Etiquette: How do you express interest in a hot guy wearing headphones or earbuds?

[+ quoththeraven]

Or do you leave well enough alone?

 

Some jackass published an article in Modern Man (probably in a PUA or MRA publication) about how to talk to a woman wearing headphones.

Wait, it gets worse than that.

Wow, she's a cutie, I have to say hi. Stalker much? Also, no one is going to laugh, smile and enjoy anyone saying "your big green headphones were just calling out to me." That's just cheesy and sad.

 

These are considered common mistakes guys make:

 

Jesus fucking Christ. Women are apparently trophies to be won and collected, which is why I'm wondering if any of this goes on in the m2m world.

 

source, with a lot more discussion:

[+ Truereview]

The most interesting man in the world knows the answer...

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[+ quoththeraven]

The most interesting man in the world knows the answer...

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So who is the most interesting man in the world? Sorry, I don't recognize him.

 

Yeah, I figured as much. And then straight men wonder why women like slash fanfiction. It's because the parties are portrayed not necessarily as equals - there are power dynamics in all relationships - but as more equal. There's not an assumption that good-looking men owe other men their time and attention. (Although the "wish he escorted" comments sometimes teeter close to that.)

 

Edited to add: Which is not to say that the world of gay and bisexual men is free of its own brand of misogyny, much of which consists of accepting the "received wisdom" on how men and women interact and on women's motivations and behavior.

[Juan Vancouver]

It breaks my heart when I read something so pathetically on a beginner level.

 

What man doesn't know that every woman is just there for his personal consumption? What man doesn't know that even if she is actively demanding personal space, what a real man has to do is force himself on her... and she will be grateful! What man doesn't know bitches like to be overpowered and yearn a fucking asshole bully to assert dominance over them and show them -at last- what their place is! What man doesn't know that miming an order to a woman will free her of the bitter burden of her self respect and free will? Chick dig this. They live for this.

 

 

What man doesn't know that half of the time women (and some men) wear headphones, read a book in public and wear sunglasses as a clear sign that they don't want to be disrupted, that they need space and that any interruption will be unwelcome?

 

Oh, Jessica...

 

Poor, poor Jessica, living in the tragic rape culture where your opinion, your consent and your self worth are taken away from you every time a fucking idiot writes or says something like this, every time every man feels entitled to accost you, every time you are forced, terrorized, annoyed, and every time you are wronged and every man (and half of the women) jump in defence of the aggressor and blame you.

 

Oh, Jess. My heart goes up to you, girl. Listen to that song, read that book.

 

I'll keep an eye on you, sister, but you won't hear a peep from me.

[+ Truereview]

So who is the most interesting man in the world? Sorry, I don't recognize him.

He is an ad campaign character for Dos Equis - beer. Sort of a suave, cool, calm & collected James Bond type who can get anyone or anything he wants. I just love his "you gotta be kidding me, look" on this one, which is my reaction as well. Whoever wrote this article is a troglodyte.

 

PS - welcome back.

[+ quoththeraven]

It breaks my heart when I read something so pathetically on a beginner level.

 

What man doesn't know that every woman is just there for his personal consumption? What man doesn't know that even if she is actively demanding personal space, what a real man has to do is force himself on her... and she will be grateful! What man doesn't know bitches like to be overpowered and yearn a fucking asshole bully to assert dominance over them and show them -at last- what their place is! What man doesn't know that miming an order to a woman will free her of the bitter burden of her self respect and free will? Chick dig this. They live for this.

 

 

What man doesn't know that half of the time women (and some men) wear headphones, read a book in public and wear sunglasses as a clear sign that they don't want to be disrupted, that they need space and that any interruption will be unwelcome?

 

Oh, Jessica...

 

Poor, poor Jessica, living in the tragic rape culture where your opinion, your consent and your self worth are taken away from you every time a fucking idiot writes or says something like this, every time every man feels entitled to accost you, every time you are forced, terrorized, annoyed, and every time you are wronged and every man (and half of the women) jump in defence of the aggressor and blame you.

 

Oh, Jess. My heart goes up to you, girl. Listen to that song, read that book.

 

I'll keep an eye on you, sister, but you won't hear a peep from me.

 

Just to be clear, "Jessica" is a construct of the author's own mind in the script he wrote.

 

But I agree with your points 1,000%.

[+ quoththeraven]

He is an ad campaign character for Dos Equis - beer. Sort of a suave, cool, calm & collected James Bond type who can get anyone or anything he wants. I just love his "you gotta be kidding me, look" on this one, which is my reaction as well. Whoever wrote this article is a troglodyte.

 

PS - welcome back.

 

Thanks for the info. I barely see any commercials, so I would not have encountered him elsewhere.

 

That would be my reaction too, sans the headshaking.

 

I am fortunate enough not to be subjected to this kind of behavior. But perhaps it's because I've perfected the Death Glare of Doom.

 

Thanks! I may go back into hiding until Election Day, though. I find I have a much lower tolerance for bullshit than I usually do.

[+ Truereview]

But perhaps it's because I've perfected the Death Glare of Doom.

Lol...this is what I pictured in my head...

[+ quoththeraven]

Lol...this is what I pictured in my head...

Also avoiding eye contact whenever possible.

[robberbaron4u]

Flowers of the season in a vase.

[rvwnsd]

Lol...this is what I pictured in my head...

It is much more effective when the glare-er gazes above his glasses to the glare-ee.

[+ quoththeraven]

It is much more effective when the glare-er gazes above his glasses to the glare-ee.

 

I do literal sideeye.

[+ poolboy48220]

That article reminds me of the movie "Trainwreck", where they were pitching article ideas for a hipster magazine.

[Guy Fawkes]

I find that

their zipper down will usually do the trick.

 

[Bovary]

Christ. Excruciating.

[Rudynate]

It's so much easier when you want to be picked up. You don't have to learn any of those avoidance moves. I get engrossed in conversations with total strangers everywhere I go. Wouldn't have it any other way.

[+ quoththeraven]

It's so much easier when you want to be picked up. You don't have to learn any of those avoidance moves. I get engrossed in conversations with total strangers everywhere I go. Wouldn't have it any other way.

 

Or there's just talking to people in order to talk rather than as a pickup technique.

[Rudynate]

Or there's just talking to people in order to talk rather than as a pickup technique.

 

 

That's mostly what I do. I'm certainly happy when it goes there, but it doesn't have to.

[+ nycman]

Simple answer.

 

Just Smile.

 

If they're at all interested they'll smile back and remove the headphones.

 

If not...move on....it's a big ocean.

[+ Truereview]

Simple answer.

 

Just Smile.

 

If they're at all interested they'll smile back and remove the headphones.

Let me illustrate...

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