For the clients..disappointed in Escorts appearance?

[Michael Paul]

This is a question for clients who use ads where the escorts have posted pictures of themselves. Are you ever disappointed when the escort you hired does not look exactly like his pictures? I ask this because with me being a tall thin man, my weights has never been more than 150 pounds. My weight will fluctuate easily. Just my genetic make-up. There are times when I will look thinner then in my photos. Would be disappointed if your escort was not built like he is in is pictures ?

[bigvalboy]

. Are you ever disappointed when the escort you hired does not look exactly like his pictures?

Would be disappointed if your escort was not built like he is in is pictures ?

 

The short answer is yes. I like bodybuilders, so I understand weight fluctuation, but blatant attempts to deceive the client will quickly get you removed from my Christmas list. Far too many escorts post pics that are not current or pics showing them at the peak of fitness. Opening the door and finding out otherwise is frustrating. Which is why I have largely altered my hiring practices to protect myself from disappointment. Hiring my little dancer boys eliminates all that BS.

 

However...judging by your short tenure here, I'm getting the impression that you are honorable, and would not purposely deceive a client. In your case, I don't think you have anything to worry about. If you've lost weight, just be honest with a client if you think he might care. Good luck

[Michael Paul]

The short answer is yes. I like bodybuilders, so I understand weight fluctuation, but blatant attempts to deceive the client will quickly get you removed from my Christmas list. Far too many escorts post pics that are not current or pics showing them at the peak of fitness. Opening the door and finding out otherwise is frustrating. Which is why I have largely altered my hiring practices to protect myself from disappointment. Hiring my little dancer boys eliminates all that BS.

 

However...judging by your short tenure here, I'm getting the impression that you are honorable, and would not purposely deceive a client. In your case, I don't think you have anything to worry about. If you've lost weight, just be honest with a client if you think he might care. Good luck

 

Thank You for that honest answer.... you would prefer to here from the escort that a weight change has occurred... good to know.

[+ Keith30309]

The short answer is yes. I like bodybuilders, so I understand weight fluctuation, but blatant attempts to deceive the client will quickly get you removed from my Christmas list. Far too many escorts post pics that are not current or pics showing them at the peak of fitness. Opening the door and finding out otherwise is frustrating. Which is why I have largely altered my hiring practices to protect myself from disappointment. Hiring my little dancer boys eliminates all that BS.

 

However...judging by your short tenure here, I'm getting the impression that you are honorable, and would not purposely deceive a client. In your case, I don't think you have anything to worry about. If you've lost weight, just be honest with a client if you think he might care. Good luck

+1

 

I'd add to BVB's comments client interest in dramatic changes in things like long hair (some love it), being clean-shaven (some prefer beards) and even dramatic tattoos (some have expressed a strong dislike for them).

In another thread someone suggested that a profile contain both professionally taken pics, which may be somewhat static over time, and current informal pics, which is what you will see when you open the door.

[Michael Paul]

+1

 

I'd add to BVB's comments client interest in dramatic changes in things like long hair (some love it), being clean-shaven (some prefer beards) and even dramatic tattoos (some have expressed a strong dislike for them).

In another thread someone suggested that a profile contain both professionally taken pics, which may be somewhat static over time, and current informal pics, which is what you will see when you open the door.

All of my pictures were taken by myself. I do have difference of appearances in my photos. I understand about ones appearance changes, like styles, hair facial hair. Which I tend to change depending on my mood. I'm am a stylist in my normal profession.... Sometimes we get bored at work..a hair change will occur...LOL.... I absolutely agree with you about any type of permanent change should be reviled like tattoos and body piercings.

Great advice

[BaronArtz]

BVB is right - and he likes bodybuilders too ... <grin>

 

If somebody completely misrepresents himself - fake pictures, age out of whack, out of shape physique and the like - I do not proceed. I have a degree of tolerance for not looking quite like the pictures. In that case, I may still proceed with a session but there probably would not be a second appointment. The one exception to that was when I met the now retired 'Gregg' from LA. I knew he was older than what I normally hire and I was prepared for the pepper n salt hair. I was not prepared for his softer waist though. However, whatever physical disappointment there was, he made up with a terrific personality and great sexual skills. I hired him again 2 days later.

 

Moral of the story: if you are going to be 'off', better be amazing in bed.

[AquaNYC]

This is a question for clients who use ads where the escorts have posted pictures of themselves. Are you ever disappointed when the escort you hired does not look exactly like his pictures? I ask this because with me being a tall thin man, my weights has never been more than 150 pounds. My weight will fluctuate easily. Just my genetic make-up. There are times when I will look thinner then in my photos. Would be disappointed if your escort was not built like he is in is pictures ?

Surprisingly this has happened quite often to me in the last several months. In three experiences that I recall most recently, the escorts had significant differences from the pictures posted - tattoos, piercings, different haircut style (and in one case color highlights!). The pictures posted were either photoshopped, very old, or man, they have been busy! It's disappointing to say the least, but I'm too reserved to say anything or send them home. I just will not be a repeat client.

[LaffingBear]

I try to be diplomatic in advance.

 

I do everything I can to encourage him to be forthcoming during screening. I'll say/ask something like "I know big guys cycle, adding mass then leaning down. Im really hoping for shredded, defined at this time."

 

Ive had guys respond honestly... and tell me they're not in "contest-shape"... went ahead and saw some anyway for other attributes/vibe, and politely declined with others. Some disappear when asked any questions anyway.

 

I have gone further and cautioned some guys that I wouldn't hesitate to end-before-we-start if he shows up looking very different. That too makes some disappear.

 

I've written this in other threads: I'm sure my careful screening has been annoying for some guys, to the extent that I've probably deterred some great rentguys. But I see it as a cost - worthwhile as it enhances the ability to avoid the disappointments or bad guys.

[Michael Paul]

Op here .... it seems to me that those of that have replied so far are into guy with muscular builds. I can understand that and think it is great that you will not turn them away. I'm not into body building, just toned, on the thin side. I am in my 52, and some guys like that I am older as well as my S/P hair... I take your advice and will let my potential client know that my body weight is slightly different. Either I have lost a little weight. I can loose 5 pounds easily but not because I want to, my metabolism runs none stop..LOL I do change my pictures regularly. It's quite obvious that I am not a young guy, why anybody would keep old pictures of them up I will never understand. I appreciate you thoughts on this subject

[KennF]

It's all about expectations, and managing them.

 

You're selling a service (companionship, fantasy, whatever) and an experience. You want to make your clients look forward to seeing you, but even more, you'd like them to (a) come back for more, and, (b) recommend you. That's how you build a regular or returning client base.

 

If you make a significant change in your appearance, you disrupt their expectations.

> If you don't look like your pictures just a little, no problem.

> If you don't look like your pictures by a significant amount, then you may not get a repeat, or, may get a negative review.

 

It isn't about the weight (number). Clients aren't coming over with a scale.

 

If you decide to shave your hair (or dye it) or change your body shape, then include this as part of your client vetting/discovery. You want to manage their expectations and exceed them during the encounter.

[Bearofdistinction]

Op here .... it seems to me that those of that have replied so far are into guy with muscular builds. I can understand that and think it is great that you will not turn them away. I'm not into body building, just toned, on the thin side. I am in my 52, and some guys like that I am older as well as my S/P hair... I take your advice and will let my potential client know that my body weight is slightly different. Either I have lost a little weight. I can loose 5 pounds easily but not because I want to, my metabolism runs none stop..LOL I do change my pictures regularly. It's quite obvious that I am not a young guy, why anybody would keep old pictures of them up I will never understand. I appreciate you thoughts on this subject

 

Bitch!

[KennF]

I'll give you an example, other than looks...

 

Massage... (I always ask about massages and whether or not the person is trained in massage. I don't care about the license as much as I want a massage.)

 

If someone tells me they are trained or good at massage, then I learn they don't know what the hell they are doing, I get angry. Nothing else matters because the massage wasn't what I wanted/expected. The mood and atmosphere is broken and the experience wasn't worth the cost.

 

If they say they aren't trained but they are complimented on them, or, have a lot of experience, and I learn they are not good, then it isn't a surprise. I took the chance on a massage and the rest of the encounter will decide if I wasted my time/money.

 

If they say they don't know anything about massages, and I book them, then I can't expect a massage. My expectations are not disrupted.

 

In all three cases, the escort's talent at massage is the same... But the encounter and experience is totally different, because the provider was up front about their skills.

[LaffingBear]

If an actor is requested by casting, and shows up looking different than his headshots.... s/he may receive no further consideration for the part. Might be nothing more than haircut.....

 

Weird, very different..... but the basic principles are the same.

 

I respect escorts who post a variety of pictures and looks in their ad. If they include a phrase about fitting clients desires, flexibility in appearance.... I'll know to ask in advance. "Hairy or smoothe these days? " etc.

[Michael Paul]

Bitch!

:p:p:p...... It not a good thing when your have a hard time keeping weight on.... I realize this sound strange, to most people... I know your were just playing ....:D:D:D

[Michael Paul]

I'll give you an example, other than looks...

 

Massage... (I always ask about massages and whether or not the person is trained in massage. I don't care about the license as much as I want a massage.)

 

If someone tells me they are trained or good at massage, then I learn they don't know what the hell they are doing, I get angry. Nothing else matters because the massage wasn't what I wanted/expected. The mood and atmosphere is broken and the experience wasn't worth the cost.

 

If they say they aren't trained but they are complimented on them, or, have a lot of experience, and I learn they are not good, then it isn't a surprise. I took the chance on a massage and the rest of the encounter will decide if I wasted my time/money.

 

If they say they don't know anything about massages, and I book them, then I can't expect a massage. My expectations are not disrupted.

 

In all three cases, the escort's talent at massage is the same... But the encounter and experience is totally different, because the provider was up front about their skills.

 

Well...I started out in message..and told them I knew nothing about them.... now I have transitioned into Escorting ... I am have always been an honest guy.

[Michael Paul]

If an actor is requested by casting, and shows up looking different than his headshots.... s/he may receive no further consideration for the part. Might be nothing more than haircut.....

 

Weird, very different..... but the basic principles are the same.

 

I respect escorts who post a variety of pictures and looks in their ad. If they include a phrase about fitting clients desires, flexibility in appearance.... I'll know to ask in advance. "Hairy or smoothe these days? " etc.

 

After all...I am trying out for a part that deal with pleasure...I should be that person thay saw in the beginning... but I would let them know if my appearance has changed..... I like this analogy.. Thanks.

[+ WmClarke]

I am always disappointed when the man answering the door doesn't match the pictures.

 

Doesn't matter if this is due to:

1. Age
   
2. Body/weight
   
3. Facial hair/body hair
   
4. Doesn't post/send face pics and his face is just...average (for my preferences)
   
5. Conpletely different person
   

Having said that, I've never cancelled a session due to any of those occurrences.

 

I just wish they would use accurate pictures (many do not) and mention anything striking differences. For instance, one escort had a minor procedure done and walked a little stiffly. So minor--yet he mentioned it to me so there would not be any surprises. I thought that was very thoughtful of him.

 

What I am more annoyed by is an escort known for something who won't do it in our session. Those guys I don't hire again.

[MikeyGMin]

Conpletely different person

You don't even cancel for this?

[+ José Soplanucas]

I have been disappointed some times, enough to walk away from the meeting. I have met with guys using fake pictures and had to walk away because I did not feel any attraction.

 

But

 

I have been sometimes only slightly disappointed by some secondary detail and continued with the appointment. I have been gladly surprised by the improvement between some outdated pictures and some present realities, and of course had the meeting. I have been wondered by impostors who look twice as hot as the stolen pictures they use, and I continued with the meeting.

 

I am not a fan of accuracy between pics and reality. Yes, I think it is important and yes, I prefer accurate pictures. However the opposite is not a deal breaker. Everything depends on specific circumstances. Ultimately what I care about is what I feel when I am face to face with the guy.

[Michael Paul]

Some interesting views on this point..... even though I am new to the forums... Honesty is my policy... not sure that comes with my age or what. From what I have read on here now it seems as though many of you think that some escorts are misrepresenting themselves. I'm sure there are those that do. I know you should get what your paying for , after all it is your fantasy. Sorry to here that some of you had this happen to to you.

[MartyB]

I guess I've been lucky the vast majority of escorts I've hired really do resemble what they actually look like. I don't hire escorts who don't show face pics. The reason I've been fortunate I think is that the escorts or masseur I've selected are local and I always read reviews.

[+ José Soplanucas]

Some interesting views on this point..... even though I am new to the forums... Honesty is my policy... not sure that comes with my age or what. From what I have read on here now it seems as though many of you think that some escorts are misrepresenting themselves. I'm sure there are those that do. I know you should get what your paying for , after all it is your fantasy. Sorry to here that some of you had this happen to to you.

 

Naturally we focus on the escorts, but it is not only them. Many people misrepresent themselves in Internet, and it is not always an issue of honesty, but self-image. Some people actually think they look like the pictures they share, or they actually think their personality and character is like they describe it in a profile. They are not lying, they are just wrong.

Also, when we are selling a product, like in the case of an escort or a non-escort hook up ad, it is a natural tendency to beautify the things a little bit. There is a grey zone here.

[rvwnsd]

Like @MartyB, the vast majority of escorts I've hired have looked like their pictures. However, there is that small percentage that has looked different. In a couple of cases, they were using old pictures but still looked great. In other cases, they didn't look so good. My advice is to keep your pictures current. If your appearance changes, then take new pics. Problem solved.

[LaffingBear]

Naturally we focus on the escorts, but it is not only them. Many people misrepresent themselves in Internet, and it is not always an issue of honesty, but self-image. Some people actually think they look like the pictures they share, or they actually think their personality and character is like they describe it in a profile. They are not lying, they are just wrong.

Also, when we are selling a product, like in the case of an escort or a non-escort hook up ad, it is a natural tendency to beautify the things a little bit. There is a grey zone here.

Agree 100%

AND

Some of the words we use to describe appearances are very subjective.

Hung. Fit. Good-looking. Buffed. Hairy. Big. Young.

[Deadlift1]

enough already with chatter