Familiarity

[+ TylerandAce]

Would welcome some feedback from both sides of the aisle about experiences hiring people you know socially (acquaintances around your local community) or professionally (like your dentist, your doctor, or your plumber). Pro and con experiences would be helpful. I've got most of the cons worked out in my head already, I think, but would like to know some real-life applications. We've always made it a point to keep these two worlds VERY separate, but what's it like to see them or use their services outside this arena?

[+ purplekow]

I have at least 5 men I have hired as escorts as patients in my practice. On all five occasions they were escorts first and patients subsequently. In none of the cases was I hiring them during the time frame that they were patients. i have also hired a man who,I first met as an escort, for other professional activities. He has done electric work for me as well as some other odd jobs including dog sitting.

i think that this relationship is fine as long as there is there a clearly defined boundary between the work they have done for me and the work i am doing for them. So far, for me, these professional relationships have worked out well.

[+ TylerandAce]

Thanks, PK. Very helpful. Can definitely see how communication is key.

[+ sam.fitzpatrick]

My investment guy is someone I first met playing cards and became a good personal friend first. It works quite well and we keep the two separate.

 

Sharing personal finances with a friend is probably just as intimate has using escort services. My sense is it is all about trust. I have other friends in the financial industry and many I would not trust to handle my portfolio.

[+ Truereview]

I think this all hinges on trust - the trust I have on others and how they reciprocate it. The escorting/companionship aspect, to me, is almost irrelevant. Maybe that's bc I've played on both sides of the fence? Not sure.

 

As an escort, I bartered for dentistry, legal, tax & accounting services. I knew there were risks there for both client and me, but it was a huge savings for a broke student like me. I always felt like I got better servicing too (so to speak).

Today, the guy who manages my vacation rental in NYC is a neighbor and now a retired escort that I used to have as a regular. As a full time artist, his schedule is flexible enough to meet with renters. In return, he gets a steady monthly income stream, and I get the convenience of having a manager that I know well - even in the biblical sense.

 

Btw, @TylerandAce, I'm loving the new avatar!

[jjkrkwood]

Outside of an escort realm, I have found that hiring friends/acquaintances for professional services can often become awkward and uncomfortable should problems arise. In my experience, if often ended in the dissolution of the friendship.

[+ TylerandAce]

I think this all hinges on trust - the trust I have on others and how they reciprocate it. The escorting/companionship aspect, to me, is almost irrelevant. Maybe that's bc I've played on both sides of the fence? Not sure.

 

As an escort, I bartered for dentistry, legal, tax & accounting services. I knew there were risks there for both client and me, but it was a huge savings for a broke student like me. I always felt like I got better servicing too (so to speak).

Today, the guy who manages my vacation rental in NYC is a neighbor and now a retired escort that I used to have as a regular. As a full time artist, his schedule is flexible enough to meet with renters. In return, he gets a steady monthly income stream, and I get the convenience of having a manager that I know well - even in the biblical sense.

 

Btw, @TylerandAce, I'm loving the new avatar!

Thanks for that. It's good to know what's possible. It sounds like you approach these relationships in the manner that was most appropriate with that person. I think that could work be key to not letting things get too awkward and uncomfortable. Expectations would make the difference, I'm sure.

 

Thanks for the pic comment. Had some new shots done recently. Good photographer

[+ purplekow]

Thanks for that. It's good to know what's possible. It sounds like you approach these relationships in the manner that was most appropriate with that person. I think that could work be key to not letting things get too awkward and uncomfortable. Expectations would make the difference, I'm sure.

 

Thanks for the pic comment. Had some new shots done recently. Good photographer

 

Can the photographer make my body look like yours?

[mike carey]

Had some new shots done recently. Good photographer

So it's all down to the photographer and not the material he had to work with? Colour me sceptical!

[+ honcho]

My dentist from 1985 to when he moved to S. Fl was somebody I met working out at the gym;

and my tax guy for the past dozen years ago plays in the same community orchestra I do. (I heard he was one of three lawyers in the group, and I switched when the previous tax guy moved to heaven).

[+ TylerandAce]

My dentist from 1985 to when he moved to S. Fl was somebody I met working out at the gym;

and my tax guy for the past dozen years ago plays in the same community orchestra I do. (I heard he was one of three lawyers in the group, and I switched when the previous tax guy moved to heaven).

Did you have a verbal understanding with these guys or was it just something you mutually understood without much need for boundary setting?

[+ TylerandAce]

Can the photographer make my body look like yours?

Now see, you and Mike Cary wouldn't need any smoke and mirrors like we do!

[+ purplekow]

So with a little smoke and you look in the mirror to see that? I'll take what your having. (Did you get it legally in Colorado?)

[+ Oliver]

... Thanks for the pic comment. Had some new shots done recently. Good photographer

You play well to the camera!

 

Outside of an escort realm, I have found that hiring friends/acquaintances for professional services can often become awkward and uncomfortable should problems arise

I totally agree!

[+ TylerandAce]

So with a little smoke and you look in the mirror to see that? I'll take what your having. (Did you get it legally in Colorado?)

Not Colorado, but I can sell you some of what we're pushing....rofl.

[+ honcho]

Did you have a verbal understanding with these guys or was it just something you mutually understood without much need for boundary setting?

 

In both cases we didn't have any explicit boundary setting - I never asked for any special discounts for professional services, and they were both highly competent; they seemed confident enough that if I choose to engage somebody else, I truly doubt either would have taken it personally.

 

My only complaint about the dentist was that he moved away. (He broke up with his same sex spouse, and actually stopped practicing dentistry and taught high school math according to rumor).

 

The dentist was the only one I've ever heard of who had a 7' grand piano in his waiting room

[A newish Bechstein, at that]. However, it must be admitted that this office was the basement of his

home fitted with an external door, so that when he practiced, the only other person he could possibly annoy was his spouse.

[+ Funguy]

 

Btw, @TylerandAce, I'm loving the new avatar!

 

Me too!

[+ purplekow]

Not Colorado, but I can sell you some of what we're pushing....rofl.

Well I was willing to buy some of Ace and Tyler pipe to smoke when you were in Palm Springs. My heart was there but it was also in the ICU. Perhaps I can do some pipe smoking some time soon.

[+ purplekow]

Well I was willing to buy some of Ace and Tyler pipe to smoke when you were in Palm Springs. My heart was there but it was also in the ICU. Perhaps I can do some TA pipe smoking some time soon.

[+ TylerandAce]

Me too!

Thanks. It was from a new photographer we used. More to come

[+ TylerandAce]

Well I was willing to buy some of Ace and Tyler pipe to smoke when you were in Palm Springs. My heart was there but it was also in the ICU. Perhaps I can do some pipe smoking some time soon.

Any time, my friend!! XOXO

[+ TylerandAce]

In both cases we didn't have any explicit boundary setting - I never asked for any special discounts for professional services, and they were both highly competent; they seemed confident enough that if I choose to engage somebody else, I truly doubt either would have taken it personally.

 

My only complaint about the dentist was that he moved away. (He broke up with his same sex spouse, and actually stopped practicing dentistry and taught high school math according to rumor).

 

The dentist was the only one I've ever heard of who had a 7' grand piano in his waiting room

[A newish Bechstein, at that]. However, it must be admitted that this office was the basement of his

home fitted with an external door, so that when he practiced, the only other person he could possibly annoy was his spouse.

Gotta love a dentist with taste that's somewhere other than his mouth....lol.