In-Call at a questionable location

[Electra225]

An escort that has a decent reputation and that I have talked with on the phone a number of times as well as exchanged emails, is visiting my town. We agreed to meet, but he just told me in our most recent telephone call that he is staying, and hosting, in a hotel that is pretty questionable in terms of safety, cleanliness, and quality. This is to the point where I do not feel at all comfortable meeting him there. I've let him know this, but have not cancelled the appointment, but, rather, suggested that I host out meeting. If he cannot (or will not) meet at my location, am I right to cancel the appointment completely? He seems like a nice and honest person, but I just do not feel at all comfortable with the meeting location.

[+ azdr0710]

if he has a good reputation here on the forum and in reviews, go for it and don't let fear rule your life......to be brutally honest, nothing personal, but you're sounding like a wimp.....did he volunteer that the hotel is in a not-so-good area or, being a local, did you only realize it when he offered the name of it?

 

I've mentioned this before, but a well-known dude with a peerless reputation whom I've met with many times is frugal when traveling......at one meeting spot on the wrong side of Hollywood, he called me ahead to be careful when driving there.......another meeting spot was across the street from the state mental hospital - a famously rough area in my hometown.....no worries......we joke about it

 

go for it.....

 

however, if the location is too much for you, you can certainly ask if he'll do an outcall (offer extra gas money!)......and, if you must, you can cancel well ahead of time and cite your reason for doing so

[+ purplekow]

Unlike AZDR who apparently will go anywhere from battle zones to insane asylums to meet the man of the moment, I think you should feel safe when are going to have a relaxing time. There are ways you can go to a bad neighborhood and feel safer. Plan your meeting for the daylight hours. Use hotel parking, or failing that, get there early to get a parking place near the hotel. Carry only the things you need with you. Have the escort walk you back to your car. In the end however, if you feel threatened, leave. No piece of ass is worth piece of mind.

[LaffingBear]

Well... this forum is probably not going to be helpful. My advice is the opposite.

 

If your instincts tell you not to do something, dont do it. (Caveat: what is questionable? Are you certain about the hotel? Ive seen excellent escorts in budget hotels at the edge of sketchy neighborhoods... but the facility and room itself was fine. Can you go check the place out?)

 

If you're certain you don't want to go there, don't go.

 

Know yourself. Even if he delivers on everything promised, if you're going to be distracted by safety and cleanliness concerns, you wont achieve maximum satisfaction.

 

Give him the extra money he charges for outcalls. If you have safety concerns about using your home... go pick him up at his fleabag... you'll get a sense of him on the way back to your place.

[Moondance]

...I do not feel at all comfortable meeting him there. I've let him know this, but have not cancelled the appointment, but, rather, suggested that I host our meeting.

You have voiced your concern and proposed a reasonable alternative that (a.) confirms your interest in seeing the escort and (b.) promises a nicer venue for your time together. Either he comes to you, or you offer your regrets.

If your instincts tell you not to do something, don't do it.

[whipped guy]

Well I have been in this situation, and one needs to assess the totality of the situation... basically what PK mentions such as time of day, ability to access the area safely, making a decision to conceal any cash etc. In my opinion, safety would be the main concern and indeed I did once decide not to hire a guy a number of years ago when I did a preliminary check of the neighborhood where he was located. My only option at the time was a nighttime appointment and I decided that it would not be worth the risk in an area where getting a cab would be difficult not to mention walking the streets late at night.

 

As for cleanliness, even if the guy were staying at the Ritz by the time you got there the room might not be in pristine condition. Plus I've been to multiple guy's places over the years where they were not exactly June Clever when it came to housekeeping. That is often par for the course. It really makes me laugh, because think of where your tongue might be as an example... that is think twice about the situation.

 

If all of the above are concerns and the guy is hot as hell, and something tells me that he is , then I would try to arrange hosting. Either that or you might miss the opportunity.

 

Bottom line: in everything we all have or limits and comfort levels and if the whole situation is going to bother you to the extent that you will not be able to relax and enjoy the ride then nix it... and so be it... and move on.... Plus at times for their own peace of mind and safety one does need to think with their brain and not their dick.

[gregkidman]

Tell us the hotel and location. That may help. Forum members may recognize the place and let you know if your concerns are real or nothing to worry about.

[Deadlift1]

Strap on a nut and Uber it.

[+ nycman]

Strap on a nut and Uber it.

 

I agree. Strap one on and buy a pair.

 

Then again..."I'm a New Yorker...fears my life"

[MartyB]

I've been with escorts where the size of their apartment was incredibly tiny or the place was a bit of a mess the location was not my favorite area of town but none of that mattered because the escort made our session so hot and sexy all of those things became irrelevant. I can't host. Manhattan is a very expensive place to live I take that into consideration. I take subways all over town and into Brooklyn. Not a problem. As others have stated of it will prevent you from enjoying the experience move on for both of you.

[marylander1940]

Tell us the hotel and location. That may help. Forum members may recognize the place and let you know if your concerns are real or nothing to worry about.

 

Exactly!

 

@Electra225 is the escort staying at a Travelodge in the highway or in a dangerous neighborhood?

[marylander1940]

I've been with escorts where the size of their apartment was incredibly tiny or the place was a bit of a mess the location was not my favorite area of town but none of that mattered because the escort made our session so hot and sexy all of those things became irrelevant. I can't host. Manhattan is a very expensive place to live I take that into consideration. I take subways all over town and into Brooklyn. Not a problem. As others have stated of it will prevent you from enjoying the experience move on for both of you.

 

I understand your point, in NYC everything is possible because is s different world. I don't mind a small place but if it's his business and he's hosting he should clean room or at least put things away.

 

I don't like visiting someone and seeing a messy room with clothes all over the floor makes me wonder if that reflects other issues in his life, I can't help hiring guys who at least apparently have their lives together and being messy would raise a red flag. I also feel I'm in a meth house.

 

 

[LaffingBear]

I've been with escorts where the size of their apartment was incredibly tiny or the place was a bit of a mess....

 

Stirs a memory. After plans with another escort fell apart, made last minute plans with a guy in a tiny studio in SF Hayes Valley. He wasn't as advertised. Then the bed was a mattress in his closet. He spoke of roiding to add mass. As we undressed, a hug resulted in a sticky, squishy result. The roids had produced such bad "backne".. my hug resulted in a disgusting discharge.

 

I was dressed and out of there faster than than Clark Kent in a phone booth.

 

Off topic for location concerns, I know. But I'm old, and sometimes memories triggered result in rambling.

[MartyB]

I understand your point, in NYC everything is possible because is s different world. I don't mind a small place but if it's his business and he's hosting he should clean room or at least put things away.

 

I don't like visiting someone and seeing a messy room with clothes all over the floor makes me wonder if that reflects other issues in his life, I can't help hiring guys who at least apparently have their lives together and being messy would raise a red flag. I also feel I'm in a meth house.

 

 

I get it when the place is a complete mess. It is a minimal thing to have a decent place but as long as it's clean with fresh sheets I'm ready to go.

[MartyB]

Stirs a memory. After plans with another escort fell apart, made last minute plans with a guy in a tiny studio in SF Hayes Valley. He wasn't as advertised. Then the bed was a mattress in his closet. He spoke of roiding to add mass. As we undressed, a hug resulted in a sticky, squishy result. The roids had produced such bad "backne".. my hug resulted in a disgusting discharge.

 

I was dressed and out of there faster than than Clark Kent in a phone booth.

 

Off topic for location concerns, I know. But I'm old, and sometimes memories triggered result in rambling.

I saw an escort on the west side of Manhattan who had a studio apartment with a "loft" bed. When we "fucked" my feet were literally on the ceiling and when I rode him had t

Stirs a memory. After plans with another escort fell apart, made last minute plans with a guy in a tiny studio in SF Hayes Valley. He wasn't as advertised. Then the bed was a mattress in his closet. He spoke of roiding to add mass. As we undressed, a hug resulted in a sticky, squishy result. The roids had produced such bad "backne".. my hug resulted in a disgusting discharge.

 

I was dressed and out of there faster than than Clark Kent in a phone booth.

 

Off topic for location concerns, I know. But I'm old, and sometimes memories triggered result in rambling.

One of my favorite escorts had a studio apartment with a "loft" bed. When we "fucked" my feet were literally on the ceiling. It was amazing. Great memories.

[MartyB]

Sorry for the double post.

[marylander1940]

I saw an escort on the west side of Manhattan who had a studio apartment with a "loft" bed. When we "fucked" my feet were literally on the ceiling and when I rode him had t

 

One of my favorite escorts had a studio apartment with a "loft" bed. When we "fucked" my feet were literally on the ceiling. It was amazing. Great memories.

 

 

One of my best hookups ever when I was young was with a guy who had the messy room I have ever seen in my life... but it was a hookup not a hire. I literally had to remove things from his bed.

 

I got time also Americans didn't collect stuff like they do now, I wonder whatever happened to him maybe he got his life together.

[LaffingBear]

Worst Ever Massage

[+ bashful]

if he has a good reputation here on the forum and in reviews, go for it and don't let fear rule your life......to be brutally honest, nothing personal, but you're sounding like a wimp.....did he volunteer that the hotel is in a not-so-good area or, being a local, did you only realize it when he offered the name of it?

 

I've mentioned this before, but a well-known dude with a peerless reputation whom I've met with many times is frugal when traveling......at one meeting spot on the wrong side of Hollywood, he called me ahead to be careful when driving there.......another meeting spot was across the street from the state mental hospital - a famously rough area in my hometown.....no worries......we joke about it

 

go for it.....

 

however, if the location is too much for you, you can certainly ask if he'll do an outcall (offer extra gas money!)......and, if you must, you can cancel well ahead of time and cite your reason for doing so

 

 

If it’s the well-known dude I’m thinking of, we recently met for the first time when he was in town. He hosted at a hotel near the airport, on the fringe of an industrial area I know well, so I had no reservations. Surprisingly, it was the same hotel I lived in for a week, waiting for my apartment to be available, when I first moved to town for my new job 30 years ago. I told him I’ve come full circle. It was brand new then, and still is a good hotel, nothing fancy, but still safe, and clean. I’d meet him there again, or anywhere.

 

Edit---Forgot to tell this little story. When I arrived, I parked at the side door that he said would be open. When leaving, I walked outside, and my car was gone (with my ID and house keys inside). I froze. Scared, I began to walk to lobby to see if it was towed, or stolen. Then I realized, I had parked on the other side. Walked back in, and out the other door, and there was my car.

[Deadlift1]

What does that have to do with the price of rice in China?

[+ azdr0710]

What does that have to do with the price of rice in China?

 

check around some of the other threads and see how far they also wander....this one took an unusually long time to do it (19 posts!)

[bobchitown]

I once went to meet an escort at what turned out to be mostly an SRO. His place was clean enough but I had like a hundred eyes watching me as I approached the building and walked through the lobby. Creepy.

 

There is an apartment in Chicago that is apparently shared by a whole bunch of massage guys (won't call them Masseurs) again clean enough but in a very odd building. I wound up there twice before I learned, and now just completely avoid ads that show that general location. The building is odd and the guys only marginally as promised.