Too soft for this hobby?

[+ Funguy]

The eternal question - what do those escort guys think ABOUT US?

 

Every single guy i see has a great big smile on his face when i walk in or he walks in. By the smile, the strength, length of our hugs, the giggles we may have, I know who has "missed me" but they all know i see others and it is no sleight to them.

 

Glennnnnnnnnnnn - I know your guys and I also know they all have a great time with you. It's not all looks, or size, or technique/skill of the client which makes it fun for the escort as well. Everyone in the business realizes that, unless exclusivity has been chosen, we all see other guys. We may have favorites, and unfortunately for me all of mine are favorites, they all bring something different to the bed! Something i love or need, or crave, and not necessarily sexual. Sometimes we do the same for them.

 

As far as how many times they get seen - damn, as often as i can for all of them, whether they be home-grown or travelers. And i always look for new blood, but I am very selective because i have all these other terrific guys I have truly enjoyed and can go to. (Damn, another dangling...something!)

 

Simply ENJOY that you are able to do this. What you project to them says it all.

[+ WmClarke]

@glennnn - you are not too soft, you are just a very nice person.

 

What a great "problem" to have.

[+ glennnn]

Thanks, guys. All of you, clients and escorts alike, are the best and so appreciated.

[+ nycman]

I feel badly when I don't rehire one of you

 

You're using the wrong head.

 

Guilt is a useless emotion. (Thanks, New Order!)

 

Speaking of which...GOD I want to FUCK you!

[+ glennnn]

 

 

 

Speaking of which...GOD I want to FUCK you!

 

Hey! Hey! @nycman ! I started this thread, so if any one gets to tell Eric, "I want to fuck you!", Shouldn't it be ME? LOL. Not to worry. He already knows!

 

BTW you are obviously a gentleman of discernment with exquisite taste!

[rvwnsd]

A few thoughts, sweet @glennnn with four "n"'s:

 

I have now been hiring escorts for just over a year, and every one has been a joy...

 

So glad to hear this. Proof that a sweet disposition and reasonable vetting make playdates successful.

 

And now for a little "in between tender and tough" love.

 

...for teaching this inexperienced old boy the pleasures to be found in men fucking men...

 

OK, the title of this thread ("Too Soft for this Hobby") and referring to yourself as an "old boy" give me pause. You are not "too" anything. You are perfectly fine exactly the way you are. What you said doesn't exactly sound self-hating or self-loathing, but maybe "self-not too fond of oneself." Not questioning that they taught you the pleasures of man-on-man sex, but thinking and speaking of yourself in a more positive way might help you feel better about yourself and about switching up the hiring routine.

 

...My problem is although I love you all, I can't see you all on a regular basis and some exclusionary selection becomes necessary as I continue to add new names to my list of lovers. ...

 

That, misterboy, is the beauty of this hobby. You get to play with different guys and everyone feels OK about it. Here's a suggestion: take out the phrase "and some exclusionary selection becomes necessary" and see how it reads. (bum-bum-bum, ba-bum-bum-bum, bum-ba-bum-bum-BUM-ba-bum-bum-bum-bum) Less negative, eh?

 

...I know you are businessmen and used to a one or two time only hook up, but I feel badly when I don't rehire one of you because an Eric Hassan catches, and transfixes my erotic desire for a new sexual partner. ...

 

@glennnn! Why in the world would your ability to feel become diminished because you don't rehire an escort you hired in the past?

 

OK, I am being mean by giving you a hard time about grammar and vocabulary. Bad me!

 

The real point I want to make is hiring "New Escort #1" instead of "Escort You Hired Last Time" doesn't mean you will never hire "Escort You Hired Last Time" again. It just means that "Escort You Hired Last Time" isn't "Escort You Hire This Time." He could be "Escort You Hire Two Times From Now." See what I mean?

 

...The last thing I want is to disrespect my previous escorts....

 

You are in no way disrespecting escorts you hired previously by hiring a different escort today. Notice I did not call them "previous escorts." That sounds like you are not going to hire them again. There's nothing to say you won't want to experience one of those guys again instead of exploring an escort who catches your eye for the first time.

 

 

...Do other clients think about this? I'm like a kid in a candy store worrying that the Hershey Kisses are going to be sad because I chose the Jordan Almonds this time. Ridiculous!!!...

 

There you go again! (when did you ever think someone would paraphrase Ronald Reagan in a thread about hiring male escorts?) You are NOT ridiculous. Not saying I agree with the way you feel, but there's no reason to discount it as being ridiculous. It is the way you feel and it is authentic and real.

 

 

...But I thank and respect you all so much, that I can't stop worrying about it. Maybe I'm just too soft for this hobby. Or, OTOH, maybe my escorts don't even notice.

 

I don't think it is clear-cut as "your escorts don't even notice." I am sure they think about you (especially if they read the Forum), as every guy you listed above has a reputation for being sweet and considerate. I've hired three of them and I can tell you they are all sweethearts who recognize sweetness in others. They also recognize that we all have different desires and those desires can change from time to time.

 

Here's a few suggestions:

 

1. Be nice to and easier on yourself.
   
2. Send a quick note to your guys and let them know you that you are thinking of them. If it makes you feel better let them know you are enjoying a smorgasbord of men and you will be back to sample another helping someday soon.
   
3. Enjoy sampling that smorgasbord!
   
4. HAVE FUN!!!
   

[+ glennnn]

A few thoughts, sweet @glennnn with three "n"'s:

 

 

 

So glad to hear this. Proof that a sweet disposition and reasonable vetting make playdates successful.

 

And now for a little "in between tender and tough" love.

 

 

 

OK, the title of this thread ("Too Soft for this Hobby") and referring to yourself as an "old boy" give me pause. You are not "too" anything. You are perfectly fine exactly the way you are. What you said doesn't exactly sound self-hating or self-loathing, but maybe "self-not too fond of oneself." Not questioning that they taught you the pleasures of man-on-man sex, but thinking and speaking of yourself in a more positive way might help you feel better about yourself and about switching up the hiring routine.

 

 

 

That, misterboy, is the beauty of this hobby. You get to play with different guys and everyone feels OK about it. Here's a suggestion: take out the phrase "and some exclusionary selection becomes necessary" and see how it reads. (bum-bum-bum, ba-bum-bum-bum, bum-ba-bum-bum-BUM-ba-bum-bum-bum-bum) Less negative, eh?

 

 

 

@glennnn! Why in the world would your ability to feel become diminished because you don't rehire an escort you hired in the past?

 

OK, I am being mean by giving you a hard time about grammar and vocabulary. Bad me!

 

The real point I want to make is hiring "New Escort #1" instead of "Escort You Hired Last Time" doesn't mean you will never hire "Escort You Hired Last Time" again. It just means that "Escort You Hired Last Time" isn't "Escort You Hire This Time." He could be "Escort You Hire Two Times From Now." See what I mean?

 

 

 

You are in no way disrespecting escorts you hired previously by hiring a different escort today. Notice I did not call them "previous escorts." That sounds like you are not going to hire them again. There's nothing to say you won't want to experience one of those guys again instead of exploring an escort who catches your eye for the first time.

 

 

 

 

There you go again! (when did you ever think someone would paraphrase Ronald Reagan in a thread about hiring male escorts?) You are NOT ridiculous. Not saying I agree with the way you feel, but there's no reason to discount it as being ridiculous. It is the way you feel and it is authentic and real.

 

 

 

 

I don't think it is clear-cut as "your escorts don't even notice." I am sure they think about you (especially if they read the Forum), as every guy you listed above has a reputation for being sweet and considerate. I've hired three of them and I can tell you they are all sweethearts who recognize sweetness in others. They also recognize that we all have different desires and those desires can change from time to time.

 

Here's a few suggestions:

 

1. Be nice to and easier on yourself.
   
2. Send a quick note to your guys and let them know you that you are thinking of them. If it makes you feel better let them know you are enjoying a smorgasbord of men and you will be back to sample another helping someday soon.
   
3. Enjoy sampling that smorgasbord!
   
4. HAVE FUN!!!
   

 

 

Thank you! Simply, thank you.

[rvwnsd]

Thank you! Simply, thank you.

Any time.

[BasketBaller]

I have had good experiences with almost every escort I've hired. Perhaps in an excess of discretion, I mostly have hired travelling guys visiting town. And in my desire to explore, I have only hired a couple more than once, since I wanted to try and see what different men would be like. But I think I'm getting past that now, and I recently re-hired a guy I'd met a long time ago. It was very, very good, even after a long time-- he remembered some things I'd liked! That may have been a wake-up call that I'd been missing out on that aspect of the sex, the shared experiences that can lead to more satisfaction,

[MikeyGMin]

I know that men are fickle beasts, but I love the easy familiarity that comes with a regular. It's not routine, but it is understood, and I really like that.

 

I certainly don't get bored of someone with a beautiful body and a great personality. Not when you're only seeing them every 3 or 4 weeks.

[+ WmClarke]

I know that men are fickle beasts, but I love the easy familiarity that comes with a regular. It's not routine, but it is understood, and I really like that.

 

I certainly don't get bored of someone with a beautiful body and a great personality. Not when you're only seeing them every 3 or 4 weeks.

Or every 3-4 months.