How do you feel about a potential client approaching you in public?

[+ saminseattle]

There’s been a discussion recently about a potential client seeing an escort on a flight, who he has been interested in hiring. http://www.companyofmen.org/threads/escort-on-my-flight-right-now.118424/. In general, most people seem to think it would be an invasion of privacy and a bit freaky for the potential client to approach him and strike up a conversation. In prior threads on the topic of running into people in public, it has also been pointed out that escorts may prefer to keep their professional and personal lives as separate as possible, and it can be disconcerting when they collide. http://www.companyofmen.org/threads/seeing-escorts-in-public.105074/, http://www.companyofmen.org/threads/meeting-a-client-in-public.93372/. But if the general rule is that escorts would prefer not to be approached by potential clients in public, are there any exceptions to this general rule?

 

For example, suppose instead of being on a flight, the escort is working as a “go-go” dancer. Suppose that instead of traveling with a friend, he is on the stage alone, with no one nearby. Suppose that instead of never having communicated with each other before, the potential client has tentatively reached out to the escort via email. In this situation, would it be inappropriate for the potential client to approach the escort, mention the prior email, and briefly chat? The advantage I could see for the escort in this scenario would be that he could see what the potential client looks like, and he could better assess the potential client (for seriousness, compatibility, etc.) compared to more impersonal means of communication like text, email, or even phone calls (although I suppose it could also be an unwelcome distraction while working).

 

There may be other scenarios, but this was the most “sympathetic” one I could think of where approaching the escort might not be such a faux pas. What do you all think? Have you ever been approached by a potential client you'd never met in person before? What did you like or dislike about it?

[jjkrkwood]

As I said before, the safest way to approach any of the stated scenarios is with a little silent flirting. If the guy picks up on it, and responds, you have your answer and go for it. . If he shows no interest, BACK OFF....

[escortrod]

I dislike bumping into people I know, which is why I lived in London for years, so I suspect I would be a little uncomfortable with a client approaching me in public. The silent flirting idea is much better.

[+ poolboy48220]

I think in this case - working as a dancer in a club - it wouldn't be out of bounds to ask the escort something like "Hey, aren't you XXXXX from RentMen?" I wouldn't ask that where anyone would overhear, in fact taking him back for a private dance and asking him after that would probably be my approach. I see a world of difference between seeing him at the airport or drugstore, possibly when he's with company, vs. seeing him at an already sex-charged (for lack of a better word) venue.

 

I've asked many a dancer at the club, after a private dance, if they ever "see guys outside the club" (my euphemism of choice). Not all do, but I've rarely found anyone offended by the question.

[+ Truereview]

The way I look at it is that, in public, I give anyone I know their space - whether they are escorts, acquaintances, celebrities, or whatever. Being a natural introvert, it is really easy for me to follow this approach, but I could see the temptation.

 

If I spot someone that I really, really want him to notice me,

I try to do something subtle like what JJK suggests...

Something low key like this:

http://i59.tinypic.com/23w9mw2.gif

The real bend & snap

[mike carey]

http://i59.tinypic.com/23w9mw2.gif

 

Yeah, subtle like that.

[+ Truereview]

Yeah, subtle like that.

I blame my gene pool. I dance at the drop of hat,

or a dollar bill...

 

PS - when I was an escort I was approached by clients. The way I looked at it is that if I put myself in the service of the public, invariably, I would be recognized. I prepared myself to be outed and deal with it. I never saw my services as something I needed to be ashamed of, and if any of my friends thought so, maybe they really didnt need to be my friends. Life is complicated enough as it is. I did get approached by a client when I was traveling with my mom. I quickly introduced him to my mom as one of my coaching clients. I didn't want to out him to my mom as John - she probably woulda asked him if he had been generous enough.

[sniggy]

So is it weird that even though the escort was with a friend I stood next to him at the baggage claim, fondling my cock and then whipped out a wad of hundreds, winked, and said, "any of this interest you?" Kidding! I left the poor guy alone. It was just particularly funny that I saw him because I'd suddenly been active on this forum and was going to hire someone for this weekend (which I did--guy is hopefully in his way right now--a different guy not airport guy). It was like my man-crazy brain conjured him onto my flight. I mean god forbid I would have been thinking about anything but getting some dick for a few minutes, right?

[LADoug1]

As was said in the other thread "treat him with the same discretion as you would like to be treated" assuming you prefer not to have it known you hire.

[+ Lance_Navarro]

I don't mind at all being approached in public, in fact it has happened to me several times. Once in a sex-toy store in the Castro an older guy walked up to me and very gently and cautiously asked "Do you happen to be Lance Navarro". When I told him I was he expressed that he's visiting and was thinking about contacting me for a session. We made plans for the following day. Another time was at the gym where a guy let me know that he had checked out my website and wanted to schedule sometime, we made it happen later in the week.

 

I actually enjoy such serendipitous meetings, but I can understand treading carefully, especially if the guy isn't by himself, cause not everyone is like me.

[MasterMaxRR]

I've had this very thing happen to me on more than one occasion. I simply met his glance and went from there. If I sensed a hint of worry, I just nod (Gibbs-like) and move on as if we had never met before. On the rare occasion that they responded to my nod with anything more than a nod in return, I'll approach them and say "You look familiar, have we met?" If they deny vigorously then I've miscalculated, but if they introduce me to the wife, then I play friendly but discreet. Trust me, no wife ever was happy when I said "Gee Lady, you husband is a sex rocket in bed" Ultimately, discretion is indeed the better part of valor as well as trusting customers that know you won't blow the whistle.

[Cliff]

My rules of thumb are: 1. Show respect by never being invasive. 2. Use your common sense and trust your instinct. If you think you might not have any common sense or fear your instincts, I encourage you to continue to seek out the views of the most level-headed guys on this forum. While the criteria for "level-headedness" is ambiguous at best, I think we all know what forum members are "go-to" guys for sound and sensible advice.

[+ Cash4Trash]

I was once in the lobby of a movie theater and saw Renn Callahan, an escort I'd seen many times and have reviewed positively, across the crowded room. We saw each other, looked away, and dashed together for a giant hug.

Oh, well... so much for discretion in public.

[geoffk]

i don't see any reason not to say hello to someone you recognize you don't really have to mention how you know them unless the escort asks but i'm going to assume they will not. Setting up a meeting with an escort in public requires discretion. If an escort, however, is working as a stripper , strippers hire out all the time, no reason not to talk about it then.

[Andy2]

Years ago, David Benjamin was a dancer at Secrets, a nude dance club in Washington DC. One evening, I dropped by and was charmed by this hunk. As I was inserting dollar bills into his socks, he leaned over and chatted me up. I asked him if he saw private clients, he said absolutely and gave me his number. I saw him soon after that, and had a blast.