Question for Clients: Does this get any easier?

[jawjateck]

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He was neither a stud, nor muscular. Basically a scrawny hippie with chipped teeth, and he reeked of patchouli.

 

Uh oh......just realized we didn't get a sneak peek at the ad of the guy you selected. On the bright side, he wasn't LE, so that part of your anxiety was needless. I hope you don't give up. Process what happened, evaluate the lessons learned, and apply those lessons to make a successful meeting happen in the future.

[bigvalboy]

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He was neither a stud, nor muscular. Basically a scrawny hippie with chipped teeth, and he reeked of patchouli.

 

Ok...take a deep breath. Things like this happen. Best to consider this a lessoned learned...but...please tell us you didn't go in, or let him in. Rule #1...never go in or let them in if they have been dishonest about their appearance.

[Reluctant Daddy]

please tell us you didn't go in

 

Would you think less of me?

 

I just opted for the massage.

[bigvalboy]

Would you think less of me?

 

Laughing my ass off...Of course not. I stepped past many a threshold in those early days myself. It's all part of the process.

[Jock123]

You have no Reasons to be Nervous. If the Escort takes his Job Seriously he will do Whatever He can to make You more Comfortable. Also It was a GREAT Idea on Your part to let the Escort know before meeeting Him that You may be Nervous. That way He's going Into it not taking any weird "Vibes" personally and will know He'll need to help Break the Ice....and Your Back;)

[jawjateck]

Would you think less of me?

 

I just opted for the massage.

 

All of us go through a learning curve. No worries there. Confidence comes with experience. Could the guy at least perform a decent rub? or were you just counting down the minutes to get out of there?

[Reluctant Daddy]

If the Escort takes his Job Seriously he will do Whatever He can to make You more Comfortable.

 

I don't think was really an escort in the true sense of the word. I think he was looking for some fast cash for weed.

[Reluctant Daddy]

were you just counting down the minutes to get out of there?

 

I never knew an hour could last so long

[Jock123]

I don't think was really an escort in the true sense of the word. I think he was looking for some fast cash for weed.

 

 

 

Wow. I'm so sorry I didnt read the part where You HAD Already met Him. Sheesh....Im so sorry for that Experience. Look at it this Way...Lesson learned!

[+ Gar1eth]

Uh oh......just realized we didn't get a sneak peek at the ad of the guy you selected. On the bright side, he wasn't LE, so that part of your anxiety was needless. I hope you don't give up. Process what happened, evaluate the lessons learned, and apply those lessons to make a successful meeting happen in the future.

 

 

What is 'LE'?

 

Gman

[geminibear]

What is 'LE'?

 

Gman

The boys in blue kid. five - 0

[+ Gar1eth]

The boys in blue kid. five - 0

 

 

What does it stand for?

 

 

Gman

[MikeyGMin]

What does it stand for?

 

 

Gman

 

Law Enforcement

[ChrisWydeman]

I booked an appointment for tomorrow, and am having a major anxiety attack about it and all the possible negative things that may happen (I am not a Pollyanna by any stretch). This happened the first time I hired, but I followed through. The second time I tried to book with my first hire, I went through the same thing and put him off. I can't seem to relax and I'm afraid that I'm going to be a basket case if I follow through. Did anyone else go through this? What did you do to quell the anxiety? Does this ever stop?

If your going to hire someone do it with someone who has a lot of experience under their belt. The more experienced an escort is the better they are at putting people at ease and for many of the really well reviewed folks approachability is just part of there personality. Have a glass of wine before someone comes over and when they get there talk to them for a bit and get to know them, that should help to.

[+ bashful]

Have a glass of wine

 

My first experience was not a preplanned appointment. He was (then on Rentboy) "actively looking". I couldn't even send that first text until I knocked back a couple glasses of wine. I trembled hitting send. Once I did, I strangely felt relieved. But, when he responded quickly, I about jumped out of my skin. Though he put me at ease, he could no longer meet then, and asked about the next day. I got nervous and said that wouldn't work. Two days after, he again was "actively looking", so two glasses of wine later, I sent another text. This time he was available. He put me at ease so quickly, and it turned out to be a great experience. I've only met four different escorts (one for a 2nd time), so meeting someone new is still somewhat nerve racking, but on my 2nd appointment with the one, I was so much more relaxed. Follow all the good advice these guys have to offer.

[+ Gar1eth]

Law Enforcement

 

I'm more used to LEO (local enforcement officer).

 

Gman

[BabyBoomer]

I'm more used to LEO (local enforcement officer).

 

Gman

 

Are you too young to remember "Book em Danno?

 

~ Boomer ~

[Decatur Guy]

I never was too terribly nervous, but yeah, I felt more comfortable around Time No. 5. What was hard for me was the idea I was spending that much money for companionship. Took me awhile to get over feeling "old and ugly" for doing it. I no longer feel that way; and in fact, having encounters with hot escorts actually increased my action with non escorts.

[LADoug1]

Ok...take a deep breath. Things like this happen. Best to consider this a lessoned learned...but...please tell us you didn't go in, or let him in. Rule #1...never go in or let them in if they have been dishonest about their appearance.

I've only had this happen once for a massage appointment. I was too scared and felt too obligated to back out. For me if it were an escort it would be even more difficult to turn him away.

[LADoug1]

I never knew an hour could last so long

LMAO!

[Reluctant Daddy]

Took me awhile to get over feeling "old and ugly" for doing it.

 

My encounters on Grindr, A4A, Scruff, etc. have left me with that feeling. The fact that I'm now hiring for companionship pretty much validates it in my head. Hopefully, this too shall pass for me.

[MikeyGMin]

My encounters on Grindr, A4A, Scruff, etc. have left me with that feeling. The fact that I'm now hiring for companionship pretty much validates it in my head. Hopefully, this too shall pass for me.

 

I think it's a very natural feeling. You go from being young and at least somewhat desirable to an age where it becomes very difficult to snag a guy you desire unless your taste in men has matured along with your body.

 

What helped me to get over it was realizing that it's kind of the natural order of things. Each person brings something to the table. Older men have ALWAYS brought security (in one form or another) to younger more desirable partners. Straight men marry them. Gay men hire them or sugar daddy them. (I know there are exceptions people...so don't start blowing rose colored smoke up my ass! )

 

I've worked hard to get to a point in my life where I can indulge in this very great luxury. Instead of looking at it as a failure, look at it as a success in that regard. Unless you are foolishly spending your grocery money on a companion, you have accomplished something. Personally, I am spending time with guys who would have been out of my league in my prime. Winning!