How Many Of You Are Married To A Woman AND Hire Male Escorts for Gay Sex

[+ WmClarke]

I considered that it was for me at the time -- a public "straight" life and a private gay life.

Yep. The first time my two worlds collided (a few months ago) was quite interesting--in good ways.

[+ HornyRetiree]

Yep. The first time my two worlds collided (a few months ago) was quite interesting--in good ways.

 

How so???

[Rudynate]

I considered that it was for me at the time -- a public "straight" life and a private gay life.

 

Yes, I can see that. I'm fascinated by the possibility of a bi man being able to be bi in such a way that it isn't a double life.

[+ HornyRetiree]

Yes, I can see that. I'm fascinated by the possibility of a bi man being able to be bi in such a way that it isn't a double life.

 

Not really "bi" here even though I functioned w/in marriage ! Have always been Gay - No other sex w/ or interest in sex with female - though I have looked at a few HOT F2M Trans @Cyd_StVincent who still have vagina and wondered:)

 

Problem would be condom, know they are necessary!, but my penis always slid in to the one vagina I have experienced bare!!!

[+ WmClarke]

How so???

While traveling out of state, a young man approached me on Grindr. When we met in person, he eventually realized that he knew who my wife was due to a connection he and my wife had in common. He knew that she had died and that I would be in town. It was quite cute.

[+ HornyRetiree]

While traveling out of state, a young man approached me on Grindr. When we met in person, he eventually realized that he knew who my wife was due to a connection he and my wife had in common. He knew that she had died and that I would be in town. It was quite cute.

 

did you guys interact sexually??

[Rudynate]

Not really "bi" here even though I functioned w/in marriage ! Have always been Gay - No other sex w/ or interest in sex with female - though I have looked at a few HOT F2M Trans who still have vagina and wondered:)

 

Problem would be condom, know they are necessary!, but my penis always slid in to the one vagina I have experienced bare!!!

 

I often fantasize sex with men who have vaginas instead of dicks. It just recently occurred to me that a trans man would be just the partner who would make that possible.

[+ WmClarke]

did you guys interact sexually??

Of course. He was more than 30 years younger than me. I'm not gonna say No to that!

 

It was some of the best sex I've ever had.

[+ sniper]

Is that necessarily a double life?

If your spouse has no clue it certainly is.

[BaronArtz]

Unless someone feels it's important that they share this information - then it is nobody's business. IMHO.

 

That is absolutely right. None of your business. In my case - HELL NO

[Jay DC]

I'll share because it might help someone else. I was married for a long time and when my wife and I separated, I started hiring guys. Not just because they were sexy, but because they let me set boundaries. No escort has ever pressured me for bareback and all of them have let me go at my pace. Since I was coming out of a long term relationship and coming out, I had no desire to enter into another potentially serious relationship at that time. I also hadn't had sex with men during my marriage so I needed practice. For me, the escorts helped me figure out the kind of man I wanted to be going forward. They helped me figure out my sexual likes and dislikes and they were never judgmental. They taught me and I remain grateful for the experiences. I had some guilt, but not much. I was lucky that I could financially afford it and I believe the experiences let me stay emotionally engaged with my family in a way that having an affair might have interfered. I loved spending time with these guys, but I wasn't getting married to any of them. I remain proud to still occasionally call upon the pros because they have been an important part of my journey as a man. Plus they are fucking hot.

[AdamSmith]

I long categorized myself as 'gay.' With a male life partner since 1994 [terminated 2009], I found myself -- passionately, deeply pleasurably -- having sex with a woman escort in 2002, in the freedom of a business trip to (wait for it ) Atlantic City, NJ.

 

Ze rest is history.

 

PS My first romances were with women, so I ought to have had better foresight. Or hindsight (funny word ) or something.

 

We are all complex & multivalent.

[+ WilliamM]

We are all complex & multivalent.

 

Just had a chance to finally look at this thread again.

 

If by multivalent, you mean having sex with man and women perhaps you should explain that comment.

[gallahadesquire]

I long categorized myself as 'gay.' With a male life partner since 1994 [terminated 2009], I found myself -- passionately, deeply pleasurably -- having sex with a woman escort in 2002, in the freedom of a business trip to (wait for it ) Atlantic City, NJ.

 

Ze rest is history.

 

PS My first romances were with women, so I ought to have had better foresight. Or hindsight (funny word ) or something.

 

We are all complex & multivalent.

 

I assume it was the relationship that terminated ... and it was mutual ... not through "natural" or unnatural means. I've got TERMINATOR on my brain, I guess.

[Rudynate]

I assume it was the relationship that terminated ... and it was mutual ... not through "natural" or unnatural means. I've got TERMINATOR on my brain, I guess.

 

I've been thinking about tag-teaming a woman with a bi escort.