marylander1940 Posted July 19, 2020 Share Posted July 19, 2020 While it was sociologically amusing, I'm letting my SA membership expire. - 75 percent of responses are from other countries. - 20 percent of responses are "hi," but ghost you and don't respond to any attempts at conversation or questions after that "hi" - the 5 percent who do communicate are wishy washy or looking for money only Only 1 respondent got to the texting point, agreed to a initial visit with compensation, then ghosted. I think I'll stick to escort boards. At least they know what they're looking for. SA is full of confused kids who don't know what they want, and who get scared if anyone shows interest. I’ll let someone else corrupt them. I have neither the time nor patience to myself. Good and reasonable choice, some on here just love the idea of "hunting" from their sofa. I guess it's their choice what they do with their time, right. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aaron James Posted July 20, 2020 Share Posted July 20, 2020 I think I'll stick to escort boards. At least they know what they're looking for. SA is full of confused kids who don't know what they want, and who get scared if anyone shows interest. I’ll let someone else corrupt them. I have neither the time nor patience to myself. A really cute guy messaged me and asked if I was interested in offering work but not sex. Rather stupidly I replied with a no and now I’m banned. I guess another user must have flagged me. To be honest, I was getting bored with the ghosting, obvious scammers, and guys who chat endlessly but don’t follow through. Plus I was spending way too much time on there. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MscleLovr Posted July 20, 2020 Share Posted July 20, 2020 A really cute guy messaged me and asked if I was interested in offering work... If he was that cute, I‘d have said Yes. Surely he could have cleaned house, done the laundry or helped you with gardening? It’s always useful to have an attractive companion around the house. + Coolwave35, MikeBiDude and marylander1940 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
orville Posted July 20, 2020 Share Posted July 20, 2020 I appreciate what you say @marylander1940 and I understand the frustration of @EZEtoGRU but Seeking does take work. And if you want someone fitting a precise type or of a certain physical desirability, it can work. I think I just used SA for 1 week and then I gave up. Too many bugs, design fails and not the type of guys I wanted to find. They would do better if they used RM interface and design. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MikeBiDude Posted July 20, 2020 Share Posted July 20, 2020 As I mentioned elsewhere I’m taking a break from seeking.com, because with Covid there is no point, I’m not meeting anyone currently. That said, I find it a valuable resource - albeit more work. It’s not a “right now” app but I’ve developed several long lasting friendships from the site. In terms of “hunting” comment I’m not sure of the context? Seems to me that perusing RentMen, RentMasseur, MintBoys, seeking.com are all pretty much the same thing. I base that on all the daily inquiries on the forum about various ads and providers from various sites that we are all “hunting” ??♂️? I use all the resources at my disposal when I’m interested and available for meeting new friends + WilliamM 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marylander1940 Posted July 20, 2020 Share Posted July 20, 2020 As I mentioned elsewhere I’m taking a break from seeking.com, because with Covid there is no point, I’m not meeting anyone currently. That said, I find it a valuable resource - albeit more work. It’s not a “right now” app but I’ve developed several long lasting friendships from the site. In terms of “hunting” comment I’m not sure of the context? Seems to me that perusing RentMen, RentMasseur, MintBoys, seeking.com are all pretty much the same thing. I base that on all the daily inquiries on the forum about various ads and providers from various sites that we are all “hunting” ??♂️? I use all the resources at my disposal when I’m interested and available for meeting new friends I thought I was in your ignore list! I disagree, RM and other mainstream sites are mostly a "right now" thing where in most cases we get what we want for a certain exchange of money. Obviously some would rather "searching" for a diamond in the rough, a young man looking for a room to rent in exchange for affection, etc. I'm sure it could happen or at least @latbear4blk said he got that agreement for a few months. Good luck! Plenty of free time to explore from the safety of home. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MikeBiDude Posted July 20, 2020 Share Posted July 20, 2020 Difference from being on forum “ignore list” and just simply being ignored. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marylander1940 Posted July 20, 2020 Share Posted July 20, 2020 Difference from being on forum “ignore list” and just simply being ignored. Yet somehow you occasionally make comments on what I say. That's not ignoring someone. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ WilliamM Posted July 20, 2020 Share Posted July 20, 2020 I thought I was in your ignore list! I disagree, RM and other mainstream sites are mostly a "right now" thing where in most cases we get what we want for a certain exchange of money. Obviously some would rather "searching" for a diamond in the rough, a young man looking for a room to rent in exchange for affection, etc. I'm sure it could happen or at least @latbear4blk said he got that agreement for a few months. Good luck! Plenty of free time to explore from the safety of home. latbear4blk decided not to post here anymore. marylander1940 and MikeBiDude 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marylander1940 Posted July 20, 2020 Share Posted July 20, 2020 latbear4blk decided not to post here anymore. Sorry I forgot, I shouldn't have mentioned. + WilliamM 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lawkid3889 Posted September 1, 2020 Share Posted September 1, 2020 I just joined Seeking this week after someone I met on Grindr mentioned it to me (I know). I’m 32 and I’m upfront with the guys that I don’t have the financial flexibility that other more established guys might be but I am interested in a friends with benefits/guy I can take to a hockey game type situation. So far I’ve chatted with some nice guys not too far from me (and received messages from guys from so many different countries I feel like the UN) but I have a specific type I’m looking for. i am interested to see how it goes. Penn7, marylander1940, MscleLovr and 4 others 7 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ Steve yabsley Posted September 1, 2020 Share Posted September 1, 2020 @Lawkid3889 - good luck. My experience has been mixed - but it really depends on your location. Lots of effort can result in success (at least that’s my hope ?), but it is really hit or miss and a matter of timing and luck. Lawkid3889, MikeBiDude and marylander1940 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Armann Posted September 1, 2020 Share Posted September 1, 2020 I subscribed and was out in about a month, im sure there are honest people out there looking for a guy to be his SB, i was contacted my some serious men and it it was great getting to know them, even though i am a legal resident in the USA, i have choosen to live in a beautiful city in Mexico, i do come to the States very often, but note really sure i want to move here permanently again, that is a turn off for most people seeking arrangement, since either they want you in the same city or close by to travel as often as they can, for me it was difficult but im sure there are men out there that find what they are looking for on Seeking arrangement. marylander1940 and MscleLovr 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Skip Posted September 1, 2020 Share Posted September 1, 2020 It does only take one. And under normal circumstances travel is not as difficult. MikeBiDude 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ Steve yabsley Posted September 1, 2020 Share Posted September 1, 2020 It does only take one. And under normal circumstances travel is not as difficult. It does only take one, but I find there is a lot of work to find one (aka, I’m still seeking).....and at 90$/mo, It’s not cheap. I’m sure it depends on where you live and what you want....but I’m not looking to buy pictures or pay you for custom videos, I’m not looking for a platonic take you shopping and give you money situation, or to pay you $$ to convince you that you ‘can be gay’, or pay you to travel here from Ecuador or Belarus. Along with a host of other interesting situations. If you enjoy the process, as others have said, it is another venue to explore. yep, the moon is in the cynical phase in my horoscope...... GTMike, MikeBiDude and fedssocr1 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MikeBiDude Posted September 1, 2020 Share Posted September 1, 2020 It does only take one, but I find there is a lot of work to find one (aka, I’m still seeking).....and at 90$/mo, It’s not cheap. I’m sure it depends on where you live and what you want....but I’m not looking to buy pictures or pay you for custom videos, I’m not looking for a platonic take you shopping and give you money situation, or to pay you $$ to convince you that you ‘can be gay’, or pay you to travel here from Ecuador or Belarus. Along with a host of other interesting situations. If you enjoy the process, as others have said, it is another venue to explore. yep, the moon is in the cynical phase in my horoscope...... It definitely takes some time, as my image below suggest ? I’m not active on Seeking at the moment, but have a lot of experience there. One tip on foreign messages and others out of your area, you can set filters on your incoming messages by geo range (in miles) that will (with varying degrees of success) filter out messages from the geo range you set. Since Covid many, many more of the pic/video hustlers, and the “Platonic only” showed up. That, and not wanting to meet new friends at height of pandemic caused me to not renew my membership. I find I’m not missing it much, and I have a few friends I’ve met on seeking that I keep in touch with via text messaging....although it’s all just virtual even those few I haven’t met with live yet. I’ll probably renew one of these days, it’s been a good resource for me in addition to RentMen etc. for meeting new friends. tennisjock 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ Steve yabsley Posted September 1, 2020 Share Posted September 1, 2020 @MikeBiDude -agreed and I really didn’t mean to vent (although it felt good). Pandemic definitely impacts everyone, and I’m clearly a little Covid hermit (and getting stir crazy) and wishing I had found a pandemic cuddle buddy. I just had a disappointing end to what I thought was going to be a perfect SA arrangement that didn’t progress beyond an expensive (for me) cup of coffee with a nice man who is still really nice but always busy (I’m taking his hint, but grumpy about it). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MikeBiDude Posted September 1, 2020 Share Posted September 1, 2020 @MikeBiDude -agreed and I really didn’t mean to vent (although it felt good). Pandemic definitely impacts everyone, and I’m clearly a little Covid hermit (and getting stir crazy) and wishing I had found a pandemic cuddle buddy. I just had a disappointing end to what I thought was going to be a perfect SA arrangement that didn’t progress beyond an expensive (for me) cup of coffee with a nice man who is still really nice but always busy (I’m taking his hint, but grumpy about it). I have had my share of “Peet’s and greets” coffee dates! Disappointing when the online messaging goes so well, and the live meet doesn’t pan out. + Steve yabsley and tennisjock 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fedssocr1 Posted September 1, 2020 Share Posted September 1, 2020 I did the 3 months sub and let it lapse. I've not had much luck lately despite being in a big metro area. For sure lots of guys looking to sell photos and so forth. And lots of scammers/flakes in general. I did meet a few guys last year when I originally subscribed. But this last go 'round I only met one guy. A couple of guys flaked on me after chatting for a while. And a couple wanted me to pay them in advance of meeting. I have met one guy but he's not interested in a physical thing "right now" which is why I'm here. He's a nice guy and I did meet with him and was willing to pay him for his time, but now I think he thinks I am willing to keep doing that. I get that he's in a tough financial situation which I sympathize with (lots and lots of people are these days). But I think I might need to communicate my needs. + Steve yabsley, MikeBiDude, + Coolwave35 and 1 other 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MscleLovr Posted September 2, 2020 Share Posted September 2, 2020 I might need to communicate my needs You definitely do @fedssocr1! I only ever had a coffee-date AFTER I’d done the initial, but essential, filtering by text and WhatsApp. I described my needs and preferences very clearly. I also described the possible arrangement before asking what they wanted/hoped for. IMO you have to stay polite and friendly, but be ruthless. No endless chats; if they’re promising, meet soon. If they can’t/won’t meet, swap phone numbers and encourage them to contact you when they’re ready to commit. It can be a lot of work. And I had to kiss a lot of frogs before I found my Prince, but Seeking truly worked for me. Penn7 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tennisjock Posted September 6, 2020 Share Posted September 6, 2020 I am once again active on seeking and surprised how many are asking for a gift card or Venmo up front of course they get blocked no matter how hot their pics are. Others range free for a coffee date to 500.00 for the first meet for coffee and then if he is in the mood he would let me eat him out in my car in the parking lot and let me blow him ..i am like what’s in it for me? I am doing all the work here ? another super hot muscle early 30s from Vegas was all hot and bothered to meet And do anything then when i say let’s switch offline and do texting he blocked me ... so def a game to some but have met some wonderful nice guys last time around so I am hopeful. Just much more upfront about when I am looking for and either we agree to meet very soon or text etc or i move on + Steve yabsley and Penn7 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ Steve yabsley Posted September 6, 2020 Share Posted September 6, 2020 I’ll definitely take any tips. I try to balance between being friendly and flirty on the messaging and clear on what I’m looking for....a lot of guys say yes, that’s what they want (monthly stipend in exchange for 3-4 play dates) but only some of them are willing to meet (covid fear?). I need to be more ruthless! MikeBiDude, tennisjock and MscleLovr 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fedssocr1 Posted September 6, 2020 Share Posted September 6, 2020 good luck. A lot of them are just flakes or tell you what they think you want to hear but don't follow through when it comes time to consummate the deal. I always avoid talking about money or sex on the seeking platform given their rather draconian enforcement measures. After chatting a while I invite them to text me at my Google voice number to discuss particulars. I have a couple of messages sitting in my inbox that I am curious about but I'm not curious enough to pay to find out. Penn7, + Steve yabsley, tennisjock and 1 other 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Skip Posted September 7, 2020 Share Posted September 7, 2020 this is the feed that never ends. There are some great guys on there. There are also a few that over inflated ideas of value. They need more education than the RM guys. They also can become more needy as they aren't seeing as many guys. Like any other venue, you have to weed through the good and bad. MikeBiDude, Danny-Darko and tennisjock 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ TooSchoolForCool Posted September 8, 2020 Share Posted September 8, 2020 I'm discontinuing my SA account this week but I've found a couple guys who will meet up on a regular basis. They have been reasonable with their requests. Some guys ask for an astronomical amount. You just have to find the diamond in the rough! MscleLovr, + Hoover42, + Steve yabsley and 4 others 7 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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