too many questions?

[allyouknow]

So how many questions are too many? Escorts know the difference between someone who is just "looking" and those that are nervous or apprehensive? I was wondering if a couple of email exchanges is too much.

asking for a friend...lol.

[Kevin Slater]

Advise your friend to read the escort's ad (and his website if he has one) thoroughly. Then if he has specific questions still not answered, list them all at once in the first email so that he's not constantly peppering the escort with more queries and coming off as a tire kicker. He is right to be concerned, as my experience tells me the likelihood of someone booking (or once booking, actually showing up) is inversely proportional to the amount of contact beforehand. That being said, any professional should be happy to exchange a couple of emails to ascertain the match.

 

If he's concerned that this may go more than a couple of volleys, a small show of bona fides, even a $10 Amazon e-gift card sent to the escort's email address, goes a long way.

 

Kevin Slater

[jawjateck]

If 2 emails is too many for a provider, move along to a better choice. The session will disappoint, if it happens at all.

[allyouknow]

thanks ! I do find using text to be rather horrible. I find it annoying for me personally, and I would imagine anyone trying to do business would feel the same. And as with any business saying " I have concerns" ( in other words "I am nervous") should be an invitation and an opportunity to build trust and a relationship and not be dismissed.

[MikeBiDude]

thanks ! I do find using text to be rather horrible. I find it annoying for me personally, and I would imagine anyone trying to do business would feel the same. And as with any business saying " I have concerns" ( in other words "I am nervous") should be an invitation and an opportunity to build trust and a relationship and not be dismissed.

The last couple years I've met a few escorts via texting only, convenient

[TopTierTop]

I would say that 90% of the the conversation between clients and me happens by text. Occasionally, someone wants to talk on the phone before we actually meet, but it is definitely not the majority. And an even smaller percentage want to only talk on the phone or communicate by email. Every initial contact by phone is by text. If someone unknown does call me, I respond with a text message rather answering random calls without knowing if the caller has even read my profile.

 

That said, I have rarely had an issue with a potential client asking too many questions or sending too many messages. Yes, sometimes it turns out they just what a free sex chat, but that becomes obvious very, very fast. However, if they are just the type who like to chat a lot and it turns out they don't end up booking, I don't care much. Other than when I am at the gym or with a client, I am generally free to chat.

[MikeBiDude]

I would say that 90% of the the conversation between clients and me happens by text. Occasionally, someone wants to talk on the phone before we actually meet, but it is definitely not the majority. And an even smaller percentage want to only talk on the phone or communicate by email. Every initial contact by phone is by text. If someone unknown does call me, I respond with a text message rather answering random calls without knowing if the caller has even read my profile.

 

That said, I have rarely had an issue with a potential client asking too many questions or sending too many messages. Yes, sometimes it turns out they just what a free sex chat, but that becomes obvious very, very fast. However, if they are just the type who like to chat a lot and it turns out they don't end up booking, I don't care much. Other than when I am at the gym or with a client, I am generally free to chat.

I do like a voice call after setting things up via text, kind of a "final final" confirmation

[AdamSmith]

If anything is unclear after reading my ad, then you can call me as texting back and forth is sometimes not the best way to communicate especially if someone has many questions. So a quick 5-10 minute call should let you know whether you want to hire me or not.

Exactly. CALL and talk a minute or two.

 

That, by its nature, gives each of you a connection and read on each other infinitely more informative than text or email.

 

You are going to sleep with him and share body parts. Why are you so afraid to share a few simple words by phone beforehand?

[jawjateck]

Considering the ADD epidemic, conversational texting is dreadful! Random thoughts, phrases, and emojis coming through rapidly. Ding Ding Ding Ding. Sorting through the parts and pieces is like trying to assemble a puzzle. :mad:

[AdamSmith]

Considering the ADD epidemic, conversational texting is dreadful! Random thoughts, phrases, and emojis coming through rapidly. Ding Ding Ding Ding. Sorting through the parts and pieces is like trying to assemble a puzzle. :mad:

The wisdom of ages.

 

USE Alexander Graham Bell's remarkable contribution to human connectedness.

[MikeyGMin]

I do like a voice call after setting things up via text, kind of a "final final" confirmation

 

Be honest Mike. Are you doing a voice check? Do you want to hear them talk so you can see if they have a heavy gay "accent?" :)

 

I'll be honest, and I don't care if it makes me a Russell Tovey loving fem-phobic, it's a real boner killer for me. However, I make almost all of my arrangements by text only and take my chances.

[Kevin Slater]

I would say that 90% of the the conversation between clients and me happens by text. Occasionally, someone wants to talk on the phone before we actually meet, but it is definitely not the majority. And an even smaller percentage want to only talk on the phone or communicate by email. Every initial contact by phone is by text. If someone unknown does call me, I respond with a text message rather answering random calls without knowing if the caller has even read my profile.

 

Switch text and call, and you've perfectly described my practice.

 

Kevin Slater

[TopTierTop]

Switch text and call, and you've perfectly described my practice.

 

Kevin Slater

Just goes to show you that there are many types of clients and identifying our specialty is the most efficient way to operate. There is no right way, just ways that suit different types of escorts and clients.

[Zman]

Calling seems to easier and quicker to me. I usually invite the escort to call me or I'll ask if it's convenient to call after an introductory text. Real professionals will take the call. But if it's a random dude advertising on Craigslist or BP they almost never will.

[TopTierTop]

Calling seems to easier and quicker to me. I usually invite the escort to call me or I'll ask if it's convenient to call after an introductory text. Real professionals will take the call. But if it's a random dude advertising on Craigslist or BP they almost never will.

I happily take calls from prospective clients after an introductory text. When I occasionally get those random calls without such a text, very often I will send a text message telling the prospective client that I cannot answer calls from unknown callers, and inviting them to send a message. If they don't respond, I just leave it alone and move on.

[MikeBiDude]

Be honest Mike. Are you doing a voice check? Do you want to hear them talk so you can see if they have a heavy gay "accent?" :)

 

I'll be honest, and I don't care if it makes me a Russell Tovey loving fem-phobic, it's a real boner killer for me. However, I make almost all of my arrangements by text only and take my chances.

Honestly, no it's not to check for "falling purses" more just me getting a feel for the person. I've done less and less voice phone calls lately, trusting in all texts.

[allyouknow]

Thanks guys; So I will speak for myself. I have had an incident in my life that makes trust and sex and issue, hence the questions. Everyone has their reasons for hiring someone for their time, not all of us share the same reasons in the same order I have found.

[Hungmixedboi88]

I don't mind going back and forth with a few emails, texts or a call when "getting to know" a potential new client at all if they have questions especially since a lot of people who hit me up have questions about their specific kinks and if I can accommodate them.

 

I have often found though that the clients who hit me up rarely have not read my whole profile and stats which isn't all that long mind you. So asking the question about my rate when it's clearly stated and also telling me they prefer BB (which I also get a whole helluva a lot) when my stats say and my profile say I play safe is a little off putting for sure but I love the clients who hit me up and ask me new questions about things that aren't listed in my profile those clients always seem to become regulars because they're serious and not trying to play games. It's interesting

[+ nycman]

One question is enough for me.

 

"Are you available this Friday at 8 pm for a 2 hour out call to my hotel in Chicago?"

 

Everything else is wasted time and energy in my book.

 

I have read your ad. I have read your reviews. I have looked at your pics. I know your rates.

 

The only variable left is "chemistry"...

...and all the texts, emails, and phone calls in the world aren't going to help me figure that one out.

 

YMMV.

[+ Eric Hassan]

Calling seems to easier and quicker to me. I usually invite the escort to call me or I'll ask if it's convenient to call after an introductory text. Real professionals will take the call. But if it's a random dude advertising on Craigslist or BP they almost never will.

 

I think this is a great approach.

[Jock123]

One question is enough for me.

 

"Are you available this Friday at 8 pm for a 2 hour out call to my hotel in Chicago?"

 

Everything else is wasted time and energy in my book.

 

I have read your ad. I have read your reviews. I have looked at your pics. I know your rates.

 

The only variable left is "chemistry"...

...and all the texts, emails, and phone calls in the world aren't going to help me figure that one out.

 

YMMV.

 

 

 

^^^^ THIS.

 

My Best expreiences have been those who didnt play Email tag. Sure we can talk all we want but It really does boil down to the actual meeting. Not to mention I always advice newbies to "Dont think too much Into it". After all the whole point is to enjoy Yourself.

 

 

My WORST experiences have been those who would email me...for months(Yes I've had this happen several times). Heck one guy emailed me roughly around 70 times....and ended up canceling the Day of our meeting.

[AdamSmith]

One question is enough for me.

 

"Are you available this Friday at 8 pm for a 2 hour out call to my hotel in Chicago?"

 

Everything else is wasted time and energy in my book.

 

I have read your ad. I have read your reviews. I have looked at your pics. I know your rates.

 

The only variable left is "chemistry"...

...and all the texts, emails, and phone calls in the world aren't going to help me figure that one out.

 

YMMV.

YES YES YES

 

We are not two industrial robots or Fanuc machine tools. Be HUMAN toward the sacred Other, beforehand and throughout.

[Kevin Slater]

My WORST experiences have been those who would email me...for months(Yes I've had this happen several times). Heck one guy emailed me roughly around 70 times....and ended up canceling the Day of our meeting.

 

Of course he did. He'd been getting free jollies for months, why the fuck should he start paying for it now?

 

Kevin Slater

[UpDownUnder]

and also telling me they prefer BB (which I also get a whole helluva a lot) when my stats say and my profile say I play safe is a little off putting for sure

 

I'm not surprised you get a lot of BB inquiries even though your ad says "safe only." A ton of guys advertise as "safe only" - for marketing purposes - but are more than willing to BB if asked.

[mike carey]

My WORST experiences have been those who would email me...for months(Yes I've had this happen several times). Heck one guy emailed me roughly around 70 times....and ended up canceling the Day of our meeting.

Well, he had an appointment with you that he could cancel. I suspect one or ten posters here would be delighted to be in his position. And wouldn't cancel!