Communication with an escort

[JayJonathan]

One piece of advice I have seen consistently here is to have good communication with the escort, be clear about your expectations and plans for a session.

 

What is the best way to communicate this? Do you prefer to discuss with the client by text / email prior to the appointment, or at the beginning of the session?

 

When communicating before a session, is there a danger that an over abundance of back and forth or setting of expectations may lead the escort to dismiss the client as high maintenance and move on? I'm trying to figure out the balance here.

[Keenan]

I prefer to know the expectations up front and before meeting the client. This prevents arriving at an appointment and being surprised. If there is something the escort doesn't do or doesn't like then the customer will know up front before the appointment and has the chance to change his mind.

 

Keenan

[+ glennnn]

It's a concern for many clients, I think. One does want to be clear about expectations, but not too demanding. I try to take our escorts at their word, and clearly state my desires in a second communication following the initial "are you available?" contact. I use email, because it gives us both a record. This is where I mention kissing, dominance, cumming, penetration, etc,. I might follow up with a single phone call a few days out, especially if I have to travel some distance to the session. I realize that this is three contacts, and some escorts might find it too many. I also realize that I am leaving a footprint with my email. However, COMMUNCATION is key and this seems to work for me, and so far, the escorts that I have chosen.

[Just Chuck]

I'd feel a lot more confident discussing details and expectations in a voice telephone call. It produces much less of a searchable or retrievable electronic record of the content of the communication.

[rvwnsd]

I typically communicate via email, as it is easier for me than finding a mutually-agreeable time to talk on the phone. In my first email, I state what I like to do and ask for the escort's thoughts. Typically the escort replies with his thoughts, we discuss rates and schedules, and decide whether to meet. If we do, we schedule a time and we wait to see each other. Typically, this requires fewer than five emails. Then, the day before and/or the day of the appointment one of us sends the other a confirmation email. Sometimes, the escort and I will hit it off and a conversation ensues. I find nothing wrong with that and would only engage in an email exchange if it seemed "right."

 

...When communicating before a session, is there a danger that an over abundance of back and forth or setting of expectations may lead the escort to dismiss the client as high maintenance and move on? I'm trying to figure out the balance here.

 

I don't see how a three- or four-email exchange could be deemed an overabundance. However, if the client turns it into an overabundance of emails, then it gets to be a problem. The escort can do this, too. There's a simple way to end that kind of exchange. Reply with a simple: "Looking forward to seeing you on [insert date here]. I will contact you the day before our appointment to confirm" and don't send another email.

[Jock123]

I MUCH Rather someone be Up Front than to Discuss when we're Physically together. That way I know what to expect. Every Client is different.

[+ Eric Hassan]

It's a concern for many clients, I think. One does want to be clear about expectations, but not too demanding. I try to take our escorts at their word, and clearly state my desires in a second communication following the initial "are you available?" contact. I use email, because it gives us both a record. This is where I mention kissing, dominance, cumming, penetration, etc,. I might follow up with a single phone call a few days out, especially if I have to travel some distance to the session. I realize that this is three contacts, and some escorts might find it too many. I also realize that I am leaving a footprint with my email. However, COMMUNCATION is key and this seems to work for me, and so far, the escorts that I have chosen.

 

+10,000

 

This is an excellent way to handle communication and, as an escort, I would not find this anywhere near excessive and, indeed, rather helpful for me.

[+ azdr0710]

I've learned to be very clear, concise, and complete when planning a meet....

 

when we met up, the last dude I saw a few weeks ago asked if I had OCD.....

 

we laughed and the meeting was fine....

[Mocha]

Email used to be a good way to discuss what was expected. I used to be happy to exchange many emails with guys up until the day of the appointment. Sometimes there would be 10-20 replies of emails.

 

But nowadays...I have to keep things short and sweet because too often, those 20 replies of emails end up with someone saying they don't know their schedule for the day the appointment was planned, or them flaking 2 hours before the appointment because they weren't smart enough to contact me at the phone number that's clearly listed in my signature in the email.

[wisconsinguy]

The one and only escort I have hired, I started with a phone call. I had planned a three day weekend, and on the advice of escorts and members, they thought it a good idea to do a phone introduction. Just to help him understand that I wasn't a flake. I was so nervous, I probably sounded that way. It was then followed with texting, of particulars such as timing, when and where.

[hunterlee]

Typically I would prefer how long of a session they are looking for and my donation for my time.

 

Then I like to know what they like to do and then I tell them what I like to do. I also add a friendly reminder that it is illegal to offer sexual services for money and that they are only paying for my time.

 

However I've had many times where people do not understand the last line and I have to turn them away. Then I turn into a brat and get sassy ;p, that's when Nate needs to punish me

[+ WhamIAm]

I make contact, talk generally about time and place I'm looking for and a brief description of me and that I'm generally looking for BFE by text. But, if he's interested and available, I won't hire without a short call. Allows us to work out details more quickly than texting IMHO, lets me get a little sense of the guy before I lock in. And, some voices are really, really sexy, some are kind of a turnoff. What can I say, I like a verbal man.

 

And, on that note, Kurtis Wolfe has one of the sexiest voices I've ever heard!

[gallahadesquire]

The one and only escort I have hired, I started with a phone call. I had planned a three day weekend, and on the advice of escorts and members, they thought it a good idea to do a phone introduction. Just to help him understand that I wasn't a flake. I was so nervous, I probably sounded that way. It was then followed with texting, of particulars such as timing, when and where.

 

And how did it go? Assuming that this experience was not just a few days ago, why only the one?

 

Enquiring minds want to know!

[wisconsinguy]

And how did it go? Assuming that this experience was not just a few days ago, why only the one?

 

Enquiring minds want to know!

1) It went really, really well. I saw, and continue to see this individual on his home turf, meaning his city of residence. I love the town, and the outstanding knowledge he has of it. I have been seeing him for a little over three years now. There is nothing that has gotten "old" in our relationship.

2) re: Why only the one? My wants and needs are being fully met. Don't get me wrong. There are plenty of guys I interpret as hot. I also consider myself to be a pretty monogamous person. I also like to reimburse my friend generously for EVERYTHING he does for me. Never a dull moment on all fronts. He is very intelligent, a humanitarian, and gets sexier every time I see him! Maybe I'll write a second review after this weekend together!!! WG2