Escort missed his pre-paid flight, now what

[down_to_business]

So, the escort I book a longer than a week engagement with missed his prepaid flight (which many escorts require up front) now what?

 

Any suggestions?

 

As in the other thread of 2nd chances, do you prepay additional airfare, even though travel costs now cost almost 5X as much as when you first booked your engagement? What if he misses his flight again? Do you renegotiate the "package" now that your agreed upon time together will be significantly shorter?

 

-or-

 

Do you cut your losses at this point and just eat the ticket and the rest of the money you spent on (his part of)the rest of the trip together? Note : there is additional travel involved but it won't be a complete waste (this destination I am fine solo).

 

Do you ask the escort to refund you the cost of the airline ticket he made you prepay ?

 

Some answers to common questions:

 

Please keep the discussion "in general" please

This is not a reviewed escort

This is an escort I have known for a very long time

The excuse is not a good one (ie stayed up late, got drunk, immaturity, spent time with friends, overslept)

This is the second time he has missed a flight over a several year time frame with same type of reason

No its not the thief, I don't travel with him!

 

Thanks for thoughtful and thought provoking discussion and suggestions.

 

-DTB

[Kevin Slater]

How did you deal with it last time?

 

That it's happened twice tells me not to buy him any more tickets. Since you've seen him over several years, he should know that you're legit, suggesting he should be comfortable booking his own travel (for which he would presumably be more responsible, or at least the one at risk if not).

 

Kevin Slater

[+ beethoven]

Kevin Slater gives good advice in suggesting that you not buy him any more tickets! Especially since he knows that you're "legit," (after all, you've known each other for a "very" long time), and it was certainly his fault that he missed the flight -- again. I'd just point out that you have some leverage in this; if he wants to keep you as a client, he'll do the right thing. If not, you're better off without him, and there are other fish in the sea.

[down_to_business]

How did you deal with it last time?

 

That it's happened twice tells me not to buy him any more tickets. Since you've seen him over several years, he should know that you're legit, suggesting he should be comfortable booking his own travel (for which he would presumably be more responsible, or at leas the one at risk if not).

 

Kevin Slater

 

The last time was over 3 years ago. It was just for a weekend, we were meeting at the resort destination, and I just ate the cost of the ticket and proceeded to enjoy the weekend without him.

This is the first time that it involved flying to me, spending a week with me in my home city, and then flying together to spend a long weekend together at a resort destination. We have spent long times together in the past, just not done multiple flights/destinations before. I will likely incur some penalty for his portion of the flight to the resort as well, but maybe not the entire thing or they may penalize him directly, it will depend on the fine print.

[+ WilliamM]

I missed a flight (nothing to do with escorting) in my mid-20s for the same reason. I drank too much. It never happened again, but it did happen once.

 

If I was otherwise very satisfied with the escort, I would forget the missed flight as just part of a relationship with a young guy.

[marylander1940]

How did you deal with it last time?

 

That it's happened twice tells me not to buy him any more tickets. Since you've seen him over several years, he should know that you're legit, suggesting he should be comfortable booking his own travel (for which he would presumably be more responsible, or at leas the one at risk if not).

 

Kevin Slater

 

Well said!

 

Maybe the escort needs to learn sometimes it's very important to be on time... I know a local escort who has 3 alarm clocks on just to make sure he wakes up at 4 AM to fly out of Reagan at 6AM.

[Jock123]

Totally agree with @Kevin Slater

[+ TylerandAce]

This is a job he accepted as an independent contractor. If people in my employ miss flights I've paid for, they must make the travel happen themselves if they want to receive compensation for the entire job. Missing flights is unprofessional unless a family emergency or weather is involved. It should be up to him to pay for another ticket to meet you. Priceline and Hotwire work well for discounts, tell him. I'd make sure he knows there are plenty of others who would be happy to take his place in the future.

[Guest]

The escort is responsible for the cost of the flight. If he refuses to pony up, you'll just have to eat the loss. I once hired an escort who also missed his flight and he was able to come on a later flight on his own dime. Although I'd hired him for an hour previously, this was the first time I had hired him for a trip. What I soon found out was the reason for his missing the flight, was that he had very severe OCD. He spent hours each day doing repetitive rituals. It was not too pleasant a trip, as you might imagine. I don't know what became about him. Unless he got help for his condition, he probably would have a terrible time functioning in society. The fact that he was an hour late for his 1-hour appointment was the first hint, but he had an excuse for that.

[MikeyGMin]

This is a job he accepted as an independent contractor. If people in my employ miss flights I've paid for, they must make the travel happen themselves if they want to receive compensation for the entire job. Missing flights is unprofessional unless a family emergency or weather is involved. It should be up to him to pay for another ticket to meet you. Priceline and Hotwire work well for discounts, tell him. I'd make sure he knows there are plenty of others who would be happy to take his place in the future.

 

I like your response. I love the new avi. You guys look hot.

[jawjateck]

I feel for you, the frustration and agitation, after having planned a nice get-away. Make him fly on his own dime, if both of you want to try to make it happen. If it falls through and you have to go solo this time, but subsequently, decide to give him another chance, deduct the lost expenses from his future fees. If travel is involved, request he buy his ticket and you will reimburse the cost. If he doesn't want to make this right, then you boys have probably reached the end of the line.

[bigvalboy]

Well that sucks DTB. No sense repeating all the good advice from above, from Kevin Slater on down. I concur with most everyone...

 

It's rarely about the money, it's that someone took advantage you. Been there, done that. I always have a plan B, but for now, follow the guidance from everyone here, and let us know how all of this works out...Good luck.

[MiamiLooker]

Do you think he even packed for the trip?

[+ Truereview]

Sorry, DTB. That SUCKS! Mostly agree with all the good insight/advice above. Slightly different points:

1. You don't strike me as the kind that will dwell. But just in case: do not dwell on the "what if" stuff...that's just gonna make your stomach turn and make you hold a grudge against the immature man.
    
   
2. I don't hear you say anything about future business with this guy, so I will assume you will forgive and forget ( you have a nice record of that ). If that's the case, don't add more pain to his self-inflicted injury by trying to get reimbursed from him for the missed flight. Just let things play out. You focus on you!
   
3. Glad to hear you will try to get refunded from the airline for the weekend getaway. Fingers crossed!
   
4. Now...for the fun stuff: you had $$$ earmarked for a whole week with this guy in your home city. That cannot be an insignificant amount...whatcha gonna do with this new found dough? I suggest you go get yourself a mentally mature, hot escort. @Kevin Slater, @Jock123, or @TylerandAce on this thread are looking mighty fine and rather impressive with their advice! The world is your oyster!
   

[geminibear]

Now...for the fun stuff: you had $$$ earmarked for a whole week with this guy in your home city. That cannot be an insignificant amount...whatcha gonna do with this new found dough? I suggest you go get yourself a mentally mature, hot escort. @Kevin Slater, @Jock123, or @TylerandAce on this thread are looking mighty fine and rather impressive with their advice! The world is your oyster!

Wait! What!?! TR have you been holding out on us? Do you know more about the illustrious @Jock123 ? Inquiring minds want to know.

[+ Truereview]

Wait! What!?! TR have you been holding out on us? Do you know more about the illustrious @Jock123 ? Inquiring minds want to know.

Me? God, no. I'm always the last to know a n y t h i n g.

[Kuriousity]

So, the escort I book a longer than a week engagement with missed his prepaid flight (which many escorts require up front) now what?

 

Any suggestions?

 

As in the other thread of 2nd chances, do you prepay additional airfare, even though travel costs now cost almost 5X as much as when you first booked your engagement? What if he misses his flight again? Do you renegotiate the "package" now that your agreed upon time together will be significantly shorter?

 

-or-

 

Do you cut your losses at this point and just eat the ticket and the rest of the money you spent on (his part of)the rest of the trip together? Note : there is additional travel involved but it won't be a complete waste (this destination I am fine solo).

 

Do you ask the escort to refund you the cost of the airline ticket he made you prepay ?

 

Some answers to common questions:

 

Please keep the discussion "in general" please

This is not a reviewed escort

This is an escort I have known for a very long time

The excuse is not a good one (ie stayed up late, got drunk, immaturity, spent time with friends, overslept)

This is the second time he has missed a flight over a several year time frame with same type of reason

No its not the thief, I don't travel with him!

 

Thanks for thoughtful and thought provoking discussion and suggestions.

 

-DTB

 

 

Cut. Him. Loose.

 

Happens once, shame on you. Happens twice, shame on me....if he used the same bullshit excuse as the first missed flight, then you need to say "Bye, Felicia" and find a new special friend.

[mattr]

This is a guy who has no respect for you, your time, or your money. Why do you want to continue to spend time with someone who doesn't respect you?

[keithhardy]

Sorry this happened to you. If its for a reason you feel is valid and you have had good experiences with him in the past I would try to forget about it, I wonder why he can't take a flight even the next day if he was planning a week with you anyway. Most airlines will allow you to fly standby on a later flight if you miss yours. I could always fill in LOL, and I fly for FREE as long as there is a seat available!!!!

[mike carey]

I'm with the others who say that it is his problem to rebook his flights not yours. If the arrangement had been for you to reimburse him on arrival and he had turned up would he have asked you to pay for the missed flight and the one he eventually took? I doubt it. Why should it be any different when you prepaid his first ticket?

 

With any ticket the airline will usually rebook free if it's their issue (last weekend in DC, for example), but very few tickets allow you to rebook if you're a no show (but they are available). It may be worthwhile canvassing with any future hire how to manage flights. He may be prepared to pay the difference between what you are prepared to pay, and a more flexible flight if he has any doubts about whether he will make it to the airport on time. Hell, an escort may well be up against a deadline for higher status with the airline and be prepared to pay the premium to qualify. Airline status runs are a thing after all!

 

All this adds to my reluctance to fly an escort in, complications abound. I would prefer to travel to their city (if it's in the US, so many places I haven't been) or hire while they themselves are travelling. Clearly this doesn't work if you want to travel together to a resort. (As an aside, I recall reading of a trip together where the client flew himself first and put the escort in business. Yes, a first world problem, but an illustration that 'travel dynamics' can cut both ways!)

 

On my recent trip, I paid for a fully flexible ticket (ok I confess, it was in part for status credits. There, I've said it.) and in retrospect I'm glad I did. Trying to rebook from DC the airline wasn't aware that my flight had been cancelled (Qantas call centre in NZ) so if I had a discount ticket it would have been a problem. Yes, they would have changed it eventually but because the ticket was flexible they changed it immediately without batting an eyelid.

[geminibear]

"Bye, Felicia"

At the risk of revealing my lack of being hip. Who is Felicia? And why does everybody keep telling her bye?

[Kuriousity]

Watch the move "Friday", doll

 

It will explain "Bye, Felicia"

[Kuriousity]

Courtesy of the Urban Dictionary--

 

"When someone says that they're leaving and you could really give two shits less that they are. Their name then becomes "felicia", a random bitch that nobody is sad to see go. They're real name becomes irrelevant because nobody cares what it really is. Instead, they now are "felicia"."

[Kuriousity]

This is a job he accepted as an independent contractor. If people in my employ miss flights I've paid for, they must make the travel happen themselves if they want to receive compensation for the entire job. Missing flights is unprofessional unless a family emergency or weather is involved. It should be up to him to pay for another ticket to meet you. Priceline and Hotwire work well for discounts, tell him. I'd make sure he knows there are plenty of others who would be happy to take his place in the future.

 

Hear, hear.....2 fists up....a 5 minute perusal of RentMen shows there is more than a few hourly employees out there to pick up the slack because someone else cannot maintain professional mindsets.

[+ Truereview]

I could always fill in LOL, and I fly for FREE as long as there is a seat available!!!!

God bless America! Opportunity (dressed in a super hot keithhardy suit) knocks!