How far can a masseur go?

[Mydavid]

Some guys advertise for both massage and escort, we won't discuss about them.

 

For those guys only offer massage service, how far can they go?

 

For me, I did meet guys, they gave massage nude, allowed mutual touch, jerked you off for a happy ending, but they never got hard, and they didn't kiss or touch any parts of your body with their mouths.

 

What were your experiences?

 

I heard some masseurs who never advertised for escort offered "Full Service" if clients asked, but I never met them. In addition, for those who advertise on both rentmen and rentmasseur, I wonder what they will do if you book an appointment on rentmasseur.

[matt842]

I think your question is really how far will they go. Sometimes, you can infer from an ad that a guy is more about the release than the massage. In those cases, whether the experience is a rub-and-tug or "full service" will come down to the factors @Smurof cited as well as how horny he is, how attracted to you he is, what cues (spoken or unspoken) you get from each other, etc. The experience can vary not only from client to client, but also between massages with the same client.

 

As for the guys whose ads suggest they are offering therapeutic massage, I've learned to expect just that. However, energy/tension sometimes develops during a massage. Where that might go can run the gamut, from some playful talk, to the unexpected happy ending, to the therapist who decides to "get a little more comfortable," to the full service experience. As a therapist I see frequently told me once, he is usually too focused on the massage to think about his clients sexually. However, over a period of a few years, the massages I got from him went from purely therapeutic to somewhat sensual to erotic and beyond. I never asked him for that, it just happened, and we both enjoyed it. We sometimes talk about how and why things progressed the way they did, and we chalk it up to a number of things like the sexual energy that developed between us as well as the chemistry we have. Maybe the most essential element is mutual trust. Most important, he still gives a kick-ass massage and anything else that happens does not interfere with that.

[maninsoma]

I have had masseurs fuck me without negotiating a higher rate (guess they could just tell I wanted it by me sticking my butt up in the air:D), but not many. I have had many more get hard and let me suck on them, sometimes to completion and sometimes not. Fewer masseurs have gone down on me. I have also made out with a few masseurs. But more often than not, what I have experienced with a masseur who advertises "erotic massage" is mutual touch and jerking off.

[tennisjock]

I think your question is really how far will they go. Sometimes, you can infer from an ad that a guy is more about the release than the massage. In those cases, whether the experience is a rub-and-tug or "full service" will come down to the factors @Smurof cited as well as how horny he is, how attracted to you he is, what cues (spoken or unspoken) you get from each other, etc. The experience can vary not only from client to client, but also between massages with the same client.

 

As for the guys whose ads suggest they are offering therapeutic massage, I've learned to expect just that. However, energy/tension sometimes develops during a massage. Where that might go can run the gamut, from some playful talk, to the unexpected happy ending, to the therapist who decides to "get a little more comfortable," to the full service experience. As a therapist I see frequently told me once, he is usually too focused on the massage to think about his clients sexually. However, over a period of a few years, the massages I got from him went from purely therapeutic to somewhat sensual to erotic and beyond. I never asked him for that, it just happened, and we both enjoyed it. We sometimes talk about how and why things progressed the way they did, and we chalk it up to a number of things like the sexual energy that developed between us as well as the chemistry we have. Maybe the most essential element is mutual trust. Most important, he still gives a kick-ass massage and anything else that happens does not interfere with that.

I agree. I go expecting only a massage and go from there...sometimes I just want a legit deep massage and thats it..other times well..I can be hungry for a different expericence. For me its about mutual trust, energy, connection etc if it goes further than a legit massage

[Mydavid]

I have had masseurs fuck me without negotiating a higher rate (guess they could just tell I wanted it by me sticking my butt up in the air:D), but not many. I have had many more get hard and let me suck on them, sometimes to completion and sometimes not. Fewer masseurs have gone down on me. I have also made out with a few masseurs. But more often than not, what I have experienced with a masseur who advertises "erotic massage" is mutual touch and jerking off.

I guess you are sexy and attractive. I, as an Asian, never turned the masseurs on. They didn't get hard even when I stroked their private parts. It was not a good experiences. It was not interesting to play with a flaccid dick, and I also felt very embarrassed for being so unattractive.

[body2body]

I have been seeing masseurs for over 30 years. The first masseur I saw was strictly therapeutic, when he became a Chiropractor, he referred me to another masseur who surprised me with my first "Happy Ending". Then there was a cute furry guy I hired from the pages of Frontiers, he started with a very therapeutic approach, but when he turned me over he brushed one of my nipples and and I became aroused, without missing a beat he hopped on the table and positioned himself on me while he worked my nips like a madman. I saw him frequently for a couple of years, he would never let me kiss him, that was reserved for his partner. Now that I'm older, my current regular gives both a good therapeutic massage, and a very "fun" massage. He will ask which I am in most in need of, and we proceed accordingly.

As with most things, I have found much depends on chemistry, I have also found that if the masseur is making some moves that you find pleasurable, respond with word or some indication that he should continue, and often he will.

[+ poolboy48220]

I have also found that if the masseur is making some moves that you find pleasurable, respond with word or some indication that he should continue, and often he will.

Agreed. A moan or a gasp when he gets close to your ass, or spreading your legs a bit further, is a subtle (or maybe not) way of inviting him to keep going.

[longtime lurker]

I guess you are sexy and attractive. I, as an Asian, never turned the masseurs on. They didn't get hard even when I stroked their private parts. It was not a good experiences. It was not interesting to play with a flaccid dick, and I also felt very embarrassed for being so unattractive.

 

Then again, you may be one of several clients who have touched him in that day and the novelty has worn off.

 

Don't know where you reside, but there are quite a few Caucasian guys (maybe not necessarily masseurs) in Florida whom I have socialized with who are obsessed with Asian guys. Then again, that state is more of a melting pot, at least in urban areas. Unless you have a huge hump on your back, SOMEBODY will be interested in you.

 

You need to find a masseur whom you are just comfortable with, relate well on an intellectual level and become a repeat customer returning for more sessions. You may get a reduced rate this way. Don't expect "spa" to turn into "deli" on the very first session. Yet who knows what may happen on later sessions? If anything does happen, he has to trust that you won't blab about it to the world. What happens behind closed doors must remain behind closed doors.

[Mydavid]

Then again, you may be one of several clients who have touched him in that day and the novelty has worn off.

 

Don't know where you reside, but there are quite a few Caucasian guys (maybe not necessarily masseurs) in Florida whom I have socialized with who are obsessed with Asian guys. Then again, that state is more of a melting pot, at least in urban areas. Unless you have a huge hump on your back, SOMEBODY will be interested in you.

 

You need to find a masseur whom you are just comfortable with, relate well on an intellectual level and become a repeat customer returning for more sessions. You may get a reduced rate this way. Don't expect "spa" to turn into "deli" on the very first session. Yet who knows what may happen on later sessions? If anything does happen, he has to trust that you won't blab about it to the world. What happens behind closed doors must remain behind closed doors.

Thanks for advice.

Actually, I was shy, and he led the whole session. He put my hand on his dick, but he didn't get hard. Before we met, he told me I could suck him, but he never gave a chance when we met. He seemed to do everything mechanically, I am not sure if he can be better if we meet more.

[corymonroe]

Each person can have a totally different experience with a masseur for the same rate paid.

This has been my experience. Massage guys are more inclined to feel out a situation before making any kind of commitment. If you're a guy's type, and you happen to be lying naked on his table with an erection, there's no telling what might happen.

[+ EVdude]

I guess you are sexy and attractive. I, as an Asian, never turned the masseurs on. They didn't get hard even when I stroked their private parts. It was not a good experiences. It was not interesting to play with a flaccid dick, and I also felt very embarrassed for being so unattractive.

I've experienced many a flaccid dick in my time. Don't take it personally! And I do feel some small sense of bait and switch when they advertise with massive hard on pics and only deliver a limp noodle. If he doesn't get stimulated during your massage, reasonable chance that he doesn't for anyone.

[matt842]

Thanks for advice.

Actually, I was shy, and he led the whole session. He put my hand on his dick, but he didn't get hard. Before we met, he told me I could suck him, but he never gave a chance when we met. He seemed to do everything mechanically, I am not sure if he can be better if we meet more.

We've all had massages like that. Like @EVdude said, don't take it personally. I've found that some masseurs forget the details of discussions we had before we met. Like many of us, you found it difficult to remind him once the massage started.

 

This guy sounded like someone you didn't click with. Hopefully, it wasn't one of those that was so unsatisfying that you wanted it to be over. Consider it a learning experience, and don't let it get you down.

[longtime lurker]

Thanks for advice.

Actually, I was shy, and he led the whole session. He put my hand on his dick, but he didn't get hard. Before we met, he told me I could suck him, but he never gave a chance when we met. He seemed to do everything mechanically, I am not sure if he can be better if we meet more.

 

I am surprised he was that forward with you before the session. My first time involving a masseur didn't confirm if there would be any mutual touching at all. I just took the chance and, once there with him alone, asked him what the boundaries were. Probably because I asked permission, he was more willing since I wasn't the grabbing type.

 

Some of us who don't find ourselves physically stimulating do have to bring more to the table by being mentally stimulating. I dunno, say something like "I am not used to being touched by such a masculine Adonis. I don't know how my virginal body can handle all of this..."

 

Going off topic... ha ha!... have you gone to any "clothing optional" beaches before? I never did until two years ago. I just assumed the only guys visiting would be there with their wives and girlfriends. Boy, was I wrong! If a guy is by himself, he is either gay or bored out of his mind in his marriage and left her at home. Just make sure there are no spectators around snooping and eager to report you to the authorities. Then just break into conversation about the weather...

 

If nothing else, both a bath house and a nude beach situation provides you with plenty of other body types to compare and contrast yourself with. Believe me, there is always somebody around who isn't as sexy as you.

[Mydavid]

I am surprised he was that forward with you before the session. My first time involving a masseur didn't confirm if there would be any mutual touching at all. I just took the chance and, once there with him alone, asked him what the boundaries were. Probably because I asked permission, he was more willing since I wasn't the grabbing type.

 

Some of us who don't find ourselves physically stimulating do have to bring more to the table by being mentally stimulating. I dunno, say something like "I am not used to being touched by such a masculine Adonis. I don't know how my virginal body can handle all of this..."

 

Going off topic... ha ha!... have you gone to any "clothing optional" beaches before? I never did until two years ago. I just assumed the only guys visiting would be there with their wives and girlfriends. Boy, was I wrong! If a guy is by himself, he is either gay or bored out of his mind in his marriage and left her at home. Just make sure there are no spectators around snooping and eager to report you to the authorities. Then just break into conversation about the weather...

 

If nothing else, both a bath house and a nude beach situation provides you with plenty of other body types to compare and contrast yourself with. Believe me, there is always somebody around who isn't as sexy as you.

Thank you very much for consoling me in such a nice way! I'm not very disappointed, but just wonder how to find the right person. I always discussed with them beforehand, but it always turned out different, you know, it is very difficult to describe what we really like.

[Nibay]

I never inquire about how far things will/can go when I book a massage. I also am not aggressive and let the masseur take the lead. I am usually pleasantly surprised (sometimes very pleasantly surprised). As others have mentioned it all comes down to chemistry and respect for the masseur. :-)

[corymonroe]

I, as an Asian, never turned the masseurs on. I also felt very embarrassed for being so unattractive.

 

"Attractive" is such a personal observation. People who think of themselves as unattractive generally convey that look in their appearance.

 

"Asian" seems very much a type in the gay community. So many guys are into Asian men, and some are not. Gay men can be very specific about that. Most Asian guys looking for hookups online specifically reference being Asian.

 

Asian guys at my gym seem to get a lot of action in the shower area. And all the guys playing with Asians seem to be non-Asians. The only Asians who experience difficulty playing are the overweight ones, but that seems true of most overweight guys at the gym.

[Mydavid]

"Attractive" is such a personal observation. People who think of themselves as unattractive generally convey that look in their appearance.

 

"Asian" seems very much a type in the gay community. So many guys are into Asian men, and some are not. Gay men can be very specific about that. Most Asian guys looking for hookups online specifically reference being Asian.

 

Asian guys at my gym seem to get a lot of action in the shower area. And all the guys playing with Asians seem to be non-Asians. The only Asians who experience difficulty playing are the overweight ones, but that seems true of most overweight guys at the gym.

Thanks for such a deep analysis. In my case, I like bear type Caucasians, but it seems most of them like the same type guys. I'm not ugly, fat or feminine, I am friendly, considerate, kind, caring and confident, but I'm definitely not bear type.

[phildallas]

Generally, I've found a hand job for me with me touching him and maybe sucking on a not very hard dick is the norm. Only gotten fucked once and a few times I've had guy play with my ass really rough after i hinted that thats what i want. One guy got really hard, got up on the table, and rubbed his cock in my asscrack for a good long time, but no penitreation. He did finish me off with a great blowjob.

 

I have a younger regular guy who gets on one knee while he massages my arm and interesting enough my hand happens to be in a great place to jack him. Gotten him off a time or two, but wish he'd stand and let me finish him off by mouth. But he doesn't go anywhere near my thighs gluts or asshole.

 

In general, Ive found the older, stockier hairyer masseuses are more playful. Prob because I'm closer to their age and they're not continuosly being manhanded by guys who want full on sex, but aren't the masseur's type.

[Mydavid]

Generally, I've found a hand job for me with me touching him and maybe sucking on a not very hard dick is the norm. Only gotten fucked once and a few times I've had guy play with my ass really rough after i hinted that thats what i want. One guy got really hard, got up on the table, and rubbed his cock in my asscrack for a good long time, but no penitreation. He did finish me off with a great blowjob.

 

I have a younger regular guy who gets on one knee while he massages my arm and interesting enough my hand happens to be in a great place to jack him. Gotten him off a time or two, but wish he'd stand and let me finish him off by mouth. But he doesn't go anywhere near my thighs gluts or asshole.

 

In general, Ive found the older, stockier hairyer masseuses are more playful. Prob because I'm closer to their age and they're not continuosly being manhanded by guys who want full on sex, but aren't the masseur's type.

Thanks for sharing!

[Bacon]

I am reminded of a mature but very well built, well hung and well reviewed Latino masseur who provided a massage on a hotel bed rather than a table for around $160. It was only when he was sliding his full body on me with his fully erect (and magnificent) cock gliding between my cheeks that he whispered into my ear that he would penetrate me for $250. I wasn't prepared for and did not expect quite that level of service. And I didn't have that enough cash on me. However, the next time I saw him for a massage . . .

[FLJohn947]

In my experience, it can go as far as intercourse but it really depends on the chemistry you both have or his mood at the time of the session. Chances also increase as you schedule repeat sessions and you both become familiar with each other. I had a few go tos and sessions would vary from very being theurapeutic at times to us ending up on the bed doing whatever. Interesting enough though, kissing is extremely rare, which works for me too as I find that very personal.

[+ poolboy48220]

One masseur kissed me then seemed surprised and very apologetic that he had done that. I pulled him in for another kiss, and it ended up being more than some escort sessions. That's definitely the far end of my bell curve, though.

[Mydavid]

One masseur kissed me then seemed surprised and very apologetic that he had done that. I pulled him in for another kiss, and it ended up being more than some escort sessions. That's definitely the far end of my bell curve, though.

Lucky you! And no doubt you are attractive!

[+ HornyRetiree]

I have had a hot, much younger masseur swallow my cock while I was zoned out! Needless to say I came too and we each took the other's load - went to him until he moved - had a nurse turn masseur who gave excellent massages and took care of my prostate -- one day he climbed up and slid his erection between my cheeks - I invited him in and he fucked me -- coming around to the front of the table so I could see him shoot - from then on he always fucked and sucked me.

 

He moved - most have been mutual oral --- and I am an older Bear - Masseurs all much younger

[+ sniper]

Thanks for such a deep analysis. In my case, I like bear type Caucasians, but it seems most of them like the same type guys. I'm not ugly, fat or feminine, I am friendly, considerate, kind, caring and confident, but I'm definitely not bear type.

 

You know, a lot of these masseurs know others in the biz...you might be able to ask one for a referral for the type you are looking for. Alternately go the escort route if you are more concerned with the sensual element than the massage(and some escorts are/were licensed LMTs).