Compliments

[beachboy]

Reading another thread how a client doesn't like compliments from escorts, I wondered how you fellas feel about compliments from clients. I tell the escort I see how gorgeous he is, what a great kisser he his & that I've had the best sex of my life with him- all 100% true. He's shown me pleasures I only dreamed about & I love telling him how amazing he is. I never outstay my time & don't pester him between meets but when I'm with him I do give him lots of compliments- all genuine. How do you guys feel about clients doing this?

[gallahadesquire]

Methinks the lady doth protest too much.

 

To paraphrase How to be a Jewish Mother:

Compliments should be avoided. They either make someone uncomfortable, which is bad, or give someone a swelled head, which is worse. There are, however, times when a compliment is absolutely necessary:

 

"Myrtle, what's wrong? It looks like you're wearing a wig."

"I am. All my hair fell out."

"Well, it's so natural, nobody will ever notice!"

Just don't overdo it. Either the escort hears it all the time, which will devalue the compliment significantly, or he doesn't, and he'll get to thinking you're not being sincere.

[jjkrkwood]

http://d.gr-assets.com/books/1434378268l/25557065.jpg

 

http://40.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m0lic8WZjl1r0y0mbo1_1280.jpg

[+ purplekow]

I tell all my escorts they are the best ever. i tell all my non escort partners they are the best ever. When I jerk off, I tell myself that was the best ever. The most recent orgasm, for me is always the best. It may fall in the mundane blur of orgasms past or it may keep its place near the top of the That was Amazing list, but for that one brief shining moment it is Come Alot.

[mike carey]

I tell all my escorts they are the best ever. i tell all my non escort partners they are the best ever. When I jerk off, I tell myself that was the best ever. The most recent orgasm, for me is always the best. It may fall in the mundane blur of orgasms past or it may keep its place near the top of the That was Amazing list, but for that one brief shining moment it is Come Alot.

I told my last escort that I thought I had come, he laughed! But it was true, I can't shoot cum over my shoulder any more, it is a small, silent pleasure. It doesn't mean I don't enjoy it, though. Holding off, not drinking helps make it more memorable but is that what I want? Sometimes yes, but not always.

[Juan Vancouver]

Beachboy, you sound like such a great guy!

 

You and your escort clearly are very lucky to have the chance of sharing moments together. You seem to appreciate and respect who he is and he seems to give you amazing experiences and shows you new things. This to me sounds like a beautiful, loving two way street.

 

Compliments are just another way of giving and receiving love. I don't mean the love that binds and creates duty, I just mean the kind of love that is surrounding us all the time and makes us better when we acknowledge it and celebrate it. A compliment, a kindness, a show of affection, they are all the elements that oil up the social machine and as such, I think the grown up and loving thing to do is to accept them with gratitude for what they are.

 

A compliment is not the declaration that one is better than the other, a compliment is just letting the other know that I am seeing him in this very moment, that I am present, that we are connecting.

 

He who lives in desperate need of the adulation of others lives in abject poverty, but worse is the sadness of he who refuses to receive a compliment (or much worse) won't share a compliment for fear that the other will have more power over him.

 

A compliment is not a binding contract, it's just a small, but meaningful act of love. The only loving thing is to accept it with gratitude.

[tyro]

Hellz yeah, Sir Vancouver!

I WUV me some sincere compliments...especially if they're not prompted by mah salty self in a needy moment.

T

[MikeyGMin]

Reading another thread how a client doesn't like compliments from escorts, I wondered how you fellas feel about compliments from clients. I tell the escort I see how gorgeous he is, what a great kisser he his & that I've had the best sex of my life with him- all 100% true. He's shown me pleasures I only dreamed about & I love telling him how amazing he is. I never outstay my time & don't pester him between meets but when I'm with him I do give him lots of compliments- all genuine. How do you guys feel about clients doing this?

 

I think the key is sincerity. There are those heat-of-the-moment compliments that a hot guy - - escort or not - - probably gets a lot of. Nothing wrong with those, but I tend to give more of the "I see you and I like what I see" type compliments. They are always sincere, only spoken if true, and always received with graciousness.

 

EDIT: Okay that's a lie. I prefer to give the type of compliment above, but "You're so fucking beautiful!" probably escapes my lips more often.

[gallahadesquire]

I think the key is sincerity. There are those heat-of-the-moment compliments that a hot guy - - escort or not - - probably gets a lot of. Nothing wrong with those, but I tend to give more of the "I see you and I like what I see" type compliments. They are always sincere, only spoken if true, and always received with graciousness.

 

EDIT: Okay that's a lie. I prefer to give the type of compliment above, but "You're so fucking beautiful!" probably escapes my lips more often.

 

[beachboy]

Beachboy, you sound like such a great guy!

 

You and your escort clearly are very lucky to have the chance of sharing moments together. You seem to appreciate and respect who he is and he seems to give you amazing experiences and shows you new things. This to me sounds like a beautiful, loving two way street.

 

Compliments are just another way of giving and receiving love. I don't mean the love that binds and creates duty, I just mean the kind of love that is surrounding us all the time and makes us better when we acknowledge it and celebrate it. A compliment, a kindness, a show of affection, they are all the elements that oil up the social machine and as such, I think the grown up and loving thing to do is to accept them with gratitude for what they are.

 

A compliment is not the declaration that one is better than the other, a compliment is just letting the other know that I am seeing him in this very moment, that I am present, that we are connecting.

 

He who lives in desperate need of the adulation of others lives in abject poverty, but worse is the sadness of he who refuses to receive a compliment (or much worse) won't share a compliment for fear that the other will have more power over him.

 

A compliment is not a binding contract, it's just a small, but meaningful act of love. The only loving thing is to accept it with gratitude.

Juan you express the matter so eloquently. Thank you. At its best the connection between escort & client is a kind of love. As you say not binding or possessive but an appreciation of the qualities of another. As clients we choose escorts for many reasons, but principally because we are attracted. I feel a strong attraction to the guy I hire because he is not only physically attractive to me but is also intelligent & has a great sense of humour & gives a stellar service & is completely present for the whole time.He is also smoking hot in the sack! I have such a great time that I cant help but express my appreciation. Our meets are always for 3 hours so a few compliments scattered along the way are not excessive! Any way as a professional in a service industry he deserves the feedback that tells him he is doing a great job. Who doesn't like to be told they're gorgeous?!

[+ purplekow]

Who doesn't like to be told they're gorgeous?!

I think I would probably like it.

[beachboy]

I think I would probably like it.

Aw Purplekow I'm sure you've received many appreciative compliments!!

[jjkrkwood]

Aw Purplekow I'm sure you've received many appreciative compliments!!

 

 

 

YES, i certainly appreciate him for putting ME on IGNORE !

[+ Eric Hassan]

Reading another thread how a client doesn't like compliments from escorts, I wondered how you fellas feel about compliments from clients. I tell the escort I see how gorgeous he is, what a great kisser he his & that I've had the best sex of my life with him- all 100% true. He's shown me pleasures I only dreamed about & I love telling him how amazing he is. I never outstay my time & don't pester him between meets but when I'm with him I do give him lots of compliments- all genuine. How do you guys feel about clients doing this?

 

I love it. To me, it means the client feels comfortable enough to express himself. Whether it's true or not isn't my business. He hired me, he's paying me, and he's totally free to say whatever he likes.

[Nathan_L]

.

[seaboy4hire]

I've never done well with receiving compliments be it personally or work related. I figure I am either doing my job or just doing my best to help someone out in a time of need. I appreciate them don't get me wrong but just have a hard time taking them.

 

Hugs,

Greg

[greatnorthernp]

I had a client look me in the eye, right in the middle of a very intense session, and tell me, "I wish I knew what is going through your head now". I honestly wasn't sure how to respond to that, so I just said that I was really enjoying our time together. It was true! But I was just taken aback by how he seemed to want to reach inside my mind to find some sort of connection, or to maybe see how sincere I was being.

 

A rank amateur! I just read minds and keep my loose tongue from wagging by stuffing my mouth with cock.

 

http://cdn.business2community.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/03/120206-mindreader.png

[jjkrkwood]

A rank amateur! I just read minds and keep my loose tongue from wagging by stuffing my mouth with cock.

 

http://cdn.business2community.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/03/120206-mindreader.png

 

That's as it SHOULD be !

[+ Lance_Navarro]

Juan you express the matter so eloquently. Thank you. At its best the connection between escort & client is a kind of love. As you say not binding or possessive but an appreciation of the qualities of another. As clients we choose escorts for many reasons, but principally because we are attracted. I feel a strong attraction to the guy I hire because he is not only physically attractive to me but is also intelligent & has a great sense of humour & gives a stellar service & is completely present for the whole time.He is also smoking hot in the sack! I have such a great time that I cant help but express my appreciation. Our meets are always for 3 hours so a few compliments scattered along the way are not excessive! Any way as a professional in a service industry he deserves the feedback that tells him he is doing a great job. Who doesn't like to be told they're gorgeous?!

 

Yeah! I too love what @Juan Vancouver has to say here. We should be working from a place of love, a love that isn't possessive or controlling, but an acknowledgment of the beauty that exists within each and every one of us. With this is mind, I think genuine compliments can come from both the escort and client. I don't give compliments unless I mean them, but it's so easy to find beauty if that's what you're looking for. Unfortunately, we too often look for what is "imperfect" or "flawed" in ourselves and others, but we can change that.

[mike carey]

Genuine compliments are easy to offer even in a meeting that is paid. That matters not, they can still be sincere and well-meant. And no, they don't mean that objectivity has been lost. I could say I love a number of gentlemen here, and I would if I met them. But I would walk out the door at the end of the meeting knowing that the 'relationship' was on pause until I next met them.

[+ Keith30309]

Yeah! I too love what @Juan Vancouver has to say here. We should be working from a place of love, a love that isn't possessive or controlling, but an acknowledgment of the beauty that exists within each and every one of us. With this is mind, I think genuine compliments can come from both the escort and client. I don't give compliments unless I mean them, but it's so easy to find beauty if that's what you're looking for. Unfortunately, we too often look for what is "imperfect" or "flawed" in ourselves and others, but we can change that.

 

I really 'like' this idea and wish others were able to view the escort/client relationship with this sort of mindset. Having an experience with someone where affection is sincerely and equally given and accepted is the ultimate for me and compliments are a piece of that. At the end of the time together each goes their own way but hopefully the spark of joy continues to glow.

[LADoug1]

I had a client look me in the eye, right in the middle of a very intense session, and tell me, "I wish I knew what is going through your head now". I honestly wasn't sure how to respond to that, so I just said that I was really enjoying our time together. It was true! But I was just taken aback by how he seemed to want to reach inside my mind to find some sort of connection, or to maybe see how sincere I was being.

Many clients, myself included, want to believe that there is a special connection with the escort. I want to think that the escort is truly enjoying himself. That said, I always find it hard to put aside my need for a personal connection and realize that unless I've been seeing a particular escort for a long time that the appointment is strictly based on sex and commerce.

[greatnorthernp]

Many clients, myself included, want to believe that there is a special connection with the escort. I want to think that the escort is truly enjoying himself. That said, I always find it hard to put aside my need for a personal connection and realize that unless I've been seeing a particular escort for a long time that the appointment is strictly based on sex and commerce.

 

In my job, I deal with the public. Many are "regulars", some I'll see once and never again. If they smile, treat me with respect, communicate their needs well enough (despite occasional language barriers), and can use what I offer for their personal enrichment, I'm happy. Sure, I get paid really well--but, unlike sex, I wouldn't do it for free! It's the bond of the simple human encounter that makes what I do more than just a way to make money. Just being a friendly, human, open person can be so transforming.

 

My turn-offs? The irremediably unwashed and stinky, the sullen, those who refuse to communicate, the arrogant, the assholes, those who think they own me just because I do this for a living, the know-it-alls...to describe just a few. And I get a bit uncomfortable when people give me their telephone numbers, hoping to get together for who-knows-what after work (not that I haven't been tempted). And I've had stalkers (uniquely unpleasant).

 

I like what I do, but it's not the money that makes my job likeable; it's the quiet satisfaction of seeing genuine gratitude on someone's face after a session.

 

Forget the money. Almost nothing, especially "sex-for-pay", is strictly based on commerce, and sex is never just sex...it's all about being human. I get great orgasms from a joint, a bottle of poppers, some lube, and a warm Fleshlight, but it's not sex unless someone else is involved.

[LADoug1]

In my job, I deal with the public. Many are "regulars", some I'll see once and never again. If they smile, treat me with respect, communicate their needs well enough (despite occasional language barriers), and can use what I offer for their personal enrichment, I'm happy. Sure, I get paid really well--but, unlike sex, I wouldn't do it for free! It's the bond of the simple human encounter that makes what I do more than just a way to make money. Just being a friendly, human, open person can be so transforming.

 

My turn-offs? The irremediably unwashed and stinky, the sullen, those who refuse to communicate, the arrogant, the assholes, those who think they own me just because I do this for a living, the know-it-alls...to describe just a few. And I get a bit uncomfortable when people give me their telephone numbers, hoping to get together for who-knows-what after work (not that I haven't been tempted). And I've had stalkers (uniquely unpleasant).

 

I like what I do, but it's not the money that makes my job likeable; it's the quiet satisfaction of seeing genuine gratitude on someone's face after a session.

 

Forget the money. Almost nothing, especially "sex-for-pay", is strictly based on commerce, and sex is never just sex...it's all about being human. I get great orgasms from a joint, a bottle of poppers, some lube, and a warm Fleshlight, but it's not sex unless someone else is involved.

I see your point and appreciate you sharing your feelings and experiences. My post was just the way I personally feel. I wasn't generalizing.