Are escorts acting or are they really authentic when meeting a client?

[LADoug1]

Some escorts are playing a role and some are genuinely interested and caring. It's really very simple.

 

Plus as for the two of you "liking " each other, that can't happen immediately as you don't know each other if it's a new hire.

[AndreFuture]

*chuckle* It isn't changing culture. It is each person's growing perception and experience.

 

When we're younger, we're more ready to believe that people are honest and straightforward. As we age and experience things, we learn that people are more complex. We think back and remember not feeling that people were disingenuous. But people were and we weren't aware of it.

 

Ask your parents and grandparents and so on. They all dealt with people who didn't trust the motives of their peers, but in their youth, they did.

I suppose I'm "young" in that regard, as I tend to be honest about my feelings and assume others are as well...until I find out that they're not.

[KennF]

I suppose I'm "young" in that regard, as I tend to be honest about my feelings and assume others are as well...until I find out that they're not.

 

There is nothing wrong with that.... at least nothing to frown over.

 

My point was that people often associate the past with better times. But, it wasn't that the times were better or worse, just that our perception of them was of easier, less complex, and more carefree. Responsibilities, car payments, mortgages, careers, etc... change us and our opinion of 'now'. Also, we now know that people rarely do something for no reason. And we explore those reasons to evaluate the situation.

 

Take, for example, years ago someone offered for you to sleep over to hang out. Most probably, it would be assumed that it was to stay up late, and get an early start tomorrow. But today, if someone offered for you to sleep over, would you wonder what type of hanging they were interested in?

 

Situation is the same, but our perception is different.

[FootWhisperer]

Advice: stop wondering. Difficult, I know, but try.

 

You're just playing head games with yourself. And, really, what difference does it make?

 

How does one feel better from wondering about that?

 

Just enjoy it. And for whatever its worth, my guess would be some escorts are acting, some escorts get as much fulfillment from the accomplished act as clients get from the erotic interaction, and some escorts are genuinely wired to enjoy giving pleasure, and can find something fun and attractive about almost every human.

I think LaffingBear nailed this answer. I would only add (and this apples to everyone), if you're wondering such thoughts, the escort is not the issue. If you only have 60 mins to spare, don't waste 60 seconds doubting yourself.

[+ quoththeraven]

It's basically impossible to be completely honest and truthful all the time, especially since many people would find such behavior as rude, blunt, and off-putting. Recognizing our own "masks" and "roles" is a critical step in personal development and awareness. For me, it didn't make me cynical, it made me more aware and appreciative of myself and those in my life as I became aware of the layers we all wear. We're like onions, made-up of layers; peeling them takes work and sometimes you'll cry.

Layers are not the same as acting or inauthenticity, though. As Walt Whitman said, each of us contains multitudes.

 

There's a difference between emotional honesty and other kinds. It's possible to be emotionally honest and true to oneself without being a tactless boor, although there is some risk of being considered too blunt or too reserved. (Yes, they are not incompatible.)

[Walker1]

It depends. When your boss cracks a joke, are you laughing because he is funny or because he is your boss-or both?

[+ quoththeraven]

It depends. When your boss cracks a joke, are you laughing because he is funny or because he is your boss-or both?

In my case, it would be because he was funny, but I haven't had a boss or been employed for 9 years. Also I called a supervisor cowardly (via voicemail) because he avoided speaking to me face-to-face. FWIW, there is no direct connection between that and my non-employment.

 

I realize that level of directness is not for everyone.

[Brad]

everytime o hire a guy to spend time with I wonder if he really feels comfortable with me or he's just acting a role, some of them can't stop looking at the clock "never again for me to hire them" some are completely nice but makes me confuse because I know it's hard to spend time with someone you don't know and never met before.

 

My opinion, of escorts are constantly acting a role, does it makes them natural actors or liers.

 

Anyway we have no choice when it comes to hire a beautiful man to spend time with and makes us happy with their presence but it can also be risky if we believe they are really into and we create the affection we can't get to feel for them because it's all about business.

everytime o hire a guy to spend time with I wonder if he really feels comfortable with me or he's just acting a role, some of them can't stop looking at the clock "never again for me to hire them" some are completely nice but makes me confuse because I know it's hard to spend time with someone you don't know and never met before.

 

My opinion, of escorts are constantly acting a role, does it makes them natural actors or liers.

 

Anyway we have no choice when it comes to hire a beautiful man to spend time with and makes us happy with their presence but it can also be risky if we believe they are really into and we create the affection we can't get to feel for them because it's all about business.

 

It's not all about business if you are doing your job, and on the planet. Some are acting, and some are authentic. It depends on who you get. Just like normal people. It's not the platform… it's the person. Some have the skills to be authentic in life… some don't. It takes practice in bringing yourself to the table. The questions should be- Does your escort really know himself? Or- Are you fooled by inauthenticity? Not the escorts problem.

[LivingnLA]

Layers are not the same as acting or inauthenticity, though. As Walt Whitman said, each of us contains multitudes.

 

There's a difference between emotional honesty and other kinds. It's possible to be emotionally honest and true to oneself without being a tactless boor, although there is some risk of being considered too blunt or too reserved. (Yes, they are not incompatible.)

 

It all depends on awareness. We're all multitudes, but frequently we're not even consciously aware of which mask (or layer) we deploy when, where, or with who. That's my point. An ideal objective would say such a person is acting, being inauthentic, or dishonest. But, in reality, those mask are fundamentally part of that person and as such an authentic representation of them at that moment in time.

 

I agree about emotional honesty, but it does require emotional intelligence, empathy, and social sophistication. All of which can rub some people the wrong way.

[LivingnLA]

Here's an article about a related topic: first impressions.

 

https://arstechnica.com/science/2017/08/why-our-brains-lead-us-astray-when-we-take-things-at-face-value/

 

The book looks like a good read for understanding this new research.

 

http://press.princeton.edu/titles/10923.html