit of that small-town naivety in me to think that's the way things should be- but I strive to never lose that.

[+ José Soplanucas]

I have been overweighted my whole life.

This is a piece of cheap fiction, really cheap, designed to trigger the complains of low self esteem people blaming others for their own shortages.

Please, enjoy being manipulated by a talentless writer.

http://25.media.tumblr.com/ac9e55657798f6e25a4fd421d1c96eeb/tumblr_mffa1z2JDQ1qi97guo1_r1_500.gif

[jjkrkwood]

You have all gone overboard and overthought this whole thing, turning it into a conspiracy theory to somehow "dupe" you.... Taking away all the glitz and glamour of a "produced" piece, just focus on the situation, 2 guys, physical opposites, the "perceived" more attractive one being approached and propositioned by the "perceived" less attractive one , and rejecting his advances. Period.... Happens ALL the time in gyms, bars, clubs,

coffee shops, busses, subways, laundromats, the workplace and even Church... So I laugh when you say this is a made up situation, blah, blah, blah. Dude, if you think hard enough, you will remember at least ONE time YOU'VE gotten rejected, and it was probably because your looks didnt appeal to the person you were interested in ? OR just maybe YOU were the one doing the rejecting ? Its a normal human response. So there's no conspiracy theory here, just a dose of Reality, which just may be a bit hard for you all to swallow.... I think the ultimate issue here was the "delivery" of the rejection, but keep in mind everyone may not have your "manners" or finesse when it comes to social discourse. I just usually say "Get the Fuck away from me, Troll " !

 

 

[+ poolboy48220]

He looked up as I walked by, and we made eye contact. I smiled- this new experience of "cruising" just got more interesting. And he opened his mouth, said "Dude, there's no way in hell" and then slammed the door.

On the other hand...In a much similar situation, me older and overweight, making initial eye contact with an incredible muscleboy in the steamroom at the bathhouse, and he whispered "Go for it". So you never know.

[+ poolboy48220]

Taking this off on a tangent; am I the only one who gets impatient with things like this presented as a video? I could have read this story much more quickly than watched the video, and would not have had to listen to that insipid music as well. I didn't watch the whole thing, but it's just a series of pictures, no actual video, right? Use your words.

[jjkrkwood]

Taking this off on a tangent; am I the only one who gets impatient with things like this presented as a video? I could have read this story much more quickly than watched the video, and would not have had to listen to that insipid music as well. I didn't watch the whole thing, but it's just a series of pictures, no actual video, right? Use your words.

 

Just be grateful Davey Wavey didnt make an appearance !

[+ Tarte Gogo]

Taking this off on a tangent; am I the only one who gets impatient with things like this presented as a video? I could have read this story much more quickly than watched the video, and would not have had to listen to that insipid music as well. I didn't watch the whole thing, but it's just a series of pictures, no actual video, right? Use your words.

You are not the only one.

[jjkrkwood]

When in Doubt, Just GO for it !

 

http://78.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m7fmmgNk7M1r5v9ooo1_500.jpg

[longtime lurker]

So far in this thread, the fat guy gets most of the blame. Stay in your lane. Get a thicker skin, Get used to it you are fat and unattractive. He is attributed qualities which he has mentioned are specifically addressed, they are both the same age, one is not 50 and the other 25. He is assumed not to have caught on to the clues of the attractive guy being turned off to him. He is attributed to just walking up to a guy and hitting on him, when he started with a simple hello and after several encounters found out common information and asked him to go to a ball game. Does the in shape guy say no. Does he make up a plausible excuse. Does he just say that he is not interested. No he says yes, and then clobbers him with an offensive e mail. If he had just stopped at I am sorry I did not tell you at the gym, but I really do not want to socialize with you outside the gym, that would have been firm and clear and it probably would have stung a bit but not too much.

So put me in the corner with the people who think a courteous negative answer is the right way to handle this. If this guy is so gorgeous, he must be used to turning down people who are possibly hitting on him, you would think he would be better at it. Or perhaps, he likes the attention, perhaps cultivates it and then gets a perverse pleasure of being cruel, like a 6 year old burning insects with magnifying glass. Isn't this just another case of excusing bad behavior in a good looking guy? By the way, I married a woman who was way out of my league. It happens, that some people go a bit deeper than the bicep.

 

Of course that fatter guy could have been a jerk. If that was the case, the fit guy should have take Nancy Reagan's advice to: Just Say No.

 

I haven't read all of the comments here but did enjoy the little video. All the guy did was ask to go to a Cubs game because Mister Jock seamed friendly and, understandably, he was hopeful of something more. Mister Jock's comments were totally out of the blue and, frankly, unnecessary as a means of breaking off the attraction. Why put somebody down for their physical appearance when it is unlikely that your own physical appearance will stay the same all of YOUR life. Just ask any... woman.

 

However I don't put much stock in karma. So many of us suffered without doing anything harmful to others while those were are downright wicked continue to rule the world. I am quite confident that Mister Jock will have many more glorious years admiring himself in the mirror until he goes senile and doesn't even realize that his reflection is the only "one" still looking at him.

[longtime lurker]

On the other hand he could have hired a beautiful escort who would not have judged him.

 

Provided he is as beautiful on the inside as on the outside. The very best in Deli... and Spa when it stretches the definition of "massage"... are able to find one's inner "beauty", regardless of whether or not one's physical appearance fits tightly into one of conformist society's prescribed cookie cutter molds, and create the most erotic experience. I am not religious, but I did learn from one member in this field that, despite what the anti-gay evangelists who are currently blinded by the Dark Side preach, you officially see the face of God once both you and that physical partner (even if he or she is just a temporary one) are so fully in tune to each other's desires that no comet crashing in from outer space can separate the two of you in that heated moment.

 

... or so I was told. I personally believe many in Deli and Spa are actually psychiatrists who may not necessarily have an ivy league "degree" (and all of the mumbo-jumbo that comes with it) but still must have that special second sense regarding each individual's emotional need to be connected with another on the most intimate level.

[P Gren]

I haven't read all of the comments here but did enjoy the little video. All the guy did was ask to go to a Cubs game because Mister Jock seamed friendly and, understandably, he was hopeful of something more. Mister Jock's comments were totally out of the blue and, frankly, unnecessary as a means of breaking off the attraction. Why put somebody down for their physical appearance when it is unlikely that your own physical appearance will stay the same all of YOUR life. Just ask any... woman.

 

However I don't put much stock in karma. So many of us suffered without doing anything harmful to others while those were are downright wicked continue to rule the world. I am quite confident that Mister Jock will have many more glorious years admiring himself in the mirror until he goes senile and doesn't even realize that his reflection is the only "one" still looking at him.

More likely polite than friendly