Could you just be friends with an exhibitionist? Or can anyone make sense of this confusion?

[Mocha]

This question is actually directed to everyone not just escorts.

 

I have a friend who I've known for almost two years. We're the same age range late twenties, and we have some things in common. We've done trips together, been roommates together, even jerked off together. He has often gotten naked or played with himself when I'm in the same room. You would think perfect couple friendship right?

 

Well, when it comes to it...the closest we got to sex was touching each other in the gym shower. He got nervous and backed out. Since then, he's still done all the above things. When he talks about what he's into...he has an extremely one tracked, fetishsizing, almost anti-gay and anti-bottom complex. He's a gay middle eastern versatile bottom, but only into White, oftentimes married "straight" top guys. He often disparages top guys who give oral, and bottoms...yet 99% of the time we hang out, he's surfing the CL looking to suck dick himself.

 

The other night, we somehow ended up jerking off together (when I showed him a couple videos that dominant looking tops in porn (and real life) can be as submissive a bottom with another guy, and to stop having those conversations. I actually felt worse by doing it with him.

 

Few days later, he came over and I told him this friendship isn't going to work for me anymore. He hasn't really given me any concrete reason as to why we can't mess around. But I can't be friends with someone who thinks it's okay to tease, hang bait in front of you (he always talks about how much he loves to suck cock), then says, "oh, I can't...we're friends". Or, "I told you no".

 

I'm not saying a friends should have sex with each other. I'm also not saying I have sex with all my friends. but some guys out here are so sexually addicted and into themselves, will undress in front of you, fill your head with thoughts of you having sex, but they'll put a wall up and pull the friend card.

[+ purplekow]

I might just have the conversation with him: Hey guy, either take it to the next level or keep your clothes on. I am perfectly capable of being horny without your help but if you want to be part of the solution rather than part of the problem, I am WAY UP for that and by WAY UP, I mean.....well UP.

[+ glennnn]

Ask him what it means to him when he gets sexual or just nude in front of you. Does it arouse him when you look at him? Does it arouse him because he knows you cant have him? Ew! On second thought, he is one sick guy. Drop him if you can. There is nothing in this friendship for you unless you enjoy having a dog hump your leg.

[Mocha]

I might just have the conversation with him: Hey guy, either take it to the next level or keep your clothes on. I am perfectly capable of being horny without your help but if you want to be part of the solution rather than part of the problem, I am WAY UP for that and by WAY UP, I mean.....well UP.

 

I've Had that conversation with this guy many times. This past week was the last draw because, watching the porn together was like an unintended test. The test being, if he felt comfortable enough to go THAT far with me, but not even touch each other...that's just real weird. Or sick lol. If I didn't want to do that with someone I wasn't planning on doing anything with, I would have left and told him I am not doing that. Yet, he seemed totally content to pull out his dick, watch it, and get off.

 

One of the main reasons our roommate situation didn't work (it was my 1 bedroom apartment that I let him "couch surf" on for a few months because I haven't had a roommate in years and wanted to try it out to help him out) is because he couldn't stop talking about sex, wouldn't do it with me, then I found out he had a guy over when the rules were not to. I was like oh HELL no, you've got to go. He'd walk around naked like he owned the place, and thought I was supposed to just sit back and enjoy it and not think anything of it.

[+ glennnn]

I've Had that conversation with this guy many times. This past week was the last draw because, watching the porn together was like an unintended test. The test being, if he felt comfortable enough to go THAT far with me, but not even touch each other...that's just real weird. Or sick lol. If I didn't want to do that with someone I wasn't planning on doing anything with, I would have left and told him I am not doing that. Yet, he seemed totally content to pull out his dick, watch it, and get off.

 

One of the main reasons our roommate situation didn't work (it was my 1 bedroom apartment that I let him "couch surf" on for a few months because I haven't had a roommate in years and wanted to try it out to help him out) is because he couldn't stop talking about sex, wouldn't do it with me, then I found out he had a guy over when the rules were not to. I was like oh HELL no, you've got to go. He'd walk around naked like he owned the place, and thought I was supposed to just sit back and enjoy it and not think anything of it.

 

 

OUT!

[Mocha]

OUT!

 

Lol, he still hits me up as if I didn't just tell him the other week I'm not with all that.

 

Seems the only way to get certain people out of your life, is to just move. That way in a moment of boredom, I'm not even tempted to hang out with them. And it eliminates the chance of seeing them out at a bar and rekindling something that's supposed to be dead and buried.

[BasketBaller]

My last roommate in college was a straight guy I'd known for a couple of years. Once we moved in he started hanging out naked all the time, never anything sexual but completely casual nudity. I wasn't out (yeah, late bloomer) so never said anything. He was hot as hell and super hung so I enjoyed it for a while. But it got to feeling weird, I was attracted and I think he sensed it. It was kind of like he was enjoying my reaction but we both pretended it was normal. We lived together about a year, then he graduated and got a job out of town. We're still friends. I wonder if he has any idea of the effect he was having. I bet so.

[Mocha]

My first roommate after college was a straight guy I'd known for a couple of years. Once we moved in he started hanging out naked all the time, never anything sexual but completely casual nudity. I wasn't out (yeah, late bloomer) so never said anything. He was hot as hell and super hung so I enjoyed it for a while. But it got to feeling weird, I was attracted and I think he sensed it. It was kind of like he was enjoying my reaction but we both pretended it was normal. We lived together about a year, then he got a job out of town. We're still friends, and now he knows I'm gay. I wonder if he has any idea of the effect he was having. I bet so.

 

Hmmm, see I still don't get that. It just seems like mind games. If someone is getting naked in a close proximity other than a gym (and even then, sometimes I question it), they better be wanting something, or giving off the impression that they are enjoying being viewed.

 

In the case of my former buddy, I've kinda stopped talking to him all together. I think some people are so confused within themselves, they repress themselves from doing the things they manifest or invite. And I just don't see any reason for a person to be around me if they think it's okay to do all sorts of innuendos and expect it to just remain friends. HEEEELLL no.

[sincitymix]

no. because if they were around me naked, and if there was any attraction. I would want to touch and taste and etc etc. To not allow it would just be mean.. and a tease.. and just frustrating.

[Mocha]

no. because if they were around me naked, and if there was any attraction. I would want to touch and taste and etc etc. To not allow it would just be mean.. and a tease.. and just frustrating.

 

!CLARO!

 

That's why I'm just like, how can he be my friend, and rightfully claim to do so, and want to play those kind of games? Whether he meant it or not, it just comes off being a perv.

 

I'm just trying to figure out, what would be some things you'd say to a person who did that? I already know for me, I'm def. not going to let him around me anymore. And it's not so much that I want him all that much either. I was never trying to. But, it's like someone leaving boxes of unwanted candy at your door...even though you may not want it, it'll make you feel like taking a bite at some point. But to be like, "no, we're just friends" is childish and immature to me. That's not a game I want to play at damn near 30 years old.