"Ask Me"

[jeezifonly]

There are a lot of masseurs quoting rates "starting at" - a similar dodge, to keep the mystery going...and their options open. But at least it gives a number of some sort for comparison

 

When the ad has mutiple rules of contact, repeated variants of "absolute discretion is key", and the rate is "ask me", it might as well say

"Keep looking". (Which I do)

[chris.lor12]

its a slight bed bug for me too not knowing in general what the rates are. I always confirm anyway but it would save from contacting someone I know from the beginning is too expensive for me. I dont bargain down guys and i dont like saying you are out of my price range.

 

with regards to basketballer the ask me on safety is also quite a turn off. sometimes i found out after the meet which was abit scary. TBF my first was BB unintentionally and the guys I hired was a pro so I'm surprised he initiated physically it but I guess I didn't pull out so we share the blame - once you're in what's the point.

 

recently however I asked a guy whether he bottomed thinking purely of safe topping but he replied asking if I wanted BB. I pretended that I was interested and asked if it was possible and he said yes. I don't know about other's opinions but escort or client I personally don't like the idea of meeting with guys who BB.

[chris.lor12]

its a slight bed bug for me too not knowing in general what the rates are. I always confirm anyway but it would save from contacting someone I know from the beginning is too expensive for me. I dont bargain down guys and i dont like saying you are out of my price range.

 

with regards to basketballer the ask me on safety is also quite a turn off. sometimes i found out after the meet which was abit scary. TBF my first was BB unintentionally and the guys I hired was a pro so I'm surprised he initiated physically it but I guess I didn't pull out so we share the blame - once you're in what's the point.

 

recently however I asked a guy whether he bottomed thinking purely of safe topping but he replied asking if I wanted BB. I pretended that I was interested and asked if it was possible and he said yes. I don't know about other's opinions but escort or client I personally don't like the idea of meeting with guys who BB.

[+ José Soplanucas]

its a slight bed bug for me too not knowing in general what the rates are.

 

Ask him.

 

I dont bargain down guys and i dont like saying you are out of my price range.

 

So do not bargain and do not say it, just move on.

 

 

recently however I asked a guy whether he bottomed thinking purely of safe topping but he replied asking if I wanted BB. I pretended that I was interested and asked if it was possible and he said yes. I don't know about other's opinions but escort or client I personally don't like the idea of meeting with guys who BB.

 

Good professionals are well informed and know that nowadays condoms are one more option to have safe sex, but not the only option. If you have a problem with barebacking you can just move on (this thread is not about BB but about "ask me") after you ask and learn the professional do not meet your standards. However, I do not see the problem. Your concern should not be whether or not the professional uses condoms with others, but whether or not your meeting will be BB.

[+ José Soplanucas]

its a slight bed bug for me too not knowing in general what the rates are.

 

Ask him.

 

I dont bargain down guys and i dont like saying you are out of my price range.

 

So do not bargain and do not say it, just move on.

 

 

recently however I asked a guy whether he bottomed thinking purely of safe topping but he replied asking if I wanted BB. I pretended that I was interested and asked if it was possible and he said yes. I don't know about other's opinions but escort or client I personally don't like the idea of meeting with guys who BB.

 

Good professionals are well informed and know that nowadays condoms are one more option to have safe sex, but not the only option. If you have a problem with barebacking you can just move on (this thread is not about BB but about "ask me") after you ask and learn the professional do not meet your standards. However, I do not see the problem. Your concern should not be whether or not the professional uses condoms with others, but whether or not your meeting will be BB.

[AndyDandy]

But when an escort does say "ask me", they shouldn't get mad when you ask. More than once I've been ignored when asking about rate, etc.

 

Exactly!!!!

[AndyDandy]

But when an escort does say "ask me", they shouldn't get mad when you ask. More than once I've been ignored when asking about rate, etc.

 

Exactly!!!!

[+ José Soplanucas]

Exactly!!!!

 

But when an escort does say "ask me", they shouldn't get mad when you ask. More than once I've been ignored when asking about rate, etc.

 

Of course! But let's avoid generalizations. If an escort gets upset when you ask him after he asked you to, he is just an asshole.

It never happened to me, though. Perhaps you are not asking the questions in the right way, specially if discussing the money. There are legal issues involved, and you have to be very careful when discussing it, or "asking" about it.

[+ José Soplanucas]

Exactly!!!!

 

But when an escort does say "ask me", they shouldn't get mad when you ask. More than once I've been ignored when asking about rate, etc.

 

Of course! But let's avoid generalizations. If an escort gets upset when you ask him after he asked you to, he is just an asshole.

It never happened to me, though. Perhaps you are not asking the questions in the right way, specially if discussing the money. There are legal issues involved, and you have to be very careful when discussing it, or "asking" about it.

[LaffingBear]

I dont even notice it. I dont pay much attention to the posted rate anyway. The first few times I saw other posts about "ask me" here on the forum, I didnt even know what was being discussed.

 

Exception: I will notice posted rate when a 411 request appears here, and someone opines "hes not worth $500" or some similar comment about a perceived excessive rate.

 

The rate is whatever he tells me when we review details and set an appointment. If its too high, I say "no thanks" and move on. I never negotiate the rate. I get a little pissy if a guy uses a shaming tactic such as "well, if you cant afford it...." and respond with "no, I can afford it. I said I'm not willing to pay it."

 

And in those instances when I decline and he offers to lower his rate, I dont change my mind.... I take it as a bad sign; I don't hire mark-downs.

[LaffingBear]

I dont even notice it. I dont pay much attention to the posted rate anyway. The first few times I saw other posts about "ask me" here on the forum, I didnt even know what was being discussed.

 

Exception: I will notice posted rate when a 411 request appears here, and someone opines "hes not worth $500" or some similar comment about a perceived excessive rate.

 

The rate is whatever he tells me when we review details and set an appointment. If its too high, I say "no thanks" and move on. I never negotiate the rate. I get a little pissy if a guy uses a shaming tactic such as "well, if you cant afford it...." and respond with "no, I can afford it. I said I'm not willing to pay it."

 

And in those instances when I decline and he offers to lower his rate, I dont change my mind.... I take it as a bad sign; I don't hire mark-downs.

[+ José Soplanucas]

I dont even notice it. I dont pay much attention to the posted rate anyway. The first few times I saw other posts about "ask me" here on the forum, I didnt even know what was being discussed.

 

Exception: I will notice posted rate when a 411 request appears here, and someone opines "hes not worth $500" or some similar comment about a perceived excessive rate.

 

The rate is whatever he tells me when we review details and set an appointment. If its too high, I say "no thanks" and move on. I never negotiate the rate. I get a little pissy if a guy uses a shaming tactic such as "well, if you cant afford it...." and respond with "no, I can afford it. I said I'm not willing to pay it."

 

And in those instances when I decline and he offers to lower his rate, I dont change my mind.... I take it as a bad sign; I don't hire mark-downs.

 

That is a slightly different topic: bargaining. "Ask Me" is not always an invitation to bargain.

[+ José Soplanucas]

I dont even notice it. I dont pay much attention to the posted rate anyway. The first few times I saw other posts about "ask me" here on the forum, I didnt even know what was being discussed.

 

Exception: I will notice posted rate when a 411 request appears here, and someone opines "hes not worth $500" or some similar comment about a perceived excessive rate.

 

The rate is whatever he tells me when we review details and set an appointment. If its too high, I say "no thanks" and move on. I never negotiate the rate. I get a little pissy if a guy uses a shaming tactic such as "well, if you cant afford it...." and respond with "no, I can afford it. I said I'm not willing to pay it."

 

And in those instances when I decline and he offers to lower his rate, I dont change my mind.... I take it as a bad sign; I don't hire mark-downs.

 

That is a slightly different topic: bargaining. "Ask Me" is not always an invitation to bargain.

[LaffingBear]

That is a slightly different topic: bargaining. "Ask Me" is not always an invitation to bargain.

I didnt intend to convey that ask me was about bargaining.

 

My opening statements were

I dont even notice it. I dont pay much attention to the posted rate anyway. The first few times I saw other posts about "ask me" here on the forum, I didnt even know what was being discussed.

 

Exception: I will notice posted rate when a 411 request appears here, and someone opines "hes not worth $500" or some similar comment about a perceived excessive rate.

 

The rate is whatever he tells me when we review details and set an appointment. If its too high, I say "no thanks" and move on.......

 

I simply added my response to possible outcomes after asking.

[LaffingBear]

That is a slightly different topic: bargaining. "Ask Me" is not always an invitation to bargain.

I didnt intend to convey that ask me was about bargaining.

 

My opening statements were

I dont even notice it. I dont pay much attention to the posted rate anyway. The first few times I saw other posts about "ask me" here on the forum, I didnt even know what was being discussed.

 

Exception: I will notice posted rate when a 411 request appears here, and someone opines "hes not worth $500" or some similar comment about a perceived excessive rate.

 

The rate is whatever he tells me when we review details and set an appointment. If its too high, I say "no thanks" and move on.......

 

I simply added my response to possible outcomes after asking.

[Travelguy368]

I don't mind entering into a conversation, and I realize that a competitive bid might be the goal of the escort. What about negotiating this way? "I usually pay $xxx.00 for a _____ session. Is that what you had in mind?"

 

I've gone this route a few times and it seems to work well for both sides. Sometimes the answer is no but at least it was asked.

[Travelguy368]

I don't mind entering into a conversation, and I realize that a competitive bid might be the goal of the escort. What about negotiating this way? "I usually pay $xxx.00 for a _____ session. Is that what you had in mind?"

 

I've gone this route a few times and it seems to work well for both sides. Sometimes the answer is no but at least it was asked.