Any Advice for a First Timer

[I-zik]

Ill try to keep this short. Key word: TRY.

I browse backstage very often but no one in my area has ever really captured my attention. That was until last week, cuban guy, late 20s, amazing ass, ad said all the right things. I was sold.

 

He was posting consistently for two months, multiple ads a day, I reached out to him and his phone was disconnected. He popped back up a few days later with a new number, I reached out again and we talked about possibly meeting up this weekend.

 

I have a few concerns... First, the phone thing was shifty. Second, he posted pictures of him working out in the yard of the local prison, instead of scaring me, that actually excited me. I know he's not a cop because he posted nudes, but what if he's like working a sting operation for them? Clearly my imagination is running wild, but could that be a thing? And my last thing is, this is my first hire, I'm very shy, how do I make sure I get what I'm want and am paying for?

 

Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance.

[youngster]

Why do you think about it so much? What is here to think about?) If you want it and have some $ - just do it. I hired my first escort when I was 17. There will always be as perfect as bad experiences, just listen to your intuition. using escorts is very individual thing and you'll never really predict how will it be each time. Even this forum is just fun, only about 20% info here is useful, for one guy an escort can be a great match, another one can consider the same escort as a scam

[DMICS]

And my last thing is, this is my first hire, I'm very shy, how do I make sure I get what I'm want and am paying for?

 

Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance.

 

I'm a first timer (well was) and had my first encounter with an escort last week. Like you I had been on BP and Rentmen for a long while (almost 2 years) and finally decided to go ahead after getting frustrated with Grindr, Craigslist etc. I always had a handful of guys on my "list" so I just went off reviews on this site and RM, and just went with the person I felt comfortable with as far as their profile write-up.

 

How do you make sure you get what you want? as others on here have told me, be straight up and tell the escort EVERYTHING you're looking to get into so that you 2 are on the same page. I haven't had my second escort encounter yet, I know it'll happen in the next day or 2, but since my first experience when I message potentials I always make sure I'm clear as to what I'm looking to get into.

 

I'm just glad I picked a down to earth, cool, personable person for my first. Just made the whole experience so relaxing and memorable.

[Guy Fawkes]

Why not just take him to lunch? It solves all those pesky concerns that you've mentioned.

 

I have a few concerns... First, the phone thing was shifty. Second, he posted pictures of him working out in the yard of the local prison, instead of scaring me, that actually excited me. I know he's not a cop because he posted nudes, but what if he's like working a sting operation for them? Clearly my imagination is running wild, but could that be a thing? And my last thing is, this is my first hire, I'm very shy, how do I make sure I get what I'm want and am paying for?

 

Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance.

[+ glutes]

Someone needs a Therapist, not a sex worker.

[youngster]

Why not just take him to lunch? It solves all those pesky concerns that you've mentioned.

Just a few of escorts will appreciate such an invitation they normally want their time to be paid at least a lil bit. Food is never considered as a "well payment" so to speak:)

[Guy Fawkes]

Why would you not pay them for the hour? Perhaps you're missing the context.

 

Just a few of escorts will appreciate such an invitation they normally want their time to be paid at least a lil bit. Food is never considered as a "well payment" so to speak:)

[youngster]

Why would you not pay them for the hour? Perhaps you're missing the context.

I'm not so rich yet unfortunately:) if I pay - I want more sexual fun than a restaurant:))

[I-zik]

UPDATE: I WAS SCAMMED!

 

This is really embarrassing but it couldve been worse. So earlier today, I met up with the guy at "his place", which was an empty studio apt. (no chairs, no tv, no lights, EMPTY) He took the money and said he had to run next door to get something. Minutes later, I look out the window and see a car pulling off. I call, I text, no response. I wait 15 minutes in this empty apt... I call, I text, no response. I leave.

 

Now I see why the number in his old ad was disconnected and changed, that's his way of avoiding people he's scammed in the past. I feel so stupid but like I said, it could've been worse. I'm not that upset about the money, I'm more upset that I shaved my balls for no reason.

[youngster]

UPDATE: I WAS SCAMMED!

 

This is really embarrassing but it couldve been worse. So earlier today, I met up with the guy at "his place", which was an empty studio apt. (no chairs, no tv, no lights, EMPTY) He took the money and said he had to run next door to get something. Minutes later, I look out the window and see a car pulling off. I call, I text, no response. I wait 15 minutes in this empty apt... I call, I text, no response. I leave.

 

Now I see why the number in his old ad was disconnected and changed, that's his way of avoiding people he's scammed in the past. I feel so stupid but like I said, it could've been worse. I'm not that upset about the money, I'm more upset that I shaved my balls for no reason.

Oh... I'm sorry. Who was it?

I've had some badish experiences but never anything like that "take money and go"

[+ purplekow]

Well. I am sorry I am late to post here.

How did you get scammed? You did not listen to yourself and you did not use your big head.

Flag#1 Prison picture Only thing worse would be a video of him running off with some other poor suckers money

Flag #2 New phone number I have had the same number for 40 years. Of course, I am not scamming people.

Flag #3 Giving money first Once you give him money, you have lost all leverage. If he is a good guy, fine. If he isnt, you are stuck.

Flag #4 Empty apartment You walk in and there is nothing in the apartment. One second later you should be out of there.

Flag #5 Immediate desire to leave. What was he going next door for? a bed?

 

For future hires, remember what you did here and do none of them.

 

Hire a well reviewed escort. Do not give money first. Meet somewhere public to make sure his person matches his pictures.

Good luck. You are not the first man to be taken and you will not be the last. Just make sure it is the last time you get taken.

[I-zik]

@purplekow thanks, honestly, it means a lot. I'm over here kicking myself but you made some good points. It was my first time, and just the fact that I posted all my concerns in here prior to, means I had an intuition that something was not right. That was one expensive lesson I learned tonight.

[sexymonk]

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