No shows??

[Kody S]

Open question to anyone who cares to weigh in... what is your experience with masseurs you've hired but who don't show up, don't communicate any reason, and don't respond to inquiries about "What happened?"

 

I consider myself very fortunate to have met some great guys, make some new friends and receive great massages from masseurs I've hired through the years. I've normally had very good experiences.

 

Recently, I set up an appointment with a masseur who was recommended on this site (I usually always check here before I hire). We confirmed a time at my place, an amount, all that. He confirmed via text he would see me at the confirmed time. The day of, I texted to reconfirm, but didn't hear back. Not that unusual because I thought if he couldn't make it, he would say so. So the time comes and he doesn't show, no explanation, no text or call. I sent a polite text asking what happened, sensitive to something legit could have happened. But no response. Nada. Zip. Zero.

 

Is this more common than I think? It was just weird. But there could be a thousand reasons why...

[Jose Anmo]

I've had similar experience with someone who's a highly rated on Masseurfinder. Waited outside for 10 minutes in the freezing cold before leaving. Found out later that the ratings in the site cannot be trusted because others had similar experience.

[Dmitri]

Kody......your post hit a sore spot with me......their is ABSOLUTELY no excuse for what you described......you sound like a really sweet guy by giving him the benefit of the doubt by sending a "polite text to see what happened"......I would not have been so understanding.....I have a ZERO tolerance policy for this type of behavior......let's reverse it.....how do you think he responds to "no shows"? .....I bet he gets pissed off!......which is how we should be!......it is a total lack of respect for the other person's time.......in my situations I have been lucky........maybe 2 no shows a year ( out of maybe 20 massages a year).......but the ones that do not show I send a text telling them it is NOT okay and I will NOT be contacting them again......and I also leave them a voicemail telling them how RUDE it was that they did even have the decency to let me know they would not be keeping the appointment.........all they have to do is just let you know they will not be showing up........but in your case to not even respond to your "polite text" and to ignore you?? WTF?? Without US they would have no business,,,,,NO EXCUSE!!

[Kody S]

Dmitri! Thank you! You said it. It takes SO little effort to just say you can't make it for whatever reason. But just nothing is hard to imagine what they are thinking (I guess they aren't), especially when the person in the first confirmation says (and I quote) "you won't be disappointed."

[Despardo]

It happens, although to me not often. I had one in Zagreb. In Seattle, I had one who disappeared on the day we were supposed to meet after multiple confirmations. He was from out of town and later (much later) emailed me that he had had a family emergency which is a legitimate excuse--whether it is true or not is really immaterial, at least the escort had an idea of what would fly and and did not want to burn bridges. Works for me.

[+ nycman]

It literally takes less than a minute to text.

 

"Sorry, something came up and I can't make it today".

 

And yes, strangely sometimes even well reviewed and well known

Escorts and Massuers fail to extend this common courtesy.

 

No communication = no second chance in my book.

 

Unfortunately they don't even know what an amazing client they just lost.....

[oz_carter]

Like many of us, I have been stood up by an escort/masseur a few times but this one stood out. I texted him after he failed to arrive at the agreed time. His response: it is raining and he is not in the mood to travel to my place. What a lousy excuse for not bothering to show up!!

[MscleLovr]

+1

 

I tend to treat all arrangements with young men as provisional. Strangely I find that guys 20-24 have better manners and are much better at using technology wisely. I find slightly older guys (25-35) less good at communicating in a timely fashion.

[+ beethoven]

There is no excuse for a failure to explain a no-show. Yes, there are emergencies, such as illness, but anyone can text or call or email later to explain why. I have had this happen to me (infrequently), and the no-shows were apologetic and sincere. I didn't even think of rejecting their apologies, and have continued our excellent relationships.

I have also had occasional no-shows with no call or explanation (almost always on the first visit), and I didn't even bother to rebuke them or to inquire why. I just moved on, and would suggest you do the same.

On a sweltering day last July, on my third or fourth visit to a masseur in Hell's Kitchen, I stood in the hall, dripping sweat, ringing his bell and pounding on the door. After five minutes, I left. Since I had seen him before, I emailed him, asking where the hell he was. He replied that he had an appointment for lunch in the neighborhood, and he lost track of time, and missed me by a few minutes, but would still like to see me again. I replied, "You have to do better than that." He emailed me with an apology, and I made another appointment with him. When I saw him, he barely mentioned the incident, but I chose to never see him again.

These guys charge plenty of money, and their job is to please the client. If they don't....there are other fish in the sea.

[PaulM]

I had an experience a few weeks ago, where after a fair amount of back and forth and reconfirmations, when I arrived he asked if we could change the time to later (via text). I was pissed, but text back with my availability, but no answer....I waited in front (fortunately SoCal so bright sunny, warm day!), but no response. Given our friendly back and forth, I later texted him and asked why he flaked. He responded in about 12 hours and sincerely apologized and said he had a family emergency that he had to take care of. I don't know why, but I believed him and he asked if I would reschedule - again apologizing. I usually wouldn't, but did and boy am I glad I did. One of the cutest guys and hottest massages I've had in years. All circumstances are different and I think in the end you just need to go with your gut.

[MassageDrew]

Haven't you had a friend who stood you up without any notice? It happens to everyone. I had one the said he's running late but is already on the way in an Uber. Never showed up. The next day he kept texting to apologize and find some way to explain himself. I say fuck it. I never responded. Nobody is irreplaceable. I posted before on another thread that I'm very trusting, and I am. But break it once and you're done.

[handiacefailure]

No excuse for it. And if he has a listing on daddys or other reviews sites I hope you leave a review as to what happened as well as on this site if there is a thread on him. I have had escorts seem interested and stop chatting as soon as I set a firm date and time (escorts in Detroit and Key West are the worst) but never had a confirmed apt show up. If I set up something before hand when I am travelling to a city I will email or text to make sure we are still on if they haven't messaged me first. One time I drove over 90 minutes to meet an escort who claimed he was relocating to (this was a tiny city in Michigan and wasn't there long) and he texted me when I was almost there saying he had to run to the post office before they closed (we had a Saturday noonish apt) for his business and send his coworker on an errand (turned out the place we were playing out was a former retail store in a strip mall being used for some kind of shipping company that ticked me off as well since it wasn't much fun to play there) and then didn't perform for the entire hour claming he had a meeting scheduled soon and then had the balls to state that the quoted price didn't include graduaity after I paid him with no tip (I normally tip but refused to in that case).

 

I had a massage therapist get sick and not have the courtesy to text me when I was in Chicago last time (total therapeutic massage, nothing erotic) but I had been going to the guy for quite a few years. I was pretty pissed because I got up early and took the train for my appt. I texted him stating I was there and head nothing until 10 minutes later saying he was sick and forgot to set his alarm and will comp my massage next time I'm in Chicago. Fortunately I had a facial set up with someone else that works in his office for after my appointment with her and she was nearby and got me in earlier.

 

I'm sure escorts have no shows as well though.

[+ oldNbusted]

I'm in the camp that unless the person got knocked out, there really isn't an excuse for a no call|txt|email/no show. Are you trying to build a professional business or just playing at being a grown up?