To Review or Not

[mike carey]

I find myself with a surprising dilemma. I've been reading the forum for about a year and posting here for a little less. Some of you may have noted that I am always ready to offer an opinion even when I perhaps should not. I have read the comments about the reliability of first time reviewers and I note that my next review would be my first.

 

With that in mind I had always thought I should launch right in there and write reviews, both to contribute to the collective wisdom and to establish my cred as a reviewer. I am now in the position of being able to contribute a review but I am curiously reluctant. I have already told some members about my meeting and have hinted at it in the open forum but I am still hesitant.

 

Whether I review or not will not add to or detract from the escort's reputation, his standing here is assured. And I must add, he lived up to his outstanding billing here, and then some. The concern I have is that by posting a review I say as much about myself as I do about the escort and I'm not sure I need to do that. I wonder if I am alone in thinking that. I realise that this is not just the question for escorts that I thought it would be when I started to write it!

[Kuriousity]

Well, you are answering your question yourself. You said it was a good session & any review you write will neither add nor detract to that man's reputation professionally-speaking. If you have no interest in revealing aspects of yourself in a review, then you have subconsciously decided--and the decision is not to write a review.

[MikeyGMin]

You are also free to post a review under a different name. It does not have to be the same name you use in the forum. I do that myself, but for different reasons. I had several reviews under the old name but had to create a new name for the forum when I started participating again a few months ago.

[mike carey]

Well, you are answering your question yourself. You said it was a good session & any review you write will neither add not detract to that man's reputation professionally-speaking. If you have no interest in revealing aspects of yourself in a review, then you have subconsciously decided--and the decision is not to write a review.

Thanks, Kuriousity, I suspect you may be right. I'll wait a bit before deciding. As I implied, this opinion is one I only arrived at after I had met. Before that I had every intention of writing a review.

[+ WmClarke]

You don't have to say anything about yourself during a review.

 

Some guys with good reviews don't get current ones very often, so I would go ahead and submit one. When I research, I do look at the dates of the reviews.

 

And if you're nervous, just use a different name.

[+ Lance_Navarro]

The concern I have is that by posting a review I say as much about myself as I do about the escort and I'm not sure I need to do that.

 

I actually like for my clients to talk a bit about themselves when they post a review. I think it makes it possible for others to relate, especially if they have shared with me that they are hoping to learn, heal or grow from the session, I appreciate when they share that in the review. After all the session is about US, not just ME.

[+ sf westcoaster]

With out question you should write a review. Reviews are a valuable part of this site and for many of use the most valuable part.

[Juan Vancouver]

Hey Mike,

 

So happy to read you had a good experience. Yes, contributing with reviews to the pool of knowledge is beneficious for the collective. Even if it is a well reviewed escort, I assure you he will be really pleased if you post the review.

 

On the other hand I hear you; I think this has a lot to do with culture. While US americans live in a culture of customer savvy, publicity and boasting when one finds a great deal, I know Canadians and Australians might be less inclined to do so. It's virtually impossible to get people to write reviews in Canada. They will come back every week, year after year, but there's something about a review they cringe about.

 

I think MickeyG might have given you the answer. Create a different handle for your reviews and that might help you feel more at ease when it comes to sharing private details about yourself.

 

Either way, I hope you will review. It keeps the machine going.

[+ Truereview]

The concern I have is that by posting a review I say as much about myself as I do about the escort and I'm not sure I need to do that.

Mike, companions will increasingly need quality feedback. I would very much want you to write a review. Why? If you are putting this much thought into whether you need to write one or not, I can only imagine how well- balanced and well thought-out your actual review will be. It sounds like your companion deserves it, but more importantly, we, your hiring colleagues, could benefit from your quality review as well.

 

I've been hiring for 10 years (and often), and I think I have written as few as 10 reviews. Not sure this will help you, but I use 3 rules in writing a review: 1) was I moved enough by the companion to want to provide feedback? 2) will other clients benefit from reading it? 3) what can I say that will be additive to the companion's reputation & review file?

 

Whatever you decide, thanks for the thoughtful thread. -TR

[+ azdr0710]

and, of course, if you don't want us to know it's you, clean up all that Aussie-style spelling

[mike carey]

and, of course, if you don't want us to know it's you, clean up all that Aussie-style spelling

Good point! That could have given the game away!

[+ azdr0710]

Good point! That could have given the game away!

 

but many of us here are probably wondering why you'd want to be so anonymous, anyway, since you are so respected here and have nothing to be secret about...(uhhh, right??!!)

[+ purplekow]

Whichever way you decide, the review is a voluntary attempt to help the community of readers evaluate the services of the escorts reviewed. Even escorts with more than 100 reviews have written about how they enjoy getting positive feedback.

I have written about 10 reviews and while they do reveal a bit about me, they certainly do not reveal anything that could not be surmised from my 8100 posts to the forum. So suck it up and write the review. Spend a few days considering what it is that made the encounter memorable and highlight that. Also include his dick size and how horny it got you to see him naked, We all love reading that stuff.

[whipped guy]

We all have a different comfort level and as such some here do indeed use a different review moniker. That would be up to you. However, as I personally do enjoy reading your posts I would see no reason not to use your forum moniker.

 

Regarding my personal situation, I began submitting reviews five years before officially becoming a forum member. Consequently my review moniker was chosen long before "whipped guy" came into existence. I actually wished that I was reviewing under my forum moniker, and I did not realize it was a problem until relatively recently when couple of escorts were disappointed that they did not officially get "the WG seal of approval". Therefore for future reviews I plan to add "aka whipped guy" to my reviews under the "YOU" section at the conclusion of the review.

 

As a respected forum member do take this into consideration. However, in the final analysis you need to do that which you feel comfortable doing. As far as what to include in the review simply relate your experience from your unique vantage point and reveal as much informative information you feel comfortable sharing not only about the escort but about yourself as well. That will help the reader put things into the proper perspective thus making the review more valuable.

[Mikegaite]

to establish my cred as a reviewer.

 

You already got this from forum contributions :-).

[mike carey]

Thanks for the comments. In some ways they said the sort of things I expected, some telling me not to overthink it and just make up my mind already, some other thoughtful comments on the dilemma I had set out. I'm not worried about attaching my name to a review and have few reservations about personal disclosure but until I had a meeting ready to be reviewed it hadn't occurred to me that I might want to think seriously about whether to write it or not. But that's what happened.

While US americans live in a culture of customer savvy, publicity and boasting when one finds a great deal, I know Canadians and Australians might be less inclined to do so.

Juan may have come close to the reason for my second thoughts, in that writing a review feels a bit like saying, 'Look at me and who I just hired', and that doesn't feel quite right. Almost as if to have a review published is [for the reviewer] to claim a trophy. I know it's not like that, and of course, I know enough about this audience to know that is not how any of you would read it.

 

I'll most likely submit that review, probably with a recognisable variation of my moniker here. I started this thread because I was so surprised by my unexpected reaction to the prospect of writing it, and was interested to see whether others had had similar thoughts. I guess having drawn attention to myself I now need to make sure that the review was worth the anticipation!

[whipped guy]

I guess having drawn attention to myself I now need to make sure that the review was worth the anticipation!

 

Well you certainly have raised the expectation bar. Plus you have answered the question: To review or not review... We are now not expecting anything less than that which would have been written but the Bard of Avon himself!

[mike carey]

We are now not expecting anything less than that which would have been written but the Bard of Avon himself!

And don't I know it! I'm working on it now!

 

And although I may have answered the question for myself, I don't think I have done so for everyone. I'll move on, though!

[whipped guy]

And don't I know it! I'm working on it now!

 

And although I may have answered the question for myself, I don't think I have done so for everyone. I'll move on, though!

Okay, we will settle for Christopher Marlowe! . Still it's great that you are putting quite a bit of thought into the process. That's a good sign that it will be a great and informative review!

[tyro]

This Word Nerd would be thrilled with either Marlowe or Wild Bill. Carry on, Sir Carey!

T

[+ purplekow]

Porn aint great movie making, but it serves its purpose. A review does not have to be great literature, just informative and a bit of sexy fun.

Even Shakespeare had a few rewrites for his reviews. Here are his originals, written for reviews of various escorts off Back Page Elizabethan Stratford.

 

Hark, what light through yonder window breaks? It is the sun outlining a muscular moon.

In in damn dick.

Two B or not Two B, which is his apartment

How sharper than a serpent's tooth is to have a thankless escort. Away. Away.

Fuck all. Trust a few. Do wrong to none.

We are such stuff as sex dreams are made on, and our little overnight is rounded with a sleep.

My tongue has come full circle. I am here and there and especially over there.

Live a little; comfort a little; cheer thyself a little. Then do it again, because you still have another half hour.

Come who come may, time and hour run through the roughest gay.

Self love, my liege, is not so great a sin as self-neglecting. But for a few shillings you can have someone help you.

Give every man thy cock, but few thy ass.

 

Remember though: There is no one either good or bad. But reviewing makes it so.

[mike carey]

You already got this from forum contributions

Thanks Mike, you are far too kind!

[swallows22]

Fair dinkum, Mate. Get your thumb out and post the bloody review. From another Aussie.

[mike carey]

Fair dinkum, Mate. Get your thumb out and post the bloody review. From another Aussie.

Almost finished writing it.

[curiousnomore]

Do what you're comfortable with Mike, as far as a review. That's a different site.

 

Your calm, thoughtful comments on this Forum are enough for me.