Marriage Equality within the Male Sex Work Community

[+ newguy]

Guys,

 

Call me stupid, but....

 

But I was wondering...

 

How many of you have heard of clients marrying a

male sex worker?

 

I've heard of male sex workers who were married and escorted

on the side...with the (assumed) permission of their spouse.

 

But I've never heard of a client marrying a male sex worker.

 

Have you?

[+ sniper]

I imagine it's more likely when the escort is ready to hang it up.

I mean, I've definitely met dancers/etc whom I found engaging enough I would have considered an LTR with. I never pursued it because, well, I didn't want to risk confirming that it was just about the money for them and shatter the illusion.

But I'm also not sure longterm I would be crazy about that as an occupation for them.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

To me, I don't look at it as a client marrying an escort.

 

It's one person marrying another. Unless it's an arranged long-term gig, the titles should definitely drop at that point.

 

Semantics, I know

[Chuckball]

If two guys love one another, I see no reason that they shouldn't marry. Even if the escort wants to stay in the business its ok if the partner knows and consents. I suspect the reason it seldom happens is that there are boundaries in the escort-client relationship that few will cross.

[rvwnsd]

Given the #1 place couples meet is work, I don't see why ot wouldn't work out.

[+ newguy]

To me, I don't look at it as a client marrying an escort.

 

It's one person marrying another. Unless it's an arranged long-term gig, the titles should definitely drop at that point.

 

Semantics, I know

Yes, semantic--but nicely worded.

 

NG

[Rudynate]

Yes, semantic--but nicely worded.

 

NG

 

 

But is it just semantics? There are all manner of ways and venues for people to meet their life partners. You're saying that the status of the parties before marriage forever brands the marriage as being of a certain type?

[+ newguy]

But is it just semantics? There are all manner of ways and venues for people to meet their life partners. You're saying that the status of the parties before marriage forever brands the marriage as being of a certain type?

 

Many (most of the...?) time(s) it does. Social status, economic status, all kinds of "status's" can be involved with "spouse selection."

 

Perhaps I don't understand the point of your statement.

What did you mean by "status"?

 

NG

[LoveNDino]

Guys,

 

Call me stupid, but....

 

But I was wondering...

 

How many of you have heard of clients marrying a

male sex worker?

 

I've heard of male sex workers who were married and escorted

on the side...with the (assumed) permission of their spouse.

 

But I've never heard of a client marrying a male sex worker.

 

Have you?

The last escort with whom I engaged, claimed his husband was a former client. I have no reason to doubt this.

[Rudynate]

Many (most of the...?) time(s) it does. Social status, economic status, all kinds of "status's" can be involved with "spouse selection."

 

Perhaps I don't understand the point of your statement.

What did you mean by "status"?

 

NG

 

 

"Status" can mean a lot of things and certain aspects of status are, of course, immutable, age for example. Within the present context, it refers to the roles each originally played in the relationship, client and escort. You seem to think t h at the relationship will forever be a relationship between client and escort, since that's the way it started out and that the dynamics of the relationship are permanently fixed by that. It wouldn't matter if the escort finished graduate school and became a wildly successful entrepreneur in Silicon Valley, deep down, he's still that escort.

[+ newguy]

"Status" can mean a lot of things and certain aspects of status are, of course, immutable, age for example. Within the present context, it refers to the roles each originally played in the relationship, client and escort. You seem to think t h at the relationship will forever be a relationship between client and escort, since that's the way it started out and that the dynamics of the relationship are permanently fixed by that. It wouldn't matter if the escort finished graduate school and became a wildly successful entrepreneur in Silicon Valley, deep down, he's still that escort.

 

No, I actually agree with you (I think). Few of us have a status that is unchangeable except perhaps a currently incurable disease. I don't think of status, condition or as a tag which should be perceived as permanent. Winston Churchill once famously proclaimed, "We are the masters of our fate. We are still captains of our souls."

[Rudynate]

No, I actually agree with you (I think). Few of us have a status that is unchangeable except perhaps a currently incurable disease. I don't think of status, condition or as a tag which should be perceived as permanent. Winston Churchill once famously proclaimed, "We are the masters of our fate. We are still captains of our souls."

 

 

Great, I'm glad we agree.

[BgMstr4u]

I think a marriage developing out of an escort/client relationship is the most natural thing in the world. I would also think that the biggest challenge would come when the masks, the roles, are dropped and the true, and always more complex, persons emerge. How to love the real man, not just the fantasy. That's how trust starts.

 

But that's true for everyone. Why should escorts and clients be any different? In their case, it's only how they happened to meet.