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friendofsheila Grand Master

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I'm thinking it's time I admit that I'm not good at keeping my apartment clean. So the next obvious step is to get someone else to do it for me, and for free, right? :)

 

I've heard about women who are dominatrices or humiliatrices, who have men who come over and clean or cook or whatever. And the dom (or hum?) looks it over and PERHAPS will approve it or reject it, and probably even get paid for letting the men do the work.

 

Can I do this? Do I need special equipment? I can be bitchy (what gay man can't?), and I can even micro-manage people (I've had enough examples from former bosses, heaven knows).

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Run an ad on Craigslist. Be prepared for replies from a whole rainbow of fetishists.

 

And, something I'll never quite understand - there are people who are on a self-appointed mission to monitor for violations of TOS, by their definition. And since craigs is community-monitored, if its flagged, your ad disappears without any official determination. I.e, some prig is probably going to decide you're offering money for sex,and flag the ad.

 

Ive never seen an ad for exactly what you're seeking. But there are almost always 1-2 ads running for nude housekeepers here in SF Bay.

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Run an ad on Craigslist. Be prepared for replies from a whole rainbow of fetishists.

 

And, something I'll never quite understand - there are people who are on a self-appointed mission to monitor for violations of TOS, by their definition. And since craigs is community-monitored, if its flagged, your ad disappears without any official determination. I.e, some prig is probably going to decide you're offering money for sex,and flag the ad.

 

Ive never seen an ad for exactly what you're seeking. But there are almost always 1-2 ads running for nude housekeepers here in SF Bay.

 

I think it's more part of a long-term dom relationship. But I don't remember there being sex involved.

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I'm thinking it's time I admit that I'm not good at keeping my apartment clean. So the next obvious step is to get someone else to do it for me, and for free, right? :)

 

I've heard about women who are dominatrices or humiliatrices, who have men who come over and clean or cook or whatever. And the dom (or hum?) looks it over and PERHAPS will approve it or reject it, and probably even get paid for letting the men do the work.

 

Can I do this? Do I need special equipment? I can be bitchy (what gay man can't?), and I can even micro-manage people (I've had enough examples from former bosses, heaven knows).

 

But when the subs are done and on their way home, do they feel like suckers? Do they feel like the dom should have spent more time with them in exchange for their efforts? It's probably just me, but just imagining this makes me feel guilty.

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I'm thinking it's time I admit that I'm not good at keeping my apartment clean. So the next obvious step is to get someone else to do it for me, and for free, right? :)

 

I've heard about women who are dominatrices or humiliatrices, who have men who come over and clean or cook or whatever. And the dom (or hum?) looks it over and PERHAPS will approve it or reject it, and probably even get paid for letting the men do the work.

 

Can I do this? Do I need special equipment? I can be bitchy (what gay man can't?), and I can even micro-manage people (I've had enough examples from former bosses, heaven knows).

 

Hopefully you're also not 20 or 30 pounds overweight. Next thing you might be looking for is a surgical intervention which makes you unaccountable for maintaining your apartment as most people have to do.

 

That is, of course, unless you have a medical condition which prevents you from doing so on your own.

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Hopefully you're also not 20 or 30 pounds overweight. Next thing you might be looking for is a surgical intervention which makes you unaccountable for maintaining your apartment as most people have to do.

 

That is, of course, unless you have a medical condition which prevents you from doing so on your own.

Is this missing a "tongue in cheek" emoji, sarcasm? Or are you serious??

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But when the subs are done and on their way home, do they feel like suckers? Do they feel like the dom should have spent more time with them in exchange for their efforts? It's probably just me, but just imagining this makes me feel guilty.

 

I hear these are often people who are high-level executives. And they are people who WANT to be commanded, to have someone be ultra-critical of their work, their working-class work (cleaning, cooking, etc.). So they go into it ASKING for this kind of treatment.

 

They might say the same about those who hire for sex, couldn't they? ("They could just go to a bathhouse and get lots for free, couldn't they? Why do they pay for it?")

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I hear these are often people who are high-level executives. And they are people who WANT to be commanded, to have someone be ultra-critical of their work, their working-class work (cleaning, cooking, etc.). So they go into it ASKING for this kind of treatment.

 

I know. But after they cum, are they embarrassed about having done it?

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Well, they cum after they go home, right?

There are so many levels of how serious it is taken. Some I am sure go home and jo thinking about the scene, some await permission to jo, and some cheat and jo in the car on the way home. All depends how intense they are into the whole scene.

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There are so many levels of how serious it is taken. Some I am sure go home and jo thinking about the scene, some await permission to jo, and some cheat and jo in the car on the way home. All depends how intense they are into the whole scene.

 

Yes. In some cases, sex is NO part of the transaction with the dom, but it might be what the sub does afterwards, elsewhere (in the car, on the freeway, at home.....) :)

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It's a master/slave kind of relationship, I think. I can definitely understand this. It has been my lifelong submissive heart's dream to find a dominant Master of a man who will, quite literally, OWN me. I would love to be the property of a masculine man who knows exactly what he wants... gay, bi, straight.. I don't care. I would live to cook, clean, run errands. He could let me out of my cage every morning to go to work, only to make me give my paycheck to him every week (yes, a cage.. either that or made to sleep at his feet on the bed or floor). When he comes home, I have a meal, beer, foot rub, full body massage, blowjob ready for him.. whichever he wants at the time.

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Mo Mason, would you feel disappointed if you performed service (labor) for somene, but the person turned out not to have any dominant feelings towards you? That's the essence of my discomfort. (BTW, this is a general question not related to friendofshiela's situation.)

 

FoS, I wasn't criticizing at all. I'm just trying to understand. As for "Aren't those people who hire for sex embarrassed about having done it?": The difference, to me at least, is the information asymmetry. When you pay for sex, you know the provider's motives going in.

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The difference, to me at least, is the information asymmetry. When you pay for sex, you know the provider's motives going in.

 

Not in the least. The sub who pays knows that this is what they want, they are paying for it, and that the dom is willing to provide as a professional service, regardless of personal inclination.

 

That's how I see it, as being analogous to escorts/clients.

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