Dear Lord Jesus, please tell me I'm not the only one.

[MikeyGMin]

Not sure if I'm replying to the right post...but - does anyone besides me make a decision on what gentlemen NOT TO HIRE based on what and how they post on these forum?

 

I really don't want to cause trouble (already did that on another thread yesterday!) but there are at least 3-4 I have crossed of my list to ever contact due to repeated negative rants, bitchy arguments with other escorts/posters on these boards, etc. all negatives and a turn off to me....

 

Yes, of course. I have also made a decision TO HIRE based solely on this forum. It's a difficult situation for the escorts. We want them here. We love them here, but they have something very real to lose (business) while the clients do not. I can be the biggest bitch in the world, and the worst that will happen is that someone puts me on ignore. Boohoo. An escort who goes on a rant potentially loses some real business. They have to factor in the lurkers. One argument with a board member, who probably wasn't going to hire him in the first place, means nothing. But if he alienates a dozen lurkers... That's a problem.

 

We all know which guys know that and handle their business accordingly.

[Nvr2Thick]

Not sure if I'm replying to the right post...but - does anyone besides me make a decision on what gentlemen NOT TO HIRE based on what and how they post on these forum?

 

I really don't want to cause trouble (already did that on another thread yesterday!) but there are at least 3-4 I have crossed of my list to ever contact due to repeated negative rants, bitchy arguments with other escorts/posters on these boards, etc. all negatives and a turn off to me....

 

I'm sure other people view this differently, but I try not to define a person by his or her social media behavior to a degree. If an escort is attractive and has good, reputable reviews I'd give that information much more weight than argumentative, negative behavior on the forum. I'm a great guy, trust me, but I rub people the wrong way on some some of the groups I participate in. I intend to be nicer than I am, and sometimes I'll reread past posts with some regret. I know quite a few people who are very good with people face to face in both business and personal settings, but who are absolute jerks online.

[Mocha]

Thanks JD and Domiking for the input and encouragement. Even though some of these dummies are playing dumb like they don't understand what I'm saying, I'm glad there's escorts, live actual escorts who understand. Not just people who think they know so much about escorts.

 

By the way, I find one of the ways to handle some of these issues is to just let a mother fucker know. Believe it or not, I'm very nice. I let people cancel and flake and just, "okay sweety let me know then". Fuck that. I'm saying exactly how I feel. And I feel that's working more. I can still be nice and friendly with guys...but bad behavior doesn't need to be placated.

 

JD,

 

Your heartfelt and loving intervention is noteworthy but at this point its called enabling- see definition below. I think you should just leave Mocha to his own devices. You risk your professional reputation.

 

In a negative sense, "enabling" can describe dysfunctional behavior approaches that are intended to help resolve a specific problem but in fact may perpetuate or exacerbate the problem.[1][2] A common theme of enabling in this latter sense is that third parties take responsibility or blame, or make accommodations for a person's harmful conduct (often with the best of intentions, or from fear or insecurity which inhibits action). The practical effect is that the person himself or herself does not have to do so, and is shielded from awareness of the harm it may do, and the need or pressure to change.

 

What the hell are you talking about? You are way too obsessed with me. You think you have all the answers and seem to have so much to say about me. Shut the fuck up, and have a seat.

 

What is all this stuff about blame? I'm not blaming anyone. I am calling out behavior that is unacceptable. Success as an escort? Whoever said that clearly has no idea of the type of deals I'm working. I've been very much in demand this week in my new location. So much, I've had to turn my phone off throughout the day. Like I've said for the 500,000th time in this thread..,the situation has been mitigated and solved by the simple fact of relocating myself to a market where I can be successful, and I don't have to deal with cancels and flakes. If anyone wants to pretend to be too hardheaded and stubborn to believe that some places don't accept escorts or escorts of certain ethnicities, too bad. That's for you to not know and me to find out.

 

Sometimes clients need to know THEY are being unreasonable. Case in point:

 

The other night, I had a client I met over a year ago ask to meet me. We had a great time last time. However, he came with excuses This time citing being drunk from a business dinner. I called him up (not text) and TOLD HIM how his behavior was unreasonable being that he asked me to come over, but then telling me something else. I also told him that him not wanting to wait 25 minutes for me to get there is stupid because he'd Already been texting me for well over an hour. So how he fuck can you not wait 30 more minutes? He agreed. And I got my fee...

 

Had I not told him off, he would have gotten away with ripping me off, and denied himself a good time as well..and never realize what he was doing was offensive.

[Mocha]

Three messages and counting since you "Opted" out of the conversation...

 

 

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[Guy Fawkes]

Five messages and counting since you "opted" out of this conversation; So when are you going to let this juvenile ranting and raging end?

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[mike carey]

Oh, Mocha don't realise he's a ranting at he's self not at the rest of us.

[Guy Fawkes]

Most people that use profanity constantly don't realise they're ranting.

 

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Oh, Mocha don't realise he's a ranting at he's self not at the rest of us.

[Mocha]

Five messages and counting since you "opted" out of this conversation; So when are you going to let this juvenile ranting and raging end?

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Ummmm, FYI..I tried to end it five messages ago. How many people starting asking questions after I said I was done, things were better, and everything was good now? That's not fair game. For me to say I'm opted out, and then people talk smack behind my back without me knowing about it...

 

Someone addressed me, and I answered it. Obviously I don't have the power to close my own threads once I give my diplomatic response. Because of that...people are going to respond and ask questions, like you did...and I'm goi to feel obliged to answer them. Provided I have nothing better to do at the moment in time...which is why it's usually late, late at night that I'll respond since it doesn't change or interfere with my life whether or not someone agrees with what I have to say.

 

That said, I've been taught to respect my elders...thats no shade to you at all. Just responding diplomatically to your question. No shay, no shay.

[Guy Fawkes]

So you can't click "Alert" and ask that the thread be closed?

 

Let's stop with the excuses and the profane behavior or I might notice that one of your other MPD handles is on "Time-out." Was that subtle enough for you?

 

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