could a client turn into a stalker?

[Yeison]

I'm sure many of you wonder the same, but let me tell you all my recent experience with a client that ended up being my stalker.

 

I met a client recently 3 month ago, I will not say his location or name for his privacy but this client used to fly me every 15 days just to spend an overnight with me, thanks universe he does not live too far from NY, 50 mins fly does not kill nobody lol, this guy is very sweet and charming, I used to love to spend time in his beautiful house but I think he can turn a little bit possessive, I met him 6 times total, I think our business relationship was turning into a very sentimental relationship at least for him, he started calling me every single day to ask me what am doing where if i have seen any clients yet, he was getting into my personal life too bad and i saw that as a sing that i had to move on and let this client go so i had to blocked him.

 

5 days later... the client is sending me Facebook request and i do not know how the hell did he found out my real name, scary right? he started following me on Instagram and adding my closest friends too and now i'm so worry because of this men, i don't like feel I'm being persecuted by some maniac.

 

I would love to find someone that can get to love me and help me to grow to be successful 'Sugar daddy arrangement' but not someone like this guy, that is scary.

 

Should i be careful of this man?

what can i do to Get rid of him forever without getting him as an enemy?

should i watch where i'm going from now on?

 

Hope any of you can tell me what to do in such embarrassing situation because i need freedom.

[+ nycman]

Like most scabs...just ignore it...and it will eventually go away.

[Yeison]

Like most scabs...just ignore it...and it will eventually go away.

i do but he is becoming annoying and insulting me all the time calling me bicth and stuff like that, little things like that is what makes an escort to quit escorting.

[+ sniper]

It may be too late for this now, but a frank conversation about boundaries could have possibly let him down easier. Of course that may not have made a difference but if you'd seen him that many times you should, IMO, feel comfortable saying, "hey sorry but I can't be in constant contact."

[Yeison]

It may be too late for this now, but a frank conversation about boundaries could have possibly let him down easier. Of course that may not have made a difference but if you'd seen him that many times you should, IMO, feel comfortable saying, "hey sorry but I can't be in constant contact."

i called him to have a very polite conversation with him but that when he got really mad, he called me bad names and also tagged all escorts as trash guys that always do the same to him, i really think he has issues, i don't want him as my enemy because i hate having enemies that can do something to me.

[+ José Soplanucas]

Block him, ignore him, and be patient. Eventually his obsession with you will fade and he will refocus his energies in his next victim.

[+ GregM]

Block him, ignore him, and be patient. Eventually his obsession with you will fade and he will refocus his energies in his next victim.

 

Do the above and document any time he tries to contact you. There is no such thing as too much documentation if you feel you might be in danger. Oh and be sure to tell him in writing or text not to contact you in any way. Be firm and be strong.

 

Hugs,

Greg

[+ not2rowdy]

Here's a previous thread that may have some additional ideas for you:

https://www.companyofmen.org/threads/how-to-handle-a-persistent-stalker.115688/#post-1119015

[Yeison]

Do the above and document any time he tries to contact you. There is no such thing as too much documentation if you feel you might be in danger. Oh and be sure to tell him in writing or text not to contact you in any way. Be firm and be strong.

 

Hugs,

Greg

I'm always very careful with anything that comes out of my mouth, i know perfectly my rights so its hard to fool me, anytime i meet with someone i ask the two simple questions, also let them know that the donation given is for the time he got from me, remember we can never charge for sex, we do it if our date is agree with that and we both wants to do it but there is never such exchange of money from clients to scorts because its illegal but of course we have a rate for our time.

[BaronArtz]

Just tell him you found somebody younger and far richer than he is ... he will understand.

[Good Grief]

I'm always very careful with anything that comes out of my mouth.

 

If it was deleted, why are you bringing it up? Be very careful, you're treading on thin ice.

[caliguy]

 

I would love to find someone that can get to love me and help me to grow to be successful 'Sugar daddy arrangement' but not someone like this guy, that is scary.

In the escorting world there's a saying. You pay them to leave. Everything is clear cut at the least. Playing this pretend I'll be your boyfriend for a price has many problems built in. Namely this. The guys deluded and pathetic. Nothing you can do about it though. Just block him as best you can and move on.

[mike carey]

It may be too late for this now, but a frank conversation about boundaries could have possibly let him down easier. Of course that may not have made a difference but if you'd seen him that many times you should, IMO, feel comfortable saying, "hey sorry but I can't be in constant contact."

+1

Block him, ignore him, and be patient. Eventually his obsession with you will fade and he will refocus his energies in his next victim.

But since the first approach didn't work, this is the way to go. Social media, phones, they all allow you to block people.

[MassageDrew]

I'm sure. It's even worse when that person has your contact info. It's like when you go on a date once and they think your boyfriends. I have been brutally upfront at times. Is it mean, sure. But I've learned enough from my youth that even ignoring it gives them some form of glimmer of hope to keep hanging onto something that isn't there.

[MichiganMan]

REALLY....you don't know how he found you on FaceBook? Took me less than two minutes to find you...and I'm not even interested!!

[Yeison]

Eventually he will disappear, it just takes time to find another guy and RM has a lot so he will get her fantasy back again but not with me.

[Yeison]

REALLY....you don't know how he found you on FaceBook? Took me less than two minutes to find you...and I'm not even interested!!

It's cool you are not, too each its own.

[Yeison]

In the escorting world there's a saying. You pay them to leave. Everything is clear cut at the least. Playing this pretend I'll be your boyfriend for a price has many problems built in. Namely this. The guys deluded and pathetic. Nothing you can do about it though. Just block him as best you can and move on.

They must understand that this is just an arrangement.

[Chuckball]

Eventually he will disappear, it just takes time to find another guy and RM has a lot so he will get her fantasy back again but not with me.

I agree it is probably best to block his calls. But if you do meet up or speak together again I suggest you be straight forward and tell him his stalking behaviour has upset you and it is difficult to tolerate this activity. I suspect he has some deep seated self loathing and thinks you are rejecting him for some physical quality or that you have found someone new and you are not appreciative of all he has provided. In short, be up front and tell him that you have shut him from your life because he is stalking you and you will not continue any relationship because of his bad behavior.

[+ sync]

i called him to have a very polite conversation with him but that when he got really mad, he called me bad names and also tagged all escorts as trash guys that always do the same to him, i really think he has issues, i don't want him as my enemy because i hate having enemies that can do something to me.

 

His statement that guys always do the same to him suggests that this is a repetitive behavior for him. As others have suggested, if you cease any further communication with him, it is very likely his fire will extinguish itself before long, and he will move on to his next prey. I have a sympathy for him, but the help he needs is not available from escorts.

[+ ArVaGuy]

Facebook scans your contacts and matches email and cellphone numbers. You should separate your social media and your escort email into two separate accounts. Make sure they are unique with strong passwords.

 

I also advise reviewing your Facebook security settings and strengthen them to the max level. You need to have better control of who views your profile.