Payment

[+ freecahill1965]

I had an experience with an escort recently. In talking with the escort, he got screwed because he did multiple hours and the client only paid him for one. As a client, I would be turned off to be asked for the money up front. I did not have an answer for him. I am mortified that someone would even do that. It is like filling your gas tank then going to cashier with a quarter of the charge. What is good advice would you give to an eschort to prevent this in a way that is not offensive to client?

[njr47]

To me, this seems like a "plague on both your houses" situation. Both the client and escort should have made it clear how long the session was going to be, and whether a one-hour session that morphed into two or more, would require additional payment.

[BluDay]

Understandable on the providers part. My last call, I pointed out a stack of bills on the nightstand since it was a first visit. If I'm visiting them, I generally show them I'm prepared for the financial exchange as soon as I can, having them folded up in a shirt pocket and pulling the bills out so the provider can see works pretty well. I would think this eases the mind of the provider a bit. It can also be done in silence as not to 'break the mood'. With that concern out of the way, we both can enjoy ourselves a bit more.

[Chuckball]

Although earlier postings have pointed out the problem, I always make it a point of paying up front and repeat the rate: "$200 for the hour, right?" I have never had the escort count the cash and everything goes as planned. One escort once seemed upset when I signalled time was up. He wanted to continue! Most escorts will state openly they are not clock watchers and I have never had an escort say "Time's up." It's a matter of establishing trust. Even if I sometimes went a few minutes over, I never received a complaint or been denied a return visit.

[BluDay]

@Chuckball my last two visits have gone over as well, one with me pointing out time was up and him not caring, the second neither of us realized how over we had gone. I've thoroughly enjoyed both encounters.

 

But to answer the question of the OP a bit, if the provider is expressing some concern about payment, you could tell them you're willing to prove you have the money at the start, even if it doesn't change hands.

 

I look at is as the provider is working hard for me (no pun intended) and I'm happy to show that I'm willing to hold up my financial side. Especially since that means they can concentrate more on what I want to spend time with them on.

[+ freecahill1965]

What is a good method for the provider to ensure the client has the money when it is not obvious at the start? I think good clients make it obvious. But what about clients who do not?

[Good Grief]

What is good advice would you give to an eschort to prevent this in a way that is not offensive to client?

 

Certainly too bad that this happened. Every encounter is really different. I'm not sure we can offer the best or bestest info.

 

They're big boys (in many cases.) Let 'em figure it out.

 

I, for one, have other shit to deal with.

[MikeyGMin]

What is a good method for the provider to ensure the client has the money when it is not obvious at the start? I think good clients make it obvious. But what about clients who do not?

A good escort orchestrates the session. Most develop a spidey sense when it comes to timing and can move things along to fit into the time that has been allotted. A good client is also conscientious of the time and doesn't do anything that would materially extend a session without discussing it beforehand.

 

While I would never repeat with an escort who stopped at the exact hour to negotiate an extension, I have no problem repeating with escorts who orchestrate the session nicely to the point where it's a "natural" stopping point at the exact allotted time.

[Rudynate]

One time, I was mortified to realize that I hadn't brought enough cash. I apologized and said I would bring it by the next day. He, probably wanting to make sure that he got the money, said, "Oh, no problem, I can stop by your office tomorrow." I said OK. He came by the next day, I paid the rest of what I owed, and we went to breakfast together. It couldn't have worked out better. He got his money, I got to spend more time with him. Sitting and having breakfast with him was just about as nice as what we had done the day before.

[KennF]

This is a strange approach to common issue.

 

First, I feel that the provider is responsible for the timing of the session. If the client asks for 1 hour, then the escort should plan his services to last an hour. He should not be in the middle of his services and when the hour is chiming away. That is just bad customer service and sets up a failure for the encounter. Either the client ponies up more money or is left unfulfilled/unsatisfied.

 

When the encounter appears to be going slower and likely to go overtime, then it is appropriate for an escort to mention that the appointment is coming to a close, and ask the client's intent. That sets the expectation and keeps the boundaries.

 

Consider, not all clients bring sufficient cash with them to pay for overtime, but would have if they had planned for longer.

[NavyChief]

It is a turnoff to be asked up front and it is always a little awkward moment, but I get over it. I think honestly, we work every thing out before hand, I plan and bring the correct amount. I am a genuine person and gentleman, and that too comes across in my text. My only real burn was an upcharge which I shared a couple weeks ago, but spilled milk, lol.

[Aaron_Bauder]

Loss/write-offs are an unavoidable part of every business.

 

In retail, for example, do you have employees stalk every customer to prevent them from stealing? No, because it would ruin customer experience and eventually tank your business. Accepting that some things are going to get stolen rather then ruin customer experience by turning your store into a security state is a trade-off when you're in the retail business.

 

I take the same approach with clients. I don't ask for money upfront because it may turnoff someone who could otherwise end up as a repeat. So, sometimes I get screwed by client (and yes, it happens) as a trade-off. It sucks, but it's part of the job. I try to screen assholes, but every now and again one slips through. What can you do? It's always nice when a client will at least sit the cash out at start, but that's not everybody and that's fine too.

[SuperJunior]

I've only done this twice, but I handed over $$ pretty much as soon as I arrived. Is that insulting or something? I would never have thought there would be a pay first/pay last protocol.

[KennF]

@SuperJunior If a client pays before service, I wouldn't consider that an insult at all.

 

It's all about the customer experience. If you feel more comfortable paying up front, that's your choice.

 

The whole issue of when to pay is mixed with good and bad experiences on both sides. Clients who have left without paying, or short-changed the escort. Escorts who have taken the money and left immediately. Clients who want more without paying extra, and escorts not providing the full service promised.

 

The thread is about what happens when the encounter is extended. For example, the client books one hour and it lasts for two, or, books two hours and then ends up an overnight.

[SuperJunior]

@SuperJunior If a client pays before service, I wouldn't consider that an insult at all.

 

It's all about the customer experience. If you feel more comfortable paying up front, that's your choice.

 

The whole issue of when to pay is mixed with good and bad experiences on both sides. Clients who have left without paying, or short-changed the escort. Escorts who have taken the money and left immediately. Clients who want more without paying extra, and escorts not providing the full service promised.

 

The thread is about what happens when the encounter is extended. For example, the client books one hour and it lasts for two, or, books two hours and then ends up an overnight.

 

Oops. Thanks! I misunderstood.

[BabyBoomer]

Loss/write-offs are an unavoidable part of every business.

 

In retail, for example, do you have employees stalk every customer to prevent them from stealing? No, because it would ruin customer experience and eventually tank your business. Accepting that some things are going to get stolen rather then ruin customer experience by turning your store into a security state is a trade-off when you're in the retail business.

 

I take the same approach with clients. I don't ask for money upfront because it may turnoff someone who could otherwise end up as a repeat. So, sometimes I get screwed by client (and yes, it happens) as a trade-off. It sucks, but it's part of the job. I try to screen assholes, but every now and again one slips through. What can you do? It's always nice when a client will at least sit the cash out at start, but that's not everybody and that's fine too.

 

I didn't realize you were an escort. Can you post a link to your ad?

 

~Boomer~