Would you prefer to know it is a client's first time?

[JayJonathan]

I've read in the forum here that a lot of guys tell an escort that it is their first time and that may not always be the truth...

 

For a genuine newbie, should I bring it up and discuss it up front (either when booking the session or at the beginning of it), or is it likely that the escort would just think it's a line I'm using?

 

Or should I just accept that the escort will probably be able to tell in 5 seconds that I'm clueless and act accordingly?

 

Thanks guys.

[jjkrkwood]

It's always best to mention things you are concerned about to ease your anxiety. There are some clients that are clueless even after countless sessions.. You can only account for YOUR behavior, not the escorts, and what he does with the information you provide him is up to him.

[Kevin Slater]

Whichever makes you more comfortable. Don't worry about us; we can handle it.

 

Kevin Slater

[JayJonathan]

Hi Mike. I'm not concerned about an escort's real name - just whether I should tell them it's my first time.

[mike carey]

Hi Mike. I'm not concerned about an escort's real name - just whether I should tell them it's my first time.

Yes, I just worked that out, I misread it. Deleting as we speak.

[+ SundayZip]

I understand why you would not want to use the words, "this is my first time". It sounds like a cliche and the escort may not believe it. Try telling the escort something else that gets across the same message. Maybe just say that you don't have much experience and as a result, you're a bit nervous. If the escort then asks you if it's your first time, you blush like a cute little boy and shyly nod your head, yes.

[JayJonathan]

Thanks SundayZip - I like that approach.

[+ Travis69]

First time with an escort or first time having sex with a man? Two very different situations.

[JayJonathan]

Travis 69 - Both.

[+ Travis69]

Travis 69 - Both.

Then make sure the escort is someone sanctioned by the folks here so you don't get someone who will take advantage of you. Some escorts see a first time client as a easy mark. They will tell you "it's customary to give a 20% tip, the action stops with the orgasm, etc." At the same time the first time with a man you may not be sure what activities you want to do or not have the experience to be that good at certain things. I pity the guy I gave my first blow job to. In this case them knowing you are a virgin will help them direct you into better techniques to please both you and your partner.

[+ glennnn]

Absolutely! I told my first escort the truth and he took over and treated me wonderfully. Nate in LA was highly recommended here and on the now diffunct Rentboy site. We communicated several times before we met for 2 hours and he tried several approaches with me ( boy friend, dom/sub, top/ bottom) to find which one worked for me because I honestly couldn't tell him what I wanted. If I've learned one thing here, it's that it takes communication with your escort to find real satisfaction. I would also stress honesty. These are professional men who take pride in serving you. Be as honest and upfront with them as you would be with a doctor. Good luck and may many happy hours await you.

[seaboy4hire]

Absolutely! I told my first escort the truth and he took over and treated me wonderfully. Nate in LA was highly recommended here and on the now diffunct Rentboy site. We communicated several times before we met for 2 hours and he tried several approaches with me ( boy friend, dom/sub, top/ bottom) to find which one worked for me because I honestly couldn't tell him what I wanted. If I've learned one thing here, it's that it takes communication with your escort to find real satisfaction. I would also stress honesty. These are professional men who take pride in serving you. Be as honest and upfront with them as you would be with a doctor. Good luck and may many happy hours await you.

 

I second what Glennn said. Honesty and communication are paramount! Without one you can not have the oether and the chances of a pleasurable meeting for you will be missed. Any guy whos been doing this for a length of time wont be surprised by what you tell them. Those of us who'vebeen in the boz for a while have seen, heard and done quite a bit.

 

Hugs,

Greg

[LADoug1]

After I had sex for the first time my partner didn't believe me when I told them. Buzz kill although maybe it meant that I was pretty good for my first time.

 

I think too that maybe a client telling an escort that it's his first time (with a man or a woman) may be part of the fantasy he wants to fulfill. A good escort will either believe him or go along with the fantasy. Fantasy is part of so many clients reason to hire. Either way if someone says it's their first time one shouldn't say they don't believe them.

[+ purplekow]

After 10 years of hiring, after a recent interlude, an escort asked me if it was my first time. Hmmm....probably not a compliment. Especially since I have been with him in the past.

Jay Relax. Everybody fucks somebody for the first time. It may not be great, but it will be memorable. It will also be embellished and revisited and it will make you smile for years to come. The big thing is, everyone has one comment about that first time...."I was so nervous"

Curtain up. Light the lights. You have nothing to hit but the heights.

[JayJonathan]

Thanks for all the advice. I took the plunge and it was great - based on the recommendations here I found the perfect guy for my first time. And in the end, I probably didn't need to tell him how inexperienced I was - it was pretty obvious ! We talked until I was comfortable, and then he eased me in to things slowly. In retrospect, I was probably worrying too much..!

[klifhangar]

Why would anyone say that it's their first time if it is not? I don't get it - what's the advantage? I don't think anyone is impressed with virginity...

[MikeBannacheck]

Just remember, we're just as nervous as you are meeting someone new. I've taken at least two lads virginity as a sexual mentor, I was glad to guide them though the process. I made sure he learned how to relax and take charge if need be (grinning)