Slut-Shaming on RuPaul's Drag Race?

[+ Lance_Navarro]

There was a moment during last night's Drag Race that bothered me, and that was when Kim Chi was asked which pit crew member she would lose her virginity to, and after a pause she said none of them because she wouldn't want to "catch something".

 

This offended me because first she assumed that if they are hot they are having lots of sex and if they are having lots of sex, they likely have HIV or an STI. This seemed like pure ignorance and slut-shaming to me.

 

Now, I have friends that are good friends with him and I'm sure he's a nice person. He has talked on the show about how he is still a virgin (didn't go into detail) and that he hasn't come out to his mother and doesn't ever plan to. He obviously has some fears in his life, so I don't want to beat him down for his comment, but rather to educate and illuminate him that such thoughts and feelings are just that, feelings, and not based on facts.

 

A hot guy doesn't necessarily get laid more often and even if he does, he might be really responsible with his sexual health. A "not so hot" guy might still get laid often, but feel pressured to engage in acts he doesn't feel safe about, but lacks the self-esteem to speak up. He also may not get regular sexual health screenings. There is no "norm" or need for stereotyping.

 

I'll say it again, she's young and has alot of growing up to do. On stage she is FIERCE and an amazing artist, but that's all behind a mask. I just encourage her to be brave and constantly learn, grow and step outside her comfort zone.

 

#RPDR

[marylander1940]

There was a moment during last night's Drag Race that bothered me, and that was when Kim Chi was asked which pit crew member she would lose her virginity to, and after a pause she said none of them because she wouldn't want to "catch something".

 

This offended me because first she assumed that if they are hot they are having lots of sex and if they are having lots of sex, they likely have HIV or an STI. This seemed like pure ignorance and slut-shaming to me.

 

Now, I have friends that are good friends with him and I'm sure he's a nice person. He has talked on the show about how he is still a virgin (didn't go into detail) and that he hasn't come out to his mother and doesn't ever plan to. He obviously has some fears in his life, so I don't want to beat him down for his comment, but rather to educate and illuminate him that such thoughts and feelings are just that, feelings, and not based on facts.

 

A hot guy doesn't necessarily get laid more often and even if he does, he might be really responsible with his sexual health. A "not so hot" guy might still get laid often, but feel pressured to engage in acts he doesn't feel safe about, but lacks the self-esteem to speak up. He also may not get regular sexual health screenings. There is no "norm" or need for stereotyping.

 

I'll say it again, she's young and has alot of growing up to do. On stage she is FIERCE and an amazing artist, but that's all behind a mask. I just encourage her to be brave and constantly learn, grow and step outside her comfort zone.

 

#RPDR

 

I think it was nothing but a joke and I'm also sure many of the contestants wouldn't have sex with him either.

 

On this video they talk about fat shaming.

 

 

 

http://logosrupaulsdragrace.wikia.com/wiki/Kim_Chi

 

This offended me because first she assumed that if they are hot they are having lots of sex and if they are having lots of sex, they likely have HIV or an STI. This seemed like pure ignorance and slut-shaming to me.

 

Some frequent posters on here shamed escorts who see everybody who wants to hire them and don't just rely on 2, 3 or 4 regular clients they see a week because of the "Russian roulette of the escorts who have sex with everybody..." Will see if they show up on this thread too.

 

Personally I use condoms all the time for anal sex, and I'm not afraid of HIV but I'm concerned of other diseases I could catch just by having oral sex, kissing, touching etc.

[klifhangar]

I know nothing about drag queens and don't get it at all. No judgment - it's just like a completely foreign language to me.

 

Edited to add: sorry if that sounds judgy. I don't mean that at all - I just have had no exposure and I have never had the desire to dress like a woman. I support others' rights to though.

[mmk123]

a lot of times men who are very good looking do not have a lot of sex because either

1. people think they are snobs because of their looks and will not approach them
   
2. they can have a hard time finding someone to have sex with because people assume that they are having sex all the time because they are good looking
   

a person who is considered to be "average" or "nice looking" can very well get laid a lot more than a person who is considered to be "very good looking" because people might find them to be more approachable.

[Mo Mason]

a lot of times men who are very good looking do not have a lot of sex because either

1. people think they are snobs because of their looks and will not approach them
   
2. they can have a hard time finding someone to have sex with because people assume that they are having sex all the time because they are good looking
   

a person who is considered to be "average" or "nice looking" can very well get laid a lot more than a person who is considered to be "very good looking" because people might find them to be more approachable.

 

Hot guy problems

[mike carey]

I know nothing about drag queens and don't get it at all. No judgment - it's just like a completely foreign language to me.

I just didn't get it either, but came to watch some drag performers after I came out. A bar I went to a few times in Sydney had drag shows, and like any sort of performance, some I liked some I didn't. Panti Bliss is an Irish drag queen who is a gay rights activist, looking up some of her material would be worth your while (I've seen her in stage preformances, things like TED, and on TV current affairs programs both in character and as her alter ego Rory O'Neill).

[jvanchicago]

I just kind of took the comment as "throwing shade-" mainly coming up with a catty response to a question she wasn't comfortable answering.

Let's be honest-you've just admitted to the world on tv you're a virgin. You aren't comfortable enough to even tell your mother. And then, in front of a theater filled with people, you are put on the spot and saying "which one of us (on the pitcrew) would you lose your virginity to?" All season Kim Chi came off as shy, and shade seems to be her coping mechanism. I don't think she really meant it so much as slut shaming as to just coming up with a shady answer to get the cheap laugh and move the conversation along.

[maninsoma]

All I can say is that if I were asked which one of the (current) Pit Crew I'd most want to have sex with, I wouldn't hesitate to blurt out Jason Carter.

 

Yum, yum, and more yum. Even sexier in person, if you can believe it.

 

http://vignette1.wikia.nocookie.net/logosrupaulsdragrace/images/d/d4/Jason_Carter_2.jpg/revision/latest?cb=20140424220247

[Bearofdistinction]

There was a moment during last night's Drag Race that bothered me, and that was when Kim Chi was asked which pit crew member she would lose her virginity to, and after a pause she said none of them because she wouldn't want to "catch something".

 

This offended me because first she assumed that if they are hot they are having lots of sex and if they are having lots of sex, they likely have HIV or an STI. This seemed like pure ignorance and slut-shaming to me.

 

Now, I have friends that are good friends with him and I'm sure he's a nice person. He has talked on the show about how he is still a virgin (didn't go into detail) and that he hasn't come out to his mother and doesn't ever plan to. He obviously has some fears in his life, so I don't want to beat him down for his comment, but rather to educate and illuminate him that such thoughts and feelings are just that, feelings, and not based on facts.

 

A hot guy doesn't necessarily get laid more often and even if he does, he might be really responsible with his sexual health. A "not so hot" guy might still get laid often, but feel pressured to engage in acts he doesn't feel safe about, but lacks the self-esteem to speak up. He also may not get regular sexual health screenings. There is no "norm" or need for stereotyping.

 

I'll say it again, she's young and has alot of growing up to do. On stage she is FIERCE and an amazing artist, but that's all behind a mask. I just encourage her to be brave and constantly learn, grow and step outside her comfort zone.

 

#RPDR

 

REALLY -- a cabbage girl ---- mmmmmmmmm === boil that bitch and lets got home so she can start a career as a video crack whore