looking for a jock escort who doesn't advertise

[jojo]

There are lots of places, as above. What you need is confidence in yourself above all else. And, assume (again don't let your confidence fail) a low batting average. Use some common sense when chatting these guys up.

 

What I find over and over with posters here, is a tendency to not want to invest time in meeting types like discussed here. It's probably the nature of our hobby that many expect quick/instant results and gratification. You're unlikely to get that pursuing under-the-radar jock types.

 

I stress again be confident. I recently entered my sixth decade of life, and my confidence in myself, my look, and my approach is high. I strike out a lot. I also score.

 

In addition to confidence, one needs two other attributes----patience and real talk (not chatter like on this board). I do not mean to suggest the talk on this board is not real but when you talk to a fellow you must not do so like you would talk on this board. Real talk to a guy would entail establishing some common interest and him to become at "ease with you". He does not usually know what you want---so "easy does it". One guy I spent over a month doing some stuff with, looking at vintage cars(which is a real hobby of mine), jogging, teaching him how to ice skate and other things. As it turned out, it was all time well spent.

[LookingAround]

Options galore on Grindr and the like. Boys will sometimes ask if you are gen. They're aren't guys who advertise they're just regular guys who would consider sexual favors for a generous guy.

[Man Crush Morris]

The best situation I had was with an off the radar non pro. In my old city, I was crushing over a trainer at the gym I was at. Pretty much exactly the physical type I'm attracted to. He was very straight, though, and it didn't seem to be open to men or related side work, so I just never saw anything materializing. I never broached the issue with him, as actually I was very intimidated by the thought of his negative reaction.

 

He was offering massages as he studied for his massage license, so I took him up (honestly mostly because I just liked the thought of some private time with him). Well, he propositioned me during the first massage and we had some private fun. We started connecting for 3-4x a month "massages," always for the same routine: getting nude together, lots of body contact, and then he'd get on top and frote me pretty ferociously. He'd make me his complete bitch. Very talented.

 

He had rules. No penetration and I wasn't allowed to suck him. Never say anything about his massages. I was fine with his rules, as I don't need penetration and while sucking is not something normally I do, that became very frustrating as after a few sessions I really wanted to fellate him. I had no desire to share his number with anyone, either, which would expose myself as a client for same sex fun.

 

The guy would totally wreck me. Probably more than half the time with an escort I don't ejaculate, and have to finish myself off, which is ok. He never failed to pop my champagne, though. 100% success rate. Honestly, I couldn't get enough of him.

 

He moved out of the area and later I moved, and we lost touch. $100 massage sessions with exactly the kind of guy I love, doing exactly what I needed to be done to me. Complete dumb luck.

 

I should be so lucky again!

[+ goosh69]

I don't feel that asking about "under the radar" guys is odd.

 

I enjoy meeting male models and I prefer to get to know those with ripped, muscled bodies. A lot of models have very irregular incomes but continuing expenses (apartment, gym, phone) that have to be met. They often get some clothes for free but they usually have expensive tastes when it comes to other things. Quite a few of them will date an older man who has a big, thick wallet. And the smarter ones understand that if they take their clothes off in private, they can generate supplementary earnings.

 

What remains difficult is finding which model is in need and wants to work discreetly. After discovery, seduction is not usually difficult.

EXACTLY. I've done it.

[intecblossom]

EXACTLY. I've done it.

 

Where do you meet the male models? Are you in the fashion industry? Or a "talent" scout?

[+ goosh69]

I've already answered above. I won't again. And no, I'm not a workplace sexual harasser.

[intecblossom]

"Be vigilant" is not a very helpful or friendly answer. No need to be rude.

[+ goosh69]

...and yet other people "liked" that answer. It was not rude, it was truthful. And perfectly sums up the various answers on this thread.

[MikeBiDude]

"Be vigilant" is not a very helpful or friendly answer. No need to be rude.

It's a good answer, it takes diligence and patience to develop a situation as described. Vigilant too...

[Rudynate]

"Be vigilant" is not a very helpful or friendly answer. No need to be rude.

 

 

I have spent a lot of time learning to throw pottery on a wheel. I remember an answer my very best instructor would give to students when they asked a particular question. To the question, "How do I learn X," he always replied, "You just have to persevere." Every time I heard him say that, I used to think, "Wow!! what a smart guy, what a great answer."

 

"Be vigilant" is that sort of answer.

[+ BigRic]

FWIW I just want to comment on the irony of using an online resource to pursue leads on escorts who doesn't advertise online.

 

It's not meant to be a cheeky response to the thread starter as much as an opportunity to comment on my experiences crossing paths with, say, dancers and models who do "privates" versus the better escorts who strive to maintain some modicum of professionalism (in terms of client interactions, responsiveness, market rates, etc.). It seems to me that one of the biggest differences between those two worlds is online resources such as this site.

 

In my experience from speaking to various guys over a not insignificant period of time now, guys who don't advertise have less compunction about, say, flaking on clients or being very limited in terms of what services they provide partly because they know (prospective) clients don't likely have an online community or other organized resource to "vet" them, leave a review at or to comment on their (negative) experience in a discussion forum. I'm far from saying that there aren't dodgy escorts who advertise. But at least in theory, I think the idea of best practices has more traction with escorts who put their face out there online versus others who perhaps have issues even admitting what they're doing to make so much money.

 

I know dancers who don't advertise whose rate "just" to receive oral is $600 to $1,200. Granted, many of these guys are hot and blessed--but, daaayum.

 

Another reason for posting is to suss out what the rationale is--beyond that powerful motivator that is titillation--for being specifically interested in a guy who doesn't advertise. Is it the hush-hush appeal of getting with a guy who isn't routinely available to others? I'm just suggesting that that's a pursuit one should have their eyes wide shut for.

[+ goosh69]

In my experience, the ones I've been with who don't advertise are simply WAAAAAAAY better looking, that's all. Like, I've literally been with legit-legit top notch cover of magazine models. Network tv reality stars. Plural.

[marylander1940]

FWIW I just want to comment on the irony of using an online resource to pursue leads on escorts who doesn't advertise online.

 

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Brilliant!

 

I can't wait to see what happens but there will be no review anyways because the professional escort doesn't advertise.