New Horizons Of Acceptance And Self-Confidence!!

[WorldwideTraveler]

Okay - thank you for your opinion as that's the way you see me as being that's NOT me at all, but do value what you have to say nevertheless.

 

You are the person you're perceived as being. To some people you may be A to others you may be B. The key is to not leave yourself open to being put in either category. Airing out that "dirty laundry" is doing that. I don't think liking you is the issue, I think that trusting you're intentions are the issue. Think about it.

[MiamiLooker]

You are the person you're perceived as being. To some people you may be A to others you may be B. The key is to not leave yourself open to being put in either category. Airing out that "dirty laundry" is doing that. Think about it.

I get the impression you think using and manipulating friends isn't a good thing LOL.

[JDXXX]

I get the impression you think using and manipulating friends isn't a good thing LOL.

 

Using and manipulating friends is NEVER a good thing, and NOT something to take lightly of or laugh about either.

[stop]

JD, I have gone back and forth in my head as to if I should post on this thread or not. I want to start out by saying I am not a hater of you. I don’t know you except via this board and word of mouth. You seem like a genuinely nice man. I truly believe that you are a nice man in your soul and that you have an extremely positive outlook on life, which is an exceptional trait to have as a gay man over 30, a black man and as an escort. You could potentially feel like the world is out to get you but instead I think you choose to ignore that and seek out the good. (Here comes the but…)

 

But I sometimes feel like your threads are posted as a bait to receive kudos, accolades or positive comments from other members of the forum. Be it the EOY tour post, or the I am making dinner for a client tour, or I have become enlightened, etc. I tend to agree with what WorldwideTravler posted. It does seem that threads that you start seem to be very you centric. They often feel very DRAMITIC !!

 

Now don’t get me wrong they are not dramatic like the other poster, lets call him Beetlejuice, (for fear he will rear up again) who goes on these rants, spins out, blames everybody else and denies that any of it is his fault. No your drama kind of does the opposite where you bring it all upon yourself. Sometimes your threads feel disingenuous. I guess I am just put off by the need your threads seem to be geared towards having people tell you how great you are. (Although I suppose that is better than people throwing shade your way)

 

Yes, I know I can ignore the post or the threads and I don’t need to comment on everything on here. I have read this thread a few times actually. But I think it was this coupled with the look at me I made dinner for a client thread not long after the hey I am the EOY world tour and the multi part saga about diversity/race. I do believe you when you say you want to improve yourself and I am giving this feedback in the spirit of that. I guess what I am saying in a very long winded way is ask yourself sometimes what is really the purpose of the post? Is it just to have people give you reinforcement about who you are? Hey that is ok, we all have our insecurities and we could all use people lifting us up. But if that is what the goal is then may I suggest being more open and upfront about it? I think you may find yourself growing even more. If your post is really asking the group a question then do that, ask the question and see what people answer. There are times where you say you want to ask a question but then proceed to discuss what you have done without really asking the question. (see the cooking for a client thread)

 

I do want to end on a couple of positives. I really enjoy reading the feedback you give others. It is often well thought out and insightful and clearly comes from a place of love. As I said earlier I do think that you really care about others and you are such an optimist that this pseudo-cynic is pretty envious of how you can stay so positive sometimes. It also appears that everybody that has met you has nothing but amazingly great things to say about you and frankly that make me want to meet you for myself to have the JD experience.

[YoungAD]

me and a client discussed about how we can better improve ourselves as people.

 

Learn to accept criticism.

[bigvalboy]

JD, I have gone back and forth in my head as to if I should post on this thread or not. I want to start out by saying I am not a hater of you. I don’t know you except via this board and word of mouth. You seem like a genuinely nice man. I truly believe that you are a nice man in your soul and that you have an extremely positive outlook on life, which is an exceptional trait to have as a gay man over 30, a black man and as an escort. You could potentially feel like the world is out to get you but instead I think you choose to ignore that and seek out the good. (Here comes the but…)

 

But I sometimes feel like your threads are posted as a bait to receive kudos, accolades or positive comments from other members of the forum. Be it the EOY tour post, or the I am making dinner for a client tour, or I have become enlightened, etc. I tend to agree with what WorldwideTravler posted. It does seem that threads that you start seem to be very you centric. They often feel very DRAMITIC !!

 

Now don’t get me wrong they are not dramatic like the other poster, lets call him Beetlejuice, (for fear he will rear up again) who goes on these rants, spins out, blames everybody else and denies that any of it is his fault. No your drama kind of does the opposite where you bring it all upon yourself. Sometimes your threads feel disingenuous. I guess I am just put off by the need your threads seem to be geared towards having people tell you how great you are. (Although I suppose that is better than people throwing shade your way)

 

Yes, I know I can ignore the post or the threads and I don’t need to comment on everything on here. I have read this thread a few times actually. But I think it was this coupled with the look at me I made dinner for a client thread not long after the hey I am the EOY world tour and the multi part saga about diversity/race. I do believe you when you say you want to improve yourself and I am giving this feedback in the spirit of that. I guess what I am saying in a very long winded way is ask yourself sometimes what is really the purpose of the post? Is it just to have people give you reinforcement about who you are? Hey that is ok, we all have our insecurities and we could all use people lifting us up. But if that is what the goal is then may I suggest being more open and upfront about it? I think you may find yourself growing even more. If your post is really asking the group a question then do that, ask the question and see what people answer. There are times where you say you want to ask a question but then proceed to discuss what you have done without really asking the question. (see the cooking for a client thread)

 

I do want to end on a couple of positives. I really enjoy reading the feedback you give others. It is often well thought out and insightful and clearly comes from a place of love. As I said earlier I do think that you really care about others and you are such an optimist that this pseudo-cynic is pretty envious of how you can stay so positive sometimes. It also appears that everybody that has met you has nothing but amazingly great things to say about you and frankly that make me want to meet you for myself to have the JD experience.

 

Nice post...Fair and balanced.

[marylander1940]

Not everyone is made for everybody, I think that resumes your thoughts and the way life is.

I'd rather not get into any serious argument on anything about this subject but as one of the oldest on here I think taking a day at a time is the best way to approach life.

[AndreFuture]

It looks like you've gotten some good advice and reflections, especially from jeepo. I manage a few online social groups and one of the few suggestions I give members (new and old) is to think about the purpose of their post. What's the thesis? (Yep, I'm taking it back to school). That should be either the title or 1st sentence, followed by a supporting argument. Every sentence after the thesis (i.e., stated purpose) should justify your origunal point, and the conclusion should reiterate the thesis.

 

I don't expect people to literally spend a week writing a post, but if they were just 5% more thoughtful AND purposeful in what they write, their posts would be a lot more useful and contribute to the online space. It also cuts down on drama.

 

JD, since you asked me to offer my thoughts, here they are: be intentional in your posting. Craft it carefully. Consider what you hope to get out of a post, be upfront about it. And be thoughtful about replies: not everything needs a response, so don't feel.obligated to reply just because. Again, use the same approach that I outlined above: what is the purpose of replying? What do you hope to get out of it?

 

That, plus the book you're reading, plus the advice on here should get you pretty far. We all can use some personal growth, so kudos to you on recognizing that and making an effort.

 

(Please forgive typos, as I'm on my.phone and REALLY want to edit all this)

[Despardo]

Hi JD. You are a sweet and very giving person as well as an uncommonly talented escort--the two qualities are definitely linked. What I have noticed is that you have an enormous need for validation--positive approval from others. For your own peace of mind, try to rise above the opinions of other people and follow your own path. There is an old cliche that goes, "Your opinion of me is none of my business." You can't please everyone and not everyone wants to be your friend--but that is perfectly OK. You are a wonderful guy and part of you knows that, but another part seems to require the constant approval of others. I think you do know your own worth, but that worth is in no way dependent on other people--part of you seems to think it is. Sure we all have a psychological need for love and recognition (I was a psych major too.) You have earned and received a great deal of recognition. Perhaps you harbor fears that you don't deserve the accolades you have received and need others constantly to persuade you that you do. That phenomenon is actually pretty common--some people who get a well deserved job promotion inwardly freak out thinking that they really aren't qualified and have tricked others into believing that they are. So, now I am playing psychologist and can state quite accurately that that is a role for which I am truly unqualified. Bottom line is the only person who needs to love and approve of you is you yourself--not other people.

 

BTW, tomorrow morning I am heading out to Southeast Asia--returning March 12th.

[+ MasssageGuy]

Bottom line is the only person who needs to love and approve of you is you yourself--not other people.

 

Here is a quote that I gave an escort friend of mine who was going through similar evolutionary period in their career....

 

"To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment".— Ralph Waldo Emerson

 

You are a great person the way you are and I am grateful you are an active member of this community.

[JDXXX]

Hi JD. You are a sweet and very giving person as well as an uncommonly talented escort--the two qualities are definitely linked. What I have noticed is that you have an enormous need for validation--positive approval from others. For your own peace of mind, try to rise above the opinions of other people and follow your own path. There is an old cliche that goes, "Your opinion of me is none of my business." You can't please everyone and not everyone wants to be your friend--but that is perfectly OK. You are a wonderful guy and part of you knows that, but another part seems to require the constant approval of others. I think you do know your own worth, but that worth is in no way dependent on other people--part of you seems to think it is. Sure we all have a psychological need for love and recognition (I was a psych major too.) You have earned and received a great deal of recognition. Perhaps you harbor fears that you don't deserve the accolades you have received and need others constantly to persuade you that you do. That phenomenon is actually pretty common--some people who get a well deserved job promotion inwardly freak out thinking that they really aren't qualified and have tricked others into believing that they are. So, now I am playing psychologist and can state quite accurately that that is a role for which I am truly unqualified. Bottom line is the only person who needs to love and approve of you is you yourself--not other people.

 

BTW, tomorrow morning I am heading out to Southeast Asia--returning March 12th.

 

Have a safe trip in Asia, and thanks for chiming in your input to this thread. Well thought-out, and will take what you said into account for future use as you made(like other members on this thread) some good valid points to my situation, and do appreciate your input along with everyone else here on the forum.

 

Thank you!!

 

Hugs,

[WorldwideTraveler]

It looks like you've gotten some good advice and reflections, especially from jeepo. I manage a few online social groups and one of the few suggestions I give members (new and old) is to think about the purpose of their post. What's the thesis? (Yep, I'm taking it back to school). That should be either the title or 1st sentence, followed by a supporting argument. Every sentence after the thesis (i.e., stated purpose) should justify your origunal point, and the conclusion should reiterate the thesis.

 

I don't expect people to literally spend a week writing a post, but if they were just 5% more thoughtful AND purposeful in what they write, their posts would be a lot more useful and contribute to the online space. It also cuts down on drama.

 

JD, since you asked me to offer my thoughts, here they are: be intentional in your posting. Craft it carefully. Consider what you hope to get out of a post, be upfront about it. And be thoughtful about replies: not everything needs a response, so don't feel.obligated to reply just because. Again, use the same approach that I outlined above: what is the purpose of replying? What do you hope to get out of it?

 

That, plus the book you're reading, plus the advice on here should get you pretty far. We all can use some personal growth, so kudos to you on recognizing that and making an effort.

 

(Please forgive typos, as I'm on my.phone and REALLY want to edit all this)

 

I think FTM hit the nail on the head here. I've been asking myself the same question for many months of what exactly is the point of a lot of these posts? I think you're posting for the sole purpose of posting. The dinner you made for your friend sounded great, but did you really need to tell the whole world about it and attempt to make yourself look amazing? I will admit what you made sounded amazing, but it made you look desperate for attention. I'm sure many escorts here lead fabulous lives, see many clients a day and have personal and work related issues similar to yours. The difference is we never hear about it, and we don't need to. Non-escorts have a very valid and substantiated reason for asking questions and such, they have no other outlet most of the time. You seem to have other escort friends and clients who you are obviously close enough with to turn to for advice. I run two businesses, and we encourage employees to ask questions, but not asking the same questions. We expect that they eventually learn to navigate on their own to come up with solutions and only escalate to management when absolutely necessary. THAT'S how you grow as a person, privately, and try to figure things out for yourself. When you try to grow publicly we all see your good times AND your bad times. If you're okay with that then that's fine, but you're doing it in a place where people get entertained by threads just like this. You get paid for your time, right? Don't entertain people for free.

 

I challenge you to not post about YOU for the next two months. That's 60 days. YOU includes: telling everyone how busy you are, anything related to personal struggles, any posts regarding any personal/client relationships, RACE, etc.

 

I also challenge you to participate in OTHER posts here. This includes giving advice to others BUT not putting the emphasis on YOU, but all about helping THEM.

 

This isn't a challenge but more of a suggestion. It's probably best to keep your friendships with other escorts private until you know you're compatible as friends that way you don't end up breaking up in public.

[JDXXX]

I think FTM hit the nail on the head here. I've been asking myself the same question for many months of what exactly is the point of a lot of these posts? I think you're posting for the sole purpose of posting. The dinner you made for your friend sounded great, but did you really need to tell the whole world about it and attempt to make yourself look amazing? I will admit what you made sounded amazing, but it made you look desperate for attention. I'm sure many escorts here lead fabulous lives, see many clients a day and have personal and work related issues similar to yours. The difference is we never hear about it, and we don't need to. Non-escorts have a very valid and substantiated reason for asking questions and such, they have no other outlet most of the time. You seem to have other escort friends and clients who you are obviously close enough with to turn to for advice. I run two businesses, and we encourage employees to ask questions, but not asking the same questions. We expect that they eventually learn to navigate on their own to come up with solutions and only escalate to management when absolutely necessary. THAT'S how you grow as a person, privately, and try to figure things out for yourself. When you try to grow publicly we all see your good times AND your bad times. If you're okay with that then that's fine, but you're doing it in a place where people get entertained by threads just like this. You get paid for your time, right? Don't entertain people for free.

 

I challenge you to not post about YOU for the next two months. That's 60 days. YOU includes: telling everyone how busy you are, anything related to personal struggles, any posts regarding any personal/client relationships, RACE, etc.

 

I also challenge you to participate in OTHER posts here. This includes giving advice to others BUT not putting the emphasis on YOU, but all about helping THEM.

 

This isn't a challenge but more of a suggestion. It's probably best to keep your friendships with other escorts private until you know you're compatible as friends that way you don't end up breaking up in public.

 

Oh! I see.

 

Thanks for the advice.

 

However, does nyone else agree or disagree with all WT had to say here? Just out of curiosity.

 

Just so you know, WT, I have gave others advice and put the emphasis on them, and not so much about me. Done that on many threads, and the "Dallas Mafia" thread was one of them which my post I am proud to say received a few likes because I cared along with other member about Alec's situation, and can relate to his dilemma of his horrific experience in Dallas. Was quite refreshing to see alot of other escorts chimed in, and expressed they're negative experiences in Dallas as well in support of Alec being he wasn't exaggerating or alone in his situation.

 

Thought it was wonderful indeed how we escorts pulled in together as a family in that particular thread to help support Alec by giving advice on how to proceed. I think it was wonderful for us to let him know how were all rooting for him, and want to see him be successful - not only in Dallas, but anywhere he goes in the US without bad-seeded clients harassing him or other escorts.

 

Gave the same support and input about "Escorts who need to know about a client being overweight" thread - that got a great deal of likes and responses as well being the comment I made was very honest, and truthful as to how an escort should be more open-minded, and not be judgmental about someone's weight as if it's a handicap.

 

You should read both threads and you'll see what I mean.

 

http://www.companyofmen.org/threads/would-you-rather-overweight-clients-warn-you-about-their-size-and-expectations-before-meeting.109042/

 

http://www.companyofmen.org/threads/dallas-escort-mafia.109926/page-2

[WorldwideTraveler]

Oh! I see.

 

Thanks for the advice.

 

However, does nyone else agree or disagree with all WT had to say here? Just out of curiosity.

 

Just so you know, WT, I have gave others advice and put the emphasis on them, and not so much about me. Done that on many threads, and the "Dallas Mafia" thread was one of them which my post on that received a great deal of likes because I care about Alec's situation, and can relate to his dilemma along with a lot of other escorts who chimed in, and expressed they're negative experiences in Dallas as well. I thought it was wonderful how we escorts pulled in together as a family in that particular thread to help support Alec by giving advice on how to proceed. I think it was wonderful for us to let him know how were all rooting for him, and want to see him be successful - not only in Dallas, but anywhere he goes in the US without bad-seeded clients harassing him or other escorts.

 

Gave the same support and input about "Escorts who need to know about a client being overweight" thread - that got a great deal of likes and responses as well being the comment I made was very honest, and truthful as to how an escort should be more open-minded, and not be judgmental about someone's weight as if it's a handicap.

 

You should read both threads and you'll see what I mean.

 

http://www.companyofmen.org/threads/would-you-rather-overweight-clients-warn-you-about-their-size-and-expectations-before-meeting.109042/

 

http://www.companyofmen.org/threads/dallas-escort-mafia.109926/page-2

 

I'm glad you came up with at least two. The one below is the post where you either talked about yourself a great deal or gave us information we didn't need to know. I don't mean to harp on you, but, it looks like you want to continue to learn in public.

 

Hi Alec,

 

Sorry to chime in so late into the thread as I just walked in door of my hotel room here in Orlando, FL from seeing a client, but wanted to give my two cents into the unfortunate situation you had during your dramatic visit in Dallas, TX recently.

 

First of all, baby - My deepest apologies hearing of the horrifying news regarding these despicable group of escorts who seem to take pleasure in not only giving working guys in our line of work a bad name by terrorizing Class-Act escorts such as yourself, but also making false inquires playing off as a client in order to lure visiting and innocent escorts into they're game is just plain disgusting to me.

 

I can relate to your situation(along with other A-listed escorts, such as Juan, Kurtis, Mike Gaite Killian, and a few other escorts I may have forgot to mention), Alec as the same problematic occurrences happened to me during my third visit in Dallas back in 2013 as I could never figure out why I was having so many people call in to inquire about scheduling a concrete appointment and cancel/vanish clear out of sight at the very last minute, and in some cases - not show up for the appointment altogether. What a shitty thing to do to someone right?

 

I remember in one instance back last year, one of the clients who booked an appointment with me 2 weeks prior to my arrival in Dallas canceled at the last minute. This client happen to have an appointment with me an hour after his photo shoot, but Lord and behold, he canceled 15 minutes before the scheduled appointment stating he was too "sore" after getting topped for 8 hours the night before to follow through with the appointment at the moment. This sort of madness was continuously happening for 3 days straight out of my 7 day duration in Dallas to a point I was ready to throw in the towel and leave early - unfortunately, I did terminate my stay in Dallas due to the inconsistency dealing more with a pool of flakes then stable appointments, and went on to NYC instead to try and recover all the monies I lost from my failed trip in Dallas which financially was a disaster.

 

Luckily, I broke even in NYC, and recovered the funds I lost during that horrific stay in Dallas successfully.

 

My first visit in Dallas I was on fire with back-to-back clients left and right, but going towards the second, and third visits weren't as promising or successful as the first.

 

Alec, it's a relief to hear you, Juan, Kurtis Killian, Mike, and a few other escorts in the industry, suffering through the same problems in DFW I was experiencing as I now know I wasn't alone with the problems I was facing there. Speaking from experience, such unfortunate circumstances in Dallas happened to me on previous visits more then once.

 

However, I didn't let these imposters(Escort Mafia) get the best of me by stopping me going back for future visits. If I refrained from returning back to Dallas, it would let them win of what these individuals were trying to accomplish.

 

Sometimes baby you have to roll with the punches in order to get back positive results in the end, and that means for you to keep shining, and not let them win by showing how this may have affected you by possibly throwing in the towel. I believe these Dallas escort mafia team are targeting escorts from out of town due to fear. They're reacting out of fear of you or any out-of-town escort being tough competition - especially stellar - class act escort like yourself to come on they're turf - Hell yeah - they're gonna be out to hunt for those who are a threat to them hurting they're business.

 

You can't let them get the best of you, baby as you need to be of an example and show them what your made of. Go back to Dallas, fight with you're shield of armor - your sword of courage and strength, and show these guys you're no push over to they're manipulative games and wicked strategies in discouraging you to succeed in they're hometown as you have a right to work there as much as they do - if not more seeing how your better quality of a human being they are.

 

Even out-smart these bastards with your brilliance and charm if you have to.... meaning if you need to generate a deposit in order to see if some of these clients are serious, and legit to not lose further business when you visit Dallas from now on - so be it. Trust me, baby - if these so-called clients who contact you want you bad enough - they'll fork over the deposit your requesting which isn't asking too much considering the circumstances. If these guys are hesitate and iffy about such a request, and give you a hard time even after the fact you have gave an explanation as to why you require a deposit - that's a "red flag" meaning....BINGO - they're out to get you, and you cant let that happen - no siree.

 

Another suggestion I would like to share with you is to consider not going back to Dallas until you either:

 

(A). You have a set guaranteed amount of appointments scheduled, and booked in advance with only "anchor" clients where a deposit is not required. That's the way I handle "iffy" situations and have been for 2 years. I only go to Dallas if I have a great deal of my "anchor" clients available and in town to see me during my planned visit, and I don't book the trip - UNLESS - I know I have a good amount of my guys in town, and available to book. If 50% of my client's are in town, and 50% are not - I don't go. Bottom line. It's safe to wait until the majority of them are there and available at the time your looking to visit. If 70% of the clients are available, and 30% are not - then on the way we go. Haha.

 

(B). Those who are not "Anchor" clients - do a $50.00-$100.00 deposit - especially if the tone of the call when they inquire or book an appointment sounds very off or iffy. I wouldn't chance it as if the nature of the call sounds off then it could be a potential set-up from this Escort Mafia - You just never know as it's wiser(In my opinion) to play it safe, and follow your gut instinct(when it comes to complicated situations like this)--always.

 

Alec - You're one hell of an A-listed escort with stellar qualities to bring to the table ANYWHERE AND EVERYWHERE you go as it shows in your personality, wit, chart-topping stunning looks, and charm as a class-act professional. These off-the-wall losers who targeted you during your visit, bro are reeking with jealousy of you and anyone of your high status and caliber getting in they're way of success. Don't give them the time of day, man. You keep touring there with a game plan, and don't bite into they're bait as your THE BEST at what you do, and on the top of your game.

 

Keep smiling, and doing many good works as I'm so sorry, baby you had to endure this awful experience during your stay in DFW, and will say it sadden me along with everyone else here on the forum to read of the disappointment and humiliation you've experience letting us know what happened to you.

 

Keep in mind, Alec we all here are in your corner as we're all glad you took the time out of your evening to forewarn and share this news with us that we as clients and escorts need to know, and be notified of for future reference in what to look out for.

 

Thank you, Alec for alerting us of this escort mafia group. It's clear now who's most likely been causing problems for escorts to succeed peacefully there in Dallas. I think they're are a great deal of people outside of this "Mafia" group who flake as well on escorts all the time, but we all can feel better to know in the back of our minds, there could be this destructive group of escorts who is targeting other escorts from out of town. I think this is a good wake-up call for us escorts to have a game plan to be on alert while visiting/working in Dallas.

 

Hugs, and be of good cheer....:cool:

[geminibear]

+1. I think people often hold escorts too high of a standard. We all make mistakes, but we aren't so intransigent and self-absorbed that we don't realize when we have made them and learn from them. IMHO, public figures in other professions have often put their foot in their mouths often or made poor decisions, but they are vindicated a little more quickly and thoroughly than escorts are. It's a vast generaization, but it's easier to have your accomplishments get written off and forgotten when you make mistakes as an escort. I know it sucks when you are paying to see Kobe Bryant score 80 points in a game and he scores 8 points, but sometimes that happens. It doesn't mean he's not an amazing player. So, too, with escorts.

Watch: Stephen Curry hits half-court shot to end All-Star Game

 

http://img-s-msn-com.akamaized.net/tenant/amp/entityid/BBpvzhx.img?h=410&w=728&m=6&q=60&o=f&l=f&x=376&y=335

[JDXXX]

I'm glad you came up with at least two. The one below is the post where you either talked about yourself a great deal or gave us information we didn't need to know. I don't mean to harp on you, but, it looks like you want to continue to learn in public.

 

Hi Alec,

 

Sorry to chime in so late into the thread as I just walked in door of my hotel room here in Orlando, FL from seeing a client, but wanted to give my two cents into the unfortunate situation you had during your dramatic visit in Dallas, TX recently.

 

First of all, baby - My deepest apologies hearing of the horrifying news regarding these despicable group of escorts who seem to take pleasure in not only giving working guys in our line of work a bad name by terrorizing Class-Act escorts such as yourself, but also making false inquires playing off as a client in order to lure visiting and innocent escorts into they're game is just plain disgusting to me.

 

I can relate to your situation(along with other A-listed escorts, such as Juan, Kurtis, Mike Gaite Killian, and a few other escorts I may have forgot to mention), Alec as the same problematic occurrences happened to me during my third visit in Dallas back in 2013 as I could never figure out why I was having so many people call in to inquire about scheduling a concrete appointment and cancel/vanish clear out of sight at the very last minute, and in some cases - not show up for the appointment altogether. What a shitty thing to do to someone right?

 

I remember in one instance back last year, one of the clients who booked an appointment with me 2 weeks prior to my arrival in Dallas canceled at the last minute. This client happen to have an appointment with me an hour after his photo shoot, but Lord and behold, he canceled 15 minutes before the scheduled appointment stating he was too "sore" after getting topped for 8 hours the night before to follow through with the appointment at the moment. This sort of madness was continuously happening for 3 days straight out of my 7 day duration in Dallas to a point I was ready to throw in the towel and leave early - unfortunately, I did terminate my stay in Dallas due to the inconsistency dealing more with a pool of flakes then stable appointments, and went on to NYC instead to try and recover all the monies I lost from my failed trip in Dallas which financially was a disaster.

 

Luckily, I broke even in NYC, and recovered the funds I lost during that horrific stay in Dallas successfully.

 

My first visit in Dallas I was on fire with back-to-back clients left and right, but going towards the second, and third visits weren't as promising or successful as the first.

 

Alec, it's a relief to hear you, Juan, Kurtis Killian, Mike, and a few other escorts in the industry, suffering through the same problems in DFW I was experiencing as I now know I wasn't alone with the problems I was facing there. Speaking from experience, such unfortunate circumstances in Dallas happened to me on previous visits more then once.

 

However, I didn't let these imposters(Escort Mafia) get the best of me by stopping me going back for future visits. If I refrained from returning back to Dallas, it would let them win of what these individuals were trying to accomplish.

 

Sometimes baby you have to roll with the punches in order to get back positive results in the end, and that means for you to keep shining, and not let them win by showing how this may have affected you by possibly throwing in the towel. I believe these Dallas escort mafia team are targeting escorts from out of town due to fear. They're reacting out of fear of you or any out-of-town escort being tough competition - especially stellar - class act escort like yourself to come on they're turf - Hell yeah - they're gonna be out to hunt for those who are a threat to them hurting they're business.

 

You can't let them get the best of you, baby as you need to be of an example and show them what your made of. Go back to Dallas, fight with you're shield of armor - your sword of courage and strength, and show these guys you're no push over to they're manipulative games and wicked strategies in discouraging you to succeed in they're hometown as you have a right to work there as much as they do - if not more seeing how your better quality of a human being they are.

 

Even out-smart these bastards with your brilliance and charm if you have to.... meaning if you need to generate a deposit in order to see if some of these clients are serious, and legit to not lose further business when you visit Dallas from now on - so be it. Trust me, baby - if these so-called clients who contact you want you bad enough - they'll fork over the deposit your requesting which isn't asking too much considering the circumstances. If these guys are hesitate and iffy about such a request, and give you a hard time even after the fact you have gave an explanation as to why you require a deposit - that's a "red flag" meaning....BINGO - they're out to get you, and you cant let that happen - no siree.

 

Another suggestion I would like to share with you is to consider not going back to Dallas until you either:

 

(A). You have a set guaranteed amount of appointments scheduled, and booked in advance with only "anchor" clients where a deposit is not required. That's the way I handle "iffy" situations and have been for 2 years. I only go to Dallas if I have a great deal of my "anchor" clients available and in town to see me during my planned visit, and I don't book the trip - UNLESS - I know I have a good amount of my guys in town, and available to book. If 50% of my client's are in town, and 50% are not - I don't go. Bottom line. It's safe to wait until the majority of them are there and available at the time your looking to visit. If 70% of the clients are available, and 30% are not - then on the way we go. Haha.

 

(B). Those who are not "Anchor" clients - do a $50.00-$100.00 deposit - especially if the tone of the call when they inquire or book an appointment sounds very off or iffy. I wouldn't chance it as if the nature of the call sounds off then it could be a potential set-up from this Escort Mafia - You just never know as it's wiser(In my opinion) to play it safe, and follow your gut instinct(when it comes to complicated situations like this)--always.

 

Alec - You're one hell of an A-listed escort with stellar qualities to bring to the table ANYWHERE AND EVERYWHERE you go as it shows in your personality, wit, chart-topping stunning looks, and charm as a class-act professional. These off-the-wall losers who targeted you during your visit, bro are reeking with jealousy of you and anyone of your high status and caliber getting in they're way of success. Don't give them the time of day, man. You keep touring there with a game plan, and don't bite into they're bait as your THE BEST at what you do, and on the top of your game.

 

Keep smiling, and doing many good works as I'm so sorry, baby you had to endure this awful experience during your stay in DFW, and will say it sadden me along with everyone else here on the forum to read of the disappointment and humiliation you've experience letting us know what happened to you.

 

Keep in mind, Alec we all here are in your corner as we're all glad you took the time out of your evening to forewarn and share this news with us that we as clients and escorts need to know, and be notified of for future reference in what to look out for.

 

Thank you, Alec for alerting us of this escort mafia group. It's clear now who's most likely been causing problems for escorts to succeed peacefully there in Dallas. I think they're are a great deal of people outside of this "Mafia" group who flake as well on escorts all the time, but we all can feel better to know in the back of our minds, there could be this destructive group of escorts who is targeting other escorts from out of town. I think this is a good wake-up call for us escorts to have a game plan to be on alert while visiting/working in Dallas.

 

Hugs, and be of good cheer....:cool:

 

And your point with this is what? Where do you find in this thread I made it ALL about me?

 

Where you failed to read more into the thread they're were several other escorts who gave of they're experiences as well along with giving some encouraging advice.

[WorldwideTraveler]

And your point with this is what? Where do you find in this thread I made it all about me?

It's what I highlighted in red. We didn't need to know you just came back from a client. We didn't need to know you just had sex, but you thought we did because you wanted us to know you accomplished something. The other highlighted area is where you told a story about yourself. The post was wonderful you made to Alec was wonderful. Full of emotion and encouragement, sometimes it can be very overdone. That's also something to work on. I think I re-call where you wished someone luck and they shot you down somewhere on the forum in some post, I can't really remember. If I were Alec, I'd be thinking "thanks for being so SORRY for me, I'm going to another city now and will forget about this tomorrow, I'm a top-tier escort with a god like body, I'll be fine."

[WorldwideTraveler]

And your point with this is what? Where do you find in this thread I made it ALL about me?

 

Where you failed to read more into the thread they're were several other escorts who gave of they're experiences as well along with giving some encouraging advice.

 

I read all of the thread, but we're talking about YOU. Your the only one who wrote a short story. Everyone else chimed in here and there.

 

I remember in one instance back last year, one of the clients who booked an appointment with me 2 weeks prior to my arrival in Dallas canceled at the last minute. This client happen to have an appointment with me an hour after his photo shoot, but Lord and behold, he canceled 15 minutes before the scheduled appointment stating he was too "sore" after getting topped for 8 hours the night before to follow through with the appointment at the moment. This sort of madness was continuously happening for 3 days straight out of my 7 day duration in Dallas to a point I was ready to throw in the towel and leave early - unfortunately, I did terminate my stay in Dallas due to the inconsistency dealing more with a pool of flakes then stable appointments, and went on to NYC instead to try and recover all the monies I lost from my failed trip in Dallas which financially was a disaster.

Luckily, I broke even in NYC, and recovered the funds I lost during that horrific stay in Dallas successfully.

 

We didn't need to know about: Anything highlighted in BLUE.

I believe the following was emphasized to showcase that your client was possibly hot AND a porn star. Which would mean that JD is THAT amazing he even gets to fuck porn stars AND get paid for it.

This client happen to have an appointment with me an hour after his photo shoot,

"sore" after getting topped for 8 hours the night before to follow through with the appointment at the moment.

 

We didn't need to know any of your personal financial information. It's great you recovered, but you had to let us KNOW you recovered and you came out on top.

Luckily, I broke even in NYC, and recovered the funds I lost during that horrific stay in Dallas successfully.

Look JD, we can sit here for hours and do this and you still might not "get it." I've said what I had to say and I think I'm over this. I encourage you to accept my challenges, which would only help you in the end on your goals to personal growth.

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I also challenge you to participate in OTHER posts here. This includes giving advice to others BUT not putting the emphasis on YOU, but all about helping THEM.

This isn't a challenge but more of a suggestion. It's probably best to keep your friendships with other escorts private until you know you're compatible as friends that way you don't end up breaking up in public.

 

 

Thanks for the advice. However, does nyone else agree or disagree with all WT had to say here? Just out of curiosity.

 

JD to an extent I do agree and I do think that WorldwideTraveler has a great suggestion for you. As I stated earlier I think you have some great insightful comments and suggestions for others when you respond to posts. I enjoy reading these. One of the reason I don't ignore your threads is because I am interested in what you have to say. I also think that Desparado and FTM had excellent observations and feedback that I know you will consider.

 

I think one of the things you should take away from this is that there are so many people on this board that want to see you to succeed and care about your future. While you may get constructive feedback that is difficult it comes out of a place of encouragement and not in an attacking way that does sometimes happen to others on this board. I think you are one of the folks on here that nearly everybody likes.

[JDXXX]

I think I re-call where you wished someone luck and they shot you down somewhere on the forum in some post, I can't really remember.

 

Yeah, and I remember, and do recall that very same person who shot me down posting something that was positive in the past recently posted something on an escort's travel thread for which has nothing to do in regards wishing them luck, but in reference to something of a sexual nature. Such a posting could be viewed as somewhat inappropriate to what mine proclaimed to be which was out of good intentions.

 

From what I've told from a reliable source that it's best for other escorts not to post on escort travel threads, but apparently, escorts do, and they're are no problems. The person only shot me down because they had something against me at the time - that's all. I never seen them shoot down anyone other escorts that commented on they're travel post, so it's obvious why they would shoot me down of course.

 

If I were Alec, I'd be thinking "thanks for being so SORRY for me, I'm going to another city to make 5,000, I'll be fine."

 

Well, maybe it's a good thing that you're not Alec then, my dear because knowing of the sweet non-judgmental, kind wonderful nature he has for himself and others, wouldn't respond or think in such a condescending manner now would he? . I'm sure he knows of my post to be supportive from the heart, and not coming off self-centered or egotistical as I was only offering advice, and spiritual guidance to the unfortunate problems he was facing in Dallas at the time.

 

We didn't need to know you just had sex, but you thought we did because you wanted us to know you accomplished something.

 

I beg your pardon? I'm sorry, but where is it noted ANYWHERE in that post where I said I came back from having "sex" with a client? LOL. You're making an assumption that's what I engaged with the client as I never implied in the post what my time with the client consisted of.

[JDXXX]

While you may get constructive feedback that is difficult it comes out of a place of encouragement and not in an attacking way that does sometimes happen to others on this board.

 

I agree - it's sad to see happening at times, but true.

 

JD to an extent I do agree and I do think that WorldwideTraveler has a great suggestion for you. As I stated earlier I think you have some great insightful comments and suggestions for others when you respond to posts.

 

Thank you, Jeep as it's nice that some of the members notice what my intentions are which are mostly good and real - not anything self-promoting or fake. It's not like I mean to upset people on purpose by sharing life experiences. However - I will be sure to use caution when posting "certain" aspects about my life from now on being how it disturbs or offend others who think post such things are ways of gaining attention which is NOT the reason I post or intended to be. Very sorry for certain individuals it tends to come off or rub them the wrong way. .

[JDXXX]

I challenge you to not post about YOU for the next two months. That's 60 days. YOU includes: telling everyone how busy you are, anything related to personal struggles, any posts regarding any personal/client relationships, RACE, etc.

 

I also challenge you to participate in OTHER posts here. This includes giving advice to others BUT not putting the emphasis on YOU, but all about helping THEM.

 

This isn't a challenge but more of a suggestion. It's probably best to keep your friendships with other escorts private until you know you're compatible as friends that way you don't end up breaking up in public.

 

Okay WT, Maybe this will be a task to consider, and will give it some thought to.

 

What do you guys think of WT challenge/suggestion?

[YoungAD]

Thank you, Jeep as it's nice that some of the members notice what my intentions are which are mostly good and real - not anything self-promoting or fake.

 

Who are you trying to kid here? You clearly have an agenda now with your posts and always have had. In three days you will be posting another faux epiphany about how horrifically you have been treated and yet managed to come through by “taking the high road” and “rising above” and whatever Kool-Aid you have drunk this time. You will remain cheerfully condescending to anyone who disagrees with your viewpoint by insisting they are unable to read or comprehend what you have clearly stated, and you will not listen to one damn word anyone has said other than “You are great, JD!” and “You tell ‘em, JD!” And then a week beyond that you will post something else that you will eventually over-apologize for and the cycle will repeat anew.

 

I was going to suggest that Mocha could truly learn something from you regarding his anger-centric approach to escorting, but really the both of you are two sides of the same coin. Neither of you knows a whit about accepting criticism in the slightest, and both of you post threads that are not intended to actually generate any responses or constructive feedback. You talk only because you are entranced by the sound of your own voice.

 

WT's suggestion is a good one and you should follow it instead of taking an impromptu survey.

[+ sf westcoaster]

It is getting close to pizza time!

[WorldwideTraveler]

I agree - it's sad to see happening at times, but true.

 

 

 

Thank you, Jeep as it's nice that some of the members notice what my intentions are which are mostly good and real - not anything self-promoting or fake. It's not like I mean to upset people on purpose by sharing life experiences. However - I will be sure to use caution when posting "certain" aspects about my life from now on being how it disturbs or offend others who think post such things are ways of gaining attention which is NOT the reason I post or intended to be. Very sorry for certain individuals it tends to come off or rub them the wrong way. .

 

I don't think your "upsetting" anyone to the extent you think you are. You just kept on challenging the post and I spelled it out word by word for you, that's all. Yes, I did read the comment in the travel section, and I think it's a mighty fine idea. I'd like to make that happen soon if the opportunity arises. There it is again, "mine proclaimed to be which was out of good intentions." It's always with wanting to have good intentions. When you sincerely want to give advice to someone you reach out in private, especially to someone you personally know, consider an esteemed colleague or someone you'd consider a friend. Doing it publicly means your looking to showcase YOU, but using them as a way to do it. There's nothing wrong with a simple "Hey, I'm so sorry you went through that, I was in Dallas also and had a similar experience, I'll PM you and fill you in on how to handle it." You showed someone you read the post, understood their pain, and have a solution to the problem without putting any focus on you, your success, and non pertinent information.