Client expectations?

[Mo Mason]

I'm hoping escorts or other clients can help me with this because I know the question, "What are your expectations for our time together?" usually comes up. As a noob I don't really know how to answer this and I don't want my response to be, "I don't know what to expect because this is my first time hiring."

 

Can you help with some basic and common expectations because I know there are some obvious things that I'm just not thinking of because I don't have the experience.

[+ Eric Hassan]

I'm hoping escorts or other clients can help me with this because I know the question, "What are your expectations for our time together?" usually comes up. As a noob I don't really know how to answer this and I don't want my response to be, "I don't know what to expect because this is my first time hiring."

 

Can you help with some basic and common expectations because I know there are some obvious things that I'm just not thinking of because I don't have the experience.

 

It might help you answer the question if you remember why it is being asked. YOU are paying for someone's time. A good escort asks this so he can make sure to meet your expectations. It doesn't have to be super specific (unless, of course, you have something super specific you want). You can always say, "I'm not too experienced so I want you to come chill at my place and see what that's like" or, "I'm totally green, yo, but I want a wild time!"

[mike carey]

You can always say, "I'm not too experienced so I want you to come chill at my place and see what that's like"

Beautifully put Eric. I have experience but it is limited, having a guy meet me and go 'let me show you something special' is music to my ears.

[+ Eric Hassan]

well, in that case ..... let me show you something special

[Mo Mason]

Thank you. I wasn't sure if it was the point at which intimate details were specified or if the question had more to do with expectations about time, rate, etc. I guess I'm just stressed by the word itself. Expectations... sounds like a list of demands.

[mike carey]

Eric, I know you can do that!

[+ purplekow]

Thank you. I wasn't sure if it was the point at which intimate details were specified or if the question had more to do with expectations about time, rate, etc. I guess I'm just stressed by the word itself. Expectations... sounds like a list of demands.

So Great Expectations scare the Dickens out of you? Aren't you a Pip!

[Juan Vancouver]

If I were you I would translate the question in my mind.

 

Instead of answering what my expectations are, which you are correct, will sound like a shopping list of demands, you can answer instead this question:

 

When you think about the session we might have, imagining that it was successful and fulfilling, share with me how this session looks in your mind.

 

What do you enjoy doing? What turns you on? How do you like spending time with a hot guy? What kind of sex do you enjoy?

 

You are paying for my time, not for activities, and I am not selling activities, however, if I get an idea of what you enjoy, I will be able to tell if in an interpersonal way we are compatible and whether or not I would be able to provide you with a fulfilling, exciting experience.

 

It's not about demanding a list of things, it's more about finding compatibility and helping the compatibility become clearer and more fun.

 

Don't be shy! Open up! We are escorts, not psychics, and while most of us have ability to read our partners and guess what they enjoy, your time would be better spent if you take the time to articulate what you would like to experience.

 

All the best on your first hire!

[Mo Mason]

Thank you, Juan. That's kind and helpful. Like many newbies I think I'm just over-thinking this whole process.

 

After perusing the info in these threads for only two days I already feel so much more prepared for this. This site is such a great resource, and I know I'm going to be an amazing client because of it.

[marylander1940]

If I were you I would translate the question in my mind.

 

Instead of answering what my expectations are, which you are correct, will sound like a shopping list of demands, you can answer instead this question:

 

When you think about the session we might have, imagining that it was successful and fulfilling, share with me how this session looks in your mind.

 

What do you enjoy doing? What turns you on? How do you like spending time with a hot guy? What kind of sex do you enjoy?

 

You are paying for my time, not for activities, and I am not selling activities, however, if I get an idea of what you enjoy, I will be able to tell if in an interpersonal way we are compatible and whether or not I would be able to provide you with a fulfilling, exciting experience.

 

It's not about demanding a list of things, it's more about finding compatibility and helping the compatibility become clearer and more fun.

 

Don't be shy! Open up! We are escorts, not psychics, and while most of us have ability to read our partners and guess what they enjoy, your time would be better spent if you take the time to articulate what you would like to experience.

 

All the best on your first hire!

 

Very hot new pictures!

 

Congratulations!

[Juan Vancouver]

Very hot new pictures!

 

Congratulations!

 

Thanks man. Big hug!

[mike carey]

What Marylander said, @Juan Vancouver, great new photos here and on your RM profile. More 'hot' to go with the 'smart' in here!

[MikeyGMin]

Thank you. I wasn't sure if it was the point at which intimate details were specified or if the question had more to do with expectations about time, rate, etc. I guess I'm just stressed by the word itself. Expectations... sounds like a list of demands.

 

In my experience, a new guy is just trying to gauge the basics. Top / bottom, vanilla / kink, etc to make sure you're a good match. However, be sure to speak up about anything that will make or break the session for you. In my case, I would never enjoy a session where kissing is off the table. For these type of things you can just watch your phrasing. I say something like, "I really enjoy kissing" rather than "Do you kiss?" It keeps it more comfortable for both parties. Good luck and enjoy!

[mattr]

well, in that case ..... let me show you something special

 

Something tells me Eric's something special is quite extraordinary...

[mattr]

If I were you I would translate the question in my mind.

 

Instead of answering what my expectations are, which you are correct, will sound like a shopping list of demands, you can answer instead this question:

 

When you think about the session we might have, imagining that it was successful and fulfilling, share with me how this session looks in your mind.

 

What do you enjoy doing? What turns you on? How do you like spending time with a hot guy? What kind of sex do you enjoy?

 

You are paying for my time, not for activities, and I am not selling activities, however, if I get an idea of what you enjoy, I will be able to tell if in an interpersonal way we are compatible and whether or not I would be able to provide you with a fulfilling, exciting experience.

 

It's not about demanding a list of things, it's more about finding compatibility and helping the compatibility become clearer and more fun.

 

Don't be shy! Open up! We are escorts, not psychics, and while most of us have ability to read our partners and guess what they enjoy, your time would be better spent if you take the time to articulate what you would like to experience.

 

All the best on your first hire!

 

Fantastic new pictures Juan...

I now want you more than ever!

[Juan Vancouver]

Fantastic new pictures Juan...

I now want you more than ever!

 

Oh... NO!... Don't... Stop!

 

...Don't stop!...

[+ newatthis]

If I were you I would translate the question in my mind.

 

Instead of answering what my expectations are, which you are correct, will sound like a shopping list of demands, you can answer instead this question:

 

When you think about the session we might have, imagining that it was successful and fulfilling, share with me how this session looks in your mind.

 

What do you enjoy doing? What turns you on? How do you like spending time with a hot guy? What kind of sex do you enjoy?

 

You are paying for my time, not for activities, and I am not selling activities, however, if I get an idea of what you enjoy, I will be able to tell if in an interpersonal way we are compatible and whether or not I would be able to provide you with a fulfilling, exciting experience.

 

It's not about demanding a list of things, it's more about finding compatibility and helping the compatibility become clearer and more fun.

 

Don't be shy! Open up! We are escorts, not psychics, and while most of us have ability to read our partners and guess what they enjoy, your time would be better spent if you take the time to articulate what you would like to experience.

 

All the best on your first hire!

I would add only one thing to Juan's comprehensive reply; it's advice I got when I was in a similar situation many years ago (it might even be in a thread somewhere here on the MC). If you're not sure exactly what you're looking for or into, think about your fantasies and communicate that to the escort ("when I watch porn, I'm really turned on by ..."). Good luck!

[BaronArtz]

Instead of texting a list of things I like, I usually say something like 'Your ad looks really exciting. I have also read some reviews of you. I think we could be very compatible' and leave it at that. The only exception is that when I really want to top a guy, I say that tactfully ahead of the meeting. He needs to be 'prepared' ...

[+ DickyF]

Since it's your first time how about some variation of "vanilla, versatile, kissing and cuddling." Unless you want something very specific even for your first time.

[Mo Mason]

Thanks for all the expert tips, everyone.

All very helpful.

[Mo Mason]

Since it's your first time how about some variation of "vanilla, versatile, kissing and cuddling." Unless you want something very specific even for your first time.

 

That's kinda what I'm torn about. One one hand, I'd like to keep it a little vague for my first time because I don't know what's appropriate to mention as far as intimate details/fantasies... but on the other hand, vague isn't really my style - I'm so non-spontaneous.

[mattr]

Oh... NO!... Don't... Stop!

 

...Don't stop!...

 

Don't worry, you'll have to pry my face outta your ass with a crobar!