Kerry Slate in Los Angeles

[Blade9]

Lovely. Would very much like to spend time with him again.

 

B

[+ Autumnal]

So he's coming back soon - He got in touch with me the other day and gave me permission to post. He's planning on coming back to Adonis in LA in April or May and start seeing clients again soon. He just had to take a break from the biz. You guys better start waiting in line.

That's really good news! Thanks for the update.

[brnco8]

That's outstanding news! Anyone know how he's looking? Have missed him a ton!

[CraigS]

I would love to see him.

[tennisjock]

Cannot wait to see him again. One of the best guys I have met

[+ BigRic]

Maybe Nicky will encourage some of his clients to also turn over a new leaf and not be rude AF to other dancers.

Edited March 12, 2018 by BigRic

[Strafe13]

Maybe Nicky will encourage some of his clients to also turn over a new leaf and not be rude AF to other dancers.

 

Damn! Shots fired! Sometimes I love the petty that comes out on these boards. :-)

 

I've never been a client of Nicky/Mr. Slate, but I promise I'm always very respectful to all of the dancers. :-* I hope to meet him soon.

[+ BigRic]

The precipitating behavior is petty. The critique is not.

[Strafe13]

The precipitating behavior is petty. The critique is not.

 

I thought your critique was kind of funny actually, and I meant petty as an entertaining way of throwing shade in the way that gay men are so awesome at doing. I wasn't taking it that seriously. If I were to view it seriously, then I'd respectfully disagree with you. You threw high level shade and it was funny. Perhaps a tad inappropriate, but funny nonetheless.

[+ BigRic]

"Perhaps a tad" needless to say, SO not into your version of "awesome."

[Strafe13]

"Perhaps a tad" needless to say, SO not into your version of "awesome."

 

Way to transform a compliment into an insult.

[+ BigRic]

I found the "compliment" disingenuous and patronizing. If you don't know WTF I'm talking about, what's the basis for your disagreement? Why not inquire about what has (repeatedly) happened instead of behaving like a fanboy and basically saying my comments are, excuse me, inappropriate?

 

You've essentially said my comments are camp humor that shouldn't be taken seriously. How dancers treat customers and customers treat dancers should be taken seriously for the sake of all having a good time regardless of what happens away from the club.

 

That's wonderful that you strive to be respectful to all dancers. Not all customers do. If the critique doesn't apply to you, it's not clear why you're repeatedly engaging on the subject.

Edited March 12, 2018 by BigRic

[tennisjock]

I am very excited abut Kerry returning.

[Strafe13]

I found the "compliment" disingenuous and patronizing. If you don't know WTF I'm talking about, what's the basis for your disagreement? Why not inquire about what has (repeatedly) happened instead of behaving like a fanboy and basically saying my comments are, excuse me, inappropriate?

 

You've essentially said my comments are camp humor that shouldn't be taken seriously. How dancers treat customers and customers treat dancers should be taken seriously for the sake of all having a good time regardless of what happens away from the club.

 

That's wonderful that you strive to be respectful to all dancers. Not all customers do. If the critique doesn't apply to you, it's not clear why you're repeatedly engaging on the subject.

 

 

I wasn't taking your comment seriously because I felt that it was a little bit inappropriate on a thread that I started asking for help in contacting this particular dancer. I never asked for folks' impressions of how other clients might be treating other dancers. I agree with you that being respectful to dancers is, as a general matter, a topic worthy of discussion. But that's not why I started this thread, and I didn't like the idea of it being potentially derailed, particularly with an insinuation that the dancer I was interested would even have the power to tell patrons how to act.

 

It's also highly dubious that the offending clients from this bar in West Hollywood would really be on this thread, or that if they are, they'd even be open to receiving your reprimand. Since the prospect of you actually reaching them, and of them even caring, seemed slim to none, I didn't think it was a serious attempt at addressing bad behavior, but that it was instead just a way for you to vent. Hence, I tried to approach it with a sense of humor, while tactfully ignoring that you may have been hijacking my thread, but nonetheless stressing that I sympathize with you by stating that I always treat the dancers with respect.

 

I was hoping to get us to move on, while acknowledging that I found your wit funny and sassy. It was not meant to be needlessly dismissive of any legitimate gripe you have, or to minimize or excuse the disrespect that patrons may have inflicted on you. I see now that my post could have been taken the wrong way, and that it offended you. For that, I apologize.

[+ BigRic]

Thanks. But threads tend to have lives of their own. I think this proprietary OP attitude about subject matter nine months after starting a thread is . . . misguided.

 

Re ". . . on a thread I started asking for help in contacting this particular dancer." If you've had trouble finding not-hard-to-find Nicky after nine months (even given his break), I'd submit you have bigger issues. And the issue of why you're arguing with me publically if all you wanted was to talk to/meet Nicky privately remains.

 

But thanks for the unpacking comments/apology.

Edited March 13, 2018 by BigRic

[+ BigRic]

Oh and by the LOL way: You freakin' tagged me in your original post! If you potentially might not like what I have to say, don't freakin' ask for my input!

[Strafe13]

Oh and by the LOL way: You freakin' tagged me in your original post! If you potentially might not like what I have to say, don't freakin' ask for my input!

 

I tagged you because we've actually met once in person at Fubar at an Adonis show, you were kind to me then, you've been helpful in answering other forum members' queries in the past, and I thought you'd be so again. Yes, threads sometimes do veer off, if no one reins them in. But to be fair, I asked for your help with locating a specific dancer, and that's well removed from whether other clients had been rude to you or other dancers, or specifically whether Kerry/Nicky's clients had been rude. I agree with you that if you or other dancers were mistreated, that's not right and that it's a topic that's independently worthy of discussion. But your low-key shade on Kerry/Nicky's clients (of which I am not one, as I've never even met the guy) was also petty, even if it did touch upon a legitimate issue. They're not mutually exclusive propositions.

 

You don't know me, so you don't know that I give props to those who execute shade and pettiness (i.e., from one Queen B to another). I sincerely think it's hilarious, and that you did so well. It was not meant to be an insult. I just didn't want the thread to devolve into something unruly because no dancer is responsible for how some of his clients may act towards others, and I thought there was zero chance that the worst of these clients would even see your complaint, much less care about it. I tried to use humor and flattery to defuse a situation and prevent another forum war between pros and clients. I'm sorry that this has turned so sour between us, as that was not my intention. If you'd like to discuss this more via private conversation, please reach out, because I'm afraid that this has turned into something bad that I never intended. For the second time, I am sorry that I offended you.

[+ BigRic]

Blah blah blah. Although I think your heart is in the right place, the means via which to "reach out" for a private conversation with me are available now and were available nine months ago. That onus is on your shoulders not mine.

 

So typical of a variety of discussion fora. You've publically taken issue with my comments and are now inviting me to a private conversation? Bill Cosby voice: Riiiiight.

Edited March 13, 2018 by BigRic

[Strafe13]

Blah blah blah. Although I think your heart is in the right place, the means via which to "reach out" for a private conversation with me are available now and were available nine months ago. That onus is on your shoulders not mine. So typical of a variety of discussion fora. You've publically taken issue with my comments and are now inviting me to a private conversation? Bill Cosby voice: Riiiiight.

 

I didn't think I needed to reach out to you privately nine months ago when I first started this thread, since asking about escorts who've fallen off the radar is the kind of post I thought should be public, in case others might be looking for the same guy. I also didn't take serious issue with your first post calling out clients, but your defensive retorts to my humorous response indicate that there's something more afoot that we could discuss to smooth things over. I'll reach out privately now, on the assumption that your invitation is sincere, notwithstanding the tone of your last post.

[+ BigRic]

Blah blah blah.

[natmas02]

Yeaaaah - I don't know how this post devolved to this level, but both of y'all need to chill.

[Strafe13]

Yeaaaah - I don't know how this post devolved to this level, but both of y'all need to chill.

 

I've tried, but after I attempted to apologize via private conversation, the site told me that I can't start a private conversation with @BigRic. I've also publicly apologized twice now on this thread. I've tried to chill as much as possible, but there's nothing more I can do.

Edited March 13, 2018 by Strafe13

[CraigS]

After reading this thread of comments, I came to the conclusion that I would never hire BigRic for his services.

[+ BigRic]

After reading this thread of comments, I came to the conclusion that I would never hire BigRic for his services.

 

Nice try, asshole. I've been on here for years, traveled all over the country and seen good and not so good dancers and escorts do Adonis in multiple cities for years. If you haven't found and hired me already from this board, there's arguably little likelihood that you would do so based upon thread comments. If you wanted to be a client, you would be already. So proudly trumpeting herein how disinterested you are means little to nothing other than "shade."

 

The site doesn't really work that way for client development IMO. What it DOES do is empower cunts like you to do exactly what you just did: Sassily say you wouldn't hire someone in a thread about someone you're already interested in.

 

Here's a much better example of "petty" behavior.

 

Fanboy.

Edited March 13, 2018 by BigRic

[CraigS]

Nice try, asshole. I've been on here for years, traveled all over the country and seen good and not so good dancers and escorts do Adonis in multiple cities for years. If you haven't found and hired me already from this board, there's arguably little likelihood that you would do so based upon thread comments. If you wanted to be a client, you would be already. So proudly trumpeting herein how disinterested you are means little to nothing.

 

The site doesn't really work that way for client development IMO. What it DOES do is empower cunts like you to do exactly what you just did: Sassily say you wouldn't hire someone in a thread about someone you're already interested in.

 

Here's a much better example of "petty" behavior.

 

Fanboy.

The first 3 words of your reply to my comment, BigRic, give true indication of who the real asshole is in this thread.