The client who offers the Escort regular work...and other things

[Mocha]

I know someone who seems very well intentioned. He gives lot of compliments and generous overtures. However, over several meets, he seems to push the idea of me getting into another industry that I'm not at all interested in. All the while saying how he "sees me being perfect for:"

 

Initially he referred me to look into a major hotel brand he works for, that owns timeshares and has connections to the hiring personnel and job fairs. I looked into it, checked available jobs and though I am still keeping a lookout in case something good opens up, I don't have an interest in getting into the service industry. But lately, when we go out to restaraunts, it's then suggesting how great I'd be as a bartender, and then going so far as to even ask the waiter if they enjoy their job, how easy it is to get onto a certain position, etc. One waiter told my client, he's been trying to get a bartender position for 6 years. Yet my client thinks I can superman from Escort to bartender in a prime restaraunt in no time.

 

At one point I felt he really was looking out for me, but I explained to him that I have worked in resturaunts long before and have no intention of going back. I hated getting into my car with food stuck to the bottom of my shoe. It also kind of rubs me wrong that he keeps pushing the service industry role onto me. I told him also that I no longer like working with large groups of people in a setting like that (unless we're all fucking in a big orgy).

 

It's similar to an X friend who kept pushing the "you should become a flight attendant" thing to me, just because he recently got hired by American. Why? Why are you so interested in me doing something else? If that's what you want to do, do it. I'm doing me. If I wanted to do that I'd of done it. On top of that, they don't even tell the whole story. They dish out suggestions, but don't actually know if I would medically or physically qualify for or even be into what the job entails. And it makes me feel pressured because if I were to apply and get turned down, I'd be looking stupid and they'd have nothing to say. Or just to make me feel like they have something I don't (mainly in the case of the X friend). I wasn't walking around suggesting my friend to become an escort, even when I was carrying around $1,000 cash in less than 24 hours. Something I'm sure he isn't getting picking up trash and cleaning bathrooms on some germ infested plane.

 

Going back to the original client, he is generous to a point...but his suggestive offer to take me shopping didn't come to fruition (not that I at all was waiting in the wings of it since Im a total shopaholic anyway), and when we meet I don't get the amount of money he knows I need to actually make moving 1,800 miles away involves and starting a job actually takes. He's also bi/married, so tends to have to pay a little here and there to avoid making things too suspicious. However, he told me he's really considering becoming full time gay.

 

I'm just wondering if others have come across this before and how they managed it. I don't mind people making suggestions, long as it's understood that if made there has to be some real consideration and real assessment to actually making it happen.

[+ sync]

I would go with a "clean sweep." "I appreciate you thinking of me, and if I ever consider it, I'll let you know...but for now it's totally off the table."

[Larstrup]

Beware of people who believe they know what's best for you and your life. That can sometimes include ones-self.

[MiamiLooker]

Maybe he has the impression that you're not happy with or not doing so well in your current occupation. Does he read the forums?

[+ Kufrol]

An escort friend told me he can make in one hour what would take him at least 20 in other jobs, and he claims he's already in the service industry. As for advising people, I try to follow once is a suggestion, twice serves as a reminder, and three or more times becomes nagging. Nobody likes nagging.

[caliguy]

 

It's similar to an X friend who kept pushing the "you should become a flight attendant" thing to me, just because he recently got hired by American. Why? Why are you so interested in me doing something else? If that's what you want to do, do it. I'm doing me. If I wanted to do that I'd of done it. On top of that, they don't even tell the whole story. They dish out suggestions, but don't actually know if I would medically or physically qualify for or even be into what the job entails. And it makes me feel pressured because if I were to apply and get turned down, I'd be looking stupid and they'd have nothing to say. Or just to make me feel like they have something I don't (mainly in the case of the X friend). I wasn't walking around suggesting my friend to become an escort, even when I was carrying around $1,000 cash in less than 24 hours. Something I'm sure he isn't getting picking up trash and cleaning bathrooms on some germ infested plane.

 

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You might want to reconsider that. The average American Airlines Flight Attendant salary is $40,183. Looks like Southwest pays the best though at $57,090. Then there's the travel benefits.

 

I would take advantage of any of these opportunities. There's going to be day when you want to return to the working world and they're going to be asking some pretty inconvenient questions like what have you been doing during these years. Escorting unfortunately doesn't count on your resume.

[Mydavid]

I know some escorts stopped business and went for other jobs. I guess they were fed up with escorting.

[caliguy]

I know some escorts stopped business and went for other jobs. I guess they were fed up with escorting.

Escorting in many ways is like a normal job. You're expected to show up and do your job of coarse. There's scheduling, dressing appropriately, skilled at conversation and the ability to anticipate different environments and people. Be pleasant through it all and make the client happy. Basically an actor, psychologist, and a porn star. Just like a job if you don't do it well you are subject to being fired through bad reviews.

[BallerBoy]

This guy sounds like another "Captain save-a-hoe."

They typically push career options in front of escorts as if they're only concerned for your well being, but the truth is; they're concerned about their image and ego. While you may satisfy him sexually, you don't fulfill in other ways. Perhaps his ego needs more from you beyond your designation as an Escort.

 

- that's my Dr. Phill assessment of the situation.

[YoungAD]

Why find a new job when you can be perfectly miserable at your current one?

[marylander1940]

Beware of people who believe they know what's best for you and your life...

 

Most of the time they're hypocritical fuckups.

[marylander1940]

I know some escorts stopped business and went for other jobs. I guess they were fed up with escorting.

 

Some folks don't have the stomach and just move on, some have the door hit them in the face so many times they realized is not for them. I've met many escorts who retired with nothing but the stories, they didn't save any money at all.

 

A few escort till they're in their 40's or 50's because they love doing or they just want more money for their future.

 

 

Escorting in many ways is like a normal job. You're expected to show up and do your job of coarse. There's scheduling, dressing appropriately, skilled at conversation and the ability to anticipate different environments and people. Be pleasant through it all and make the client happy. Basically an actor, psychologist, and a porn star. Just like a job if you don't do it well you are subject to being fired through bad reviews.

 

Yes, I agree with you but unlike most 9-5 jobs is highly paid yet unpredictable, there are good days and bad ones, great weeks and a few without any money. It's a job that allows you to have a lot of free time for a hobby or anything else, but when a client calls and wants something NOW... whatever you're doing has to stop because HE might be the only client that day.

 

Don't forget about going to the gym, that's part of the job too but most of us do it anyways.

 

Years ago I watched an interview of a female escort who included as part of her job putting on makeup.... I'm sorry but that was just too pushy.

[marylander1940]

I know someone who seems very well intentioned. He gives lot of compliments and generous overtures. However, over several meets, he seems to push the idea of me getting into another industry that I'm not at all interested in. All the while saying how he "sees me being perfect for:"

 

Initially he referred me to look into a major hotel brand he works for, that owns timeshares and has connections to the hiring personnel and job fairs. I looked into it, checked available jobs and though I am still keeping a lookout in case something good opens up, I don't have an interest in getting into the service industry. But lately, when we go out to restaraunts, it's then suggesting how great I'd be as a bartender, and then going so far as to even ask the waiter if they enjoy their job, how easy it is to get onto a certain position, etc. One waiter told my client, he's been trying to get a bartender position for 6 years. Yet my client thinks I can superman from Escort to bartender in a prime restaraunt in no time.

 

At one point I felt he really was looking out for me, but I explained to him that I have worked in resturaunts long before and have no intention of going back. I hated getting into my car with food stuck to the bottom of my shoe. It also kind of rubs me wrong that he keeps pushing the service industry role onto me. I told him also that I no longer like working with large groups of people in a setting like that (unless we're all fucking in a big orgy).

 

It's similar to an X friend who kept pushing the "you should become a flight attendant" thing to me, just because he recently got hired by American. Why? Why are you so interested in me doing something else? If that's what you want to do, do it. I'm doing me. If I wanted to do that I'd of done it. On top of that, they don't even tell the whole story. They dish out suggestions, but don't actually know if I would medically or physically qualify for or even be into what the job entails. And it makes me feel pressured because if I were to apply and get turned down, I'd be looking stupid and they'd have nothing to say. Or just to make me feel like they have something I don't (mainly in the case of the X friend). I wasn't walking around suggesting my friend to become an escort, even when I was carrying around $1,000 cash in less than 24 hours. Something I'm sure he isn't getting picking up trash and cleaning bathrooms on some germ infested plane.

 

But in addition to that, though the client is generous to a point...his offer to take me shopping didn't come to fruition, and when we meet I don't get the amount of money he knows I need to actually make moving 1,800 miles away involves and starting a job actually takes. He's also bi/married, so tends to have to pay a little here and there to avoid making things too suspicious. However, he told me he's really considering becoming full time gay.

 

I'm just wondering if others have come across this before and how they managed it. I don't mind people making suggestions, long as it's understood that if made there has to be some real consideration and real assessment to actually making it happen.

 

Are they control freaks? They do sound a little bit like it...

[+ oldNbusted]

I think denying agency is an insidious form of control, so my only question is how diplomatic I would choose to be when saying 'ain't gonna happen'.

[MartyB]

For escorts that have become regulars of mine where we have had conversations regarding future opportunities I have given opinions. But I've never did what this guy did. I have great respect for escorts. What is being provided is an amazing service. I feel this guy became somewhat insulting. Set ground rules. You don't appear to be shy in expressing your opinions . lol

[jawjateck]

It goes the other way too. Guys, 25 years younger, advising me on what I should do, where I should go, what I should be, what I should believe, how I should live, dress/style, buy, etc etc etc. It's good for a laugh, especially from guys who show no evidence of having their lives together nor have shown evidence of overcoming the tough crap of life.

 

Rock on. Laugh on.

[+ poolboy48220]

It goes the other way too. Guys, 25 years younger, advising me on what I should do, where I should go, what I should be, what I should believe, how I should live, dress/style, buy, etc etc etc. It's good for a laugh, especially from guys who show no evidence of having their lives together nor have shown evidence of overcoming the tough crap of life.

 

Rock on. Laugh on.

That reminds me of a discussion I was having about a co-worker. He's pretty good technically, but a disorganized mess, and pretty oblivious to the people working around him. He's a bit too intrusive about EVERYTHING - you'll ask him for help with something specific, and the technical discussions quickly morph into discussions of his coding philosophy. I know WAY too much about his wife's sleeping habits from his very-loud phone conversations. He tells me I'm too serious and should lighten up at work; I think he should cut down on the joke-telling during 20-person meetings so we can get back to work (they're not good jokes, either). When I was bitching about him, my roommate looked askew and said "You're not open to getting life advice?" I answered "not so much from him".

[Irtwo]

Mocha, if you ever you ever go into another profession, I would suggest writing. Your posts on here are always very well composed, informative, and entertaining. You obviously have a talent in that area. You should try writing a book about your escort experiences.

[MartyB]

Mocha, if you ever you ever go into another profession, I would suggest writing. Your posts on here are always very well composed, informative, and entertaining. You obviously have a talent in that area. You should try writing a book about your escort experiences.

Mocha doesn't need to be defended by me but I like his reading his posts opinions and attitude. There not everyone 's cup of tea but this board is much better with him. Plus he's hot sexy and I bet a great man to be with. Mocha keep it coming babe.

[MikeBiDude]

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